Children suffering from recurring diseases

To further expand on the topic of birth stress, I would like to explain a certain pathology, increasingly common in recent years.

There are and more children suffering from recurring diseases of the respiratory tract, culminating in asthma. A lot of children complain of frequent stomach-aches, they have no appetite, their growth slows down and their pale skin is often explained in a way as a naturally fair complexion. The child may stop eating in the middle of a meal declaring that he is so full he can’t manage another spoonful. He is often struck by strange bouts of tiredness and may faint if he can’t lie down at once. The child is nervous, apathetic, scared and may experience a fear of death or wish to die. Stubborn allergies and skin-diseases frequently appear, and in spite of extreme restrictions and all the mother’s care and worry, they won’t clear up. The mother usually ends up disappointed with medicine altogether.
These symptoms may appear in different combinations, clearing up
From time to time and then suddenly making their appearance again without any apparent reason.

Only on rare occasions is the cause of this kind of ailment found to be cardiac dysfunction, and yet it is always the heart that lies at the bottom of the problem. The reason id often the Foramen oval apertum – opening of the oval aperture, an inborn cardiac defect met with more frequency each year. According to official data, 30% of new born babies already have this disease?

The life of a foetus in the womb differs from that of a baby who has already been born. The circulatory mechanism of a foetus is different as well – an unborn baby doesn’t breathe with it lungs, instead, the blood flows directly through an oval-shaped opening in the wall between the heart’s atriums. When the baby is born, its lungs open up and, in order to be enriched with oxygen, blood starts to flow through them. Before the baby was born, the mother did the job for it. The oval aperture should close a couple of minutes after the baby has emerged – the problem is that sometimes it doesn’t.

The heart is the organ of love, if the foetus has a stress, “I am not loved, I don’t deserve love, my love doesn’t deserve to be returned, etc.”, then the aperture won’t close. Whether it remains completely open or closes down partially, depends on the gravity of the stress. The baby is leaving itself a quick way out, in case the situation doesn’t improve, or else it feels that it is making things difficult for its mother by its existence.

Where the oval aperture is partly closed, the passage of blood is obstructed. Blood rushes through the opening in swirls and whirls that cause a murmuring sound. The doctor, hearing this sound, says that those murmurs are a normal part of growing up. Actually, some doctors hear the sound and some don’t. The physician who approaches the little patient with love doesn’t hear it. On the other hand, the doctor, who feels angry or upset when examining the child, can hear the murmur quite clearly. The reason for this lies in the stress he is causing the child. Children are psychic until the time their parent’s, that is the materialistic aspect of life, destroy that gift. They see, or rather, they sense the things that grown-ups try to hide from them. In the above case the child senses that the doctor is angry with him for some reason and his heart starts palpitate, as the blood pressure and heart rate are raised by fear.

When the parents fight and quarrel a lot the reaction is similar. The child’s love energy runs out – he gives up for the sake of his parents.

If the oval aperture is partly closed, the flow of blood in the body slows down due to low blood pressure. Blood, like every other liquid, will seek the path of least resistance. So it takes the wrong route and causes a congestion of blood in the lungs and liver while each successive heart-beat adds to the congestion.

In addition to the symptoms described above, those children typically have a sunken chest, a protruding belly and abdominal breathing. The situation where blood is dammed off, gives a similar effect to no blood at all.

Here are the reasons for recurring bronchitis, pneumonia and asthma:
- bronchitis appears when there are low spirits, worry and a weariness of living in the family
- pneumonia appears when there are arguments, fights and a lot of yelling, or else an angry silence in the family
- asthma appears when there are suppressed feelings of love or suppressed tears in the family. The child has a fear of living and doesn’t want to live anymore.

The congestion of the liver may, at times, become extremely large. The liver is the largest organ in the human body, purifying it of all unnecessary substances. At the same time, it is the organ responsible for blood formation.

The liver is the center of anger, disdain, rage and other similar feelings. All the most poisonous feelings are neutralized in the liver. If such feelings accumulate to a point when the liver alone is unable to deal with them, the mucous membrane and the skin come to its aid. Here lies the reason for aching bones and joints, rheumatism, and skin diseases in children. Another reason for aching bones in children is a deficiency of calcium. If the bones contain less calcium than is needed for growth, tension pains are experienced in tubular bones at night. These children who are always asking somebody to rub their legs.

The oval aperture can be easily closed. Despite the patient’s age and gender the changes when the oval aperture closes, are the same:
- the patient draws a long breath, at times lasting for minutes, while the upper part of the chest billows out and the protruding belly visibly decreases. The patient’s often say, “I feel like I am breathing for the very first time in my life!” They are right; this is the way a new-born baby is supposed to breathe from its first minutes. And this is why the patient’s feel as if they have been born anew;
- as the congestion of the liver starts to decrease, the patient experiences the feeling of an empty stomach. Children ask for something to eat;
- the skin grows a nice healthy pink, lips turn red, the painted expression clears away and eyes start to shine.

All these changes take place in just a few minutes, under your very eyes. The picture is breathtakingly beautiful. Even tears of happiness are a sight for sore eyes. And id the patient, on top of all that, manages to release his stresses, and then the symptoms will disappear for good.

However, if the patient depends on somebody else to cure his condition, then, although the effect may last for years, the old troubles will return eventually. The aperture will not open again but the heart muscle will be damaged by stress, causing the flow of blood to slow down and congest life important organs. This sort of heart dysfunction is often diagnosed and operated on. The heart is patched up but the symptoms somehow refuse to go away. Should you ask the heart, it would give your surprised question quite a simple answer: “I was expecting love but violence was all I got.”

Turning to the scalpel always does violence to the body. Even if surgery is justified and life-saving, it still testifies to the fact that the real needs of the body have been ignored. An operation shows that it was already too late to start fulfilling those needs.

This pathology often escapes attention in cases where the heart it self is still free of symptoms – it is still fed by divine love. As there are no communication routs in the ventricle wall, it fails to show up in the most common test for cardiac function – the electrocardiogram or EKG. The diagnosis comes much later – when the heart has already suffered extensive damage.


The generation Gap

The endless problem of control. Parents control their children and end up being controlled them selves. Everything you do, you get back twofold. He who sows wind, shall reap the storm.

I would like to repeat once again:

1. The child himself is the one who chooses his parents, with all the good and the bad they have to offer – and not the other way round. There’s no one to blame.
2. The child is a pure spirit and always comes to love his parents. The aims of the parents, on the other hand may not always be so noble, but instead quite self-serving in their nature.

A loving parent never says to his child in anger, “You don’t love me, you are bad.” Only a mother (or father) who feels unloved in her heart and knows how it hurts not to be loved, can say something like that out of bitterness, trying to hurt the child as much as she can. A mother can explain it in away quite logically: “well, he hurt me first, why can’t I hurt him back!” The mother’s obligation is to teach the child to be wise, that’s why she has to learn a lot herself. If her own parents have made mistakes in her upbringing then she has to be forgiven them, instead of repeating those mistakes.

The words that you use to strike a wound in your child’s heart will return to you sooner or later, only this time they will come back to hurt you and the hurt will be much worse. Don’t blame your child when it happens but ask him to forgive you for your mistake. Understanding always has to come from the wiser of the two.

As for your mother: you know that this sort of understanding is too much to expect from her and so you yourself have to be the one who forgives her for her mistakes, and yourself for letting the hurt enter your heart.

The mother’s duty is to teach the child to adapt to the ways of this world and make him strong. Too few mothers give birth with a feeling of pure love in their hearts. People usually get angry when I tell them this. You can say what you like but this is the simple truth: a parent with pure love in his heart will never have a really disastrous relationship with his children. They may disagree, they may fight, they may have arguments where the truth will eventually come out, but hate or insult is never needed. The kind of fight where the only goal is to win never has to be fought.

Love makes a person strong, understanding and reasonable. But if you let yourself be insulted by something the other person said, your ability to understand the situation is already blocked, and your only concern is to strike back immediately – to stand up for your own rights. Power always breeds protest and protest will grow into anger. It is obvious the parent, being older and stronger, will always have the upper hand in any argument. The more that physical strength is allowed to control the spirit, the weaker the spirit will grow, to the point where the mind of a submissive child will stop developing.

There are lots of ways to control a child:
- some parents resort to verbal abuse,
- some resort to threats,
- some resort to tears as they know that this is the child’s soft spot.

Because a child always wishes the best for his mother and father, some parents say, “You have to do this or that for the sake of the good name of our family,” and the child will do what is expected of him. He would have done it anyway, but now he is under an obligation. The strange thing is that the parents’ behavior is often at odds with the way they expect their children to behave – words and reality contradict. The child is literally sucked dry of energy.

Quite a few parents keep their offspring on a short leash by threatening the child with their own death at the child’s smallest transgression, thereby causing the child grave neurosis. But a child, who is not able to cope with death, won’t be able to cope with life. Birth and death are both inevitable and natural and this fact of life has to be made perfectly clear to the child. A child to whom it has been explained that death is the body’s transition from one state to another and that the dead person just goes away, will know that death is not destruction, but a state of being apart. He will understand that this is the way it is supposed to be.

Parents who fear death are often ill themselves and cause their children high fevers and sometimes, even terminal diseases. The child feeds his parent’s fear of death with his healthy energy. A child who is too self-sacrificing may even die for his mother or father.

The hard truth is that parents are the first to do violence to the child’s body and soul and, accordingly, are also the ones who have to bear the bitter consequences later. But parents whose favorite pastime is grumbling about their children have a difficult time admitting this. Denying one’s mistakes, however, has never done anything to improve the situation. The only way to free yourself from sickness is to ask your children to forgive you, and if you are too stubborn and proud to do that, then you will just have to keep on suffering.

Life is progress and eventually a child will grow wiser than its parents. The person wiser at a particular moment can and is obliged to teach the other – if he knows how to do it the right way. A parent, not quite sure of himself, could tell the child, “Honey, I’m sorry, but it seems to me that you are doing this wrong. Let me show you.” Every mother and father has to become wise, so that they can teach the child. If they are not wise enough, they should make it their business to learn. The child needs to have respect for his parents and a parent who takes the trouble to learn always deserves a child’s respect.

If you already overtaken your parents in wisdom, never humiliate them, thinking that you know better. You may well choose to come back as their mother or father in the next life and if you do, your wise deeds will be waiting for you with all their consequences. You should find happiness in knowing this and in things you do right.

If a child has done something to deserve punishment, it should be carried out immediately and in a manner which leaves the child in no doubt as to the reason for such punishment. Punishing is a serious business. In a way, it shows the child what the parent feels towards him. Later on, the child will be thankful for a fair and just punishment, which came in time and taught him a lesson.

If you can still feel the hurt that your parent’s unfairness caused you when you were small, then you must forgive them for causing you pain. You have to forgive yourself for taking this hurt to your soul and keeping it there so long. Finally, tell your body how sorry you are for having harmed it by this negativity.

• Something more about the role of the mother (AB2/96
The mother has a very special role in the family – she is the fountain of love. At the same time the mother’s stresses can keep the whole family from leading a normal life. The guilt, springing from her childhood, keeps mother bustling about, trying to earn love. When she fails, because the familiar fear of not being loved keeps her from her goals, she starts looking for someone to blame. A culprit is easy to find as everybody she becomes close to is a source of constant irritation to her – her husband, neighbors, parent’s etc. the child sees the conflict between his parents, sees love drying up and falls ill. Mother groans, “As if I didn’t have enough problems of my own! Why did you have to fall ill just now!”

The guilt she feels attracts people who, in turn, start blaming her: her husband, the pediatrician, her parents. The granny of course thinks that if everybody had listened to her in the first place, the child would never have fallen ill. A person suffering from stress feels that he has the right to meddle in others people’s affairs.

I often look at a child like that and see its soul begging me, “Please help my mother and father. There’s nothing wrong with me” If only all the grandparents and parents would release their stresses, there would be no more feelings of guilt, no accusations, no fear and fright, no anger and no hate…

Life is constant motion. Yesterday is not today. Although yesterday has passed in time, it has left its trace on today, so yesterday is never lost in eternity but will always be there to accompany us. If the trace is left is good then be happy. If it was bad, then erase it by forgiving, so it doesn’t interfere with your life – anymore.

A person who looks at his mother or father and, sees only an enemy with rigid principles who doesn’t understand young people, is robbing himself of something very valuable. The usual attitude of the young – I can discuss anything with strangers but it is impossible to talk to my own parents – is caused by a subconscious wish to rebel, or in other words, the stress caused by his parents forcing him to learn. He hasn’t realized yet that everything in life is learning.

All forcing is taken painfully, as any kind of imposition is negativity. The youngster can’t see the parents’ care for him behind their strictness. He is already blinded by stress, caused by the fact that he doesn’t know how to grasp his parents’ behavior with his reasonable mind. A child, who has been taught to look for the positive side in the negative, has no trouble trusting his parents and his trust will be returned. Without having to go through a lot of heartache he will be able to realize that substantial feelings have a lot of weight to them while superficial feelings don’t. And even if the parents, in their wish to do good, create a lot of negativity for the youngster, something quire positive may come of it later on.

As long as the first mother has not done anything to try and improve her relations with her mother and her child, then the chain of stress will go on forever, and unfortunately, the next generation will always suffer more then the last. The person who made the original mistake may return to the next generation and have to deal with the consequences of his own mistake.

You may prove to the rest of the world how much your mother has hurt you and how, in turn, your child is hurting you and how it is making you the unhappiest person alive, but unless you have forgiven your mother and asked your child to forgive you, there’s no hope of anything turning out better between the three of you.

I keep stressing the role of the mother more than that of the father as the father cast his influence on the child through the mother. We should still remember that the father may be the mother the next time around and, accordingly, the forgiving the father does is no less important than that of the mother.

More than ever before, children nowadays suffer from the lack of love. Statistics show that the main cause of death these days is heart disease of varying kinds; the number of young people dying of lung cancer is increasing; more women are developing breast cancer – each one a disease of the fourth chakra. I hope that this needs no further explanation. Those who argue that smoking is cause – well prove it to me – If smoking would be the cause – we all would be dead by now!

When we have something as serious as cancer on our hands, then the person is not usually able to cope with it alone. Active help from all those concerned – the parents, the patient, the husband or wife – is needed. Even children can lend a hand. There are few people with considerable reserves of will-power who, during the first stages of cancer, are able of making cardinal changes to their way of thinking and manage to cure themselves. The majority of patients, however, are those who, after changing their attitude and being already well on the road to recovery, are suddenly dealt the final and terminal blow by the spouse or parents. A sudden death follows.

This sort of death is usually a pleasant one due to the fact that the person has already released his stresses and knows that he has learned his lessons. Peace of mind lets the spirit float free of the body, because the body needs no more suffering – it has become wise already.