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Dr Kadwa - pls help for 17 yr old immature and angry kid

There is another thread ongoing for long time. Unfortunately, the situation has become worse. The extreme immaturity continues but it has been combined with an explosive temper when he doesn't get what he wants. What he wants is always things that basically self-destructing. So, either we let him self-destruct or we bear the brunt of his anger.

We have shown him to psychologists, nobody could help. He simply fools everyone as he is too smart. Countless teachers, relatives, friends, etc have tried guiding him to do the right thing but he doesn't listen. In fact, it back fires every time someone talks to him, he comes back and becomes worse and very angry.

Western medicine is not the cure here. Some people might blame on us the parents, and some might ask to take to psychiatrist. To the first, I'll say please don't judge us, you didn't have to deal with this unique kid from his birth till now for 17 years. Taking to a psychiatrist is also not the solution as that won't work. I know him well to say that.

I'm still hopeful someone can find a homeopathic cure for him. There's got to be something. He cannot continue to live like this. This is no life. In 6 months, if can finish high school in time, he will likely go to college then and I'm afraid on his own, he might get worse.

Please advise.

Thanks in advance.
 
  peaks on 2018-12-30
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Please give him Calcarea Arsenicosa 200 in evening for 15 days and see how that affects.
 
kadwa 5 years ago
Dr Kadwa, I'm sorry, I just saw this reply from you. I was monitoring the other thread I'd and when I didn't see any reply there, I almost gave up on this forum.

I've ordered Calarea Arsenicosa 200 online, since it's not available from the store here. It is expected to arrive in about 10 days. Thanks for your help.
 
peaks 5 years ago
The medicine arrived and gave the first dose yesterday night.
 
peaks 5 years ago
Dr Kadwa, continuing, today 5th dose was given.
 
peaks 5 years ago
Dr Kadwa, have been giving the medicine for over a week now. No change observed so far.
 
peaks 5 years ago
Peaks I wish to look into the childs case. Running some errands these 1 or 2 days days but will get back to you soon. Don't get discouraged. Every problem comes with a solution.
 
Soul_Spirit 5 years ago
In the meantime answer the following as asked:

1)Was he always like this.
2)Important event or events in his life when you think might have caused some changes behaviorally.
Any accidents,illness,incidents etc.
3)Does he have any fear/phobias like closed spaces,water,fire/suffocation etc
Any other recurring emotions. During and 'After' anger whats his state. Does he regret,show affection etc.
4)As I read in previous posts he have destructive mentality. When did it start if you recall and how.
5)Regarding walking nude. In front of whom did he do these things. Any other things connected with this like exposing some parts etc.
6)Was he late in everything.
7)Present/Previous social behaviour
8)Describe him as if it is being described by himself.(It would have been great...If he can write himself on a paper and you can type that here...whatever he writes) Also his physique. His ambitions. Is he doing the things what he wanted with his life or things are forced on him. Does he think he is exploited/taken advantage of etc. What are the phrases he uses during emotional outbrusts or any other important incidents...
9)Any other thing you want to add.
10)His appetite.
11)Thirst.
12)Hot/Chilly.
Lastly Why were the tonsils removed.
And
Which things causes him get into emotional oubrusts and what makes him feel at peace.You may include in any of the above.

As seen from previous post you last time gave him Hyoscyamus. How much time did you give him and its effect.



In the meantime stop other homoeopathic medicines.
[Edited by Soul_Spirit on 2019-03-10 19:03:19]
 
Soul_Spirit 5 years ago
Thanks Dr Kadwa. I maintain the main problem with him is the immaturity with respect to his physical age. Everything else should get better if his mental age can come closer to his physical age.

1) He was always a hyperactive kid, right from birth. In my opinion, he has what is called as "ADHD" here in the west, though when we took him to our insurance ADHD specialist team, he fooled them completely, as does everyone else, just because his IQ is off the charts, but he uses it in mostly the wrong things right now.

2) I can't think of anything where the behavior changed completely, just that when he turned 13, he suddenly stopped listening to us whatever little he used to listen before, but at that time, we thought it was normal behavior stepping into the teens. In the last one to two years, he has become very angry and violent, but then again being a bit angry is normal for teenagers, but not this angry and hitting and throwing things is not normal.

I remember one more thing, he had plagiocephaly (flat head) when he was a baby, at 17 months old, we had a special helmet put on his head which was adjusted every 3 weeks to make his head a bit more round. If I remember correctly, he wore this helmet for a little more than a year. Though I think this did not have any impact on his emotional behavior, but thought I would mention it. Now with all the hair, etc, no one can tell that his head is still a little bit flat on the back side.

3) He has fears of cockroaches, bugs, etc, and anxiety in front of crowds, especially of older people. He especially doesn't like to talk to stangers on the phone. He doesn't like to talk to them in person either. He will delay this as much as he can, if he needs to talk to someone like this in person or over the phone and even to send an email or text message. He asks us to do this, instead of him sending. We push back these days, saying he is almost an adult and we shouldn't be, for example, asking his teacher to send him something. He should be asking himself.

4) I think when he gets anxious or angry, he can get self-destructive. It's started more in the last couple of years, before that he was not this angry though he was always very anxious.

5) Walking nude, I'm not too concerned about this, as I don't think he is doing it intentionally, it's just his immaturity. If he gets mentally and emotionally mature, this should go away. He just does this, when he takes off his clothes when coming home dirty and sweaty, and leaving the clothes in the laundry room and then walking nude to the bathroom. So, I would not pay too much attention to this aspect. He never does this outside. In fact, it's opposite outside the home, to change his t-shirt, he goes to a bathroom as he is shy to show his nude upper body in front of other people.

6) Well, lets see. He was late in sitting, crawling, walking but not late in speaking, observing, reading, writing. Also, due to the ADHD, I think, once he started crawling, he used to crawl very very fast, it was hard to control him. When he started walking at 17 months, he didn't walk, he ran all the time.

He is late in getting aware of the opposite sex (kids 2-3 years younger than him have girlfriends, but though he is showing interest in girls for past few years - looking at their pictures, etc online, he doesn't have any girl who is close to). He hasn't started driving yet, though he could have legally started almost 2 years ago. He doesn't even want to learn to drive yet, doesn't want to become independent. He doesn't want or know how to cook, wash clothes, doesn't want or know how to do any chores around the house. It was very difficult to get him to do anything in the house from the beginning.

7) Outside home, he is shy, unless he is in the company of people his age, who he knows well and feels comfortable with. He doesn't like to go out much these days, as he is completely addicted to electronics, smartphone, internet, social media and wants to spend all his time with them.

8) This one is hard, in Chinese astrology he is a snake, it is very hard to know what goes on in his mind and what he thinks about anything. So, it is best that I do not answer this question as what I think he thinks about himself might not be exactly true. It is useless to ask him this question either, as he will never give a straight answer and even if he does, you will never know how much of what he spoke is true.

His physique - he is a physical strong kid, average height, 5'9", 160lbs, muscular, thick legs, still has some baby fat, he is not fat but has a thick strong body, facial hair is just coming little bit, much less than kids his age.

Ambitions - We have never forced anything like you have to become something like a doctor, engineer, etc. My wife and myself always agreed from beginning to let him develop a well-rounded personality, play sports and not push him too hard in academics. But, yes, my wife has been pushy in getting him to do the things he's supposed to do, like being hygienic, respectful, not being late for appointments, doing homework, etc on time, regular stuff.

When he gets angry, he does say he has no freedom, etc. In a way, he is right, he gets less freedom than other kids his age. Its a vicious cycle, because he is so immature, so late for many of the things that are normal for his age and because of his hyperactivity, etc, his mom has been more pushy than need be to get him to do the things the right way, which led to less freedom for him. So, the cycle continues... I keep telling her to give him more freedom, but whenever he gets more freedom, it's a disaster, like eating only junk food all day for several days, sleeping 2 hours in the night, not taking shower for days, not shampooing his hair for more than a month (when he has excessive dandruff), doing homework at the 11th hour, putting unnecessary stress on everyone, including himself.

10) Appetite is good, but he likes to eat ONLY junk food, if left to himself.

I don't remember exactly why tonsils were removed, I think the doctors recommended it, so we just followed their advice.

11) He absolutely loves music. I think that gives him peace. These days, he has his headphones on with loud music pretty much all his waking hours, unless he is at a place where he can't do this. Anger comes from lack of sleep and being pushed to do the right thing. Always more angry when didn't sleep properly the last day or was physically and/or mentally tired.

One thing i wanted to tell you was that past few weeks, I've been giving him Bach flower remedies and have had some success with them, especially in controlling his outbursts, as they were getting unmanageable. The ones with which I'd most success are Holly and Cherry Plum, mostly for managing his anger. If I forget to give to him one day, or he doesn't take them for any reason, then that day, he gets very angry again.

He's not taking any other homeopathic remedies currently. Once in a while, I give him Kali Phos, but can stop that if you want.
 
peaks 5 years ago
I ain't Dr. Kadwa as you mentioned in previous post. I will surely have a thorough look in a day or two. Have something important out here.
Try looking again at d questions and look if you missed something and do mention things even if doesn't seem important.
 
Soul_Spirit 5 years ago
And yes stop Kali phos for some days.
 
Soul_Spirit 5 years ago
-Please specify his thirst and is he hot/chilly type.
-Any previous illness(Any small or big)).
-When you say 'self-destructive' does this mean he inflict pain on himself too apart from others.
-Do he show any sign of love/affection and under what circumstances.
-Is there any repentance after anger
[Edited by Soul_Spirit on 2019-03-11 18:42:48]
 
Soul_Spirit 5 years ago
Thanks.
[Edited by Oizous on 2019-03-16 20:12:22]
 
Oizous 5 years ago
Hi Peaks

I think you wanted to get advice from Mr. Kadwa. But I came in. Hope Kadwa sees your post and provide you with needed assistance.

Take care.
 
Soul_Spirit 5 years ago

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