Men and Sex - The Myth vs Reality

It’s surprising to see how much misinformation exists about sexual health of men. This in turn makes most healthy men feel inadequate due to one reason or another. Those who have heard about homeopathy turn to it for a solution or a miracle cure for a “disease” that never was.

You can do your own research to form an educated opinion. Just don’t rely on hearsay.

In this article I will try to clarify a few misconceptions about following topics:
1. Masturbation
2. Premature Ejaculation (PE)
3. Penis size
4. Nocturnal emissions a.k.a Night fall, Wet dreams, Ejaculating in sleep

MASTURBATION
Just 30-40 years back, masturbation was considered a sin in almost all cultures and feelings of guilt were associated with it. Even homeopathic literature is full of such explanations which is a reflection of the times in which it was written. Now times have changed, and with experience people have learnt that it’s a healthy activity when done in moderation. Its unhealthy if your life revolves around it and nothing else.

In developed nations it’s a non-issue as it’s the accepted norm. There is a joke about it which says that 90% men masturbate and 10% lie. People have embraced it as normal and healthy because with education and common observation everyone has seen that “masturbating sinners” don’t suffer from any ill health.

Unfortunately, the stigma and the feelings of sin are still prevalent in most developing & under-developed nations. With the ease with which all sorts of porn is available to everyone the teenagers especially are fighting two opposite urges most of the time. If they watch porn, they need the release. Since masturbation is the easiest form of release, that’s what they do. After doing that the feeling of guilt starts setting in because that is what they have been made to believe through various societal norms.

To top it all, many homeopaths and pseudo-homeopaths cash in on this guilt and further drive home the message that masturbation is wrong and the source of all health problems. This is total non-sense as the practical evidence is contrary to this. If this theory was correct that masturbation causes health issues almost all men would be sick sinners.

The young minds are impressionable and in the absence of proper sex education, hearsay is all they rely on. Which is not only unreliable but sometimes dangerously wrong. There is no short cut to removing this stigma, only time & education can help.

PREMATURE EJACULATION:
Most of the men who complain about PE (premature ejaculation) have two sources of information, either someone telling them about it or watching porn.

That someone could be friends boasting about their sustaining power which mostly is a lie.

In case of porn, when you see a male star going at it for 20 minutes without ejaculating, it’s either a combination of multiple shots taken over several sessions and/or an acquired trait where the male stars have developed duration by using the start-stop technique explained below. Those scenes are removed from the movie when a male stars ejaculates early during a scene. That scene is then shot again and what you get to watch is a continuous session making you believe something which is not true.

Any good sex education class will tell you all of this which I am writing here.

The fact is that almost all healthy men ejaculate within 1-3 minutes of non-stop stimulation. This time increases with age as all body functions get slower and weaker with age. So if you are ejaculating within this time, you are “normal” and stop fretting PE.

If you want to increase your time before ejaculation, it’s an acquired trait and you can train yourself to last as long as you want. It’s easy and here is how to do it.

During sex arouse yourself and reach as close to the point of ejaculation as you can, then stop the stimulation and let the urge to ejaculate subside. Then start over again. Keep doing this cycle and you will last much longer. This is called start-stop technique and doesn’t require any medicine. You will get better at it with practice.

To satisfy your wife, learn this science: The average time of orgasm for most women is 15-20 minutes, so you have two choices, either increase your time before ejaculation to 15-20 minutes or increase the time of foreplay to 15-20 minutes and then you & your wife can both have enjoyable sex culminating in an orgasm for both of you.

PENIS SIZE:
Next comes the size of penis, again, porn is to blame for that. Most men have been made to believe that their penis size is small. Yes, there are some men who are better endowed than others but it’s uncommon. You have to understand, the average height of men is different in different races, just like that, the average penis size is different in different races.

As it’s uncommon that you will see 7 ft tall men, similarly you will not see men with 9” penises. Both these are uncommon traits. The same is true for breast sizes, it’s uncommon to see immensely huge breasts. I hope you can see the pattern here.

NOCTURNAL EMISSIONS:
Nocturnal Emissions are a sign of a healthy body and if a teenager ejaculates in sleep every other days, it’s ok. The only time it may require some homeopathic intervention is if its daily and as a result the daytime routine suffers due to fatigue & tiredness. If you are energetic & fresh then even daily ejaculation is fine.
[message edited by fitness on Wed, 16 Apr 2014 17:24:24 BST]