darning needle posting observations

DARNING NEEDLE POSTING OBSERVATIONS

This is written here so one does not have to go to the end of the pages to read it and maybe miss it because many are not interested to read that particular posting.

This is addressed to every person on this forum, readers, posters, practitioners and doctors. We are here to try to help our fellow humans, no matter who they are and no matter what the complaint. This also applies to HOW they complain.

In the darning needle postings several posters began to judge the wording of the inquiring woman. There were hateful, demeaning words directed toward her. As this is nothing new to me, I would like to comment on this phenomena of the human race in general.

I understood this woman’s words perfectly. Why? Because this is what I deal with every day. One time in my life it happened to me and now that I no longer have that illness, I treat and counsel women in this town I live in on this very thing. It could be any town in the world. Some more severe in other countries and some less here in the USA. Our government still pays women less in every walk of life, in high jobs or on disability. Our government removed welfare. Our government, in 1896, passed a bill that corporations were the same as an individual with the same rights.

No matter what or who you think you are or how educated you are, how in charge you are, if a woman acts a certain way, she immediately falls under judgement and is considered a weirdo, an imbecile, not quite right, uneducated and quite probably neurotic. The attitude that was present before women got the vote is still present. It is less noticeable, even to oneself, but there, hidden in the recesses of one’s mind and emotions.

Did you know that doctors are taught in school that if a woman complains of 7 or more things, there is nothing wrong and she is neurotic? Excessive pain with no relief, neurotic. If she cries while telling of symptoms, she is only depressed and needs antidepressants.

I have a client that is very sensitive to many things. I cannot even treat her with Homeopathy because frankly, I do not wish to “rock the boat.” She has spent years studying herself. She has a very high IQ, and was a systems manager in a very important government complex. If I said where, the world would know who she is.

She has diabetes, severe asthma, allergies so severe she may fall into helplessness and act demented. Rubbing alcohol is so poisonous to her she cannot get near it. When she had to go to the hospital with pneumonia because the doctor DID NOT BELIEVE the asthma was severe enough to treat properly, the sign on the door to the ICU said “No Alcohol.” So what does that say to you? The lady must be an alcoholic? Nurses used alcohol on her skin and she began to scream and screamed for hours. She heard the nurses complain about her noise. Yet, she was unable to explain herself. She goes from doctor to doctor hoping one will LISTEN and HEAR her. She has severe body pain. She has no energy.

Why don’t we all judge her by our own experiences and decide she is making a joke or exaggerating! No one could be that sick!

Unfortunately for her, she is a sensitive person that wouldn’t hurt a flea. She will begin to tell the dr. her sym, and her own knowledge of herself and the doctor does not agree and thinks the patient is an idiot for thinking she knows anything about her own body, or pharmaceuticals. After being treated like a retard, she begins to cry. The doctor then jumps to the conclusion that she is depressed and needs antidepressants.

I am a fighter, so we all have begun to go to the doctors in twos. I go with each appointment. I say nothing, I am just there. BUT, if any doctor begins to treat this woman in a condescending way and does not REALLY LISTEN to her, I will step in and politely inform him of why I am there. I am the witness in the event she is not treated and becomes so ill she must suffer hospitalization. She keeps paying these people. I wouldn’t!!

Did you know if someone needs help in some way and you are the person to see, if you say they DO NOT LOOK sick and refuse the help, it is against the law? You are not a doctor and it is called discrimination. You could be legally sued. We are working on this problem here with the people that are in charge of the taxi cards for the ill, injured, or disabled.

When one suffers any type of ”hidden disability” as this person’s brain injury, it changes one’s life forever. Just because someone else does not have one, does not negate the truth of it. Why put down or disregard someone because they do not fit into a “normal” set of rules of behavior. Brain injury makes communication harder and when someone is not “hearing.” The person becomes anxious and is prone to speak more anxious in nature. Sometimes not making a great deal of sense in the strain to be heard and understood.

Are you aware of why women yell at husbands? Husbands and men in general do not HEAR what the wife or woman is saying. They say they are listening, but they do not hear! The wife says it in as many ways she knows how and finally falls into such frustration that she finally leaves the marriage. I am proud to say that I have met some men that have “awakened” to this process and really do hear others. They say they are astonished at the new world they find to live in and they are happy they now are aware of the fullness of it. I recently met a man like this and his whole life has changed. He is in awe of the difference before and after. He has given up all pretense of judgments and just listens to the words and hears only what is trying to be expressed.

Another woman I know suffers chronic body pain so severe one cannot possibly imagine how she continues to walk forward and exist. She was an EMT and it began with sensitivity to chemicals and then foods. She couldn’t get help from any doctor because they did not believe her. She lost her job. She lost her friends (?). She was just too needy. She lived in her car for 7 years. There were years she could not sleep. She did house sitting to eat. She was too young for help from any organization. She LOOKED well. You cannot “see” pain. She lived through it, finally got on disability, which is nearly $200 less than men get. She still lives in so much pain that doctors and others treat her like an addict. I know her well enough to know she isn’t. She is treated like a complaining baby. It has been so severe that she has now shut up about how she feels and will not tell the truth even to me. A hot tub gives her a good deal of relief. Now she should just run right out and buy one and set it up where? Beg a soak at a “friends” house? And take a chance of losing another friend? What would you do?

Medicare has begun to decide, sight unseen, who can get what treatments and cannot. A woman was getting chiropractic treatments at one doctor and when she changed doctors, she has been denied the same treatments. After the first of the year medicare goes up 17% in costs to women and children. Men too, but women and children out number them.

Do not be quick to judge others lest you be forced to walk in their shoes. Our world is not getting better. For all our technology, we are less educated, more stressed out, less income, less time spent to teach children ethics as in the past. There is so much frustrated anger in the world right now I am not surprised at road rage and children killing children. Nothing surprises me anymore. We need to pull together to get through this.

No one knows what tomorrow will bring. One could be killed or maimed in an accident, shot by a stray bullet. An illness could be so crippling that one would spend the rest of their lives in a wheel chair. One’s mind could be taken by some disease and render one into a child.

If you believe in the circle of life, what goes around comes around and if you believe in Karma, be afraid, be very afraid. Sabra