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Message to Dr. Rishimba : 8 year old girl who cannot accept herself

Dear Dr. Rishimba,

I was advised to give the youngest daughter's case to your good self since you are treating the older ones already.

My 8 year old daughter - turning 9 soon seems to have issues with self acceptance. She hardly has real close friends at school - it seems that she is not given the chance or maybe because she whines a lot and gets sad a lot. She fights a lot and I am unclear if she is partially wrong or right. She has developed a self defense mechanism so she sometimes lies about things or fights. She is generally a very sweet girl who is extremely socially intelligent especially amongst adults so she knows what to say. Most people think that she is too advanced for her age emotionally. In comparison to her class, she definitely knows more about today's music, books, movies, politeness ...etc., She is an adorable, kind hearted child who nags and whines a lot. Sometimes she is calm around her sisters and other times she fights with them like mad. There is definitely manipulative behavior because she always wants to get what she wants no matter what. She hugs a lot and very loving and caring and likes physical association. I want her to not nag so much, I dont want that she gets hurt from her colleagues, I hope she can manage to make real close friends at school .... she is very smart and yet, hates math. She definitely talks a lot :)

Is there a remedy for her?
[message edited by Wizzo on Fri, 08 May 2015 19:18:36 BST]
 
  Wizzo on 2015-05-08
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
dear wizzo,
it will be better if u give this case to rishimba. rishimba have consider ur elder daughters cases and this case might related to same cause so, according to me the best person for this case is rishimba.


u can make a new post in heading mention that this case is for rishimba.


take care :)
 
gaintrox 8 years ago
Thanks a lot Gaintrox. I just didnt want to overburden the good doctor :)
 
Wizzo 8 years ago
Let me know about her the following generals..

1. Does she like warm or cool environment?

2. How is her thirst?

3. Is she very sensitive to changes in weather, temperature, sunlight etc.

4. What does she crave in food and what are her aversions?

5.What are the situations that make her happy and the ones that make her uncomfortable?

6. List down some words describing her personality?

7. What are the issues in general for which she nags her sisters or parents?

8. What do you mean when you say '..who cannot accept herself'? Can you give some examples?

9. Is her personality contradictory or confusing to others?

10. How does she respond to consolation during her tough times?

11. What are her fears and does she have any recurring dream?
 
rishimba 8 years ago
1. Does she like warm or cool environment?
She prefers warm environments and yet, in summer if it is too hot, she likes using the AC.

2. How is her thirst?
Not much and and yet she drinks water even if not thirsty

3. Is she very sensitive to changes in weather, temperature, sunlight etc.
She said not much …. She doest like the cold of winter and doesn’t pile up on too much clothes. It’s interesting because she doesn’t get cold fast as me

4. What does she crave in food and what are her aversions?
• Chocolate, sweet things in general (cakes, French pastry ..etc.,)
• Potato chips
• Coca Cola
• Salmon
• Mashed potatoes
• Salad
• Meat Kofta or shish Kebab
• Camembert
• Gruyere cheese
• Sushi
• Panee shrimps
• Smoked herring

Aversions:
• Okra
• Salted Egyptian raw herring
• Too much salt is not nice according to her
• Heavy food


5.What are the situations that make her happy and the ones that make her uncomfortable?
Happy situations:
• When people are happy spending time with her
• When people say nice things about her
• When she receives a gift
• Traveling and swimming – beach or pool in general
• When she learns new things in ballet
• When the people surrounding her are kind
• When she goes out
• When she plays board games with her father or spends time with her mom

Uncomfortable:
• When people say nasty things about her
• Talk bad or do bad stuff to her
• When someone screams at her – she feels unwanted in this place and feels sad and unhappy

6. List down some words describing her personality?

Happy, loving, kind, caring, sometimes shy, sometimes not so shy, affectionate, strong in fighting with sisters, sometimes weak or loses words/thoughts when fighting with friends, sometimes unfair. Generous, polite, proper, diligent, sometimes lazy, energetic, adorable, cant defend herself, provocative, loud, cares what people say about her, manipulative

7. What are the issues in general for which she nags her sisters or parents?
Sisters:
• When they scream at her
• When they take the ipad from her
• Fighting over items or attention
• Wanting to cut in conversations and wanting to be heard regardless if it is her turn or not
• She said she get jealous sometimes from them because they can do stuff she cant like cutting veggies or serving a plate
Parent:
• Wanting to do things her way
• Manipulation / not wanting to go to training or sometimes making an effort
• Crying to get something
• Saying that she is sick sometimes or tired, when she is not


8. What do you mean when you say '..who cannot accept herself'? Can you give some examples?
She sometimes has to treat people in a manner that she wouldn’t normally because they are mean to her and she hates not being herself.
She is usually a nice kid, a very happy kid as well who enjoys the outdoors and the indoors!

9. Is her personality contradictory or confusing to others?
I must say she is, sweet and loving and yet screaming and whining. Smart and yet, sometimes reluctant to work, kind, loving and caring and yet, angry and fighting. Happy and smiling a lot and all of sudden, looking for something that ticks her off

10. How does she respond to consolation during her tough times?
Makes her very happy, loves hugging and responds well to physical touch

11. What are her fears and does she have any recurring dream?
• Sometimes her mother (seems like authority)
• The idea of someone she loves dying
• Someone she likes / loves is hurt
• Fears losing friends or family
• Sacred that sometimes her friend may not like her for any reason or because someone said something bad about her

She said while in tears, “I saw you and dad die” – she saw this dream twice or thrice
 
Wizzo 8 years ago
Homeopathy brings out the 'Natural' in a person. Any trait that is passed on to the individual genetically, cannot be changed or cured as its considered 'natural'. Also in many cases, such mental symptoms are difficult to discern from genetic traits because of their subtlety.

Having said that, I feel, looking at her mentals, she is developing into a typical Pulsatilla girl. As long as her symptoms are not so intense and disturbing to others, you should wait and watch.

In case she starts showing some bipolar tendencies in the future and has the same sufferings as your elder daughters, you can try Pulsatilla to cure her sufferings. In any case, you should consult a homeopath before giving her any remedy.

For the time being, since she has no mental or physical 'Suffering', I don't think she needs anything.
 
rishimba 8 years ago
Thanks a lot dr. Rishimba .... I will sit and watch then
 
Wizzo 8 years ago

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