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Help for my Husband Please
Hello,I am requesting assistance with figuring out which remedy is appropriate for my husband. There are several issues at hand here; however, the overarching ones for him is that he suffers from fatigue, frustration and anxiety. Here are some answers to the questions from the questionnaire.
Patient ID:
Sex: Male
Age: 37
Please answer the following questions in a descriptive manner after careful analysis and recollection of previous experiences and happenings.
1. Describe your main suffering?
Tired, overwhelmed, stressed
2. What other physical sufferings do you have in your body?
Severe and constant sinus pressure (used to cause migraines), left shoulder (old injury), left knee (old injury), upper back pain (mostly right side), I also have severe premature hearing loss in both ears. I had a hearing test done and they informed me I had the hearing of an 80 year old man and that I would need hearing aids.
3. What mental sufferings / feelings do you have associated with your physical sufferings?
sinus pressure puts me in bad mood and not being able to hear puts me in a bad mood
4. What exactly do you feel when you are at your worst?
tired, overwhelmed, stress
5. When did it all start? Can you connect it to any past event or disease?
unsure and no
6. Which time of the day you are worst?
Mornings and afternoon
7. What are the things which aggravate your suffering and which are those which ameliorate the same?
My job, my wife not getting along with my mother, my mother coming around, not having enough time to accomplish all the tasks I have to do at home, my wife nagging, having two small children, finances. Allergies, certain pets and the wind also make my sinuses hurt even more. Lots of noises going on at once (kids yelling or screaming, tv on and my wife trying to talk to me at the same time)
Ameliorate: Time off, time to accomplish things that I need to do, getting extra money in to work on household projects, affection from my wife (this is rare), when kids sleep well, when things are quiet
8. Do your think your sufferings have relation to any external stimuli (like, change of place) or any internal biological changes in the body, like, menses (in females)?
Yes, my workplace directly affects my mood - just the thought of it puts me in a bad mood and creates anxiety. Also, being around my family (mother, cousins, aunts and uncles).
9. When do you feel better, during hot weather or cold weather, humid or dry weather?
Cold and dry
10. Describe your general mental set up? Are you Moody, Arrogant, Mild, Agreeable Changeable, Nervous, Suspicious, Easily offended, Quiet, Arguing, Irritating, Lazy etc.
I am moody and quiet
- How do you feel before or during a thunderstorm?
Fine
- Do you like being consoled during your tough times?
No
- Are you sensitive to external stimuli like smell, noise, light etc? Cigarette smoke and loud noises
- Do you have any typical habit or gesture like nail biting, causeless
weeping, talking to one self etc?
Nail biting and picking at my nails
- How do you feel about your friends, family, your children and especially your husband / wife?
Lost touch with friends but they are good. Family (mom, aunts, uncles etc) doesn't understand me or what I'm trying to accomplish, love my kids, love my wife (she just nags a lot)
11. What are your fears and do you dream of any situation repeatedly?
Someone hurting my wife and kids and not being able to protect them.
12. What do you crave for in food items and what are your aversions?
Fast food and junk food
13. How is your thirst: Less, Normal or Excessive?
Normal
14. How if your hunger: Less, Normal or Excessive?
Normal
15. Is there any kind of food which your body cant stand?
Raw meat and fish
16. Is your sweat normal or less or more? Where does it sweat more: Head, Trunk or Limbs?
More on head and trunk
17. How is your bowel movement and stool type?
Not good
18. How well do you sleep? Do you have a particular posture of sleeping?
sleep comes and goes - sometimes good nights and sometimes bad. sleep on stomach and back
19. Do you think you are able to satisfy your sexual desires in general?
No
20. How do you think you are different from others, if at all?
Have more than most but I am quiet about it
21. What medications have been taken earlier by you to treat the diseases and do you have any particular symptom surfacing after the medication?
Tried OTC decongestants for sinus pressure
22. What major diseases are running in your family?
Diabetes
23. Describe, how do you look like? Describe your overall appearance
5'10
Brown hair
Swarthy appearance but I am white
Dark brown hair - overweight and a big belly
CCMom on 2013-01-14
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
I forgot to add that I have given him Kali bichromium 200c two times for his sinus pressure over the last two weeks. Before that I gave him 30c potency twice
CCMom last decade
He also uses chewing to tobacco and drinks coffee (almost daily) so I'm unsure if there is any remedy that can help him because if this. I'be tried introducing tea to him, but he is still partial to coffee. I've also discussed numerous times the dangers of tobacco without a real decrease in his usage. Can sepia work on a man?
CCMom last decade
Please give him Natrum Mur 30 in the morning and evening for 3 days and see how that affects in 10 days.
No tobacco 1 hr before and after the remedy.
No tobacco 1 hr before and after the remedy.
♡ kadwa last decade
I thought nat mur as well! (Well I used the Remedy Finder.). Thanks kadwa. I'll report back after 1 week?
CCMom last decade
Kadwa- after reading up on Nat Mur I think this remedy fits my husband well. After reading about it I noticed that grief was one of the ailments this remedy is used for, and I have always felt my husband has never allowed himself to heal or feel the pain of the loss of his grandfather whom raised him in the absence of his real father that he never knew. His grandfather passed one month before we began dating years ago. Also, I feel that my husband grieved the loss of his first marriage, even though he said that he rushed into it too quickly. I know he felt as if he had failed as a Christian by divorcing. He is a very quiet type, well reserved and guards his feelings closely (I think for fear of them being hurt) yet he likes directness and does not do well when someone 'beats around the bush' on an issue.
I can already see an improvement in him and I am grateful for it. He is opening up and his tone of voice is more agreeable and engaging. He is more open to having discussions as opposed to just giving brief terse responses. He is also more playful and patient with the children! He actually played an imaginary game with my 2 1/2 year old all the way into town yesterday.
I am keeping a journal of all remedies and potencies administered to my family as well. I will report back in 10 days
I can already see an improvement in him and I am grateful for it. He is opening up and his tone of voice is more agreeable and engaging. He is more open to having discussions as opposed to just giving brief terse responses. He is also more playful and patient with the children! He actually played an imaginary game with my 2 1/2 year old all the way into town yesterday.
I am keeping a journal of all remedies and potencies administered to my family as well. I will report back in 10 days
CCMom last decade
I fear I may have reversed the positive effects of the nat Mur for my husband. He ate the pico de gallo I made that had raw onion and garlic in it. He also took a bath in some Epsom salts that had euculyptus, lavender and other strong smells in it. He was complaining of a lingering headache yesterday for the first time in a long time. What should we do? Thanks
CCMom last decade
Hello - I was just wondering what kind of questions I should ask my husband to see if the remedy is making any progress with him? He doesn't really grasp what or how homeopathy heals a person, and he is not forthcoming with any information most of the time (the complete opposite of me!). What I have taken note of with him is that he now seems to get cold a little easier than before and he has complained to me that he feels he is not completely evacuating his bowels. These two things are very very uncommon for him. He still seems overwhelmed by our children, but mostly my 2 1/2 year old. He is mean to him and tends not to see the world with a child's eyes which hurts my heart for my oldest son. He is still tired, but doesn't seem as completely wiped out as before. We always have a lot of projects going on at my house and so I know he feels overwhelmed and frustrated that he has to take time away from the projects to help me with the children on the weekends. I try my best to take as much of things that could create stress for him out of his life, but it never seems like enough! I've tried to recommend dietary changes to him and I make my best effort to cook wholesome real balanced meals for us so that he is receiving proper nutrition; however, his preference is convenient processed foods. He also dips a lot of snuff (tobacco) which I really feel depletes his body. I am trying to get him to drink more green tea and yerba mate instead of coffee, but his preference remains coffee. He has a stressful job that is subject to cyclic responses in the economy. He has also been sneezing more frequently lately which might be a good sign that some of that impacted mucus in his sinus cavity is loosening up. What do I need to ask him? What can I give him for these two new issues of being more chilly and his bowels? I have given him liquid calcium magnesium and suggested he increase his daily water consumption to 125oz; however, I know that he probably only drinks about 48oz on a good day.
CCMom last decade
♡ kadwa last decade
Could I give him nux vom 30 for his new constipation issue? I feel terrible that he is having a hard time moving his bowels now.
CCMom last decade
Please give him three doses of Lycopodium 200 or 30 at a gap of 12 hours and see how that affects in 2 weeks.
♡ kadwa last decade
Will do. A little more background on my husband. He did not have his father around and was always told by his mother that his father didn't want them. His mother smothered him and still given the opportunity will still do the same. She makes him very uncomfortable and while he loves her, I do not feel he likes her because she can be embarrassing. I think this profoundly affected his personality when it comes to social settings. I also think he feels like there was something wrong with him because his father was never around. He was very close to his grandfather. My husband is a very hard worker yet he is frustrated by his lack of upward mobility in his occupation mostly because he does not do office politics well. He has the mindset of an 80 year old country man where the belief is, 'if you work hard you will get recognized, promoted and move up.' Unfortunately that is not the case in his job. I totally understand his frustration with all if this because I used to work at the same company. My husband is very good with working with his hands, a good hobby carpenter, used to play the drums, loves outdoors (hunting, fishing, camping) and is strong as an ox. He also is blessed with the gift of ingenuity. He does not do well in social settings and mostly keeps to himself. He seems to have an anger in his that is deeply suppressed. I know that I have hurt him with my sharp tongue over the years to where he doesn't let his guard down with even me- the person he should be able to. He seems to have made a little progress with the Nat Mur in that he doesn't seem as fatigued (still tired but not as much) and a little more willing to listen to what I am saying. He was also in a slightly better mood at times, trying his best to crack corny jokes. I will keep you posted with his progress or lack thereof in 2 weeks. Thanks for your help kadwa.
CCMom last decade
Another thing is that I know his poor hearing (verging on deafness) is something he is embarrassed of. I think he sees it as being weak! He also has continuous ringing in the ears that I think contributes to his lack of social involvement. I cannot imagine what being near deaf would be like. Do you think his hearing problem is connected to his severe congestion problem?
CCMom last decade
Please tell me whether you can procure the following remedies...
1. Elaps corallinus 200
2. Rhus glabra 200
1. Elaps corallinus 200
2. Rhus glabra 200
♡ kadwa last decade
CCMom last decade
♡ kadwa last decade
Hello! My husband is still having problems with his bowels. Should I give him another dose of lycopodium?
CCMom last decade
Did he get some relief from Lycopodium.
♡ kadwa last decade
Please give him three doses of Rhus Glabra 200 at a gap of 12 hours and see how that affects in 15 days.
♡ kadwa last decade
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