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Toddler Terrible Sleeper
I have a 21month old who is a terrible sleeper. We co-sleep or I literally would never get any sleep. As a baby he needed lots and lots of rocking, white noise, bouncing etc to go to sleep and would wake up frequently. He took a couple of hours to fall asleep for naps and night sleeps and would wake every 40mins 1.5hours.He is very clingy and wants me to go with him everywhere even if it is just the two of us at home. If we are out he often cries to go home unless he is in the pram and we are moving, he prefers to be outside.
He tends towards being to be mostly happily constipated. He doesn't eat very much, he rarely eats a full meal but picks at food. He is large and off the chart in height and weight but proportional.
I have always worked from home but I now work outside the house a bit (he has always slept like this) and I am starting to feel really awful and nauseous from the lack of sleep.
He likes to sleep along headboard above my pillow. He hates blankets but burrows and sleeps under pillows. He is quite warm and prefers not to wear clothes.
Always wants me to get up with him, never dad. In the mornings I cant sleep in even if dad offers to get up with him, he will cry and protest until I get up. I get about 6 very broken hours of sleep a night. Below I have recorded a bad night, an average night and a good night. Bad 50%, average 30%, good 20%. The type of night doesnt seem to obviously be related to anything. When he wakes up in the night he is happy if he is allowed to get up. If I try to keep him in bed he is awake for just as long but is crying.
BAD NIGHT
8:30 fall asleep, feeds and then he rolls over and I pat to sleep coming back to feed about 6 times.
9:30 wake up sit up and easily feed back to sleep
11:00 wake up sit up and easily feed back to sleep
2am wake up feed for 1minute from each breast every 5 seconds roll over and try to get comfortable
3-5 mins later wake up for feed for 1 minute from each breast every 5 seconds roll over and try to get comfortable
repeat for about 1 hour.
3am get up and want to play, stay up for anywhere from 1-3 hours
4:30am go back to sleep
5:30 wake up and feed for 1 minute from each breast every 5 seconds roll over and try to get comfortable
wake every 15 30 mins to feed 3-5 mins
repeat until 7:30 am
In bed for 10 hours
AVERAGE NIGHT
8:30 fall asleep, feeds and then he rolls over and I pat to sleep coming back to feed about 6 times.
9:30 wake up sit up and easily feed back to sleep
11:00 wake up sit up and easily feed back to sleep
2am wake for feed 5 minute feed alternating breasts every 20 secs
roll over and wiggle around trying to go back to sleep
come back to breast about 6 times over 45mins. Finally pat to sleep.
3:30am wake for feed 5 minute feed alternating breasts every 20 secs
roll over and wiggle around trying to go back to sleep
come back to breast about 6 times over 45mins. Finally pat to sleep.
5:30am for feed every 10 mins until about 6:30am
6:30am wake up
In bed for 10 hours
GOOD
8:30 fall asleep, feeds and then he rolls over and I pat to sleep coming back to feed about 6 times.
11:00 wake up sit up and easily feed back to sleep
3am wake for feed 5 minute feed alternating breasts every 20 secs
roll over and wiggle around trying to go back to sleep
takes about 20mins to pat back to sleep
4:30am wake for feed 5 minute feed alternating breasts every 20 secs
roll over and wiggle around trying to go back to sleep
takes about 20mins to pat back to sleep.
5:30am for feed every 15 mins until about 6:30am
6:30am wake up
In bed for 10 hours
Nap
12:30 fall asleep feeding
1:30 wake up and want o be nursed back to sleep
2:30 wake up might want to be nursed back to sleep
Will be very very grumpy and grizzly if he hasnt been allowed to finish his nap, just because he wakes up doesnt mean he is ready to get up.
Thank you for your help!!!!
[message edited by H313n on Sun, 15 Feb 2015 20:40:09 GMT]
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H313n on 2015-02-15
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1. Age, weight, height
2. Physical appearance of the child e.g. thin, chubby, tall, short
3. Describe the nature of the child (shy, headstrong etc. give details)
4. Have the growth milestones (e.g. teething, standing, walking, talking etc. )achieved early, on time or late
5. What are the symptoms of the health problem
6. What makes the problem better without using medicines
7. What makes the problem worse without using medicines
8. How is the child behaving emotionally during this problem
9. How long the problem has been there
10. What is the reason of the problem in mothers view
11. How is the childs thirst & appetite
12. What does the child like to eat
13. What does the child dislike in food
14. Is there any strong preference of taste e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter
15. How is the stool & urine
16. How is the childs sleep
17. What is the child afraid of (animals, insects, darkness, alone etc.)
18. Where does the child sweat normally
19. How much does the child sweat (little, moderate, a lot)
20. Any problems with nose, throat, ears, chest
21. Is the child normally cold or hot
22. Was it a planned pregnancy, if not, how did you feel on finding about it
23. How was the pregnancy of the mother (morning sickness, bleeding, happy, sad, tense etc)
24. How is the relationship of mother & father
25. What diseases run in your family (mother & father)
1. Age, weight, height
2. Physical appearance of the child e.g. thin, chubby, tall, short
3. Describe the nature of the child (shy, headstrong etc. give details)
4. Have the growth milestones (e.g. teething, standing, walking, talking etc. )achieved early, on time or late
5. What are the symptoms of the health problem
6. What makes the problem better without using medicines
7. What makes the problem worse without using medicines
8. How is the child behaving emotionally during this problem
9. How long the problem has been there
10. What is the reason of the problem in mothers view
11. How is the childs thirst & appetite
12. What does the child like to eat
13. What does the child dislike in food
14. Is there any strong preference of taste e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter
15. How is the stool & urine
16. How is the childs sleep
17. What is the child afraid of (animals, insects, darkness, alone etc.)
18. Where does the child sweat normally
19. How much does the child sweat (little, moderate, a lot)
20. Any problems with nose, throat, ears, chest
21. Is the child normally cold or hot
22. Was it a planned pregnancy, if not, how did you feel on finding about it
23. How was the pregnancy of the mother (morning sickness, bleeding, happy, sad, tense etc)
24. How is the relationship of mother & father
25. What diseases run in your family (mother & father)
fitness 9 years ago
Thank you very much! I have been to your website, if you can help we would be over the moon.
1. Age, weight, height
21 months, 16kg, 92cms (big for his age)
2. Physical appearance of the child e.g. thin, chubby, tall, short
tall, solid, a bit chubby but not fat, muscular, hair very slow to grow, he was bald for ages
3. Describe the nature of the child (shy, headstrong etc. give details)
shy with strangers but tries to engage with them when he is comfortable, he likes people, tries to cuddle other kids he meets, affectionate gives kisses and cuddles spontaneously and when asked.
Quite headstrong, will cry and protest when I am doing something he doesnt want to do like shopping. He has definite opinions even if he cant always communicate them, he knows what he wants. He is happy and content if he is in his comfort zone but can be very clingy. He would love to be carried around everywhere. Wants me to play with him and will rarely play alone but only for a minute or two. He plays at my feet when I am cooking and cant play.
He loves dogs. He loves rough and tumble play, swinging, being tossed about, being chased and playing games where someone jumps out at him as long as its not too scary.
4. Have the growth milestones (e.g. teething, standing, walking, talking etc. )achieved early, on time or late
milestones on time, stood alone 8 months, walked 11months, 1st tooth 9 months teething is slightly delayed. He isnt as verbal as some of his friends but he is within the average range.
5. What are the symptoms of the health problem
difficulty sleeping, trouble falling asleep, very light sleeper, wakes frequently and easily. clingy
6. What makes the problem better without using medicines
He might sleep better if he is very tired but usually he just falls asleep more easily but it doesnt affect the waking. Sometimes sleeps better away from me and home.
7. What makes the problem worse without using medicines
Full moon (it really does), doing things we dont usually do
8. How is the child behaving emotionally during this problem
Grizzly in his sleep, happy when he is fully awake but insistent that I get up with him.
9. How long the problem has been there
Since birth, he would wake up as soon as I laid him down to sleep, would not fall asleep on his own, would fall asleep with me but wake up if I left until he was about 14months.
He hated the car and cried the whole journey, hated the pram and I used the carrier. Never fell asleep away from home as a baby.
He is better in the car and pram now but tries not to fall asleep in the car but he does. He wont fall asleep in the pram.
10. What is the reason of the problem in mothers view
Separation anxiety, fear of being alone, scared I wont come back. No event sparked this, I had always been there with him (abandonment in a past life WHO KNOWS???)
11. How is the childs thirst & appetite
Average thirst I suppose, prefers breast milk to food but will eat if he likes whats on offer, does not eat fresh vegetables or fruit (unless they are hidden in a dish)
12. What does the child like to eat
Meat, crackers, dried fruit, pasta, bread, (we are gluten and dairy free so I make lots of the foods from scratch) sweets (he doesnt get these much)
13. What does the child dislike in food
Fresh fruit and vegtables
14. Is there any strong preference of taste e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter
He tries to eat salt from the shaker, he likes sweet as well but salt more.
15. How is the stool & urine
Tends towards constipation. He might not go for days but the stool is usually soft. Urine normal.
16. How is the childs sleep
See above
17. What is the child afraid of (animals, insects, darkness, alone etc.)
He wont go into dark rooms, he starts at loud noises, even distant ones. Looks for comfort and reassurance when there is a loud noise.
Will not be alone, wants to be on me if possible. If he is playing will constantly check that I am there.
18. Where does the child sweat normally
Around the head usually
19. How much does the child sweat (little, moderate, a lot)
Moderate, sweats more in sleep but it is a million degrees at the moment
20. Any problems with nose, throat, ears, chest
No, has had about 5 little colds in his life. He had a cough that lasted three days recently.
21. Is the child normally cold or hot
Tends to be warmer but not hot, likes to wear no clothes
22. Was it a planned pregnancy, if not, how did you feel on finding about it
Yes very planned. Felt excited but worried, I had a lot of bleeding in first trimester and was worried through whole pregnancy.
23. How was the pregnancy of the mother (morning sickness, bleeding, happy, sad, tense etc)
I have loose joints normally and joints loosen even more in pregnancy and I fell and tripped a lot. Nothing serious but I worried I would fall badly.
I had yeast over growth in first trimester that I healed from without medications.
I had quite a bit of bleeding but there was no cause
Mild morning sickness, very sore joints, very sleepy especially at 1pm after lunch.
24. How is the relationship of mother & father
Great our home is harmonious, Toddler prefers me which can be quite disappointing and disempowering for my husband.
25. What diseases run in your family (mother & father)
Joint problems, arthritis, gut issues, food intolerances, minor heart issues, stroke. Mental illness depression, alcoholism, Alzheimers.
We eat organic wholefoods (WAPF) and take no medicine if we can help it. We dont eat gluten or much dairy. We take natural bioavailable Supplements. Toddler is not vaccinated, family members have had bad reactions to varying degrees and we have done extensive research to arrive at that decision. We are doing Issac Goldens homeopathic prophylaxis.
We have used hylands teething tablets for teething which work well. We use homeopathy and herbs for acute illness etc.
1. Age, weight, height
21 months, 16kg, 92cms (big for his age)
2. Physical appearance of the child e.g. thin, chubby, tall, short
tall, solid, a bit chubby but not fat, muscular, hair very slow to grow, he was bald for ages
3. Describe the nature of the child (shy, headstrong etc. give details)
shy with strangers but tries to engage with them when he is comfortable, he likes people, tries to cuddle other kids he meets, affectionate gives kisses and cuddles spontaneously and when asked.
Quite headstrong, will cry and protest when I am doing something he doesnt want to do like shopping. He has definite opinions even if he cant always communicate them, he knows what he wants. He is happy and content if he is in his comfort zone but can be very clingy. He would love to be carried around everywhere. Wants me to play with him and will rarely play alone but only for a minute or two. He plays at my feet when I am cooking and cant play.
He loves dogs. He loves rough and tumble play, swinging, being tossed about, being chased and playing games where someone jumps out at him as long as its not too scary.
4. Have the growth milestones (e.g. teething, standing, walking, talking etc. )achieved early, on time or late
milestones on time, stood alone 8 months, walked 11months, 1st tooth 9 months teething is slightly delayed. He isnt as verbal as some of his friends but he is within the average range.
5. What are the symptoms of the health problem
difficulty sleeping, trouble falling asleep, very light sleeper, wakes frequently and easily. clingy
6. What makes the problem better without using medicines
He might sleep better if he is very tired but usually he just falls asleep more easily but it doesnt affect the waking. Sometimes sleeps better away from me and home.
7. What makes the problem worse without using medicines
Full moon (it really does), doing things we dont usually do
8. How is the child behaving emotionally during this problem
Grizzly in his sleep, happy when he is fully awake but insistent that I get up with him.
9. How long the problem has been there
Since birth, he would wake up as soon as I laid him down to sleep, would not fall asleep on his own, would fall asleep with me but wake up if I left until he was about 14months.
He hated the car and cried the whole journey, hated the pram and I used the carrier. Never fell asleep away from home as a baby.
He is better in the car and pram now but tries not to fall asleep in the car but he does. He wont fall asleep in the pram.
10. What is the reason of the problem in mothers view
Separation anxiety, fear of being alone, scared I wont come back. No event sparked this, I had always been there with him (abandonment in a past life WHO KNOWS???)
11. How is the childs thirst & appetite
Average thirst I suppose, prefers breast milk to food but will eat if he likes whats on offer, does not eat fresh vegetables or fruit (unless they are hidden in a dish)
12. What does the child like to eat
Meat, crackers, dried fruit, pasta, bread, (we are gluten and dairy free so I make lots of the foods from scratch) sweets (he doesnt get these much)
13. What does the child dislike in food
Fresh fruit and vegtables
14. Is there any strong preference of taste e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter
He tries to eat salt from the shaker, he likes sweet as well but salt more.
15. How is the stool & urine
Tends towards constipation. He might not go for days but the stool is usually soft. Urine normal.
16. How is the childs sleep
See above
17. What is the child afraid of (animals, insects, darkness, alone etc.)
He wont go into dark rooms, he starts at loud noises, even distant ones. Looks for comfort and reassurance when there is a loud noise.
Will not be alone, wants to be on me if possible. If he is playing will constantly check that I am there.
18. Where does the child sweat normally
Around the head usually
19. How much does the child sweat (little, moderate, a lot)
Moderate, sweats more in sleep but it is a million degrees at the moment
20. Any problems with nose, throat, ears, chest
No, has had about 5 little colds in his life. He had a cough that lasted three days recently.
21. Is the child normally cold or hot
Tends to be warmer but not hot, likes to wear no clothes
22. Was it a planned pregnancy, if not, how did you feel on finding about it
Yes very planned. Felt excited but worried, I had a lot of bleeding in first trimester and was worried through whole pregnancy.
23. How was the pregnancy of the mother (morning sickness, bleeding, happy, sad, tense etc)
I have loose joints normally and joints loosen even more in pregnancy and I fell and tripped a lot. Nothing serious but I worried I would fall badly.
I had yeast over growth in first trimester that I healed from without medications.
I had quite a bit of bleeding but there was no cause
Mild morning sickness, very sore joints, very sleepy especially at 1pm after lunch.
24. How is the relationship of mother & father
Great our home is harmonious, Toddler prefers me which can be quite disappointing and disempowering for my husband.
25. What diseases run in your family (mother & father)
Joint problems, arthritis, gut issues, food intolerances, minor heart issues, stroke. Mental illness depression, alcoholism, Alzheimers.
We eat organic wholefoods (WAPF) and take no medicine if we can help it. We dont eat gluten or much dairy. We take natural bioavailable Supplements. Toddler is not vaccinated, family members have had bad reactions to varying degrees and we have done extensive research to arrive at that decision. We are doing Issac Goldens homeopathic prophylaxis.
We have used hylands teething tablets for teething which work well. We use homeopathy and herbs for acute illness etc.
H313n 9 years ago
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