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Wish to remove gay feelings in me

Sir I am 28 years old man with normal weight. I very emotional as well, small small things do hurt me and even I cry out watching movies sometime. Ever since I was a kid (8 -10 yrs old) I have feelings and liking toward men. I would always get attracted to guys and would try to make intimate relationship with them. I have even had intercourse with couple of my friends (boys). In 2009 I first time tried to have intercourse with a girl, wherein I did not get any erection even at the time of foreplay and it took almost a week to get my morning erection stable after that. After which I went back to my normal life wherein I started watching porn (not straight) all again. It was last year April when I decided to change my life and wanted to start normal straight life. I met this girl and we carried out foreplay for almost a week as she decided not to have intercourse. Even during the foreplay I would keep touching my penis to see if it is fully erect or not (which was never fully hard, if I don’t touch it, I was sure I would lose erection), but during the week my morning erections were stable. And finally when we decided that we will have intercourse tonight, my erection was not to the fullest during foreplay (but was erect) and when I got on her to penetrate I lost my erection. Again it took me few days to get my morning erection stable. (when I am with my straight friend for whom I am have liking I would always get erection even now when a sleep next to him hugging him). By the end of the year I visited a homoeopathy doctor and he gave me damiaplant and some testo-forte (not sure) which I took for 2 months as he felt I was suffering from low libido. It did not help me much rather I started feeling that I am even suffering from erectile dysfunction as I started losing erection during masturbation. I reported the same and he changed my medicines from last 2 months, now I am taking Vigora 5000 before sleeping and yohibinum twice a day. I still feel less aroused (I know my arousal deficiency is due to liking toward men) but erections are somewhat fine. But since then I have not initiated with a girl as I think that I would still not get an erection. I guess I also have bladder shyness which at times make little difficult for me to initiate to go and pee when standing in group, I prefer to go to a secluded place, with no one near and when I pee at some point I shiver also a bit.
Can you please help and suggest me some strong medicine for stronger arousal and stronger erection. I also understand that medicine alone will not help me I will have to change a lot of things in me, but I am sure if I am able to have intercourse with a girl without any problems (erection or arousal which forces to use Viagra) or properly, I will not go back to my old life. plsss do help me
[message edited by gaurav.sharma01018 on Wed, 12 Mar 2014 19:29:37 GMT]
[message edited by gaurav.sharma01018 on Wed, 12 Mar 2014 19:32:00 GMT]
 
  gaurav.sharma01018 on 2014-03-12
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
I am not sure if gay feelings can be eliminated.

What is the first sexual experience or feeling that you can remember.
 
fitness last decade
Fitness is correct, if your feelings are natural to you and have been there all of your life, you cannot remove them using homoeopathy. My personal AND professional opinion is that they cannot be removed at all, and attempting to do so will cause damage to you emotionally and mentally.

I understand that many cultures do not approve of people with such feelings, and may actively, even violently, discriminate against them. While this undoubtedly causes great distress and suffering for such individuals, it is not a situation that can be dealt with using homoeopathy.

Homoeopathy ONLY cures disease. There ARE some people where such feelings arise out of their disease, as a sudden and peculiar change in their normal pattern of thoughts and feelings. You may see this in a man who has enjoyed heterosexual relationships for many years and suddenly finds himself attracted to someone of the same sex. Such attraction usually comes after some kind of traumatic event - I have seen it happen after a head injury (nat-sulph), after a romantic betrayal (nat-mur) or as a result of violence (merc). In these cases, a remedy given for the specific disease symptoms and the event that caused them also brings them back to their normal healthy state.

However, I have treated many patients who have experienced homosexual feelings for the entire of their lives. Even when they have some kind of chronic disease, even when it involved emotional and mental symptoms, the cure of their disease does not make them heterosexual. Their disease lifts, their health increases, they become happier and more content in their lives - but they remain homosexual.

Homoeopathy works with nature, obeying natural laws, to return people to a natural balance. As I watch homosexual people become healthy, cured of their chronic diseases, achieving their potential, but remaining homosexual, I must accept that for some people this is a normal healthy state.

I believe that as homoeopaths it is important that we be truly unprejudiced in our dealings with people. Only the unprejudiced observer can be a true healer.

There may be disease to cure here, there certainly sounds like there are symptoms to consider. However, no homoeopathic remedy is going to make you attracted to women if this is not naturally within you. Nor can any remedy force you to have erections when you are not genuinely aroused and attracted to someone. Nature does not allow this. A person's arousal depends on attraction - this is the natural process.

Sleeping with women will also not cure your homosexual feelings. If anything it will only make you suffer more, as you will be acting against your nature. As we know in homoeopathy, acting against your nature in fact CAUSES disease.
 
Evocationer last decade
Fitness to what I remember I was in 6th standard when it all started, I would do it with my society friends. I know the feelings cant be undone but my main problem here is that when I was with this girl, I lost my erection. so my point is if I can get pleasure with the girls I am sure there is no going back for me. I just wanted to feel aroused the same way when I am with a guy.
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
I want to know the exact details of how it started in 6th.
 
fitness last decade
is it possible for u to give me ur chat id... where I can tell u in details over chatting if u don't mind...
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
Click on the user name Fitness and
you can see his email address.
 
simone717 last decade
My schedule doesn't permit chatting.

I prefer the forum for all cases as it ensures the safety of everyone involved because of the transparency and everyone else to see what I am doing, its an inherent protection for any case that I handle.

There are exceptions when there is very personal information, then I can take up discussion on email.
 
fitness last decade
i understand sir. thank you for your precious time any way. I am asked to take one dose of Staphysagria 1m, could u please help me with few questions on it.

1.how does the medicine work
2.which all areas would it help to improve
3.how much time will it take
4.are there any side effects of this medicine
5.are there chances that intake of this medicine can make my erection dependent on it.

please if you can help me with these question, it would be of great help.

and as per the details it all started with a school friend over video games at his place or my place. started showing each other our parts. touching it together and even kissing each other. but I never had anal with ne one. then with other friend of mine and it lasted for few years. I always wanted to have a friend with whom I can get intimate. then it did not happened in 11th and 12th as we did not meet as changed the places. though I had a gf in 11th but we never met much, never ever tried to get intimate. then in college I had same intimate relationship with few of my friends. while sleeping just started. once with 3 different friends. I had a very gud friend in college who was a girl, I was attracted to her but never took a move. basically I have always been attracted to guys and have tried to make them my best buddy and tried to get close as close as possible. on my part I am trying not to get emotionally attached with ne guy now. just like to treat them as friends and trying to indulge with more females chatting with meeting them so that it can take my mind off. would this information help you sir.
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
dear simone717, I saw the email address of fitness but wanted to seek an approval before sending him an email or invite for chat. thank you any ways. also in some other posts I have heard about HYOSCYAMUS 200 and PULSATILLA 200, can they help?? any one aware about it ???
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
I think you are not gay, at least your history tells me that. You are attracted to both sexes and depending on circumstances your body responds.

Lets get to the issue here which is you losing erection at the time of intercourse, is that so?
 
fitness last decade
Now that you have given Fitness your details, wait for
him to suggest.
 
simone717 last decade
yes fitness. I guess I am not gay just that did not get ample opportunities to be with girls or may be did not initiate myself. yes would certainly want to resolve my arousal and erections issue.
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
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25. Do you normally feel hot or cold

26. What foods you crave & love (not what you eat due to health or other reasons, rather what you love)

27. What foods you hate a lot

28. What taste you love a lot (e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter)

29. What taste you hate

30. Do you like warm or cold food

31. Do you want to eat indigestible foods (chalk, lead pencil, mud….)

32. How is your thirst (less, moderate, excessive)

33. Do you have dry lips or mouth or both

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35. Any taste in your mouth first thing in the morning (e.g. bitter, sour)

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41. How is your stool (details of how often, consistency, any blood, any particular smell etc.)

42. How is your urine (details of color, smell, any blood etc.)

43. How is your sex desire (e.g. no desire, low, moderate, high, very high)

44. Are you satisfied with your sex life, if no, why not

45. How do you feel about masturbation

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48. What illnesses are running in your family

• Mother’s side

• Father’s side

• Siblings (brother/sister)

49. Are you taking any medicines (allopathic, homeopathic, supplements, acupuncture etc.)

50. Have you had any surgeries or implants, if yes, give details

51. Have you had any long term treatment (physical or psychological), if yes, give details (what, when, where, why, the list of medicines used)

52. What homeopathic remedies have you taken in the past (potency, dosage, approx. time frame)
 
fitness last decade
hi fitness, please find details below

1. Your age & sex ------- 28 / M

2. Describe your appearance i.e. weight, height, body type (thin, medium, chubby, fat etc)

• Weight ----- 69 kgs

• Height -------- 5’6’’

• Body type (Thin, Fat, Medium) ----- medium

• Any significant feature (e.g. sunken cheeks, stooped shoulders, thin chest etc.) non

3. Your profession Computer engineer

4. Describe your personality in at least 20 words (e.g. stubborn, lazy, suicidal, don’t want to work, always in a hurry etc.) -------- emotional, would weep out at times, gets hurt easily, hard worker, result oriented.

5. If money was not an issue and you had a month of vacation, what would you do ------- would travel different countries with or without someone

6. Do you smoke/drink/drugs, if yes, details ------- smoke 10 -15 times a day, drinks 3 times a week

7. What is your main health problem & its symptoms ----- do not get arousal and erection when trying to intercourse

8. When did this main problem begin was seen for the 1st time in 2009

9. Can you relate any event which caused this problem ----- not really

10. What makes the main problem better (e.g. massage, pressure, warmth, cold, lying down, sitting etc.) when I am lying on my back I guess erection remains for sometime (but tested when alone)

11. What makes it worse (e.g. massage, pressure, warmth, cold, lying down, sitting etc.) --- pressure

12. How do you feel mentally & emotionally during this problem (e.g. weepy, irritable, restless, sad, hopeless, fear of death etc.) sad, hopeless and irritated

13. What other health problems do you have ---- non

14. List down all problems and when did they start (approximate month & year) non

15. What makes these other health problems better (explain each problem) non

16. What makes these other health problems worse (explain each problem) non

17. What animals or insects are you afraid of ----- almost all animals

18. What situations are you afraid of (e.g. heights, closed spaces, ocean, darkness etc) --- closed spaces

19. What occupies your mind mostly ---- thinking about a perfect life that I could have had, day dreaming mostly, would sit alone and keep thinking about a changed life

20. How do you respond to consolation & sympathy ----- feels good

21. Do you want to stay alone or with people ---- some times alone and sometimes with people but mostly alone

22. How is your sleep ---- I sleep late and sleep till late

23. Do you have any recurring dreams ---- not recurring but at times in my dreams I am making out with someone (guy)… and then in morning I would have night fall, but as per my observation it normally happens if I don’t masturbate for long like a week or so.

24. Is your complaint affected by weather, if so, which weather affect & how ---- no

25. Do you normally feel hot or cold ---- hot

26. What foods you crave & love (not what you eat due to health or other reasons, rather what you love) non veg

27. What foods you hate a lot ----- vegetables

28. What taste you love a lot (e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter) ----- sweet mostly but in meals always salty

29. What taste you hate ---- bitter

30. Do you like warm or cold food ----- moderate not too hot

31. Do you want to eat indigestible foods (chalk, lead pencil, mud….) no

32. How is your thirst (less, moderate, excessive) --- moderate

33. Do you have dry lips or mouth or both ---- no

34. Do you have any coating on tongue first thing in the morning, if yes, details

• Is coating thick ---- yes

• Color of coating ---- white

• Where exactly ------ inside tongue ( if I am not wrong it may be because when I am on my bed about to sleep, I would want to much something again and would eat biscuits or some namkeen and then sleep)

35. Any taste in your mouth first thing in the morning (e.g. bitter, sour) --- no

36. How is your skin (dry, oily, rough, acne, pustules, boils, psoriasis etc), send me a picture of the skin problem ---- I don’t have a skin problem, gets dry in winter and little oily during summers

37. Please upload here or email me a close up picture of your hand nails (without nail polish or any treatment done). Click my username for my email address.

38. Details about your sweat (where mostly, how much, smell, does it stain, color) ----- forehead and smells a bit

39. Any problems with eyes/vision, if yes, since when ---- non

40. Any problems with ears, nose, throat (e.g. nose always blocked, runny, discharge color) ---- no

41. How is your stool (details of how often, consistency, any blood, any particular smell etc.) ---- once a day, no problems with stools as such

42. How is your urine (details of color, smell, any blood etc.) ---- normal, mostly white, if I drink less water then little yellow in colour. Smells only if I take coffee more than a cup in a day which I normally don’t drink.

43. How is your sex desire (e.g. no desire, low, moderate, high, very high) I guess low toward girls and trying to stop as much as possible toward guys

44. Are you satisfied with your sex life, if no, why not ---- no I am not

45. How do you feel about masturbation ---- feels good, I would masturbate in just few minutes

46. Males genitals (any problems with erection, any pain, any itching etc.) (in morning when I go for a leak, and roll my skin back a little there in this white layer on the inner skin, if I rub it with hands its gets a little rubbery and if I wash it easily removed. But acts little very little itchy until removed.


48. What illnesses are running in your family

• Mother’s side ---- non

• Father’s side ---- non

• Siblings (brother/sister) --- don’t have any

49. Are you taking any medicines (allopathic, homeopathic, supplements, acupuncture etc.) tried damianaplant (stopped now but took for two months), R41 (took 10 times only, not now), yohibinum (twice a day 15 drops) and vigora 5000 (once before sleeping)

50. Have you had any surgeries or implants, if yes, give details ---- non

51. Have you had any long term treatment (physical or psychological), if yes, give details (what, when, where, why, the list of medicines used) --- non

52. What homeopathic remedies have you taken in the past (potency, dosage, approx. time frame) --- potency I don’t know but have mentioned the details above, and would take anti flu during winters, arnica if got hurt. That’s it so far
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
Q-4: Explain more, use at least 40 words.

Q-6: Why do you smoke

Q-8: What was going on in your life in 2009 when you noticed this problem.

Q- 26: So you like meats?

Q- 34: Where is the coating, center, back, sides, all over

Q-37: ?

Q-44: Why not?

Stop all medicines & remedies.
 
fitness last decade
You family has NO illnesses? Nobody at all on either side has ever had any kind of chronic illness?

I find that hard to believe. Remember, the more help you give your practitioner, the more likely he is to be able to help you.
 
Evocationer last decade
Q4 – very emotional by nature. Egoistic at times. If I don’t like an action done by someone I would like to show them back their importance, not to hurt them but to show that even I am important. Very caring, sensitive at times and supportive to people I like.
Q6 – no reasons, I guess when I don’t have anything to do, I rest on smoke
Q8 – normal work life, wanted to experience sex for the 1st time. So went out with a friend of mine, was looking for a paid sex, searched for hours and finally got one after hours of hunt and tiredness
Q26 - Big fan of nonveg, would not mind eating all the day, but avoid the same cause of gaining weight
Q34 – Centre and back (less at the front tip)
Q44 – Sir cause I want to have a straight sex life, which I am yet to experience.
Sir my mom is all fine and never had blood pressure or even sugar for that reason. Same for my father. Touch wood but they are quite healthy, strictly vegetarian
Have mailed you the pic of my nails .
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
You went to find paid sex from a male or female.

What was your friend's role in this.

How did this episode go, give details.
 
fitness last decade
paid sex with female. no role of my friend, he was quite satisfied the only thing he told me was that it took quite time for him to get full erection , could be because of whole day tiredness. he is a straight guy and was quite satisfied after the sex.
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
Your remedy is: Medorrhinum 1M.

HOW TO TAKE THE REMEDY:
Please take one dose. Just one dose. Not daily.
Report back in 7 days with changes observed.

TIME OF DOSE:
At night before sleeping.
Don’t take any more dose or any other remedy unless I tell you.

PILLS/PELLETS:
If your remedy is in the form of pills:
One dose is one pill.
Dissolve the pill in your mouth.

LIQUID REMEDY:
If your remedy is in liquid form:
Put one drop of the remedy in half glass of water, stir and take one tea spoon from it.
That’s one dose.

PRECAUTIONS:
Don’t take any other homeopathic remedy during this treatment.
Give a break of at least 10 minutes before eating/drinking anything before or after taking the remedy.
During the course of treatment, don’t eat anything which you have never had all your life.

HOW TO GIVE FEEDBACK:
A good example of how to report your progress is by giving %age improvement for all your health problems e.g.
Headache: 30% better
Low energy level: 50% better
Anxiety: 40% better
Sadness: No change
Depression: Worse
And so on list all your complaints.

GENERAL INFO ABOUT HOMEOPATHIC PRESCRIBING:
If someone is giving several remedies, without waiting to see the effect of one remedy, then it is totally against the core principles of homeopathy. Such an approach is unlikely to give permanent cure, rather it may distort actual symptoms making subsequent cure even more difficult.
 
fitness last decade
thank you so much, would you suggest me to get a test done for 'gonorrhoea' or a urine culture incase if you want some more specifications.
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
Why would you want gonorrhea test?
 
fitness last decade
no reasons, wrong questions. sorry. will be taking this medicine today and shall report u back in few days. Thank you for all the help.
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
sir I have got the medicine and it is in the form of pills (tablet no 40 (size)).. just wanted to check again Only ONE has to be taken ?
 
gaurav.sharma01018 last decade
Yes.
 
fitness last decade

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