absentminded, cant focus and communicate

Hallo Dr Sameer,

I have send my answer to your email. Could u please reply either via email or forum.

Thank you very much. hope to hear fr dr soon.

1. When did these problems begin ?

When I was child I always had headache, stomach ache and depression. It hit badly when i was 18. I am female and now aged 44 year.

2. What was happening in your life at that time?

At age 18, i went to study pre-medicine in Kuala Lumpur where i was far away fr my family.
I am a very soft and pampered daughter coz i always fall sick at age 8-10 and 13 years old.
I also have culture shock bcoz previously fr age 7 to 17 i studied at girl school.
A very differnt dimension in my life. I have to live in hostel and indepndence.
The distance fr my hostel to the faculty is too far and tiring for me due to my health condition.
I dont understand anything during lectures and tutorials, cant focus. When i read book i dont understand and repeat the same sentence many times to understand and memorise but i fail. I cantdo the tutorial question.
I hate maths and physics even bio lab coz i cant draw the cells or organisms that i saw under the microscope. I am not good in drawings and my handwriting is very bad till now.
When i was 16 my fingers trembled and i cant write. Since then i just hold pen lightly to avoid fr trembling n my handwriting is bad til now. I fail most of the papers except for english where i have to go 4 supplementary exam. After 1.5 years i quit and returned home.
My father was really upset with me also my relatives. I was really stress and embarassed even really want to be a doctor. But i x see blood and very timid.

I went to another institution taking dip accounting course and manage to finish it with average result. In 1996 i received my ist degree Actg only 3rd class. I have the same problem and very hard for me.
I scared to go to class coz i know nothing and feel awkward. I also had bad marriage and last for 2 years.

3. Any life events which coincided with the start of the problem ?

During my early childhood i was very active and fascinating child. I like to sing, dance, read and love by my family and teachers. I was able to give speech, dance and act at 6 yrs old. I could feel that im fast learner and loved by my family bcoz of my outstanding personality. When i start school at 7 and at 8 im able to read, i remember and observe names of roads and signboard.
But i cant stand when my parent had bad arguments and my father's char. My fathers dislike my mum;s family and x allow us to be close. When they come to our hse he would switch of tv and irritate my cousins.
This make me hate my father and i suffered to see my mother's unhappy marriage and sickness.
When i was 9, my father disallow me to take dancing class and i felt so frustrated bcoz besides that i x have any other activity.
I wasnt good in sports coz every time i run in games my stomach was aching badly that i had to stop running.
At that age i have stomach ache, headache and i become weak child.


4. Also, talk more about your behaviour, anger, fear, anxieties, or any other negative feelings.

What are the general things which make you feel better or worse ? (e.g. Sunlight, seaside, warmth, open air, seasons, weathers, particular foods, touch, music...or anything else)
I cant stand with heat and crowded places. even i cannot wear tight close and head band. I hardly breathe and need fresh and open air.
B4 i had gastritis n can take hot and spicy food where i easily got diarhea but now it is improving cos i take nux vom and carbo veg.
I like spring, fall and winter. But even it s hot in summer i still wear socks when i want to sleep coz i feel cold on my foot. I had adenomyocist and had laser in 2006 and polyps. i had underwent 5 operations including feet and tonsil operation.i have severe pre and during period pain, sometime very bad til i vomitted, couldnt walk, stiffness especially lower abdomen and and hardly breathe.
My body is not propotionately balance. My upper abdomen is small but lower abdomen and legs are big with small foot. Dec last year i was snatched and broke my left feet ,28 dec i had operation to insert screw in my feet. But now my right feet is also aching both feet are swollen after half day daily activites.
I scared to wake up at night to do my preparation to teach or prepare questions or study. I scared to see ghost or thieves or when i heard animals crying especially at nite n cant get out from my room. i chose to stay at link house but not at an isolated house. i have ever rented one house but at dawn i packed my things n went back to my mum's house coz i and my son scared to hear animals creep and felt lonely. I feel like I was isolated by my colleague and family . I am divorced. I have prob dealing with people may be due to my communication prob.



5. What are the general things which make you feel better or worse ? (e.g. sunlight, seaside, warmth, open air, seasons, weathers, particular foods, touch, music...or anything else)
I love nature,the seaside, mountain, waterfall, rain and wind but i scared of animal sound at nite or when im alone. I cant to take bath with cold water morning n nite. I like slow music but i get headache and dislike heavy metal rock music. I like to wonder and dreaming to be successful, wealthy and healthy. i try to be religious.. I like chocolate, seafood, food with chillies, juices. I like beautiful and clean n organize places but i don’t know/ cant afford how to organized n will be untidy when im too buzy or upset. I can do my house cleanig when im free. When my prob is at the peak i would prefer to die. Fyi, i have a son aged 15 but like to spend time to watch tv and play games rather than studying.

Cuurently at nite, when I continue using computer or reading at 10 pm, I cant bend my head to read anymore. I feel dizzy n have to lie down with my head straight n go to sleep even I still want to continue reading or do my work.
I also have blurred vision where I cant read my fr my books or laptop. I also have both long and short sighted. I have made multi focal spec but I can only use for long sight but for reading I have to use anther spec and troublesome when I go for lectures and presentation.

6. What diseases run in your family ?
My mother had gastritis prob and getting very thin where she cant eat spicy Asian food like curry, emotional prob, headache and skin prob, clean conscious. She will spend long hours in bathroom to get clean. She used to fall sick when she was 20+. Frequent bleeding. My father had ministroke, cough, loss hearing and behave awkward. Totally opposite characters n behaviors between my father n mother. My father use to do odd things and so contrast with my mum. My mum is very sensitive and always has arguments with my father and also her family and myself.
One of my aunts passed away due to lung cancer ,another - womb cancer, one more - diabetis and high bp. One aunt became mad and passed away whilst on treatment. One of my aunt was mad and passed away whilst in treatment. My uncle had stroke and high bp. Another one heart problem.

Hi Dr Sameer,
Appreciate if you or any dr could suggest the best remedy for me since i have tried many remedies for instance gelsemium 1000, sepia 200, pulsatilla 200, nat mur 200, arnica 200 and 30, fraxinus americana, angelica 30, ruta 30 and 200, rhus tox 30. its very critical bcoz i cant follow during lectures and seminars and when im doing my reading and my vison is blurred and dizzy so i cant continue reading at nite .

Thank you.