Live in the NOW....Live in JOY....even though you have all the facts.

WHO YOU ARE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE

A New York high school teacher decided to honor each of her seniors by telling them the difference each of them had made during that year in her class. She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time.

First, she told each of them how they had made a difference to her and the class. Then she presented each of them with a blue
ribbon imprinted with gold letters which read, "Who I Am Makes a Difference."

Afterwards, the teacher decided to do a class project, to see what kind of impact recognition would have on their community. She gave each of the students three more blue ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread this acknowledgment ceremony. They were to follow
up on the results to see who honored whom and report back to the class the following week.

One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby company, and honored him for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon, and put it on his shirt. Then he gave him two extra ribbons and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition and we'd like for you to go out, find somebody to honor,
give them a blue ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon to acknowledge a third person, to keep this acknowledgment ceremony
going.

Then please report back to me and tell me what happened."

Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss,who was kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his boss down, and he told him that he deeply admired him for
being a creative genius.

The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him permission to put it on him.

His surprised boss said, "Well, sure." The junior executive took
the blue ribbon and placed it right on his jacket, above his heart.

As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, "Would you take this extra ribbon, and pass it on by honoring somebody else? The young
boy who first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school, and we want to keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it
affects people."

That night, the boss came home to his 14 year old son, and sat him down. He said, "The most incredible thing happened to me today. I
was in my office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius.
Imagine! He thinks I'm a creative genius! Then he put this blue ribbon that says, "Who I Am Makes a Difference", on my jacket above my heart.

He gave me an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honor with this ribbon and I thought about you. I want to honor you.

My days are really hectic and when I come home I don't pay a lot of attention to you. Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school and for your bedroom being a mess. But somehow tonight I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most
important person in my life. You're a great kid, and I love you!"

The startled boy started to sob and he couldn't stop crying. His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his tears, "Dad, earlier tonight I sat in my room and wrote a letter to you and Mom, explaining why I had killed myself, and I asked you to
forgive me. I was going to commit suicide tonight after you were asleep. I just didn't think you cared at all. The letter is upstairs. I don't think I need it after all."

His father walked upstairs and found a heartfelt
letter full of anguish and pain.

The boss went back to work a changed man. He was no longer a grouch, but made sure to let all of his employees know that they made a difference.

The junior executive helped several other young people with career planning, and never forgot to let them know that they made a difference in his life...one being the boss' son. And the young boy
and his classmates learned a very valuable lesson, "WHO YOU ARE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE."

Blessings, Sabra

SPEAKING IN THE NOW Speaking for good health and life.

The human race in general, do not realize they cause most of their own ills by their speech habits.
For example, how many hear friends and relatives repeatedly say things like:
“I am ALWAYS sick.”
“I get a cold every spring like clockwork and it takes weeks to go away.”
“I just know I am coming down with something.”
“I am a loser, no matter how hard I try nothing good happens to me.”
“I am so worried, my child is beginning school; I know he will be out sick half the year.”
“I always get fired from every job I try.”
“I am so depressed, no medicine will help me.”
“I will never get ahead in life.”
“I don’t think I want to do that.”

Then there is the parents that have hysterics when the child is ill and allow the child to hear and see their anxiety. The anxious, helpless child is now frightened and more sick.

So, Now let us rephrase the statements above:
“I am a healthy and happy person in every way.”
“I am free of colds and respiratory conditions every year.” (because....above).
“Every day I continue to be healthy in my body and happy in my life.”
“I am regarded well by those that know I am a caring and dependable person.
“My child is healthy and completely free of any illness from any source. (child hears this repeated)
“I am a successful person because I have studied well and have good work habits.”
“I get better and better because I am a good person and was born in happiness.”
“I have a positive attitude that brings success in all I do.
“I don’t think (I do) want to do that.” Well, does one {think} or not?

“Our child has a condition that we treat and he is better soon. The children hear this and feel secure in the parent’s care of them.

AND, the words: don’t/not/can’t/won’t/try/ are all words of defeat.
“I don’t want to get sick.”
“I will try to do it.”
“I will not do this.”
Only 3 examples, but most important. “Will” is in the future, any day. “Don’t” is not heard by the sub conscious mind and hears: “I want to get sick.”
If you leave out ”try” the statement says: “I will do it.” (future) It would be better to say “I know how to do it.” (Now) Or “Give it to me to do now.”
Again the “not” makes the sentence say, “I will do this.” So, “I choose to let someone else do this.”

If one wants to eliminate a certain condition, say, "I am free of....NOW" Or, "There is a continuing absence of....Now. The sub conscious will cooperate fully. It does take a little time.


To most reading, right now, I understand this sounds stilted and weird and laughable. I promise you, it is not. I have spent 30 years putting it to use and teaching others. One must live in the now. One is not “going” to get something or “if” this, “that” will happen. “I will” do thus and so is all in the unforseen future. It is not the NOW.

Another thought is to speak in terms of “I want.” To speak “I need” makes you needy and in the future. A strong person always “wants now.” “I want” makes good things happen much quicker.

Parents make a mistake by telling a young child “be good” or “behave.” The child does not know how to make this choice. Spell it out: “I want you to be good by doing ......” It is a waste of time and insulting to say “Stop that right now.” Explain in great detail how to be “good” or well “behaved” and when it happens, reward with a hug or secret smile.


There are many persona levels of the body, mind and Spirit. Let us speak only of two. The Conscious mind and the Sub Conscious mind.

The Conscious Mind is the logical and analytical mind. This consciousness likes to think that it knows everything and if not, it can figure it out. It has an ego. This specious ego lacks the natural simplicity or naiveté that communicates well with any and all. It is limited to its own level. This mind gets its feelings hurt and takes things personally. The Conscious mind is filled with mistaken beliefs, no matter how insignificant, that can play havoc with the Sub-Conscious. Not always in big ways, but small, like a tiny itch, that never goes away. Small is harder to address than the larger that is more apparent.

“Logic” may be only something that one heard or was told, and became a belief. To analyze, one could debate it nearly forever because of the different views on the same subject by the many. Being aware of the many problems of the conscious mind, we then turn to the individual and examine their logic and beliefs for their own personal growth or correction. A judgmental response is unproductive. If we lose the individual, we have lost everything. All humans are valuable. Our very differences are all the aspects of everything valuable in one another.

The Sub Conscious mind has a barrier between the Conscious and itself. The sub conscious mind can hear everything the conscious mind thinks and says. It is child-like in it’s responses, so everything the conscious mind thinks or says aloud is taken in as truth. The paradox is that if the conscious mind makes a mistake it is now “untruth” but believed as truth. The sub conscious tries to oblige the body by making all positive OR negative statements come to pass. If one makes a statement of illness, the sub conscious mind looks for a way to make it happen. It wants to please the “Boss,” the Conscious mind.

The immediate difficulty is that the sub conscious mind cannot “ask” directions or clarity of the careless mouthing of the conscious mind. It has the barrier. It can hear all, but not communicate. The Conscious mind does not care what it says and even less of what the sub conscious mind hears, due to it’s ego.

We must gather our wits about us and think of the positive ways of speaking to lead the sub conscious mind in more productive ways. It is like teaching a child with love, and the parent speaking as well and carefully as possible so the teaching will be valuable and not fall by the wayside in confusion.

I use this Speaking process in hypnotherapy. An exciting example was of an educated woman who couldn’t make any money. She was 3 months behind in her rent and down to one dollar. When we spoke about hypnotherapy, she quickly told me that some yogi years ago told her group to never do hypnosis as the person is playing with your mind.

In one sense this has been true of those hypnotists who do not care except to show off, but she knew me for several years. Within 3 days, she called back and said OK. We wrote out what she wanted and what she did not want me to do. This is how I work. The person must be confident that I will not exceed my authority over their’s. (actually it is difficult to do this, they usually awaken) We did it her way.

When we reached troublesome times in her life, she repeated the same negative statement: “No matter what I do, nothing will ever come of it.” Wow! What a downer. I gathered this statement and told her she was now free of this statement in her adult life as it belonged to the child that was upset in “that” time space. That particular statement belonged only to the child. Her childhood’s negative statement had unknowingly affected her adult life. She did it to herself.

Her telephone began ringing 3 days later and she had her rent paid up in 6 weeks. It has been nearly 3 years now and she is very successful and has more work than she ever thought possible. She loves her work and is very happy.

For those that want to pick apart some of the statements above as “future” etc. One must remember that the written word is not always the same as the spoken word. Ask any English teacher.

An additional observation connected to this form of thinking is the absence of taking anything personally, or getting one’s feelings hurt. They are one in the same. When one reacts in a “hurt feelings” kind of way when someone makes a statement, this same person is being childish.

The Conscious mind, being judgmental, decides in it’s ego that the other has erred and they are the ones that are at fault. This is not so. The one with the hurt feelings has erred and is at fault. They are being critical.

If one wants to be just who one is...all others have the same rights. This is the exchange of maturity. When another makes an unwelcome statement or acts in an unwelcome way, a mature person will either ignore it, choose to leave, or even choose to sever the relationship with one that acts in the unwelcome way.

It is criticism to be pouting and having hurt feelings. They don’t owe you anything. You choose what you want to do about it. When you understand this interaction, usually one realizes it is the other’s problem and has nothing to do with you. Many times one will listen to some statement that seems to ruffle one’s feathers so to speak, but it is your own choice how you take it and what you do about it.

To ignore as if it doesn’t exist, this silly human frailty, is the most freeing thing that has ever happened to me in my life for my sense of maturity.

Age has nothing to do with maturity of the heart and mind. I have met many old gossipy angry people that have never had the peace of true happiness in their entire lives. I have an angry neighbor that doesn’t like me because I tell him he is rude to awaken me at 5am because he wants to dig in his lawn while I am sleeping. This is not his right. I really don’t care if he doesn’t like me.

All this is not an easy, overnight thing to learn. It takes daily diligence and a sense of curiosity to see if it really works. And it does. It took years, and I am still learning to smooth the edges of the thought patterns.

Another reward for this work is the quiet serene feeling of being just who You want to be. And the happy ability to allow other’s to be themselves also. Unless they are rude and waking one up at 5 am!

Blessings, Sabra