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anger, threaten to throw something?
Hisometimes when someone at home makes me angry I tell them if they dont stop I will throw something at their face. I threaten them
.. I have taken staphysgaria in the past before but it did not give any that good benefits.
what can I do?? Are there other remedies who will want to throw things when they are angry???
helpme1 on 2013-02-20
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Scorp was suggested to you earlier. If you can't get scorp, take a single dose of Opium 200.
Scorp was suggested to you earlier. If you can't get scorp, take a single dose of Opium 200.
♡ kadwa last decade
Hi- the scorpion is available at Helios Homeopathic Pharm Uk
It is not called scorpion.
It is found named as : Androctonus Amor. Heb. ( scorpion)
I would order that if I was you in a 200 c (pellets or liquid) and do
Kadwa's dosing method. 200c in the morning, that evening, and once
the next morning. Then wait for 14 days to report in.
See any Kadwa post for dose instructions.
You can also find the Bach flower remedies and take the cherry plum and walnut
that RP prescribed you on the other post for the gambling.
Scorpion is a good remedy for people who have been abused and
dealing with past effects of abuse.
It is not called scorpion.
It is found named as : Androctonus Amor. Heb. ( scorpion)
I would order that if I was you in a 200 c (pellets or liquid) and do
Kadwa's dosing method. 200c in the morning, that evening, and once
the next morning. Then wait for 14 days to report in.
See any Kadwa post for dose instructions.
You can also find the Bach flower remedies and take the cherry plum and walnut
that RP prescribed you on the other post for the gambling.
Scorpion is a good remedy for people who have been abused and
dealing with past effects of abuse.
♡ simone717 last decade
hi
I took scorpio remedy androctonus before in 200c potency and the remedy did aggravate very very strongly and cause some scary unusual dreams of suicide bombers and vivid rocket explosions and terrorists but nothing seemed to cure after it passed.
It drained me of all life energy this remedy while I was aggravating. I never felt so bad.
I took scorpio remedy androctonus before in 200c potency and the remedy did aggravate very very strongly and cause some scary unusual dreams of suicide bombers and vivid rocket explosions and terrorists but nothing seemed to cure after it passed.
It drained me of all life energy this remedy while I was aggravating. I never felt so bad.
helpme1 last decade
I hope this will be helpful? But if not its ok. I will fill out questionaire later
I have a fear of heights. A fear of heights to me seems like an issues of instability?.. everything on shaky grounds and that it might fall over is how I feel when I am somewhere up high, or that an earthquake might happen and the tower I am on might fall down etc. And it kind of would explain my lack of confidence as well, when I am unconfident and anxious its just very bad. I cannot do anything then.
I never mentioned that I am very compulsive before because it not been really in my awareness. It just been made aware to me by how often I have been laughed at in the past couple of days since a coworker started living with me.
I am compulsive to a crazy degree. For example when I put on new clothes I will worry about staining them and be very careful. But When I have clothes on that are years old I will not care and often eat like a baby so that I make a mess on my clothes every time I eat.
When I buy me new clothes I will be very happy to have new clothes but the strange thing is I will not want to wear them then, because I do not want them to become used and get old and wornÂ… Its a good feeling to know that I have NEW clothes in the wardrobe and I want them to stay NEW. If I start wearing them and they get washed they wont be new anymore thats why.
I often wear shoes until they are completely worn out for the same reason because I simply dont want to use my NEW shoes because if I do start wearing them I dont have any other NEW shoes anymore
I am compulsive about my appearance and facial features to a crazy degree and had bad Body Dysmorphia before but its not really that bad anymore, altough still I wished my facial features were perfect shape, although I am told daily how good looking and handsome I am so it is ok, but still I could have been better looking if I had my nose perfect size I think
I cannot leave my car parked anywhere out of my sight because I worry people will scratch it, hit it when they park by not being careful. I will look for scratches every time I go back to my car but at the same time will be worried what people think of me if they see me do looking over my car for scratches.. It might cause people to have a bad opinion of me.
when I drive my car I will often become worried that something might sound strange on the engine and worry that something will break which often causes laughter from the other passengers when I ask them if my car sounds the same as always or if there is something sounding abnormal so I would worry that something might be wrong and might break.
when I have passengers in my car I am very picky about them being clean and not scratching anything in my car which often causes arguments with my family members, if I drive them
when I have a car that easily attracts stone chips and scratches I will get very angry, frustrated and feel like I have no control anymore. That I cannot keep my car from getting stone chips and be in perfect condition so that I will just want to sell it in the moment to be free from it immediately. And this is how I often am. I often buy myself things but then I just want to be free from them when I see problems with the things I bought me. Or for example if I got me a new phone I will always want to sell it when a new version of it comes out because I dont want a phone thats not the NEWEST version.
when my car has a scratch to me it feels like my car is rubbish then. It just lost its worth. Thats why I am pretty compulive and worried about the paint. And again also the mileage of my car is going up every time I drive it which makes my car loose worth and value so that it is beyond my control and then I just want to sell it and be free of owning a stupid car. I just cannot preserve anything it seems. Often I also get negative easily, for example I might think that my cars mileage is just to high already and my car isnt any good, what I have isnt any good and noone will look at me.
SOcially I have problems that I get very anxious. 1 on 1 I can talk but when 2 or 3 people talk and look at me so in a group.. then I just cannot do it. I get to anxious or will be very timid and feel already the anxiety attack and embarrassment sensations coming up.
Other issues is that I care a lot what others think about me. For example some coworker came to live to my house,a female and she is nothing special and kind of 'low' I would say. To me it does not make a difference though, I talk to anyone who is friendly but it does bother me when other people see me talk to someone who is nothing special or' low' which might sound kind of bad of me, but I cannot help it.. I made a big fuss at home about this coworker coming to live at our house and said to my family members that I dont want her to come because of what my neighbours would think of me.. but now that she is here living at home and my neighbours seeing me with her it is not as bad as I thought.
Also my sexual drive is kind of high so a few times I did think of maybe wanting something sexual with her since I know she likes me and would want to but then my conscience comes in that she is 'low' and that I should not have any contact except friendship with her because it would be shameful and humiliating if someone found out with what low girl I had sexual contact with.
But to my surprise again today when I talked to someone else at work about this he said when he was young he would do it with any girl he met and be like a wolf and not even care how a girl looks like, or whether she is low or not (do no thinking) so it changed my view a bit that maybe I am taking things to seriously. I think I am quite suggestable.
anyway I am bothered a lot by my limitations and want this to change all, socially with my anxiety and with my compulsions, perfectionisms, stuck in details. My high desires and wants, and at the moment it seems I have no drive anymore. I just work and go home and dont think about going to university because I dont think I am mentally capable,.. because I get overwhelmed quickly by things, especially if I get a lot of workload. Its what makes me fear enrolling to uni and so I rather stay away or be free from it until the day I will feel mentally capable to cope. But also my social anxiety is to bad to be with groups of people in a class room, not possible. I will stay away from this
I cannot even have sex, because my conscience comes in and I feel sex is a bad act. Guilty that I have done something wrong
[message edited by helpme1 on Sun, 24 Feb 2013 03:14:33 GMT]
I have a fear of heights. A fear of heights to me seems like an issues of instability?.. everything on shaky grounds and that it might fall over is how I feel when I am somewhere up high, or that an earthquake might happen and the tower I am on might fall down etc. And it kind of would explain my lack of confidence as well, when I am unconfident and anxious its just very bad. I cannot do anything then.
I never mentioned that I am very compulsive before because it not been really in my awareness. It just been made aware to me by how often I have been laughed at in the past couple of days since a coworker started living with me.
I am compulsive to a crazy degree. For example when I put on new clothes I will worry about staining them and be very careful. But When I have clothes on that are years old I will not care and often eat like a baby so that I make a mess on my clothes every time I eat.
When I buy me new clothes I will be very happy to have new clothes but the strange thing is I will not want to wear them then, because I do not want them to become used and get old and wornÂ… Its a good feeling to know that I have NEW clothes in the wardrobe and I want them to stay NEW. If I start wearing them and they get washed they wont be new anymore thats why.
I often wear shoes until they are completely worn out for the same reason because I simply dont want to use my NEW shoes because if I do start wearing them I dont have any other NEW shoes anymore
I am compulsive about my appearance and facial features to a crazy degree and had bad Body Dysmorphia before but its not really that bad anymore, altough still I wished my facial features were perfect shape, although I am told daily how good looking and handsome I am so it is ok, but still I could have been better looking if I had my nose perfect size I think
I cannot leave my car parked anywhere out of my sight because I worry people will scratch it, hit it when they park by not being careful. I will look for scratches every time I go back to my car but at the same time will be worried what people think of me if they see me do looking over my car for scratches.. It might cause people to have a bad opinion of me.
when I drive my car I will often become worried that something might sound strange on the engine and worry that something will break which often causes laughter from the other passengers when I ask them if my car sounds the same as always or if there is something sounding abnormal so I would worry that something might be wrong and might break.
when I have passengers in my car I am very picky about them being clean and not scratching anything in my car which often causes arguments with my family members, if I drive them
when I have a car that easily attracts stone chips and scratches I will get very angry, frustrated and feel like I have no control anymore. That I cannot keep my car from getting stone chips and be in perfect condition so that I will just want to sell it in the moment to be free from it immediately. And this is how I often am. I often buy myself things but then I just want to be free from them when I see problems with the things I bought me. Or for example if I got me a new phone I will always want to sell it when a new version of it comes out because I dont want a phone thats not the NEWEST version.
when my car has a scratch to me it feels like my car is rubbish then. It just lost its worth. Thats why I am pretty compulive and worried about the paint. And again also the mileage of my car is going up every time I drive it which makes my car loose worth and value so that it is beyond my control and then I just want to sell it and be free of owning a stupid car. I just cannot preserve anything it seems. Often I also get negative easily, for example I might think that my cars mileage is just to high already and my car isnt any good, what I have isnt any good and noone will look at me.
SOcially I have problems that I get very anxious. 1 on 1 I can talk but when 2 or 3 people talk and look at me so in a group.. then I just cannot do it. I get to anxious or will be very timid and feel already the anxiety attack and embarrassment sensations coming up.
Other issues is that I care a lot what others think about me. For example some coworker came to live to my house,a female and she is nothing special and kind of 'low' I would say. To me it does not make a difference though, I talk to anyone who is friendly but it does bother me when other people see me talk to someone who is nothing special or' low' which might sound kind of bad of me, but I cannot help it.. I made a big fuss at home about this coworker coming to live at our house and said to my family members that I dont want her to come because of what my neighbours would think of me.. but now that she is here living at home and my neighbours seeing me with her it is not as bad as I thought.
Also my sexual drive is kind of high so a few times I did think of maybe wanting something sexual with her since I know she likes me and would want to but then my conscience comes in that she is 'low' and that I should not have any contact except friendship with her because it would be shameful and humiliating if someone found out with what low girl I had sexual contact with.
But to my surprise again today when I talked to someone else at work about this he said when he was young he would do it with any girl he met and be like a wolf and not even care how a girl looks like, or whether she is low or not (do no thinking) so it changed my view a bit that maybe I am taking things to seriously. I think I am quite suggestable.
anyway I am bothered a lot by my limitations and want this to change all, socially with my anxiety and with my compulsions, perfectionisms, stuck in details. My high desires and wants, and at the moment it seems I have no drive anymore. I just work and go home and dont think about going to university because I dont think I am mentally capable,.. because I get overwhelmed quickly by things, especially if I get a lot of workload. Its what makes me fear enrolling to uni and so I rather stay away or be free from it until the day I will feel mentally capable to cope. But also my social anxiety is to bad to be with groups of people in a class room, not possible. I will stay away from this
I cannot even have sex, because my conscience comes in and I feel sex is a bad act. Guilty that I have done something wrong
[message edited by helpme1 on Sun, 24 Feb 2013 03:14:33 GMT]
helpme1 last decade
Please take three doses of Hyoscyamus 200 as follows and see how that affects in next 15 days (only 3 doses in 15 days).
day 1 morning
1st dose
day 1 evening
2nd dose
day 2 morning
3rd dose
One dose means
If the medicine is in pills form 2 pills. Don't touch pills with hand. Use cap of bottle to take pills.
If the medicine is in liquid dilution form, 2 drops in some 20 ml water. Sip up slowly.
Please follow homeo restrictions like no coffee, no raw onion/garlic, no strong perfumes, don't eat or drink anything within 30 minutes before or after taking medicine.
day 1 morning
1st dose
day 1 evening
2nd dose
day 2 morning
3rd dose
One dose means
If the medicine is in pills form 2 pills. Don't touch pills with hand. Use cap of bottle to take pills.
If the medicine is in liquid dilution form, 2 drops in some 20 ml water. Sip up slowly.
Please follow homeo restrictions like no coffee, no raw onion/garlic, no strong perfumes, don't eat or drink anything within 30 minutes before or after taking medicine.
♡ kadwa last decade
hyosycamus? Sounds scary, my first reaction to this was feeling persecuted seeing this is suggested to me and feeling a bit shaky because of what this suggests about my mental state, that I am worse then what I think. So is this safe to take hyosycamus? because I know I will expect something bad to happen when I swallow this remedy, so I will be anxious if I take this remedy
just curious what made you think I need hyosycamus if you could tell
thanks, I think it could be very well worth a try
[message edited by helpme1 on Sun, 24 Feb 2013 21:48:04 GMT]
just curious what made you think I need hyosycamus if you could tell
thanks, I think it could be very well worth a try
[message edited by helpme1 on Sun, 24 Feb 2013 21:48:04 GMT]
helpme1 last decade
Help me,
Do not identify with the remedy. You are not the remedy, it
is simply matching enough rubrics. They give stramonium all the time
to little kids with night terrors, I am sure they could take it
'personally' if they were older and read about the remedy.
Do not identify with the remedy. You are not the remedy, it
is simply matching enough rubrics. They give stramonium all the time
to little kids with night terrors, I am sure they could take it
'personally' if they were older and read about the remedy.
♡ simone717 last decade
ok, good advice. I ordered hyosycamus 200c and will get it tomorrow. I am more accepting now and just hope the remedy will help me with my 'persecution' problem and the nasty feeling this always leaves me with.
helpme1 last decade
I have taken hyoscyamus 200c a week ago. But It didnt do much and right now feel like the remedy has stopped working because I can feel my old issues again. Maybe there was 5% amelioration on the 2nd day and I was more talk active, not so depressed which made me feel positive about the remedy maybe being right, but I dont think it is. I believe my issues are a bit different.
I have to say though that on the 2 day when someone told me that I am 'boring' as a person I didnt feel persecuted by this negative comment done to me for the first time I think and just felt like the comment about me being 'boring' wasnt meant personally. But now I take everything very personal again. For example someone told me today that I dont look as good when I am shaven and I could not forget this comment for the whole day and it bothered me a lot. Made me doubt that I am not good looking anymore at all, that I have lost my good appearance and nobody wants me anymore. I will be all alone and never feel good again about myself. I was feeling very bad and down on myself about how bad looking I am when I was looking in the mirror after this comment was made to me, and that just nothing about me looks perfect or right. I was beating on myself. I was very angry at the person who said this comment to me and tried to punish that person by withdrawing from her, not talking to her anymore. Like how could she do this to me. And later I have been a bit bad to her back and made it clear that negative comments about my appearance I take seriously and that is no joke, it can ruin my day hearing a bad comment.
I kind of feel like I restored my self worth by letting the person know about what she did to me, but I am still depressed because I am not good looking enough obviously because I have gotten a negative comment about my appearance, which is so confusing. Some people tell me daily that I am good looking and some others sligh my appearance.. And I get so negative and feel down whenever I hear such negative remark. So depressing. I want to be good looking and just right in every way to everyone.
I have to say though that on the 2 day when someone told me that I am 'boring' as a person I didnt feel persecuted by this negative comment done to me for the first time I think and just felt like the comment about me being 'boring' wasnt meant personally. But now I take everything very personal again. For example someone told me today that I dont look as good when I am shaven and I could not forget this comment for the whole day and it bothered me a lot. Made me doubt that I am not good looking anymore at all, that I have lost my good appearance and nobody wants me anymore. I will be all alone and never feel good again about myself. I was feeling very bad and down on myself about how bad looking I am when I was looking in the mirror after this comment was made to me, and that just nothing about me looks perfect or right. I was beating on myself. I was very angry at the person who said this comment to me and tried to punish that person by withdrawing from her, not talking to her anymore. Like how could she do this to me. And later I have been a bit bad to her back and made it clear that negative comments about my appearance I take seriously and that is no joke, it can ruin my day hearing a bad comment.
I kind of feel like I restored my self worth by letting the person know about what she did to me, but I am still depressed because I am not good looking enough obviously because I have gotten a negative comment about my appearance, which is so confusing. Some people tell me daily that I am good looking and some others sligh my appearance.. And I get so negative and feel down whenever I hear such negative remark. So depressing. I want to be good looking and just right in every way to everyone.
helpme1 last decade
I am also disrespectful to people who I consider not having self worth or people who are low. But I am just disrespectful internally or when I talk with other people about them. To them face to face I am still always nice because I feel I have to be. Or sometimes I feel like I could be abusive but whenever I notice in myself that what i am about to say to them might be bad or abusive I dont do it. Because it is wrong. Have to be nice, but still it is hard, because I am feeling depressed and worhtless when I am around worthless people. Or people who arent 'more'. I have issues with appearing 'less' of a person to others so obviously it is important for me to be around people who are good looking or who display self worth. And so being around people who arent good looking or are just nothing is very bad for me.
Sorry this sounds bad, and I dont like this about myself at all either, and hope I can change as a person
thanks
Sorry this sounds bad, and I dont like this about myself at all either, and hope I can change as a person
thanks
helpme1 last decade
Please take a single dose of Belladonna 200 and see how that affects in 7 days.
♡ kadwa last decade
ok I will take this
One more thing..Today from hysocyamus I noticed I was more ok with being abusive. like to people who are below me I have tendency to want to be abusive but usually I dont permit myself because I dont want to be thought of as a bad person. So today I was a bit abusive I think...
And to people who I consider above me I am nice and friendly always
People say to me always that I am very good, a gentleman etc but I disagree and tell them I dont think I am a good person. That maybe I am just appearing good on the outside and not really good.
Today I talked with some coworker for half an hour and after the conversation was over he said to me 'thanks for the good conversation' which made me feel very good. That my conversations are getting better and better and I am becoming more interesting as a person. But it is easy for me to talk with people who dont have much self worth or who do not count to me. I would be happy if I could be myself and talk without anxiety and stress around people who have self worth, like good looking woman etc. This is were I need to improve.
[message edited by helpme1 on Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:33:45 GMT]
One more thing..Today from hysocyamus I noticed I was more ok with being abusive. like to people who are below me I have tendency to want to be abusive but usually I dont permit myself because I dont want to be thought of as a bad person. So today I was a bit abusive I think...
And to people who I consider above me I am nice and friendly always
People say to me always that I am very good, a gentleman etc but I disagree and tell them I dont think I am a good person. That maybe I am just appearing good on the outside and not really good.
Today I talked with some coworker for half an hour and after the conversation was over he said to me 'thanks for the good conversation' which made me feel very good. That my conversations are getting better and better and I am becoming more interesting as a person. But it is easy for me to talk with people who dont have much self worth or who do not count to me. I would be happy if I could be myself and talk without anxiety and stress around people who have self worth, like good looking woman etc. This is were I need to improve.
[message edited by helpme1 on Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:33:45 GMT]
helpme1 last decade
hi
Cannot really say that anything changed for the better
some new things:
am still worrying a lot about things which give me self worth like my good appearance and my nice car. So I am very obsessive about not loosing those things, meaning obsessing about wrinkles, hair loss on my appearance, whether my nose is too big also (not perfect size) and about my car I annoy always everyone because I worry so much about it getting scratched or damaged.
I also had some adult fun with a female coworker who started living with me. And there is an issue with ejaculation... I cannot ejaculate.. I get very easily excited and erections and want to have (adult fun) all the time but I cannot ejaculate. I dont know why. I just cannot let myself go like that, I think I am just to controlled or emotionally something wrong. I also dont feel comfortable with kissing because I just dont feel comfortable with such thing. Maybe I am to emotionally closed or something. Or dont have feelings for others.
- A few days ago when my mother made me angry about something it was a bit unusual how I changed from talking nicely to cursing excessivly, I just feel such anger, but then later immediately think about how I am appearing and that i might be appearing like the 'bad guy' to them now and need to control myself and stop
- I have this childish issue of that I think I am a demanding person but only to some people, to the ones I dont feel anxious and self conscious around I am demanding.. and this is because I dont think those people I am demanding towards have any value. So they often make me angry and what is strange and childlike about is that I might feel like really wanting to hurt them for how they did something that angers me to me, but when I look at them again the anger just dissapears and I smile and laugh at them. Its like I cannot be angry at them, and why would I even be, I need other people. Its something childlike. I think my emotions are superficial and I am attention seeking also most of the time, but not in an excessive way. I get to feel embarrassed and fear humilation way to much. And I rather tend to avoid situations where I feel not confident or when people who in my eyes have self worth are present. I just need to avoid because I get to anxious
Ah I really would wish to know what my remedy is.
thanks
Cannot really say that anything changed for the better
some new things:
am still worrying a lot about things which give me self worth like my good appearance and my nice car. So I am very obsessive about not loosing those things, meaning obsessing about wrinkles, hair loss on my appearance, whether my nose is too big also (not perfect size) and about my car I annoy always everyone because I worry so much about it getting scratched or damaged.
I also had some adult fun with a female coworker who started living with me. And there is an issue with ejaculation... I cannot ejaculate.. I get very easily excited and erections and want to have (adult fun) all the time but I cannot ejaculate. I dont know why. I just cannot let myself go like that, I think I am just to controlled or emotionally something wrong. I also dont feel comfortable with kissing because I just dont feel comfortable with such thing. Maybe I am to emotionally closed or something. Or dont have feelings for others.
- A few days ago when my mother made me angry about something it was a bit unusual how I changed from talking nicely to cursing excessivly, I just feel such anger, but then later immediately think about how I am appearing and that i might be appearing like the 'bad guy' to them now and need to control myself and stop
- I have this childish issue of that I think I am a demanding person but only to some people, to the ones I dont feel anxious and self conscious around I am demanding.. and this is because I dont think those people I am demanding towards have any value. So they often make me angry and what is strange and childlike about is that I might feel like really wanting to hurt them for how they did something that angers me to me, but when I look at them again the anger just dissapears and I smile and laugh at them. Its like I cannot be angry at them, and why would I even be, I need other people. Its something childlike. I think my emotions are superficial and I am attention seeking also most of the time, but not in an excessive way. I get to feel embarrassed and fear humilation way to much. And I rather tend to avoid situations where I feel not confident or when people who in my eyes have self worth are present. I just need to avoid because I get to anxious
Ah I really would wish to know what my remedy is.
thanks
helpme1 last decade
hi
thanks for the great reply. Yes I agree with everything you said on a mental level, but just not sure how to change this on an emotional level apart from hoping homeopathy or something can help.
I also have taken so many remedies already and no relieve with this problem. So that I am becoming frustrated a bit.
What remedies can have such problem as I have, do you know?? I have no idea anymore
The thing is I crave to be with people who have 'self worth' so when I am with someone who might not be good looking enough or not have self worth in my eyes I just feel so terrible and dont know what to do about it. Its like I am missing out, I am being made to look bad being with such people and also I wont be young forever so time is not on my side.
When I am with people I dont value I can become a bit to demanding of them as I mentioned because in my view they are not giving me what I want so I have no respect for them and everything just starts bothering me. But I am never forceful or violent or anything when I want something from someone. I am just persistent with my demanding and asking for things.
I also feel at such mercy of everyone. EVERYONE. Even the people who I consider not having value. They still can completely do with me whatever they want.. Someone who lives with me, someone I dont really think has any value said today that I look like a 'chicken'. And I have a body dysmorphia where I worry about my appearance, about it not being perfect. So immediately my worst fear came up that I really look like a chicken because my chin really isnt that developed. But it is so confusing, often I am being given compliments on my appearance daily by many people and then some people say bad things like this person about my appearance. ANd me being child like as I am I completely believe whatever someone says to me. If someone tells me I look like a chicken then I believe it to be true, why else would they say this to me?? And I feel like my life is completely ruined when I hear such thing. It feels so bad, I am not what I thought I am then.. I mean not as good looking as other people made me suggest I am. It just feels terrible. Even when the person who said this to me then apologises, after they see how seriously I took it, I still cannot get over it, because I just think now they trying to be polite but it still doesnt change anything for me.. I was told I look like a chicken, so a slighting of my appearance and its just something I cannot live with.
At work I have such trouble communicating.. Every time I say something to some coworker I am completely BLANK about what response I will get back from the coworker to what I said, whether it will be a positive response or a negative one.
Ah I am just feeling so frustrated. How everyone can do whatever they want with me because I am just so dependent on everything on other people.. I am completely at the mercy of them.
I wish to get help with this all. I will never be confident in myself or my appearance.
And I have huge issues with critizism. embarrassment, humiliation, shame.
Then I depend on material things like a good car, good appearance etc for my self worth and once I have aquired those things I need for self worth, well then I completely over stress and over worry about loosing those things, and then what is even worse is.. when I stress over those things I fear other people can see or notice it which I must hide because this would make me look very bad in the eyes of other people! I would appear worthless to them then!
Ah can someone save me from this please LOL
thanks.
thanks for the great reply. Yes I agree with everything you said on a mental level, but just not sure how to change this on an emotional level apart from hoping homeopathy or something can help.
I also have taken so many remedies already and no relieve with this problem. So that I am becoming frustrated a bit.
What remedies can have such problem as I have, do you know?? I have no idea anymore
The thing is I crave to be with people who have 'self worth' so when I am with someone who might not be good looking enough or not have self worth in my eyes I just feel so terrible and dont know what to do about it. Its like I am missing out, I am being made to look bad being with such people and also I wont be young forever so time is not on my side.
When I am with people I dont value I can become a bit to demanding of them as I mentioned because in my view they are not giving me what I want so I have no respect for them and everything just starts bothering me. But I am never forceful or violent or anything when I want something from someone. I am just persistent with my demanding and asking for things.
I also feel at such mercy of everyone. EVERYONE. Even the people who I consider not having value. They still can completely do with me whatever they want.. Someone who lives with me, someone I dont really think has any value said today that I look like a 'chicken'. And I have a body dysmorphia where I worry about my appearance, about it not being perfect. So immediately my worst fear came up that I really look like a chicken because my chin really isnt that developed. But it is so confusing, often I am being given compliments on my appearance daily by many people and then some people say bad things like this person about my appearance. ANd me being child like as I am I completely believe whatever someone says to me. If someone tells me I look like a chicken then I believe it to be true, why else would they say this to me?? And I feel like my life is completely ruined when I hear such thing. It feels so bad, I am not what I thought I am then.. I mean not as good looking as other people made me suggest I am. It just feels terrible. Even when the person who said this to me then apologises, after they see how seriously I took it, I still cannot get over it, because I just think now they trying to be polite but it still doesnt change anything for me.. I was told I look like a chicken, so a slighting of my appearance and its just something I cannot live with.
At work I have such trouble communicating.. Every time I say something to some coworker I am completely BLANK about what response I will get back from the coworker to what I said, whether it will be a positive response or a negative one.
Ah I am just feeling so frustrated. How everyone can do whatever they want with me because I am just so dependent on everything on other people.. I am completely at the mercy of them.
I wish to get help with this all. I will never be confident in myself or my appearance.
And I have huge issues with critizism. embarrassment, humiliation, shame.
Then I depend on material things like a good car, good appearance etc for my self worth and once I have aquired those things I need for self worth, well then I completely over stress and over worry about loosing those things, and then what is even worse is.. when I stress over those things I fear other people can see or notice it which I must hide because this would make me look very bad in the eyes of other people! I would appear worthless to them then!
Ah can someone save me from this please LOL
thanks.
helpme1 last decade
I am so immature. I tried baryta carb, lycopodium, pulsatilla, lac caninum, nat mur, staphysgaria, lachesis ah just so many remedies but really no significant change
I want to be free of shame
It looks so bad when I look humiliated and others can see it.
thanks
I want to be free of shame
It looks so bad when I look humiliated and others can see it.
thanks
helpme1 last decade
Lets see what Kadwa says.
Ailments from mortification----?
and the Body dysmorphic disorder comes from childhood trauma,
made to feel unworthy by adults and the experience of low
self esteem. It is also called 'imagined ugliness' - the
person could get tons of plastic surgery etc and still think
they are flawed. This is where therapy helps you to retrain
your thinking process. Have you had therapy?? bc it is
needed.Also you are very aware of what you are doing,
whereas most Bdd people are not.
Also the bdd is associated with the eating disorder of
anorexia-Those people are extreme in seeing fat where
they look like a skeleton. In hpathy they show remedies for
the anorexic as : ignatia, PrunisS, Calcaria Ars, Nat Mur,
Ars Alb, Homorus, Ferrum Phos, thuja, Acid phos, Platina,
Aurum Ars, lyco, lecithin.
Ailments from mortification----?
and the Body dysmorphic disorder comes from childhood trauma,
made to feel unworthy by adults and the experience of low
self esteem. It is also called 'imagined ugliness' - the
person could get tons of plastic surgery etc and still think
they are flawed. This is where therapy helps you to retrain
your thinking process. Have you had therapy?? bc it is
needed.Also you are very aware of what you are doing,
whereas most Bdd people are not.
Also the bdd is associated with the eating disorder of
anorexia-Those people are extreme in seeing fat where
they look like a skeleton. In hpathy they show remedies for
the anorexic as : ignatia, PrunisS, Calcaria Ars, Nat Mur,
Ars Alb, Homorus, Ferrum Phos, thuja, Acid phos, Platina,
Aurum Ars, lyco, lecithin.
♡ simone717 last decade
Yes my body dysmorphia problem is my worst issue.
and the lack of confidence, shyness and humiliation issue is the other one.
from the remedies listed I tried ignatia, nat mur, thuja, platina, lycopodium, platina & aurum
ignatia, nat mur, thuja, platina & lycopodium I tried more then once so I am pretty sure those remedies arent correct. For aurum I cannot really say because I was impatient and didnt wait long enough to be able to see any results.
platina was best for my body dysmorphia problem I would say but it would relapse after a few weeks always. Although I was self destructive before I ever took platina - (picking on my face and nose a lot), but ever since I took platina no more self destructivness at least. So Thats good.
I dont know what else I can say. I work 7 days a week, I dont know why, maybe because on days when I have my day off I get way to depressed and just hate having a day off, because I cannot make myself do anything. I just accomplish nothing on those days and feel very bad.
- 4 years ago something bad happened which is that I didnt get over my social anxiety with some self help tool as I thought I would and this depressed me greatly so that I lost all motivation... like example now when my parents tell me to go for my full drivers license I dont go, because it seems pointless to me. Like what will it change if I get a full drivers license? it wont make me happy or change anything. Its pointless. I dont have a driving force in myself anymore. And my body dysmorphia started at this time period too, after one evening my mother said I am loosing my hair at the front.. it made me really anxious and I was looking in the mirror for whole night trying to figure out whether I am really loosing my hair or not.
Before I had the body dysmorphia I had hypochondria also, thinking I have c_ancer, skin diseases etc, but after I was told by my mother that I am loosing hair and will be bald soon.. I never had the hypochondria again, only body dysmorphia from then on. It seems like it changed from hypochondria into body dysmorphia.
From the hypochondria I can just remember how I once was 100% sure that I have gotten the same skin disease as my brother has and I felt completely gutted, broken in spirit and just terrible in the stomach the next day.. Kind of similar as to how I feel now with my body dysmorphia when I start thinking that my nose might look too big. Not normal size. It feels like a very serious life stopping problem. Where life cannot continue until this problem is fixed
I also used to be very orderly and have everything organised. But from the moment on when I got the body dysmorphia and from not getting over my social anxiety with the self help tool that I thought would make me get over it.. from then on I just cannot be orderly and feel like wanting to clean my room or order things anymore. Theres just no motivation, like why would I want to do it now when things arent right. Things are pointless now, or to late.. Ordering my stuff wont change or make things right
[message edited by helpme1 on Thu, 21 Mar 2013 09:51:07 GMT]
and the lack of confidence, shyness and humiliation issue is the other one.
from the remedies listed I tried ignatia, nat mur, thuja, platina, lycopodium, platina & aurum
ignatia, nat mur, thuja, platina & lycopodium I tried more then once so I am pretty sure those remedies arent correct. For aurum I cannot really say because I was impatient and didnt wait long enough to be able to see any results.
platina was best for my body dysmorphia problem I would say but it would relapse after a few weeks always. Although I was self destructive before I ever took platina - (picking on my face and nose a lot), but ever since I took platina no more self destructivness at least. So Thats good.
I dont know what else I can say. I work 7 days a week, I dont know why, maybe because on days when I have my day off I get way to depressed and just hate having a day off, because I cannot make myself do anything. I just accomplish nothing on those days and feel very bad.
- 4 years ago something bad happened which is that I didnt get over my social anxiety with some self help tool as I thought I would and this depressed me greatly so that I lost all motivation... like example now when my parents tell me to go for my full drivers license I dont go, because it seems pointless to me. Like what will it change if I get a full drivers license? it wont make me happy or change anything. Its pointless. I dont have a driving force in myself anymore. And my body dysmorphia started at this time period too, after one evening my mother said I am loosing my hair at the front.. it made me really anxious and I was looking in the mirror for whole night trying to figure out whether I am really loosing my hair or not.
Before I had the body dysmorphia I had hypochondria also, thinking I have c_ancer, skin diseases etc, but after I was told by my mother that I am loosing hair and will be bald soon.. I never had the hypochondria again, only body dysmorphia from then on. It seems like it changed from hypochondria into body dysmorphia.
From the hypochondria I can just remember how I once was 100% sure that I have gotten the same skin disease as my brother has and I felt completely gutted, broken in spirit and just terrible in the stomach the next day.. Kind of similar as to how I feel now with my body dysmorphia when I start thinking that my nose might look too big. Not normal size. It feels like a very serious life stopping problem. Where life cannot continue until this problem is fixed
I also used to be very orderly and have everything organised. But from the moment on when I got the body dysmorphia and from not getting over my social anxiety with the self help tool that I thought would make me get over it.. from then on I just cannot be orderly and feel like wanting to clean my room or order things anymore. Theres just no motivation, like why would I want to do it now when things arent right. Things are pointless now, or to late.. Ordering my stuff wont change or make things right
[message edited by helpme1 on Thu, 21 Mar 2013 09:51:07 GMT]
helpme1 last decade
no I didnt have any therapy. I am the type of person who has difficulty admitting that he has a problem, well I can do that, but I cannot ask someone else to help me, like a therapist.. that just is way to low for me. humiliating and I would feel way to vulnerable and anxious
helpme1 last decade
Why is it I think I have heard all of this before on this
forum????
The therapist becomes a therapist in order to help people
that have your problems and there are therapists who
specialize in exactly your issues. You find someone you
feel you like when you read about them or do an interview
on the phone. You need someone kind, and to slowly
develop trust with that person. They are not there to
make you feel 'Low'. You need re-parenting. Only
you can take the step here- good luck.
forum????
The therapist becomes a therapist in order to help people
that have your problems and there are therapists who
specialize in exactly your issues. You find someone you
feel you like when you read about them or do an interview
on the phone. You need someone kind, and to slowly
develop trust with that person. They are not there to
make you feel 'Low'. You need re-parenting. Only
you can take the step here- good luck.
♡ simone717 last decade
a remedy suggestion please based on the things I mentioned above. And maybe I wouldnt feel low, just anxious and vulnerable.
At the moment I cannot get over the fact that someone said something bad about my appearance. And why is that so? Why is it me that has those faults on my face. Why do I have them? I shouldnt and it is hard living with this.
At the moment I cannot get over the fact that someone said something bad about my appearance. And why is that so? Why is it me that has those faults on my face. Why do I have them? I shouldnt and it is hard living with this.
helpme1 last decade
♡ kadwa last decade
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