Male 31 : Male genital organ related problems

Dear Doctor,
I am Dev from India and I’m going through some physical problems which needs to be addressed by an expert I guess. I’m 31 years old male, about 175 cm. (5 ft. 9 inch.) tall and weigh about 75 Kg (165 lb.). My problems started (in my teenage years) with conventional sexual problems which are faced by most of the teens. Later on it became a primary reason of my depression. Then I started reading books by renowned people such as Dr. David Delvin, Masters & Jones, Chia & Abrams etc. and of course Kama sutra. All of them seemed to console me for that time. But not for long. With time passing by I became more and more conscious about my sexual features. I seem to be below average. I tried some penis enlargement exercises such as jelqing, vacuum pump etc. I believe I’m sexually properly charged. My penis is 1.5 inch long when flaccid and about 9 cm. (3.5 inch.) and 8 cm. (3 inch.) thick (girth) when fully erect. Now here are some points I’d like to draw your attention towards.
1. When I was a child (about 5 years old) I was bitten by a wood ant (Formica) on my penis. Only home remedies were applied. I took me a long time to recover. My penis was swollen thrice its size. After home medication my pain was minimized, but, my penis took an awful long lime to get back to its original shape and size.
2. I started masturbating at the age of 11-12 (one of my cousin taught me that). I still do it very often, almost every day 1-3 times.
3. I started smoking at the age of 16
4. At the age of 18 I started smoking marijuana and continued for straight for 2 years rarely missing it for a day. I don’t smoke marijuana anymore.
5. I am a heavy smoker. I smoke about 2 packs of cigarettes (20 pcs.) on a good day.
6. I drink once a week. I mostly drink a quarter Rum (180 ml).
7. I take more than 3 liters of water per day.
8. I do take nutritious food and try to avoid junk food (about a year back it was just the opposite).
9. I took Andriol Testocaps (an allopathic testosterone medicine taken orally) straight for 6 months. I got no enhancement in my organ size. But my sexual urge increased dramatically. As I have already told that I am sexually very active, hence, I realized that this sexual overdrive because Andriol was not of any good for me at all. So I stopped taking it.
10. I had undergone hydrocyl surgery on my left testicle at the age of 25.
11. I am crazy about sex and I do it as often as possible apart from masturbating (I’m not married yet). I had sex with many partners. I don’t have HIV (medically tested) or Hep.-A/B but not sure about other STDs.
12. I can have multiple orgasms in one sitting. Though I can’t hold my orgasm for long. I have to cum at least twice to present my partner(s) an orgasm in most cases. I stimulate them with all the techniques except deep penetration. I learnt from almost every partner that they love deep penetration and deep thrusts especially when the tip of the penis kisses the cervix of a female. I could never achieve this because of the length of my penis. Also my penis is very thin too. I put my thumb inside my partners’ vagina along with my penis to give them a feel of a penis with thick girth. Again, that’s a consolation for me and for them too.
13. My penis becomes flaccid from erect immediately after ejaculation. Then it takes some time to erect again, which is normal I guess. But it is annoying for my partner(s) as they don’t appreciate quick ejaculation. Neither do I. I tried some medicines (again allopathic) Vigora, Penegra, Edegra, Caverta etc (these are all cheap substitute of Viagra). They seem to work a bit. But after 30-40 minuites I get intense pain in my chest (inside the cavity underneath sternum bone on the chest) and a nausea like feeling. These factors again prevent me from getting an erection. So I stopped it.
14. I have insomnia as I worked in night-shifts in call centers for 7 years. While working in call centers, I had developed a habit of abusing drugs (Spazmoproxivon), which I’m quitting gradually. But I can’t go to sleep without sleeping pills (Alphrazolam 0.5).
15. I had always been obese. But I’m trying to control my body weight now.
16. At times sperm comes out of my penis while urinating or moving bowels. And at times saliva like slimy clear (like water) fluid.
17. At times I get tremendous burning sensation inside the tip of my penis while urinating. As if there is a small cut inside the tip or something is biting it from inside. Burning sensation remains even after urinating. I feel like my urination is not complete. At that point I have sit in the toilet for a long time and try to urinate again and again (but without any more urine in the bladder it becomes very painful). This relieves the pain to some extent. At this time colour of my urine happens to be yellow and very smelly. I face this situation irregularly. There’s no pattern. However, it happens to occur more when I do not urinate after masturbating or having sex.
18. I have mentioned earlier that I do jelqing (wet jelqing with olive oil). When I pull my penis downwards I feel a pain in my lower abdomen (I guess it’s the place where the urinary bladder is located). The pain is very sharp as if a needle is being poked. Pulling my penis upwards or sidewise doesn’t cause any pain.
19. I even tried some Ayurvedic remedies from one of those fake doctors whose advertise can be found in any public toilet just to find how bogus they are.
20. At a point I became so desperate that I determined to get surgery in order to get my penis enhanced. But I refrained myself from doing so. Because, in India this kind of surgery is not readily available. It is too expensive to afford. With this method my penis may be enlarged, but, other problems will still remain. Lastly, I did some research on the net and learnt about the adverse effects of such surgery.
Well, that’s about it. Now, I am pretty much worried about my male sexual features. I have missed one thing. I took measurement of my penis about a year back. Then it was 1 cm shorter than what it is now. So, it is evident that my penis is able to grow still at this age and something is keeping it from growing. Now, I am confused about which of my actions (consumption of Andriol, jelqing, vacuum pump etc.) is/are responsible for this growth! I want to be completely potent in making love with my partner(s). I really hate it when they complain about my quick ejaculation, lack of ability to give deep-thrusts, inability to touch their cervix (they refer to it as “Vaginal Flower”. Funny name, I know.) with my short penis, inability to fill their vagina tightly because of my thin penis (in some specific postures such as missionaries, cow-girl, doggy etc.) and little amount of semen I ejaculate (this is not a problem I know. This happens because I have to ejaculate multiple times and I’m no semen-tank). I am about to get married. I am frustrated of my situation and I guess if this situation continues after my marriage then nothing would be able to stop from turbulating our marriage and might result in to separation. In a world survey it was published that about 80% unsuccessful marriage is because of unhealthy sex life. I don’t know if this number is true or not, but, I don’t want our marriage to be counted in that number. I need your expert help. Please help me.
Following are the areas I need help.
1. I need to increase my penis length to at least to 17 cm. (7 inch. approx.)
2. I need to increase my penis girth to at least to 15 cm. (6 inch. approx.)
3. I need to decrease my masturbation habit. But, I don’t want to decrease my sex drive or stamina.
4. I need to stay longer.
5. Sperm discharge while urinating or passing bowel has to stop.
6. Burning sensation has to go away.
7. Expecting to achieve rock-solid erection.
So far these are the things I need to be helped. Maybe, you are thinking how crazy I am and I need my head fixed first rather than my genital disorders. I promise, I will get my head examined right after I get my genital disorders fixed. Maybe, if I get my genital disorders fixed then my head will automatically get fixed. Please help me doc. I am desperate.
Please do not hesitate to ask for any further information. I hope you’ll do your very best to help this poor soul. I’ll be looking forward to you.
Thanks and regards,
Dev
PS. May I ask for your contact phone number so that I may talk to you in person?