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low self-esteem and weight for female

hi I am 35 years old, white caucasian female.I have Hashimoto disease and I take one pill every day. I am writing to you because I need help with two issues:
1) low self-esteem, lack of confidence: I used to have higher self esteem, now I am afraid of losing my boyfriend, I pressure him to marry me even though i dont really want it.This started 5 years ago, I had a boyfriend who cheated on me and I lost my confidence as a woman.Now I have a new relationship but I am afraid that he will leave me for another woman (he is 2 years younger than me)I want to be more independant and confident.N.ow I try to satisfy everyone's needs but I dont do the same for my self
2)last year I gained 10 kilos, i eat eventhough I am not hungry.I start diet but I can not keep it.
could you please help me?
thank you
[message edited by asdftower on Thu, 23 Jun 2011 20:10:51 BST]
 
  asdftower on 2011-06-23
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Hi,

More information is needed about you for a remedy to picked.

Define low self esteem

Define lack of confidence

How did you feel when the old boyfriend cheated you ?

What do you mean by 'I try to satisfy everyone's needs but I dont do the same for my self ' ?

What are the general things that make you feel better or worse ?

What are your food cravings and aversions if any ?

What are your temperature/weather preferences (if any) ?

What diseases have you suffered since childhood and what are the diseases that run in your family ?

Sameer
 
sameervermani last decade
Thank you so much for your reply and interest.

Define low self esteem:I feel jealous when I see a pretty woman, I dont hate her but I admire her, how can she be so nice etc.I talk all the time saying the things that I know in order to pop out from the crowd and I become annoying.I am certain for my self in my job but not in my romantic life.Sometimes I feel that I worth being treated with negligence and at the same time my logic says that is not right

Define lack of confidence:As a woman I dont feel desirable most of the times, I used to be very well-dreased, wearing make up and stuff but not now. My father passed away 3 monts ago from cacner after 3 years illness and from then I dont take care of my self as I used to. Also I am very worried about my finance, my family used to be more wealthy but now we are average. Also the financial situation in my country is very bad and I am really worry. I am very interested in money

How did you feel when the old boyfriend cheated you ? Like I was worth it and I try to get him back. In order to do that I begged him and cry a lot. In my relationships I have problem to move on and let the relationsip go even when I am not happy with it because I am afraid of being alone

What do you mean by 'I try to satisfy everyone's needs but I dont do the same for my self ' ?
I try to keep everyone happy because I want them to think of me as a nice person, and I want them to feel that they need me. for example I want to do something and my boyfriend wants something else. I will do his will. He wants to buy something and I buy it for him but I wont buy something as expensive for my self eventhough I want it (most of the times)-this also has to do with the money

What are the general things that make you feel better or worse ? better:when people say that I am a nice person, that I am very helpful,that I look good, when I am with my boyfriend, family and friends, when i travel
when I eat i feel good and then I feel bad.
I say for myself that I am fat because I dont want the others to say it.
when I exersise (but I dont have the time)
when I work ( I work long hours)
worse:when I see people more clever, beautiful etc than I am.
when I see couples that live together or are married
when it is just cold or very hot

What are your food cravings and aversions if any ?
I eat wihtout feeling hungry.I only have food cravings:carbs mainly, sweets and sometimes after sweet something salty. I am 163cm and 73kilos.Last June I was 64kilos.I have more fat in hips and thighs.

What are your temperature/weather preferences (if any) ?
warm around 28C, and when it is more sunny but not extremely, when night is slighty bigger than day

What diseases have you suffered since childhood and what are the diseases that run in your family ?
nothing severe when I was a child:cough,and childs disease.As an adult:knee pain, fibromyalgia (I used to take saroten)hashimoto's disease, reactional depression.
my father had blood pressure and suffered from ca..r(he was a smoker)
my mother has slightly blood pressure and cholesterol
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asdftower last decade
And, can you also describe your general behaviour with family and friends ?

How easily do you yield to accommodate other people's opinions ? What I want to know is how 'strong' a personality are you ?

Any anger issues ? If yes, how do you express it ?

Any strong general impact of things on you:

Examples of things which affect you can be Tight clothing, sunlight, being by the ocean, touch, massage, weather changes, open air, noise, light, closed rooms, exercise.


What is your exact age ?
 
sameervermani last decade
And, can you also describe your general behaviour with family and friends ?
I am giving and extremely caring, I try to help even when I am not asked(I feel it like an obligation but at the same time I like it because i want them to think that I sacrifice my self for them and that they need me.)I want to show off. I have very high empathy levels, I put my self in their position and I treat them like I would like to be treated.But I dont ask for their help,I want them to offer me their help and then I rarely use it.With family and friends I look strong and independent.The truth is that I am very dependant on my family and very close but my family never interferes with my life.my parents are very open minded.With boyfriends I am weak and
very very dependant on them and it shows. at first I seem strong independent and then I completely rely on them.I usually change my habits for them and then I accuse them for that.When my love life is not good everything is not good, which doesnt happen if my job life for example is bad.I am very job-oriented, I always help my brother with ideas for new plans(he is a businessman, and I am a civil servant). I take initiatives and I work better alone. I like to have high position in hierarchy or my collegues to know that I am better from them.Most of the times I have that feeling in my job:that I am better than them and that I do better my job without effort. I like to be the center of attention.When someone is making something nice for me either I wonder what he wants from me (if I dont know him well) or I feel very eager to do something more nice for him.I admire people who are ruthless and take advantage of others without regrets but I cannot do it, i feel guilty even thinking of it. I tend to be attracted to emotionally nonavailable men and very self-centered

How easily do you yield to accommodate other people's opinions ? What I want to know is how 'strong' a personality are you ?
if the other is right or if i want the discusion to end I take his opinion and if he is not I try to persuade him for mine. I get upset but my temper doesnt keep much.I dont shout or anything but I seem annoyed.I have bad feelings and i keep them for years when someone is embarassing me or being unfair with me.I would like to: dont tell others what I think all the time, overanalyze my feelings to others or to myself.I think that I would like to be more selfish and detached, more strong powered and put personal goals (weight loss)that I am comitted to them

Any anger issues ? If yes, how do you express it ?
I rarely shout, usually tears come to my eyes.Most of the times the tone of my voice changes and it shows that I am discontent

Any strong general impact of things on you:

Examples of things which affect you can be
Tight clothing:I dont have a problem
sunlight:I like it but when it is not hot, my face gets dark spots when I dont wear sunscreen
being by the ocean:makes my tranquile
touch:i like hugging friends and family when I see them, I want to keep all the time my boyfriends hand
massage:it makes me feel relaxed after a long day, but I feel a little bit bad when someone is doing it to me because i feel that i make him tired eventhough it is his job and i pay him for it
weather changes:bones and joint pain when is rainy and very cold
open air: I like being in the open air when it is not windy, i feel refreshed. I like also in the house to open windows, but I dont like being hit by wind i.e.driving a cabrio car
noise:I like loud music for 10-15 minutes, I dont like shouting or noisy places.I like vivid places that have people i.e. in a restaurant I dont like being the only customer
light:I like to sleep with shades open, i want the sun light to enter the room, i like to wake up and have light
closed rooms:i dont like very small rooms
exercise:it makes feel more happy but I dont exercise.I work long hours i.e. I wake up at nine and go to work and I return at 11 in the evening at home because I help my brother with his job. I go to beautician+dietician in order to lose weight but I am not committed.
I try to solve all this with my psychologist too but I feel like there is an unbalance in me,I know what I have to do but I am not comitted to it and my feelings drive me.My psychologist doesnt see pathology in our meetings, I dont take any psycho medications

What is your exact age ? I was born on 26 January 1976.

I forgot to mention:usually i constipate, when I am stressed i have smegmatoid dermatitis on my head ie itchy and like dandurf.I like thinking of revenging somenone that hurted me.

sorry for the huge post
I cannot thank you enough for dealing with my problem :)
[message edited by asdftower on Sat, 25 Jun 2011 10:53:58 BST]
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asdftower last decade
Hmm.. can we say these are core issues in your case :

--Self-denial (always trying to please others at the cost of yourself)
--Suppressed emotions (&anger)
-- Strong sense of honor & social position (prevents you from asking help)
-- Very sentimental

Please let me know.

Sameer
 
sameervermani last decade
Hello doctor,
yes to all these that you mentioned
...please dont forget my weight issue!!it is more because of emotional eating i guess...but it makes me feel very sad, I referre to my self as 'the fat one' :(
 
asdftower last decade
Okay then, I have picked the remedy.

Please take 3 doses of STAPHYSAGRIA 30c spaced by 30 minutes as described:

Dissolve 2 pellets of STAPH 30c in a 250 ml spring water bottle. If you leave the pellets in water for 20 mins, they will melt. You can shake it gently after they have dissolved.

Take a teaspoon from this bottle using a disposable spoon 3 times, spaced by 30 minutes. This is to be done for one day ONLY. From next day, no more doses.

Let me know in 7 days after these 3 doses.

Restrictions:

1/. Nothing should enter the mouth for 40 minutes prior to, or after taking the remedy.
2/. Do not touch the tablets/pellets with your hands, tip them into the cap of the container they came in and then into the water .
3/. Avoid coffee, tea (including green), and other sources of caffeine such as some fizzy drinks and large amounts of chocolate, except where this would cause a drastic change in consumption
4/. Avoid wearing perfume/aftershave, or exposure to anything with a strong smell on the day and 3 days following the remedy administration. This includes any and all essential oils, and incense.
5/. Avoid the consumption of excessively spicey foods
6/. The use of medicinal herbs, either as 'teas' or supplements should be avoided during Homoeopathic treatment, as should the use of over the counter medication, unless this has been recommended by an MD.
7/. Nothing of a medicinal nature should be applied to the skin
 
sameervermani last decade
Thank you doctor very very much!!I will order it and I will let you know. Just a question:pellets are like pills?small round ones?sorry for asking but english isnt my native language and I am writing you from Greece!!
 
asdftower last decade
Yes, pellets are small round pills. Alternatively, you can get liquid, and use 2 drops instead of 2 pellets.
 
sameervermani last decade
Doctor I am afraid that I antidoted the therapy :(
my mom got a cold and I used vics vaporub to rub her (contains camphor)the same day that i took the staphysagria and the second :(
what can i do now?
 
asdftower last decade
Let us not assume you anti-doted, and wait for 4-5 days.

Update at that time.
 
sameervermani last decade
hello doctor,first of all I would like to thank you for your time and your help.
i update you as mention on the 4th day.
well...my body skin feels smooth (I had harsh skin on hips and thighs)and more moisturised (i havent use any body lotion or staff like that).
I had lots of gas (sorry)and my stool was soft (usually I constipate).I was no thirsty at all(as usual)
my hair is sooo greasy as they were before.
the dark circles under my eyes the 2nd day were almost gone(now are back)eventhough I was more tired than before.
the first 2 days i was feeling a little bit nervous but also light-hearted (i cannot describe it better)
I am feeling less dependant on my boyfriend, ie i dont sms him 25 times a day, and I dont ask him all the time if he loves me.
somehow i was not too hungry, i had a feeling that I was half-fulled but I ate anyway :(
i am making efforts not to refer to myself as the 'fat one'.I even used some make-up that I havent done it since one year (before that i was very careful about my apperance)
And I dont remember it correctly but I said to someone in my job that I was not going to do his job.
But I have the feeling that I continue to be judgemental, maybe more than before.
are there any questions that you would like me to answer?
[message edited by asdftower on Mon, 04 Jul 2011 17:32:39 BST]
 
asdftower last decade
I think you can procure a 200c of Staphysagria, but do not take it as yet.

Talk to me in another 4-5 days.
 
sameervermani last decade
thank you very much. I will get back to you in 4-5 days.
do you think that staph will help me also with losing some weight?i have no clothes to wear :( it seems trivial I know but it is very upsetting
thank you :)
 
asdftower last decade
hello doctor, sorry to bother you again.
I went to the dermatologist today because of a toe nail-fungus.my big toes in my both my feet are affected. this is going on for 3 years.
the nail is very hard to cut(but it doesnt chip)yellowish and underneath is like empty (i dont know how to describe it.)
do you think that you could propose to me something?whenever you find time ofcourse.
thank you in advance.
 
asdftower last decade
The fungus should resolve under the correct remedy, but it will take some time.
 
sameervermani last decade
dear doctor, I am sorry but i didnt understand.do you mean that i should continue with my dermatologist or that the staphysagria remedy will help me eventually to cure the fungus?
thank you
 
asdftower last decade
Staph or any other remedy we converge on in future should eventually cure this. Dermatologist will suppress the condition which can be harmful to your case.
 
sameervermani last decade
hello doctor,
i update you as you mentioned after 5 days.
well...not much has changed.
i dont take my thyroid pill. I keep forgetting it :(
My scalp is itcing so bad and i have lots of white flakes like powder on my clothes.usually i use cortizone lotion but i havent put anything on.the truth is that i am stressed and that is the reason for all that itching.
I feel like i have a cloud over my head but i was working really hard those five days and i havent got much sleep so i guess that maybe is because of that. I also dont remember and i am kind of lacking concentraion.
i have already told you about the fungus on my toe nails.
a blister inside my lip is there for the last week.
everybody says that i look angry (i am not feeling angry!!!)
my skin is still soft -could i have some more please? :) -
i am eating like a cow eventhough I am not hungry.
also...i havent got my period yet.it was supposed to be on the 28th June.I used to have polycystic ovaries and the fact that i havent taken my thyroid pill maybe caused it.But I will go and have a pregnacy test just to be sure. In case of pregnacy could I continue to have homeopathic remedy?
thank you very much for your time
[message edited by asdftower on Sun, 10 Jul 2011 10:31:05 BST]
 
asdftower last decade
So, overall what are the changes since the remedy ?
 
sameervermani last decade
well..
my skin is softer
my appetite is less but i continue eating
my scalp is itching
i am absent-minded and lack concentration
at the first days lots of gas, stool soft and regular that continues even now
less dependent on my boyfriend
thank you doctor
 
asdftower last decade
Good, please wait for 1 more week, and then we will go to a 200c of STAPH.
 
sameervermani last decade
goodmorning doctor
after quite a long time I am back.
I took the 200c staph as you have described for the 30c.
when do you want me to get back to you?
thank you
 
asdftower last decade
In 2 weeks.
 
sameervermani last decade

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