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Sexual Incompetability in married young couples.

Of late I am finding lot many cases in which there are conflict amongst many married couples due to any one of the partner showing complete aversion to sexual meeting.
This results into lot of interpersonal problems not only in the couples but also in the whole family.
Counselling does help but not in all the cases & the builtup resentment results into strong bitterness in the frustrated partner.

I have tried many remedies like PLATINA, STAPHSAGRIA,ONOSMODIUM etc.not to a very helpful results.
I feel this is the curse that has come due to the hectic ways of working lives people live & the rat's race they are in.Least realising that even if they win in this race they will be only the first rat & never be a Lion
It appears very funny when asked to the patient about the frequency of sexual union, invariably the reply is
'who has the time for all this, by the time we are at home, we are so tired that we go to sleep.'
I would certainly like to know from our other members on the forum about their own experience in such cases & the way they have tackled them.
At least my success rate in such cases is very very low.
 
  daktersaab on 2012-08-25
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
Dactorsaab
You have opened a burning topic of todays concern. Every body should thank you.

1. In addition to rat race there are many issues. Main problem is that life partners are not understanding that marriage is most of the time 'an mutual adjustment'. They expect too much from each other and fail to get. This becomes a starting point of friction.
2. Another thing is that they are not ready to mould for each other and small and trifle matters become a prestige issue.
3. The TV serial and shows imbibe on the youngsters that marriage is the only event in your life and that is the only goal of your life. This is not true. There are many things in your life to achieve.
4. I think Bach Flower Remedies can help more effectively to handle broken marriages and frustrated couples
Thanks once again to Datorsaab

R.P. Tamhankar
[message edited by shouse_nsk on Sat, 25 Aug 2012 11:55:31 BST]
 
shouse_nsk last decade
Personally, I think people have to adjust to the exhaustion factor.

And actively take steps to modify their life so there is energy
left over.Especially for women, some energy left over first
just for yourself. Everyone has different amounts of energy
and one must understand when they are not equal in that
area-like if you have a semi introvert married to a big extrovert-
where the extroverts get more energy the more social they are
and the introverts are drained. Couples have to understand
each others energy requirements and make plans not to use
it all up for work, etc.

Much more complex after a couple children, worse if woman
is working, and then has no time without little people constantly
needing to be held, picked up etc-that is a hard transition to
make in married life. Again the woman needs a date night or
some regular space with a babysitter just to feel like her body
is her own again.

I think it is really an energy management problem and if you
are not proactive and understand this has to be handled - then
it is going to be a hard road ahead.
 
simone717 last decade
'I feel this is the curse that has come due to the hectic ways of working lives people live & the rat's race they are in.Least realising that even if they win in this race they will be only the first rat & never be a Lion'

Just superb way of explaining the busy & pointless life people are living these days....

Thanks Daktersaab for opening up an important topic for discussion.
 
AsadGhumman last decade
Dr. Saab

seems this subject has more to do with counseling realm than
homeopathy and facing facts about the insane competition levels going
on in todays world regarding work and success.

have you ever thought of writing a book about childraising-with
the premise of your other beautiful statement about love is allowing
the child to become the being he wants to be??

You have some wonderful wisdom and a great gift for the written
word. Would benefit a lot of people-as a doctor and a father you
have seen much- think about it.

Best,Simone717
 
simone717 last decade
'Sexual Incompetability in married young couples'
Serious problem of this time and growing very fast. Too many cases to handle.
Usually one of the spouse is the victim, the other one does not come forward due to the feeling of embarrassment etc.
What I found is the pre-marriage sex abuses, masturbation, anxiety and over work are the major causes of these problems.

Daktersaab, please explore the following remedies too.
Avena Sativa
Lycopodium
Selenium
Moschus
Yohimbinum and some others.

Please keep up the good work that you are doing Daktersaab.
Many prayers for your long life.
[message edited by nawazkhan on Sun, 26 Aug 2012 02:50:52 BST]
 
nawazkhan last decade
I wish there was a 'love your reply' box you could tick, loved yours Simone about Dr Saab writing a book. I enjoy reading Dr Saabs comments they are helping me with my kids!
 
pixie wood last decade
I agree Pixie, we are Dr. Saab fans.
 
simone717 last decade
Dear All,

I feel humbled & extremely grateful for all the good words from each of you!!!

Thanks alot for various suggestions & I shall certainly try out with
them, especially the flower remedies.
As for writing of a book many of my dear ones have suggested me but I hold exclusively myself & my procrastination (which is top most in my list of weaknesses):-))responsible for having not done yet.No other excuses.
Nevertheless, my submission to all those readers who are not homoeopaths but read this forum as patients or just to get knowledge need to read such streams of discussions & introspect in one's own behaviours & habits to get the benifits of these threads.
With loving regards & gratitude
Daktersaab
 
daktersaab last decade
Hello :)

SEXUAL PROBLEMS

Debility, frigidity, impotence, inability to concieve, and lack of confidence are all commonly encountered. Including depression, anxiety or other stress related conditions.
Ginseng, is a recommend as a general sexual stimulant. Make time for relaxation (if pos), psychotherapy, bach flower remedies and good nutritional advice are valuable aids.
Aromatherapy essentail oils are really good. . .
A basic blend could be:
ylang ylang, rose, neroli, clary sage, patchouli, jasmine, black pepper, cardamom, sandalwood, lavender, geranium . . .5 - 7 drops of each in 50ml of light base oil.
Massage between partners can be very intimate experience enhancing means of sexual communication.
WARNING - OILS SHOULD NOT COME INTO CONTACT WITH CONDOMS.
PS.They will all help with a relationship sexual issue :)
They can also be used in a bath, vaporizer aswell a massage.

They will relax, calm, balance, anti depressant properties, aphrodisiac, stress related, sensual, restorative, uplifting, appeasing, nerve tonic, frigity, comforting, soothing,hypertension, headaches and more.
WARNING -PREGNANT WOMEN MUST BE ADVISED FOR OIL SELECTION

Hope this helps out x
 
Michelle Maria last decade
RELATIONSHIP SEXUAL ISSUES

Below is a list of crystals and gemstones that can be placed in a circle under the matress or beneath the bed to aid with the above issue:

ROSE QUARTZ
Rose quartz makes us gentle but firm. There is no question of pliability or giving in, rather an awareness of the gentle nature overcoming the hard strong one. Rose quartz encourages helpfulness, openess and the desire for a pleasant ambience. Rose quartz imparts empathy, sensitivity and encourages self love, a strong heart, romance and the ability to love. Helps with sexual problems and fertility.

KUNZITE
Helps smooth over mis understandings that may have caused issues. Gently heals any past aurguments and bad memories that may try and return. Helps to deal with reconciliation. Helps deal with past trauma. It is a beautiful gentle and loving healing crystal.

BLUE LACE AGATE
Again this is another beautiful gentle healing energy. It provides emotional and mental stability in time of stress and to the extreme of dealing with trauma its energy is full of love and comfort and encourages strength and balance also improves communication problems gently and lovingly.
 
Michelle Maria last decade
SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

There is another source of help for these type of issues based on astrological coupling combinations which are unique only to that couple.

WWW.ASTROLOGY.COM
Deal with relationship compatability, sexual compatability, soulmate compatability, working relationship and more.
They pin point strengths and weaknesses in the chart research for the unique joining of the couple.
Extremely insightful report :)

With Love . . .and brightest blessings . . . Michelle Maria . . .xxxx
 
Michelle Maria last decade
Dear Michelle Maria,

Thanks a lot for your suggestions. ishall certainly explore them

regards
daktersaab
 
daktersaab last decade
Hiya Daktersaab

Not a problem....I have many more ideas but my internet access is limited at the moment...sorry

With Love and brightest Blessings.....Michelle Maria...xxxx
 
Michelle Maria last decade

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