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anger, depression
Hi,I need help with my wife. She has this unreasonable anger. She is very upset about things that are not very normal. She can't sleep during the night. Has pain on the right side of her back below shoulder which is on going for quite some time. Has sensitivity to light, sound and touch. Urinate very frequently. If sleeps gets up early morning about 3AM and can't sleep at that time.
Do not talk to people and want to be alone. No interest in doing anything fun. Not even want to purchase good dresses for her own. Do not want to talk to her parents, brothers and friends. Very suspecious.
Also do not want to go doctor. Any small discussion becomes very big argument.
This is going on for 10 years and getting worse recently.
Please help.
mikem65 on 2011-06-29
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
She needs to give her symptoms directly, in her own words. It must be understood what is going on underneath all this.
Because homoeopathic medicines have side effects if not given correctly, it is important to make sure the prescription is as accurate as possible. This can only be done by having her present her own case. Will she do this?
Because homoeopathic medicines have side effects if not given correctly, it is important to make sure the prescription is as accurate as possible. This can only be done by having her present her own case. Will she do this?
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
I will ask her. But I am afraid this may not go well with here. She don't want anyone to know her symptoms. Also she don't want to go to either doctor or therapist. She states they will not do anything. She went to allopathic doctor once long time ago and he put her on depression medication. Because of the side effects she stop taking them and now don't want to see any doctor.
Meanwhile this is impacting me very badly. Is there anything I can take to cope up with this stress so that I don't react after loosing my patience?
Meanwhile this is impacting me very badly. Is there anything I can take to cope up with this stress so that I don't react after loosing my patience?
mikem65 last decade
Of course. If you want to describe your feelings and situation here, in detail, we can prescribe for you instead.
I will post my intake form. See how you go.
GUIDELINES FOR GIVING HOMOEOPATHIC CASE INFORMATION
It is important to describe all your problems in as much detail as you are able. One word answers and short sentences are not particularly helpful. Discuss each problem one at a time, providing (as a minimum level of detail) the following information.
1. What exactly happens?
2. Describe all sensations and pains. Each pain or sensation should be described in such a way that allows us to imagine having the same pain.
3. What causes the problem to get worse after it has started occurring?
4. What creates some relief for the problem?
5. What triggers the problem into occuring?
6. What time of the day or night does the problem occur?
7. When did the problem start? What was happening in your life at that time? Did some specific event or treatment take place just before the problem started?
Move from one problem to the next, doing the same thing. IT IS VITAL THAT YOU GIVE A COMPLETE PICTURE OF YOUR HEALTH BY PROVIDING ALL PROBLEMS YOU HAVE, EVEN IF NOT CONNECTED TO THE MAIN ONE, AND EVEN IF YOU CONSIDER IT OF LESS IMPORTANCE. You should address each problem separately using the above 7 questions as a guide.
As well as this, please describe any traumatic incidents that have taken place in your life. Discuss anything that has had a lasting impact on you mentally, emotionally or physically.
Discuss the way that you manage or deal with your problems, or any problems that occur in your life.
Discuss any patterns you have noticed in your behavior especially concerning your disease.
Discuss any part of your life where you feel stuck or unable to change and grow, especially where this occurred around the beginning of your disease, or as the disease evolved.
Describe your childhood and the kind of environment you grew up in, with reference to your relationships with your family, your school experiences, and any serious childhood diseases.
If your earlier discussions have not mentioned these already, please describe:
1. The specific foods that you crave (not just like) or hate
2. The specific drinks that you crave or hate
3. What your sleep is like
4. How the weather and the temperature affects you
5. What kinds of things in the environment you are particularly sensitive to
6. What your general level of energy is like
7. What your level of sexual energy or desire is like
8. Also give these details
a) Body type and build
b) Skin colour and texture
c) Areas of the body tends to perspire on
d) Odour of sweat, body, stool, flatus, urine
e) Colour of stool, urine, sweat
9. Give any reactions to vaccines or medical drugs.
There may be more questions after you post these answers.
Remember, try to be as descriptive as you can about your feelings, your thoughts, your reactions, you ideas - the more details and honest you are, the easier it is to help you.
David Kempson
Professional Homoeopath
I will post my intake form. See how you go.
GUIDELINES FOR GIVING HOMOEOPATHIC CASE INFORMATION
It is important to describe all your problems in as much detail as you are able. One word answers and short sentences are not particularly helpful. Discuss each problem one at a time, providing (as a minimum level of detail) the following information.
1. What exactly happens?
2. Describe all sensations and pains. Each pain or sensation should be described in such a way that allows us to imagine having the same pain.
3. What causes the problem to get worse after it has started occurring?
4. What creates some relief for the problem?
5. What triggers the problem into occuring?
6. What time of the day or night does the problem occur?
7. When did the problem start? What was happening in your life at that time? Did some specific event or treatment take place just before the problem started?
Move from one problem to the next, doing the same thing. IT IS VITAL THAT YOU GIVE A COMPLETE PICTURE OF YOUR HEALTH BY PROVIDING ALL PROBLEMS YOU HAVE, EVEN IF NOT CONNECTED TO THE MAIN ONE, AND EVEN IF YOU CONSIDER IT OF LESS IMPORTANCE. You should address each problem separately using the above 7 questions as a guide.
As well as this, please describe any traumatic incidents that have taken place in your life. Discuss anything that has had a lasting impact on you mentally, emotionally or physically.
Discuss the way that you manage or deal with your problems, or any problems that occur in your life.
Discuss any patterns you have noticed in your behavior especially concerning your disease.
Discuss any part of your life where you feel stuck or unable to change and grow, especially where this occurred around the beginning of your disease, or as the disease evolved.
Describe your childhood and the kind of environment you grew up in, with reference to your relationships with your family, your school experiences, and any serious childhood diseases.
If your earlier discussions have not mentioned these already, please describe:
1. The specific foods that you crave (not just like) or hate
2. The specific drinks that you crave or hate
3. What your sleep is like
4. How the weather and the temperature affects you
5. What kinds of things in the environment you are particularly sensitive to
6. What your general level of energy is like
7. What your level of sexual energy or desire is like
8. Also give these details
a) Body type and build
b) Skin colour and texture
c) Areas of the body tends to perspire on
d) Odour of sweat, body, stool, flatus, urine
e) Colour of stool, urine, sweat
9. Give any reactions to vaccines or medical drugs.
There may be more questions after you post these answers.
Remember, try to be as descriptive as you can about your feelings, your thoughts, your reactions, you ideas - the more details and honest you are, the easier it is to help you.
David Kempson
Professional Homoeopath
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
1. What exactly happens?
Most of my emotional problems are related to my relationship with wife. I think we both love each other. But did not
find a way so far to live in harmony.
My wife gets upset and very angry frequently. Most of the time I don't know the reason. When I ask for the reason she says I already
know the reason. In truth I do not. And at time after a big verbal fight she reveals the reason that made me so angry as the reasons
are so trivial. For example the shirt I am wearing is the reason for her emotitional outbursts. And it is not the same shirt all the
time.
I want social life. To have friends come to my place and we go to them. She don't want any of that and this upsets me a lot.
Some times I cook and I am not very conventional and use any ingredient that is availbable at that time. She thinks I willingly do
this to upset her. Even my intensions are to help help.
Even me bringing vegetable I like causess issues when she don't like them.
In short I cannot predict how any day is going to be. One day can be very happy in the morning and become hell by noon. This is impacting me
and my two kids.
I have my own problems (issues ) in additional to the ones caused by my wife. I think I am more jealous. Also I have repeating
thoughts of a situations that usually never happen. I involunteraly continue to indulge in these thoughts. They did not do any harm to me
or others.
2. Describe all sensations and pains. Each pain or sensation should be described in such a way that allows us to imagine having the same pain.
When we have verbal fight it always end up with we each saying bad things about my parents. My wife said so many things about me
and my parents (mom) especially that no one ever said. This causes intense stress and I feel like either killing myself or wife. These suicidal
thoughts though not intense continue for days.
This pain is impacts my work. It does not impact my sleep or eating pattern.
At a physical level I am recently diagnosed as pre-diabetic. Has very dry skin. Especially on feet. Keep loosing lot of hair.
And also after marriage my hair turning gray (too soon for the age). Constipation is a problem.
3. What causes the problem to get worse after it has started occurring?
I think the recurring events within the maritial relation causes this stress to get worse. Thought and guilt of me not
providing a stable and happy environment for my kids make my stree worse.
4. What creates some relief for the problem?
I think so far it is time. But also other social gatherings (usually only I attend) and visiting temples.
I started drinking to handle the stree due to relationship issues. But it did not help and I did not like drinking.
5. What triggers the problem into occuring?
Maritial relationship.
And my recurring thoughts of somethings ridiculus happens randomly. I don't find any trigger yet.
6. What time of the day or night does the problem occur?
My thoughts issue usually happen when I don't have lot of work and I am free.
7. When did the problem start? What was happening in your life at that time? Did some specific event or treatment take place just before the problem started?
This problem is happening as far as I remember. Since I don't think it is a problem i did not take any treatment.
My dry skin was a problem from childhood but got very worse in last ten years. And falling hair and grey hair got worse in last ten years.
Move from one problem to the next, doing the same thing. IT IS VITAL THAT YOU GIVE A COMPLETE PICTURE OF YOUR HEALTH BY PROVIDING ALL PROBLEMS YOU HAVE, EVEN IF NOT CONNECTED TO THE MAIN ONE, AND EVEN IF YOU CONSIDER IT OF LESS IMPORTANCE. You should address each problem separately using the above 7 questions as a guide.
As well as this, please describe any traumatic incidents that have taken place in your life. Discuss anything that has had a lasting impact on you mentally, emotionally or physically.
Most traumatic incidents are based on my maritial relationship. My father had mental problems and left the house for close to 6 months. This was not traumatic. After that he is on
allopathic medications through out the life.
Discuss the way that you manage or deal with your problems, or any problems that occur in your life.
Observing my actions, it seems I tend to be more positive even in a hopeless, stressful situation.
Discuss any patterns you have noticed in your behavior especially concerning your disease.
After marriage and all the issues I am getting more and more impatient.
Discuss any part of your life where you feel stuck or unable to change and grow, especially where this occurred around the beginning of your disease, or as the disease evolved.
I had many aspirations. I feel I am stuck because of my maritial issues consuming all my time and energy.
Also I feel that I am not making any progress on my inaction. I come up with great ideas and do not act on them. Both at work
and in personal life.
Describe your childhood and the kind of environment you grew up in, with reference to your relationships with your family, your school experiences, and any serious childhood diseases.
I was from a poor family. My childhood environment was happy even though we worked hard to meet both ends. One thing on emotional
level, I never used to bring many of my friends to my house because I used to feel that we don't have much (which is true). My
brother never had the same problem and used to invite all his friends.
I think even today I have this inferiority complex that I don't have the best stuff in my house. Even though I have many things.
Life views.
I had a strong belief of having a loving mother with good social network and taking care of kids. When I don't see that happening
because of my wife's depression it is bothering me a lot.
And also before my marriage, I was considered as the most successful by family, friends and neighbors and teachers. I came from very poor to now
above middle class. People always think highly of me. I think this is making me more stressful now when I don't get the same
from my wife.
If your earlier discussions have not mentioned these already, please describe:
1. The specific foods that you crave (not just like) or hate
I thought a lot and I really don't crave any foods or hate any foods.
2. The specific drinks that you crave or hate
Same here. I don't crave or hate any drinks.
3. What your sleep is like
I sleep like a baby. Mostly for 8 hours. Even after a big fight I still can sleep. Only time I cannot sleep properly is when
I sleep during day time. If I sleep during day time then my initial sleep I go into a state which is scary. I dream (not the same
dream every time) about something that is scary and at that time I don't know whether I am aware or sleep as in the sleep I feel
everything.
4. How the weather and the temperature affects you
I like spring. Feel little moody in the winter and cold weather. Other than that weather does not impact me much emotionally.
5. What kinds of things in the environment you are particularly sensitive to
I don't think of any.
6. What your general level of energy is like
I have moderate levels of energy. Neither too high or too low.
7. What your level of sexual energy or desire is like
Low to moderate. One other problem I sufferred in premature ejaculation. I thought my maritial problems are related to
this. But even after I find a solution my maritial problems continue. My wife has no desire.
When I have the desire it is very strong. Once done I do not have any desire for quite some time again.
8. Also give these details
a) Body type and build
Medium. (5ft6in). Not heavy but has some belly fat. (150pounds)
b) Skin colour and texture
brown. Skin is very dry.
c) Areas of the body tends to perspire on
Under arms.
d) Odour of sweat, body, stool, flatus, urine
Sweat under arms smell pretty bad. And stool smells bad too. Not much smell in urine
e) Colour of stool, urine, sweat
Urine is white for the most part except in the morning. Stool is yellow. I don't notice any colour in sweat.
9. Give any reactions to vaccines or medical drugs.
None
Most of my emotional problems are related to my relationship with wife. I think we both love each other. But did not
find a way so far to live in harmony.
My wife gets upset and very angry frequently. Most of the time I don't know the reason. When I ask for the reason she says I already
know the reason. In truth I do not. And at time after a big verbal fight she reveals the reason that made me so angry as the reasons
are so trivial. For example the shirt I am wearing is the reason for her emotitional outbursts. And it is not the same shirt all the
time.
I want social life. To have friends come to my place and we go to them. She don't want any of that and this upsets me a lot.
Some times I cook and I am not very conventional and use any ingredient that is availbable at that time. She thinks I willingly do
this to upset her. Even my intensions are to help help.
Even me bringing vegetable I like causess issues when she don't like them.
In short I cannot predict how any day is going to be. One day can be very happy in the morning and become hell by noon. This is impacting me
and my two kids.
I have my own problems (issues ) in additional to the ones caused by my wife. I think I am more jealous. Also I have repeating
thoughts of a situations that usually never happen. I involunteraly continue to indulge in these thoughts. They did not do any harm to me
or others.
2. Describe all sensations and pains. Each pain or sensation should be described in such a way that allows us to imagine having the same pain.
When we have verbal fight it always end up with we each saying bad things about my parents. My wife said so many things about me
and my parents (mom) especially that no one ever said. This causes intense stress and I feel like either killing myself or wife. These suicidal
thoughts though not intense continue for days.
This pain is impacts my work. It does not impact my sleep or eating pattern.
At a physical level I am recently diagnosed as pre-diabetic. Has very dry skin. Especially on feet. Keep loosing lot of hair.
And also after marriage my hair turning gray (too soon for the age). Constipation is a problem.
3. What causes the problem to get worse after it has started occurring?
I think the recurring events within the maritial relation causes this stress to get worse. Thought and guilt of me not
providing a stable and happy environment for my kids make my stree worse.
4. What creates some relief for the problem?
I think so far it is time. But also other social gatherings (usually only I attend) and visiting temples.
I started drinking to handle the stree due to relationship issues. But it did not help and I did not like drinking.
5. What triggers the problem into occuring?
Maritial relationship.
And my recurring thoughts of somethings ridiculus happens randomly. I don't find any trigger yet.
6. What time of the day or night does the problem occur?
My thoughts issue usually happen when I don't have lot of work and I am free.
7. When did the problem start? What was happening in your life at that time? Did some specific event or treatment take place just before the problem started?
This problem is happening as far as I remember. Since I don't think it is a problem i did not take any treatment.
My dry skin was a problem from childhood but got very worse in last ten years. And falling hair and grey hair got worse in last ten years.
Move from one problem to the next, doing the same thing. IT IS VITAL THAT YOU GIVE A COMPLETE PICTURE OF YOUR HEALTH BY PROVIDING ALL PROBLEMS YOU HAVE, EVEN IF NOT CONNECTED TO THE MAIN ONE, AND EVEN IF YOU CONSIDER IT OF LESS IMPORTANCE. You should address each problem separately using the above 7 questions as a guide.
As well as this, please describe any traumatic incidents that have taken place in your life. Discuss anything that has had a lasting impact on you mentally, emotionally or physically.
Most traumatic incidents are based on my maritial relationship. My father had mental problems and left the house for close to 6 months. This was not traumatic. After that he is on
allopathic medications through out the life.
Discuss the way that you manage or deal with your problems, or any problems that occur in your life.
Observing my actions, it seems I tend to be more positive even in a hopeless, stressful situation.
Discuss any patterns you have noticed in your behavior especially concerning your disease.
After marriage and all the issues I am getting more and more impatient.
Discuss any part of your life where you feel stuck or unable to change and grow, especially where this occurred around the beginning of your disease, or as the disease evolved.
I had many aspirations. I feel I am stuck because of my maritial issues consuming all my time and energy.
Also I feel that I am not making any progress on my inaction. I come up with great ideas and do not act on them. Both at work
and in personal life.
Describe your childhood and the kind of environment you grew up in, with reference to your relationships with your family, your school experiences, and any serious childhood diseases.
I was from a poor family. My childhood environment was happy even though we worked hard to meet both ends. One thing on emotional
level, I never used to bring many of my friends to my house because I used to feel that we don't have much (which is true). My
brother never had the same problem and used to invite all his friends.
I think even today I have this inferiority complex that I don't have the best stuff in my house. Even though I have many things.
Life views.
I had a strong belief of having a loving mother with good social network and taking care of kids. When I don't see that happening
because of my wife's depression it is bothering me a lot.
And also before my marriage, I was considered as the most successful by family, friends and neighbors and teachers. I came from very poor to now
above middle class. People always think highly of me. I think this is making me more stressful now when I don't get the same
from my wife.
If your earlier discussions have not mentioned these already, please describe:
1. The specific foods that you crave (not just like) or hate
I thought a lot and I really don't crave any foods or hate any foods.
2. The specific drinks that you crave or hate
Same here. I don't crave or hate any drinks.
3. What your sleep is like
I sleep like a baby. Mostly for 8 hours. Even after a big fight I still can sleep. Only time I cannot sleep properly is when
I sleep during day time. If I sleep during day time then my initial sleep I go into a state which is scary. I dream (not the same
dream every time) about something that is scary and at that time I don't know whether I am aware or sleep as in the sleep I feel
everything.
4. How the weather and the temperature affects you
I like spring. Feel little moody in the winter and cold weather. Other than that weather does not impact me much emotionally.
5. What kinds of things in the environment you are particularly sensitive to
I don't think of any.
6. What your general level of energy is like
I have moderate levels of energy. Neither too high or too low.
7. What your level of sexual energy or desire is like
Low to moderate. One other problem I sufferred in premature ejaculation. I thought my maritial problems are related to
this. But even after I find a solution my maritial problems continue. My wife has no desire.
When I have the desire it is very strong. Once done I do not have any desire for quite some time again.
8. Also give these details
a) Body type and build
Medium. (5ft6in). Not heavy but has some belly fat. (150pounds)
b) Skin colour and texture
brown. Skin is very dry.
c) Areas of the body tends to perspire on
Under arms.
d) Odour of sweat, body, stool, flatus, urine
Sweat under arms smell pretty bad. And stool smells bad too. Not much smell in urine
e) Colour of stool, urine, sweat
Urine is white for the most part except in the morning. Stool is yellow. I don't notice any colour in sweat.
9. Give any reactions to vaccines or medical drugs.
None
mikem65 last decade
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