britney spears - a matter of love!

Dear Britney Spears and Dear Mother Spears,
The odds that you ever read this post are very small, however I use this as an opportunity to explain the reasons behind you imbalance, since I am a fan of your music.


People today mix up love with material values, gathering anger because all the riches in the world cannot make up for their starvation for love. If only I would have enough money I wouldn’t have a worry in the world. Unfortunately, your appetite will only grow with eating. A greedy man will never have enough so, setting free your greed is the only solution.
However, in your case there is more going on then just greed and, we all know the proverb “ There, were is a lot of money, is little love”

Spears has something that is called “A fear of not being loved” causing a need to hide one’s malevolent anger because everyone needs to feel loved – nobody can ever get enough love.

A Human being in his passionate chase to win love, and in the need for acknowledgement and praise, does not see that in reality he is running away from fear. A person doesn’t realize that his fear will always beat him in the race. As his goals remain un-reached, this good “person’ starts to reproach himself, hate his inability and even curse himself when something doesn’t turn out the way he wants. Energy is blown in the wind. A feeling of constant exhaustion drives the respectful person to keep on climbing the steep stairway of his dreams, gritting his teeth in silent anger and despising himself.

Everyone sees her as an ambitious person, dedicated to her work – a meticulous and orderly woman. But even if she says she only keeps slaving for their sake, her partner and family will be robbed of her love and, sooner or later, of herself. In reality, she is doing nothing else than earning love, without realizing that the wall of fear she has built around herself keeps her from receiving as well as giving it.

If your life is a constant struggle against the wind, then stop this nonsense, seek a shelter and spend time talking to yourself and contemplating your life. Then you’ll be surprised to notice that the wind has changed direction.

Life is a vibration of energy – a wavelike motion, sinusoidal in its pattern – where positive alternated with negative. It is natural, necessary and right. If there were no bad, there would be no good either.

When you are having a good period, be happy about it. When things are not going so well, be happy that it’s not worse and know that everything will turn out well eventually. Usually is not possible to tell right away what negativity was good for, but if you think about it hard enough you’ll discover the blessing in disguise.

The person who finds this sort of attitude hard to accept will to suffer in life. The effect is worthy of the cause.

There is a lot of mistrust and even fear or bitterness towards good: “This is too good to last, anyway, nothing good ever happens to me. Lucky you, you always have all the good things in life!”

The laws of life apply to everyone. If someone’s bad times seem harder because of his negativity, then the other person’s good times are even better because of his way of thinking. What seems insignificant to one person may bring great happiness to another.
Materialism, a point of view overestimating the materialistic side of life is a hard and bitter lesson for the whole of humanity. It has brought on a senseless hunt for riches that is still going on.
Mankind and especially Britney is in mental crisis, or, in other words, a crisis of love. Mothers have no time to love their children; they have to work like crazy to accumulate more on the material side. Boys suffer more from the lack of motherly love, because their spirit is more fragile than that of girls. When growing up, the boy subconsciously starts to strive for the love of a woman, the mother. “What kind of a man are you if you can’t so much as buy me a ticket to the movies!?” And the collective feeling of guilt bends to boy to the ground. It has nothing to do with a movie ticket – it is the humiliation that hurts most. As time goes by, the cinema ticket grows into a car, and then a house.

Fear of not being loved.
- Drives people to chase after fame and fortune senselessly and blindly.

The headaches women so frequently suffer from – the radiculitis of the neck, aching shoulders and hands – what are they caused by? And, what about the tears, the despair, the regret? Again, the same thing. The cause is the fear of not being loved. The bigger the fear, the more serious the sickness. And what is the cause of fear? The accumulation of guilt. Even if we do our best to deny our mistakes, our spirit knows the truth and reacts accordingly.

What is the heart of a woman? It is a never-drying up fountain of love. So, draw from it the substance it is so rich in – love. If you love and forgive, your life will return to normal.

Women have to ask men in general and our partner in particular to forgive us for all the blame women have put on men, even if we personally have never uttered an accusing word. We should ask them for forgiveness, even if we have never thought such things ourselves but have quietly agreed with other women, because their husbands are supposedly no good at all.

Women have to forgive themselves, for humiliating men. Women have been demeaning themselves. They have cast destruction on the whole of human kind, as by their actions, the men are stopped from swelling the population. The child of a mother with such views, irrespective of its gender, will carry the same stresses and complexes from birth.

Now, this is not meant to be taken as an accusation against women or pity for men.

Forgive women for their shallow logic and their thoughtlessness. Forgive them for their accusations – they are just cries of pain from the bottom of their heart, out of fear that love is disappearing. Forgive the mothers for not knowing how to bring children into this world with love and for not finding the time to raise them. Forgive them for asking fear to baby-sit for their children. It is a lesson for the whole of humanity and he who understands it and forgives will be released from all this distress. His family will be whole.

If your family has been torn apart or your spouse has died, then you should know that by forgiving the past you are building your future.

The first thing you should do is to talk to your stresses. Forgive your fear, of not being loved, guilt and economic problems just the way they are. Forgive yourself for having taken them inside you and ask your body to forgive you for harming it by doing so. It will then be easier for you to forgive and ask forgiveness of all women, and all women can forgive all men in the same way. Mistakes are made to be learnt from.


Everyone should contemplate what their mother has told them and think about her remembrances. Find out what your parents’ life was like during the time your mother was pregnant and forgive your parents for not explaining their problems to you. And if somebody still says, “But my mother and father didn’t know all that. I just learned it myself”, then try to understand that nobody is blaming your parents. In the kingdom of God there is no fault. The act that mankind today is not willing to receive the divine wisdom is a bitter lesson for everybody, including you and your parents.

All mistakes can be put right and by doing so, you do yourself and a lot of other peoples a big favor. Also, you are improving your future as much as humanly possible.
The endless problem of control. Parents control their children and end up being controlled them selves. Everything you do, you get back twofold. He who sows wind, shall reap the storm.

I would like to repeat once again:

1. The child himself is the one who chooses his parents, with all the good and the bad they have to offer – and not the other way round. There’s no one to blame.
2. The child is a pure spirit and always comes to love his parents. The aims of the parents, on the other hand may not always be so noble, but instead quite self-serving in their nature.

A loving parent never says to his child in anger, “You don’t love me, you are bad.” Only a mother (or father) who feels unloved in her heart and knows how it hurts not to be loved, can say something like that out of bitterness, trying to hurt the child as much as she can. A mother can explain it in away quite logically: “well, he hurt me first, why can’t I hurt him back!” The mother’s obligation is to teach the child to be wise, that’s why she has to learn a lot herself. If her own parents have made mistakes in her upbringing then she has to be forgiven them, instead of repeating those mistakes.

The words that you use to strike a wound in your child’s heart will return to you sooner or later, only this time they will come back to hurt you and the hurt will be much worse. Don’t blame your child when it happens but ask him to forgive you for your mistake. Understanding always has to come from the wiser of the two.

As for your mother: you know that this sort of understanding is too much to expect from her and so you yourself have to be the one who forgives her for her mistakes, and yourself for letting the hurt enter your heart.

The mother’s duty is to teach the child to adapt to the ways of this world and make him strong. Too few mothers give birth with a feeling of pure love in their hearts. People usually get angry when I tell them this. You can say what you like but this is the simple truth: a parent with pure love in his heart will never have a really disastrous relationship with his children. They may disagree, they may fight, they may have arguments where the truth will eventually come out, but hate or insult is never needed. The kind of fight where the only goal is to win never has to be fought.

Love makes a person strong, understanding and reasonable. But if you let yourself be insulted by something the other person said, your ability to understand the situation is already blocked, and your only concern is to strike back immediately – to stand up for your own rights. Power always breeds protest and protest will grow into anger. It is obvious the parent, being older and stronger, will always have the upper hand in any argument. The more that physical strength is allowed to control the spirit, the weaker the spirit will grow, to the point where the mind of a submissive child will stop developing.

There are lots of ways to control a child:
- some parents resort to verbal abuse,
- some resort to threats,
- some resort to tears as they know that this is the child’s soft spot.

Because a child always wishes the best for his mother and father, some parents say, “You have to do this or that for the sake of the good name of our family,” and the child will do what is expected of him. He would have done it anyway, but now he is under an obligation. The strange thing is that the parents’ behavior is often at odds with the way they expect their children to behave – words and reality contradict. The child is literally sucked dry of energy.
The hard truth is that parents are the first to do violence to the child’s body and soul and, accordingly, are also the ones who have to bear the bitter consequences later. But parents whose favorite pastime is grumbling about their children have a difficult time admitting this. Denying one’s mistakes, however, has never done anything to improve the situation. The only way to free yourself from sickness is to ask your children to forgive you, and if you are too stubborn and proud to do that, then you will just have to keep on suffering.

Life is progress and eventually a child will grow wiser than its parents. The person wiser at a particular moment can and is obliged to teach the other – if he knows how to do it the right way. A parent, not quite sure of himself, could tell the child, “Honey, I’m sorry, but it seems to me that you are doing this wrong. Let me show you.” Every mother and father has to become wise, so that they can teach the child. If they are not wise enough, they should make it their business to learn. The child needs to have respect for his parents and a parent who takes the trouble to learn always deserves a child’s respect.

If you already overtaken your parents in wisdom, never humiliate them, thinking that you know better. You may well choose to come back as their mother or father in the next life and if you do, your wise deeds will be waiting for you with all their consequences. You should find happiness in knowing this and in things you do right.
If you can still feel the hurt that your parent’s unfairness caused you when you were small, then you must forgive them for causing you pain. You have to forgive yourself for taking this hurt to your soul and keeping it there so long. Finally, tell your body how sorry you are for having harmed it by this negativity.
The mother has a very special role in the family – she is the fountain of love. At the same time the mother’s stresses can keep the whole family from leading a normal life. The guilt, springing from her childhood, keeps mother bustling about, trying to earn love. When she fails, because the familiar fear of not being loved keeps her from her goals, she starts looking for someone to blame. A culprit is easy to find as everybody she becomes close to is a source of constant irritation to her – her husband, neighbors, parent’s etc. the child sees the conflict between his parents, sees love drying up and falls ill. Mother groans, “As if I didn’t have enough problems of my own! Why did you have to fall ill just now!”

The guilt she feels attracts people who, in turn, start blaming her: her husband, the pediatrician, her parents. The granny of course thinks that if everybody had listened to her in the first place, the child would never have fallen ill. A person suffering from stress feels that he has the right to meddle in others people’s affairs.
A person who looks at his mother or father and, sees only an enemy with rigid principles who doesn’t understand young people, is robbing himself of something very valuable. The usual attitude of the young – I can discuss anything with strangers but it is impossible to talk to my own parents – is caused by a subconscious wish to rebel, or in other words, the stress caused by his parents forcing him to learn. He hasn’t realized yet that everything in life is learning.

All forcing is taken painfully, as any kind of imposition is negativity. The youngster can’t see the parents’ care for him behind their strictness. He is already blinded by stress, caused by the fact that he doesn’t know how to grasp his parents’ behavior with his reasonable mind. A child, who has been taught to look for the positive side in the negative, has no trouble trusting his parents and his trust will be returned. Without having to go through a lot of heartache he will be able to realize that substantial feelings have a lot of weight to them while superficial feelings don’t. And even if the parents, in their wish to do good, create a lot of negativity for the youngster, something quire positive may come of it later on.

As long as the first mother has not done anything to try and improve her relations with her mother and her child, then the chain of stress will go on forever, and unfortunately, the next generation will always suffer more then the last. The person who made the original mistake may return to the next generation and have to deal with the consequences of his own mistake.

You may prove to the rest of the world how much your mother has hurt you and how, in turn, your child is hurting you and how it is making you the unhappiest person alive, but unless you have forgiven your mother and asked your child to forgive you, there’s no hope of anything turning out better between the three of you.

I keep stressing the role of the mother more than that of the father as the father cast his influence on the child through the mother. We should still remember that the father may be the mother the next time around and, accordingly, the forgiving the father does is no less important than that of the mother.

More than ever before, children nowadays suffer from the lack of love. Statistics show that the main cause of death these days is heart disease of varying kinds; the number of young people dying of lung cancer is increasing; more women are developing breast cancer – each one a disease of the fourth chakra. I hope that this needs no further explanation. Those who argue that smoking is cause – well prove it to me – If smoking would be the cause – we all would be dead by now!

A lot of marriages are destroyed by parents and in-laws but there are people who, despite extremely difficult relations between the generations, still manage to keep the family intact. Nevertheless, such grandparents are still causing a lot of harm to their children, their children’s children as well as to the children of their children. Remember the old saying about sins of the fathers being visited upon the children. This is the most painful thing anyone can experience. The grandparents, who have caused this suffering, will no doubt have to bear the consequences in this life as well as the next.

If your child should marry someone you consider inappropriate, remember like attracts like. The two of them must have something in common that you are refusing to see, or they wouldn’t be drawn to one another in this way. You are probably just too ashamed to admit it, because the quality that irritates you most in your son or draught in-law is also present in your child and who but you could have handed it down to your offspring? You might as well admit it and mend your ways, then you’ll see that the situation isn’t as bad as all that and is getting better quickly.

It may also be that your child rejects the good things you have to offer, to the extent that he or she will go ahead and marry someone totally opposite to your view of the ideal spouse. That’s his or her right, because the child has its own lesson to learn. Children are not your property. Instead of endless arguments and trying to force your will on them, teach your children to adapt to each situation in the best possible way. Please remember the old saying that a mother has to know the right time to come and the right time to leave.

And if reading this has made you feel sad then you probably have a lot of difficult understanding life and the way it works. You want your child to be an exceptional person but you don’t seem to understand that the lives of exceptional people are much more demanding and harder than those of ordinary folk.
Due to the bi-polarity of the Universe, there are two sexes – male and female – together forming a whole. In the physical plane this is completion. If a person has chosen to lead a solitary life, the he or she is leaving something important in life unattended to. it is a mistake, but mistakes are made to learn from.

Man creates form, woman, and the contents. Man breeds ideas, woman breeds children. Man is a home-builder, woman is a homemaker. Man is power, woman is warmth. Man is reason, woman is feeling.

If a woman says that men have degenerated, then she is speaking about her own husband, and even if he hasn’t yet, she will surely drive him to it. If a man says that women are stupid, then his own wife is stupid and getting more so every day.

The woman, who would like men to be delicate and sensitive like women, does not seem to understand that this is castration. It would be much wiser to love the man and then his flame would be rekindled. Only love attracts love.

The man, who would like women to acquire more and more technical skills and training and to act reasonable like men, can’t see that he is robbing himself of the woman’s feelings,. It would be much wiser to find joy in her sensitivity and respect her womanly and motherly qualities.

A mother’s love has been praised throughout the ages as the most powerful, all conquering feeling. And with good reason. The mother is the child’s first teacher in the physical world. If the mother teaches the child to love, regardless of whether it is a boy or a girl, the child will know how to love in future life. Such a person will not have to worry about his partner’s love in the future. A loving person is a good husband, wife, parent, boss, friend, and so on and so on…

If there’s love in the mother’s heart then it permeates everything that she comes in contact with. Everyone is happy to enter the home of a loving woman and mother, even if it is a simple hut with nothing but four walls, a nail in the wall on which to hang your coat, a bench for sitting upon, a table for eating around and a plain wooden floor scrubbed white. It is still a warm and good place to be because all the things in this house shine with her love.

There are luxurious palaces that you would just die to own, if only there were some happiness there. It doesn’t mean that a humble home is always a happy one and a wealthy home isn’t; wealth or the lack of it has nothing to do with happiness. A wealthy home may be a blissful place if the lady of the house isn’t just interested in owning things but also has some feelings for her possessions.

Dear men and women,

Be happy that your partner is not a sexless robot but a real flesh-and-blood human being. Take care of your mate because he or she is a treasure worth taking care of. If you have made your partner into a robot by your domineering ways or if you yourself are bent to the ground with submission, you have lost one half of your being. Everything you rob the other person of, you are left without yourself.

The woman wears her feelings on her sleeve; the man does the same with his strength. Women have hidden their power, the same as men have hidden their feelings, and this is the way it is supposed to be.

Men often say, “Women are not really the weaker sex, they usually manage to outlive us.”

Spirit or feeling always comes first, accordingly, feelings determine health and the span of life. Herein lies the woman’s strength. A woman who does her best to open up a man’s feelings makes his emotional life stronger and his life longer. Women are always fighting for the purity of their feelings. Sometimes they do good, and sometimes they do harm by their fighting, but when a wife outlives her husband, she has done it right. The woman who, wanting to make a good impression, bites her lips and keeps all the stress bottled up inside her self, will surely die before her husband.

The man who enjoys his strength influences his body in a positive way. His joy attracts happiness – other people rejoice in him. But if a physically well-developed male suffers from an inferiority complex he will soon cause an illness to be created within him self. Feelings are the man’s weakest spot.

The individual, with his mind and feelings well balanced, is valued highly nowadays. He is mentally stable, but this is not some static, God-given state of mind. It is a state where feelings and energies are held in balance at all times by incessant mental work performed on one’s own personality.

A woman who controls her feelings according to time, place and space by mental effort is a strong woman (as feelings control the physical body). A man controlling his strength according to time, place and space by mental effort is a strong man (as strength build up feelings). Such people are able to rise to the occasion at all times. It is within everyone’s reach to become a well-balanced individual – you only have to rid yourself of mental sloth.

The couple, where both husband and wife let the other be his or her own person, are doing themselves a favor. Such people have an understanding and kindly attitude towards each other’s faults and know how to enjoy one another’s pleasant features. They grow individually and together, and when a conflict arises, they are wise enough to argue it out. And if the husband now and then thinks, smiling indulgently, “Well she’s a woman, she always gets carried away with her feelings,” and the wife says to herself with the same sort of feeling, “Well he’s a man, he won’t be able to feel the same way I do, but from his point of view he is right,” and they go on with their life, both doing their share – then the two of them have become a whole. This is a strong family.

Life is not pleasant in a family where the husband deliberately ridicules the woman’s feelings, or the opposite – is forced to protect him self from them. Likewise, in cases where the woman ridicules the man’s strength or allows her self to get bitter over the man’s insensitivity. The woman has a woman’s role to play and the man is supposed to be a man, otherwise the laws of nature are not balanced in the family.

In such situations it would be much better if, instead of silent war where both parties keep all the negativity locked up inside themselves, the husband and wife would at least have a good fight and scream it all out. A sincere wish to understand another human being helps to cure even the most serious disease. People need clarity.

Mankind has been living on this earth for thousands of years – both in castles, huts and caves. The determining factor of quality isn’t wealth – it is peace of mind. The wiser man gets, the more complex his psychology and the more perfect his language grows – his means of communication. Language is of enormous importance to humanity. It helps the individual, and his ability to communicate, to develop. Philosophy has always put a stress on rhetorical skills as a means of self-expression. The problem is that philosophy often gets mixed up with demagogy.
Dear people if you have recognized yourself in what was just said, forgive the limitations that are holding you back, forgive your fears, and start expressing yourselves – let your feelings out in the open. A beautiful feeling that has found validation in speech is an enormous support in life. If you don’t speak out (including to yourself), then life for you will turn out to be a battle without a cause and your children will have to grow up on the barricades.

Dear Britney a person who has a fear of not being loved, will try to earn love; he will be turned into a slave of love – if only someone will love him. But because he has a stress – he has to feel that he’s not loved – then despite all his efforts he will not be loved. He will be used later, when he has fulfilled his purpose, will be cast aside he can’t understand why people are hurting him, as the fear of not being loved is blocking YOUR mind.

Regards
Dr.Beek