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Sabra, need advice per Kuldeep's remedies for my husband
Hi, Sabra,I have been corresponding with Kuldeep via email in regard to my husband's sleep disorder. He has been phenomenal in helping him and has gone above and beyond the call of duty. But because Kuldeep is back in India now and more difficult to contact, I thought I'd ask you this question:
Kuldeep has my husband on the following remedies for his sleep disorder (shocking, jolting, jerking upon going to sleep and during sleep)
Ambra Greisa
Agaricus Mus.
Argen. Nit.
These are all in 6C potency.
We started with the Ambra Greisa and he took one dose on two consecutive Saturday nights. The total emotional reaction was one of overwhelming distraught and hopelessness. There was also periods of dissassocation and severe depression. The irony on all this was that my husband did have a cup of coffee each day (except for the day he took the remedy). Oddly, instead of antidoting the remedy, it still continued to work. After living with him for two weeks of this, I contacted Kuldeep and he agreed to give up on the Ambra and move onto the Agaricus after a waiting period of one to two weeks, since he said Ambra can continue to work in the system for up to three weeks. We did as he advised and my husband took his first dose of Agaricus Mus. 6C last Sunday evening (April 17th).
Well, he had his first decent night's sleep with hardly any jolting or jerking that night and has continued to have fairly restless-free nights. HOWEVER, his depression is back full on. He woke up on Monday morning telling me he was in "a state of sadness and depression." Yes, my husband has suffered from periods of depression (usually during the winter) in the past. But mostly, he is anxious and lives in his mind most of the time. Kuldeep said he was a true Nux Vomica constitution with a bit of Belladonna thrown in. And yes, we tried a few doses of those two remedies with some success for his mental profile but it did nothing for his sleep disorder.
Here is the other element to this quandry. My husband has always had problems with getting an erection without the help of either "Viagra" or an herbal tablet that creates that effect. The mental block regarding his erectile problems has been an issue throughout most of our marriage. He constantly says, "I'm worried about performance." No matter what I do or say to him to calm him down or make him feel safe and loved, he has this erectile problem. There has also been a growing lack of passion, interest in sex, in addition to his inability to get and keep an erection. (He can often get an erection when he is on his right side, but the minute he rolls onto his back or his stomach, he loses it.) The growing lack of passion has been going on now for almost one year. It may have something to do with his stress at work but it's difficult to say.
Since he has started the Agaricus, along with the depression, he has completely bottomed out as far as passion and erectile ability. Literally, he only had a modicum of interest and now there is nothing. He says he feels like he is in a void. And believe me, I feel as if I'm drowning in his misery. Between his 6 1/2 weeks of homeopathic treatment, there have been many more bad days than good. "The Dark Night Of The Soul" comes to mind. Yes, the sleep disorder is seeming to be helped. He still jerks here and there but it's nothing like it was. But I ask you, at what price? The overwhelming sadness, depression and sense of "Who cares?" as well as his natural penchant for not expressing himself emotionally is worse than ever. I feel lost and worried about my future with this man.
A couple more things. Initially, before I talked to Kuldeep on this Forum, another homeopath locally suggested my husband take several doses of Sulphur 200C. He did so and four days later, he came down with, what he calls, "the worst respiratory cold" he ever had. He was sick for two weeks but I felt it was the Sulphur going deep and starting the process of healing. But it left him emotionally and physically exhausted. All he wanted to do was sleep. Frankly, SLEEP seems to be the one thing my husband enjoys. Obviously, that doesn't help our marriage.
The only other different thing he has taken since last Saturday is Armour Thyroid. In September of 2002, my husband had 30 percent of his thyroid removed due to a small cancerous growth. I will say that the surgery was like a demarcation line whereby his life changed drastically. I know full well the power of the thyroid and all it does for the body AND how it affects libido, willforce, etc. Before the thyroid surgery, my husband's sex drive was incredible and his passion was great. After the surgery, it gradually diminished, would sometimes peak and then has gradually bottomed out. Although, the remedies (Sulphur, Ambra and Agaricus) seem to have really made a negative impact on that part of his life. Thus, after thyroid tests and exhausting literally every known herb, nutritional program, etc. (I am a nutritionist and herbalist), we both decided "something had to be done." He started the Armour Thyroid at 1/2 grain in the morning. He felt an almost immediate change for the better after four hours. More focused. More "hope." Then the next day, he took his one and only dose of Agaricus. And you now know the rest of that story.
If you think I'm just a nervous wife who is upset that her husband's sex drive is gone, believe me, I am not. I am literally watching a man go into a deep emotional hole and now it's worse than ever. He is 60 years old and has many good years ahead of him. However, to hear him talk, you'd think life was not worth living and everything is a struggle. Hey, I'm living that "struggle" alongside him and propping him up emotionally and physically and it's becoming absolutely exhausting. I have told him this and he realizes it. When I say that I am at the end of my rope emotionally, I really mean it, Sabra.
So, my question to you is since the Agaricus is working on the sleep disorder but since it seems to be causing such deep pain, can he use your mantra which you mentioned in another post where he simply holds the remedy bottle and says: "MAY THIS REMEDY MATCH THE NEEDS OF MY BODY FOR COMPLETE HEALING. THANK YOU GOD." ?? and still benefit from its sleep effect but reduce the other depressive effects?
He told me this morning that he felt "lost" and that he's aware he is pulling back from me and not treating me well with his silence (his words.) He told me to go on the Forum and talk to who I thought might be able to help.
After going through so much with him, I tend to feel as if his problems are becoming so self-indulgent that it's over the top for me. Can you understand that? I am a loving wife and I would do anything for my husband, but I'm at a point where his need to go so deep within is harming our marriage.
Please help me.
Laurel on 2005-04-21
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When saying the mantra, one still takes the remedy. It is a way to make sure the potency matches the body's needs. We cannot have all the potencies that exist as we would have far too many bottles to store. Can you imagine what the pharmacy must be like?
A little hard to be of complete help with another's suggested treatment. I am not privy to the discussions you may have had with K.(and I do not want to be, I just plain do not have time, sorry)
One thing you must impress upon your husband is the reminder that many seemingly unrelated things may surface when taking a remedy that is actually working. The very fact that something is surfacing means that it IS working.
Homeopathy works over a long period of time. It works on the WHOLE body, including the mind and emotions.
One also must realize that one NEED NOT GIVE IN to complete depression like going down a slick slide. One can grab the sides and hold on near the top and MAKE AN ADULT, MANLY effort.
Depression is very difficult, as I used to suffer with it also. Once I spent 5 months in bed and could barely move.
I MADE myself get out of bed. I determined not to let my husband take care of me forever. We got a little puppy and there was no way I was going to let this puppy pee on my floor while my husband was at work. We did this on purpose. This little dog learned to "do it" on command as I had so little strength.
It took about 6 weeks to get going again. I then enrolled in ONE class at the college (art) and got myself going, very slowly, but going non-the-less. It took 3 hours to get read for that one class twice a week.
Another thing I learned is to make a "to do" list. I determined that I would do three things per day. Sometimes the last of the three would be at 11 pm, but when the three were done, in 7 days I had accomplished 21 more things than I expected to do.
While difficult, this became a very uplifting thing in my feelings of self worth. You see, I too, didn't want to do anything at all. Just sit and read or TV. It was very difficult for me to even bathe.
If he is watching TV, remove the cord and hide it. Remove something that can be replaced without damage.
He needs to walk one block and back per day.
Accomplishing 3 things per day. The walk can be one. Washing dishes, Sweep porch or kitchen. Vacume one room. Wash one load of clothes. Put them away. Wash the sink in the bathroom. All the above are counted as "one." The list must be at least 10 things to choose from. The walk is mandatory.
When he accomplishes 3 things, he can veg in front of the TV. This will make a big difference. He has to learn to choose. If there is a morning program, Bathe first. Bathing is not one of the three. He must do this every day without fail.
Men think so differently than women. They are problem solvers and this seems most important and nothing else seems to be moreso. But, the problem solving is for work or others, not themselves.
Because women have been the second rate citizens for eons, we have learned ways of bringing ourselves above the levels that others have placed us in. We learn over the years that we are worthwhile just by being a women that cares. First for ourselves and then others.
Men are never taught this and never learn what women do as men are thought as "better" mearly because they are born with an appendage. They are admired JUST because they are born a "boy" and for no other reason. So they are "in" just because they were born a boy.
So they grow up with this horrible lie that the appendage is the most important things in their lives. If something happens to it, life is over.
It is like women have either a known or a hidden "guilt and shame" factor. No matter that we have the vote or hold high positions in society and the workplace now, that "hidden" thread of being "less" remains in one's own and societies' attitudes.
It is a huge struggle to pull our feet out of this invisible morass of lies and raise our heads up in self worth and pride of being ourselves. Women are very strong in their desire to be just who they are and proud of it.
Unfortunately men have been given very little of this and have no idea and have no background teaching of this concept.
When men are together they are "buddies" without discussion of the "whys of being a man." They just are. They grow up with it as a gift and never question it. When they are with their buddies, there is never any serious discussion of "what is a man" only about any other conceiveable subject.
For you men that want to get mad at me. I am speaking of men in general, and a large percentage. If you are feeling annoyed at my remarks, just put yourself in an imagine state...and think...
What you would do if you suddenly no longer had the function of your penis!!
I had 3 brothers, 3 sons, 3 husbands and all my grandchildren are men. I live alone and am very happy. Not mad at any man, just done raising them.
I do have many male friends. These are men that have discovered the thinking side of life and have reached out to learn what exists beyond that appendage.
So, This husband is going through he-- in his physical and he-- in his mental and emotional. That does not mean he is to be allowed to continue on this slide to complete distruction.
What about war vets that come home without a complete body? What about men that are paralyzed and can not "function" ever again?
Many lives are destroyed.
BUT, many learn to be sensual and find out there are many other ways to accomplish very sensual sexual activities. They have learned that sex begins in the brain, not the penis. Many lead wonderful lives due to their efforts and willingness to find out about their whole bodies and not that one part.
One of my many teachers over the years asked me once, "if you didn't have legs would you still be you?" Yes. "If you didn't have any arms OR legs, would you still be you?" Yes. "So if you didn,t have a face, would you still be you?" Yes, because I could still think and imagine and respond.
EVERYTHING is in the brain...no brain...nothing.
My first husband was once hit by a car and very injured. (the boys were under 10) I had to feed him and help dress him. I also had to bathe him sitting on a chair in the shower. He lost the use of his arms for awhile.
As he got better, I encouraged him to take over whatever he could. He progressed over 3-4 months until it appeared he would now be able to bathe himself.
I suggested the time and when I did, he looked lovingly at me and said "one more time please?" Of course, and it was wonderful for both of us. And there was no sex involved.
He had learned that there were other ways of receiving enjoyment in a sensual way. It took many months to recover our marriage in the way it was before the accident. He died many years later.
He didn't sit and do nothing, he tried at every turn. He appreciated his family and made a great effort to return to normal for his sake and therefore for ours also.
Depression is very hard to deal with, but MAKE AN EFFORT. Get off your dead a-- and get determined to get well and as one gets well examine all the ways there are out there to show appreciation for a wife that loves you.
STOP BEING CHILDISH AND SELFISH. You have a greater chance than most to recover all you are/were, and sitting and giving in to depression and self-pity is NOT the way to do it!!
Correct ways to speak a "wish."
"I AM well NOW."
"My body heals itself every minute of the day."
"I thank God for my complete healing in every cell of my body NOW."
"I AM determined that I AM full of healthy energy to permit me the life I want."
Do not say "will" a never ending future. "Do not" the sub conscious does not hear and only hears "I...want..." "I do not want to be sick." becomes "I want to be sick.
If you lose your wife because you do not get busy, you have lost everything, because who will be there to love you when you make efforts to get well? Who will be there when you get well? You will be alone, and will become depressed again and this is a great waste of the MAN that lives within the conditions that are healed NOW.
NOW AND FOREVER.....DO IT NOW. CHOOSE TO LIVE.
Blessings, Sabra
A little hard to be of complete help with another's suggested treatment. I am not privy to the discussions you may have had with K.(and I do not want to be, I just plain do not have time, sorry)
One thing you must impress upon your husband is the reminder that many seemingly unrelated things may surface when taking a remedy that is actually working. The very fact that something is surfacing means that it IS working.
Homeopathy works over a long period of time. It works on the WHOLE body, including the mind and emotions.
One also must realize that one NEED NOT GIVE IN to complete depression like going down a slick slide. One can grab the sides and hold on near the top and MAKE AN ADULT, MANLY effort.
Depression is very difficult, as I used to suffer with it also. Once I spent 5 months in bed and could barely move.
I MADE myself get out of bed. I determined not to let my husband take care of me forever. We got a little puppy and there was no way I was going to let this puppy pee on my floor while my husband was at work. We did this on purpose. This little dog learned to "do it" on command as I had so little strength.
It took about 6 weeks to get going again. I then enrolled in ONE class at the college (art) and got myself going, very slowly, but going non-the-less. It took 3 hours to get read for that one class twice a week.
Another thing I learned is to make a "to do" list. I determined that I would do three things per day. Sometimes the last of the three would be at 11 pm, but when the three were done, in 7 days I had accomplished 21 more things than I expected to do.
While difficult, this became a very uplifting thing in my feelings of self worth. You see, I too, didn't want to do anything at all. Just sit and read or TV. It was very difficult for me to even bathe.
If he is watching TV, remove the cord and hide it. Remove something that can be replaced without damage.
He needs to walk one block and back per day.
Accomplishing 3 things per day. The walk can be one. Washing dishes, Sweep porch or kitchen. Vacume one room. Wash one load of clothes. Put them away. Wash the sink in the bathroom. All the above are counted as "one." The list must be at least 10 things to choose from. The walk is mandatory.
When he accomplishes 3 things, he can veg in front of the TV. This will make a big difference. He has to learn to choose. If there is a morning program, Bathe first. Bathing is not one of the three. He must do this every day without fail.
Men think so differently than women. They are problem solvers and this seems most important and nothing else seems to be moreso. But, the problem solving is for work or others, not themselves.
Because women have been the second rate citizens for eons, we have learned ways of bringing ourselves above the levels that others have placed us in. We learn over the years that we are worthwhile just by being a women that cares. First for ourselves and then others.
Men are never taught this and never learn what women do as men are thought as "better" mearly because they are born with an appendage. They are admired JUST because they are born a "boy" and for no other reason. So they are "in" just because they were born a boy.
So they grow up with this horrible lie that the appendage is the most important things in their lives. If something happens to it, life is over.
It is like women have either a known or a hidden "guilt and shame" factor. No matter that we have the vote or hold high positions in society and the workplace now, that "hidden" thread of being "less" remains in one's own and societies' attitudes.
It is a huge struggle to pull our feet out of this invisible morass of lies and raise our heads up in self worth and pride of being ourselves. Women are very strong in their desire to be just who they are and proud of it.
Unfortunately men have been given very little of this and have no idea and have no background teaching of this concept.
When men are together they are "buddies" without discussion of the "whys of being a man." They just are. They grow up with it as a gift and never question it. When they are with their buddies, there is never any serious discussion of "what is a man" only about any other conceiveable subject.
For you men that want to get mad at me. I am speaking of men in general, and a large percentage. If you are feeling annoyed at my remarks, just put yourself in an imagine state...and think...
What you would do if you suddenly no longer had the function of your penis!!
I had 3 brothers, 3 sons, 3 husbands and all my grandchildren are men. I live alone and am very happy. Not mad at any man, just done raising them.
I do have many male friends. These are men that have discovered the thinking side of life and have reached out to learn what exists beyond that appendage.
So, This husband is going through he-- in his physical and he-- in his mental and emotional. That does not mean he is to be allowed to continue on this slide to complete distruction.
What about war vets that come home without a complete body? What about men that are paralyzed and can not "function" ever again?
Many lives are destroyed.
BUT, many learn to be sensual and find out there are many other ways to accomplish very sensual sexual activities. They have learned that sex begins in the brain, not the penis. Many lead wonderful lives due to their efforts and willingness to find out about their whole bodies and not that one part.
One of my many teachers over the years asked me once, "if you didn't have legs would you still be you?" Yes. "If you didn't have any arms OR legs, would you still be you?" Yes. "So if you didn,t have a face, would you still be you?" Yes, because I could still think and imagine and respond.
EVERYTHING is in the brain...no brain...nothing.
My first husband was once hit by a car and very injured. (the boys were under 10) I had to feed him and help dress him. I also had to bathe him sitting on a chair in the shower. He lost the use of his arms for awhile.
As he got better, I encouraged him to take over whatever he could. He progressed over 3-4 months until it appeared he would now be able to bathe himself.
I suggested the time and when I did, he looked lovingly at me and said "one more time please?" Of course, and it was wonderful for both of us. And there was no sex involved.
He had learned that there were other ways of receiving enjoyment in a sensual way. It took many months to recover our marriage in the way it was before the accident. He died many years later.
He didn't sit and do nothing, he tried at every turn. He appreciated his family and made a great effort to return to normal for his sake and therefore for ours also.
Depression is very hard to deal with, but MAKE AN EFFORT. Get off your dead a-- and get determined to get well and as one gets well examine all the ways there are out there to show appreciation for a wife that loves you.
STOP BEING CHILDISH AND SELFISH. You have a greater chance than most to recover all you are/were, and sitting and giving in to depression and self-pity is NOT the way to do it!!
Correct ways to speak a "wish."
"I AM well NOW."
"My body heals itself every minute of the day."
"I thank God for my complete healing in every cell of my body NOW."
"I AM determined that I AM full of healthy energy to permit me the life I want."
Do not say "will" a never ending future. "Do not" the sub conscious does not hear and only hears "I...want..." "I do not want to be sick." becomes "I want to be sick.
If you lose your wife because you do not get busy, you have lost everything, because who will be there to love you when you make efforts to get well? Who will be there when you get well? You will be alone, and will become depressed again and this is a great waste of the MAN that lives within the conditions that are healed NOW.
NOW AND FOREVER.....DO IT NOW. CHOOSE TO LIVE.
Blessings, Sabra
♡ sabra last decade
Sabra,
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH. I am truly touched by your words. I have printed them out and will give them to my husband to read. I am heading into town right now to have lunch with him and I will give him your words so that he can fully appreciate them. Many of the things you said, I have said to him. I have often wondered what would happen if someone anyone said the same words to him that had no agenda. He is a thinker and we shall see how he reacts to what you have said.
Again, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the time you took to write me back and help me. Thank you.
Laurel
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH. I am truly touched by your words. I have printed them out and will give them to my husband to read. I am heading into town right now to have lunch with him and I will give him your words so that he can fully appreciate them. Many of the things you said, I have said to him. I have often wondered what would happen if someone anyone said the same words to him that had no agenda. He is a thinker and we shall see how he reacts to what you have said.
Again, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate the time you took to write me back and help me. Thank you.
Laurel
Laurel last decade
You are very welcome.
One time when my first husband was very sick, before children, before homeopathy, he refused to go to the dr.
I told him he had two choices. One, go to dr. Two, get hit by a bat and drug to the dr unconscious! He went...he had double pneumonia! This was the beginning of a 22 year marriage.
Blessings, Sabra
One time when my first husband was very sick, before children, before homeopathy, he refused to go to the dr.
I told him he had two choices. One, go to dr. Two, get hit by a bat and drug to the dr unconscious! He went...he had double pneumonia! This was the beginning of a 22 year marriage.
Blessings, Sabra
♡ sabra last decade
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