What is the best remedy - pl suggest

I am very sorry to hear about your child.
When children have a severe trauma like separation
From the mother, they revert to earlier stages,
Like not eating, not speaking etc.

Remedies will not just “cure” this unless steps
Are taken to restore the relationship with the mother
And having a stable , regular routine.

What is the situation with the mother now?
It sounds like she is not bonded with her child.

What is the living situation now?

Will the mother agree to take a remedy??

She has to understand that a child up to 7
Years old , has no front brain logic. Everything
Is processed “emotionally” thru the part of
The brain called the amygdala. The child has
No ability to understand things, like Mommy is
In a bad mood, mommy is gone but will be back,
Etc .

Children grow thru touch and love and interaction
And attention with their parents. That is why children
In many orphanages up to 5 years 0ld- have a
40 percent death rate- because of lack of
Touch and attention. It is more important than food.

Hi,

First, I want to explain, that giving a remedy
Does not cover over symptoms. Homeopathy
Works because the human body will not tolerate
2 similar things at same time. The body reacts
To a remedy being a close match to symptoms.
The body/mind then thinks that the highly diluted
Remedy is a similar to what it already has.

The right remedy match then forces the life force
To increase. Your own life force pushes out the
Remedy and then it targets the real problem
And starts to release it.

So you can have some days of things seeming
To actually get worse... because things are releasing
And then will stabilize.

On your child, the main remedies for shock
And trauma are Ignatia, and Nat mur. But ,
I would be hesitant to try them right now
Because they could make him more emotional
And needy for a time. Your wife’s mental state
Will probably not tolerate this well and there
Can be furthur damage and abuse.

I strongly suggest : can your wife and child go
To see a homeopath in person? This would be the best way
.

In homeopathy- one has to consider a question,
“Never well since”
Because the remedy for the original cause,
May be different than the present symptoms.

Chamomilla is based on the angry behavior.

What was his behavior like before he went
To maternal grandparents?
Why do you expect a 2 year old to read and
Write? Kids normally can do this around 4 years
Old.

When did the beating start- what age?

What is going on now- you work and your wife
Is with him all day?

Just to note, there was a glitch with the 'append Remedy Finder grid' feature. I've fixed this now. Sorry for the inconvenience.

Hi,

Thanks for your answers. I think he should start
With a dose of Ignatia 30c. One time only. But,
Before you give that, I need to know about his
Relationship with your mother. How does your mother
Feel about the child and does the child like
And feel bonded with her? Is she able and willing
To handle reactions from the remedy?

The Ignatia, can have effects like an
Emotional purge. One can be very sleepy and
Then waves of suppressed fear, anger, etc will
Come up , stay for a few hours and then more
Will release.

Shock and trauma memories are Stored in the brain
Differently than regular memory. They are set up
With stress chemicals that activate whenever
A situation is similar in sight , sound, smell,
To the original shock. The memories get activated
Because the hardwiring of the brain does this
To keep us alive.

Think of a cave man sensing a wild animal.
This wiring is a panic response and literally
Hijacks brain pathways and releases adrenaline
To cope with “danger”.

The good thing about ignatia is- if given soon
After a shock- it prevents the memories from
Being stored with stress wiring- they get stored
As normal. But for those taking it later on,
It releases the memories and emotions, so
It can be uncomfortable and you have to understand
And support the person during the release.

One more thing about your child. What is more
Important than reading, etc is stages of development.
You can google those- First, the shock , abuse
Etc returns kids to earlier stages to cope.

Second, at this age the stage is about separating
From the mother, getting to understand you
Are your own person. If one does not complete
Stages, one is always stuck there mentally-
Thru life.

If the child never bonded with mother? Then
He has no one to de-attach From . He cannot
Complete this stage because he did not
Complete earlier stages.

This will have to be addressed with the mother.
One has to study her case and ask a lot of questions
About her health, hormones and other things.
I would suggest a new thread- for her. Ask for
Tui to see if he has time( he is a New Zealand
Homeopath) Your wife should be answering
The questions herself- you can help with
The English if needed.

But your son has to have a good relationship with
Her to be well.

Hi,

Then you can explain to your Mother, that your son may be
Extra emotional and upset after the remedy for
A few days. Her role is to be non judgmental
And comforting and keep his attention on whatever
Is fun for him. A dose is one pill or one drop in
A half cup of water. Report after two days.

On your wife- a remedy is always individualized.
There is no remedy to make a person like a child.
One has to take her case and answer physical
Questions about health, periods, mental questions,questions about
About food and temperature preferences and so on. Questions
About the pregnancy and birth, etc.

Homeopathic remedies work only if they “match”
What is going on with the patient. And many times
One needs a series of remedies as one layer
Lifts off and another set of symptoms appears.

You need a new thread, and ask for Tui in your headline.

Soumick

For your child, Phosphorus could be tried. Start with 30c and see if there is result. Even if there is no result initially, one could use more remedies. Given his IQ level, all round developmental delay, definitely he requires homeopathic treatment during formative years.

Maheeru,

You cannot do an IQ test on children until
They are around 4 years old. The child did
Not have problems until there was a separation.
Given the things the child already knows how to
Do, letters, numbers etc he is way more advanced
Than my children were at that age.

I have seen many children regress after a trauma,
And certainly it could take a series of remedies
And stabilization of home life to get him back on track.

Simone

"And certainly it could take a series of remedies
And stabilization of home life to get him back on track."

I have not denied the possibility. Whichever way it turns out one or two or more remedies, treatment is essential.

Different countries have different yardsticks for children, some countries mandate children to join schools by the age of three and some others not before age of ten----there is no one size fits all. Labelled or unlabelled under suitable tags like IQ/developmental delays, a person who knows homeopathy can look into the signals of vital force and do the needful.

This child is not even three yet.
Regardless of what schools say, humans
Have a time table of growth physically and
Mentally and I prescribed a starting remedy.
And yes, more will be needed.

I do not understand why you are posting
Unless you are wanting to take over here.
[Edited by simone717 on 2019-11-16 19:17:54]

Simone

'I do not understand why you are posting'

This is a forum free for exchange of ideas. As a member I'm free to offer my opinion. I'm as entitled to my opinion as you are or any one out there.

Apart from that I can always offer a dissenting or a second opinion if I feel like offering one in the interest of taking the discussion forward or in the interest of the patient.

While I can see your point of trauma(or rather separation anxiety?) as a NBWS event, it's not the only approach, so I can come from the other side. We both can be right in our own ways. So please do not think otherwise.

I saw you had expressed your intention to exit and asked soumick to request for Tui (atleast with respect to the mother's case).

My post was addressed to Soumick, and if he answers I will take it from there.
[Edited by maheeru on 2019-11-16 20:55:13]

Actually, I did not express my intention to exit,
As far as the child. However, I did want the mother
To have a different prescriber as I thought that would benefit
The mother more.

My experience here , unlike you ,is as a parent, a school teacher,
A counselor, and I am very familiar with testing, school systems, styles of learning and wrong labeling of developmental delay,
The real issue is often,divorce, abuse, parent education .



Dear Soumick- you can only follow one person at a time.
Please go with Maheeru, as I am withdrawing. Maheeru knows
A lot, even that other countries have different yardsticks.
I wish your family a healthy , happy life.

Simone717

Simone

If Soumick has started on Ignatia as you had adviced, let him continue and please continue with your advice. However if Soumick is willing to consider an alternative suggestion then I can be in.