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Food sensitivities in 10 year old boy
I am hoping to find a suitable remedy for my 10 year old son who has long standing food sensitivities.He was a collicky and sickly baby and went on to develop an intollerance to dairy as an infant and later we discovered gluten sensitivites.
We have largely removed these foods from his diet as far as possible which brings some improvement but I feel that there are still issues and it is time for a different approach.
He has always sucked his thumb (even in the pregnancy ultrasound scans!) and always seems to need some sort of comforting. He has tried to stop thumb sucking but this only leads to alternative comforts such as nail biting, hair twiddling, etc. He was bedwetting sporadically until around aged 9.
He is an extremely gifted child musically and is very bright. He is an anxious child and also is a constant fidget. He taps, sings, whistles, talks and moves constantly. The only time he is quiet and peaceful is when he is sucking his thumb or playing his guitar. He does not like to spend time on his own. He is very sensitive and easily picked on. He can be shy but is very open and talkative when he feels safe. He prefers the company of older children and often mistrusts his own peers and younger children. He has been bullied many times at school by both children and adults.
He has never suffered any serious illness, just the usual childhood diseases such as scarlet fever, chicken pox, hand foot and mouth, etc. He always gets fevers before any illness often with hallucinations but usually recovers health rapidly once the fever has passed.
He was born (very quick labour and birth, no intervention) with bilateral talipes (club foot) and had physio and corrective surgery during infancy which was largely successful. He does mention mild aching of his limbs (legs, feet, ankles) often after exersion but the doctors and physios are not concerned and say that it will ease.
I wonder what his constitutional type is and if I can find a remedy that brings him peace and relief from his gut issues.
Thanks in advance.
zoezest on 2014-06-18
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
I will post a questionnaire I use for children's cases on the forum. Answer all the questions you can.
Describe each physical complaint or associated set of symptoms in detail. Please include the following when doing this:
1. Appearance
2. Sensation or pain
3. Situations/events/triggers for making it worse
4. Situations/events/triggers for making it better
5. Event that seemed to start the complaint
6. Other sensory features smell, sound, taste, tactile etc
Make sure each complaint is done separately. Do not group them together. This is for physical complaints/diseases.
MENTAL STATE OF THE CHILD (IMPORTANT)
1. When the physical complaint is active, what is his/her emotional state like? What does he/she do? What does she/he want you to do?
2. Does he/she describe any unusual sensation or pain in the body, especially when they are complaining of something?
3. What fears does he/she have? How does she/he react?
4. Was there any incident in the past that had a great impact? What happened at the time? Is there any ongoing reaction to this event? How does he/she talk about it?
5. Is there any story (book, fairytale, cartoon, movie etc) that seems to really resonate with her/him? What does he/she say about it?
6. What kind of fantasies does she/he describe to you? How does this translate down into play, games, toys? Does he/she tend to draw particular things over and over? If so what are they? If you point to these images, what does she/he say about them?
7. Does he/she describe any dreams or nightmares to you, and what are they? How does she/he react on waking from them?
8. How is he/she when interacting with other children? What about sports or games? How about obeying rules or social conventions?
9. How is she/he when interacting with older people? Is there any difference between family or friends and strangers in terms of reactions and behavior?
10. What kind of activities does he/she enjoy doing? Which of these do she/he spend the most time at?
11. What qualities seem to make your child different from other children?
12. How does your child cope with school, school work, study, deadlines, speaking in front of others, following directions etc?
13. What kind of questions does he/she tend to ask you or other adults?
14. What makes her/him laugh? What makes him/her cry?
15. What makes him/her angry or irritable?
16. What does your child do when alone?
17. Is there a particular person or type of person that he/she reacts to, and what kind of reaction?
GENERAL STATE OF YOUR CHILD
1. What position does he/she sleep in?
2. Is there any position he/she seems unable to sleep in?
3. Any unusual behavior during sleep?
4. Any problems with sleep?
5. What foods are craved (cravings are strong desires) What foods are hated?
6. What drinks are craved? What drinks are hated?
7. How does he/she react when hungry, or hunger is prolonged?
8. How does the weather affect?
9. How does the temperature affect?
10. Are there any other environmental influences negative or positive (season, noise, music, moon, light, dark, day, night, time, smells etc.)
11. Problems with stool or bowel habit?
Problems with urine or bladder habit?
Describe each physical complaint or associated set of symptoms in detail. Please include the following when doing this:
1. Appearance
2. Sensation or pain
3. Situations/events/triggers for making it worse
4. Situations/events/triggers for making it better
5. Event that seemed to start the complaint
6. Other sensory features smell, sound, taste, tactile etc
Make sure each complaint is done separately. Do not group them together. This is for physical complaints/diseases.
MENTAL STATE OF THE CHILD (IMPORTANT)
1. When the physical complaint is active, what is his/her emotional state like? What does he/she do? What does she/he want you to do?
2. Does he/she describe any unusual sensation or pain in the body, especially when they are complaining of something?
3. What fears does he/she have? How does she/he react?
4. Was there any incident in the past that had a great impact? What happened at the time? Is there any ongoing reaction to this event? How does he/she talk about it?
5. Is there any story (book, fairytale, cartoon, movie etc) that seems to really resonate with her/him? What does he/she say about it?
6. What kind of fantasies does she/he describe to you? How does this translate down into play, games, toys? Does he/she tend to draw particular things over and over? If so what are they? If you point to these images, what does she/he say about them?
7. Does he/she describe any dreams or nightmares to you, and what are they? How does she/he react on waking from them?
8. How is he/she when interacting with other children? What about sports or games? How about obeying rules or social conventions?
9. How is she/he when interacting with older people? Is there any difference between family or friends and strangers in terms of reactions and behavior?
10. What kind of activities does he/she enjoy doing? Which of these do she/he spend the most time at?
11. What qualities seem to make your child different from other children?
12. How does your child cope with school, school work, study, deadlines, speaking in front of others, following directions etc?
13. What kind of questions does he/she tend to ask you or other adults?
14. What makes her/him laugh? What makes him/her cry?
15. What makes him/her angry or irritable?
16. What does your child do when alone?
17. Is there a particular person or type of person that he/she reacts to, and what kind of reaction?
GENERAL STATE OF YOUR CHILD
1. What position does he/she sleep in?
2. Is there any position he/she seems unable to sleep in?
3. Any unusual behavior during sleep?
4. Any problems with sleep?
5. What foods are craved (cravings are strong desires) What foods are hated?
6. What drinks are craved? What drinks are hated?
7. How does he/she react when hungry, or hunger is prolonged?
8. How does the weather affect?
9. How does the temperature affect?
10. Are there any other environmental influences negative or positive (season, noise, music, moon, light, dark, day, night, time, smells etc.)
11. Problems with stool or bowel habit?
Problems with urine or bladder habit?
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Describe each physical complaint or associated set of symptoms in detail. Please include the following when doing this:
1. Appearance
2. Sensation or pain
3. Situations/events/triggers for making it worse
4. Situations/events/triggers for making it better
5. Event that seemed to start the complaint
6. Other sensory features smell, sound, taste, tactile etc
Make sure each complaint is done separately. Do not group them together. This is for physical complaints/diseases.
Thank you for your reply. This feels very complicated so bear with me and I will try to make sense of it!
My son is 10 years old. He has blonde hair and blue eyes and although fair he tans easily. He is probably just under average height for his age but has a muscular upper body. He has an abundance of energy and is extremely active. He thrives with one-to-one attention and shies away from groups and being the centre of attention.
Earliest complaints: club feet was picked up at 12 week scan and further scans done but no further issues picked up. He was a very colicky baby and didn't settle at night easily and co-slept for first 9 months. He was exclusively breast fed until 6 months and then introduced some solids but he didn't take to it well and always preferred to breast feed. Refused bottles and always wanted to breast feed until finally weaned at 15 months. We realised his symptoms worsened with dairy and he would vomit soon after consuming any, especially with cow's milk and yogurt. We switched to soya as an alternative. The vomitting stopped and he was more settled on the whole.
It is difficult to describe his mental state and feelings at this early stage but he was a happy, smiley baby and readily sought eye contact and was happiest being talked and sung to and with lots of attention. Never liked being left but was happy to be handed to other adults he knew.
The next significant event would be my next pregnancy. He was 3 yrs and 10 months when sibling born. The pregnancy was difficult, I was energy-less and sick quite a lot. For the last month of the pregnancy I was hospitalised and he had to be cared for by my husband and mother although he did visit regularly. His behaviour and mood was definitely affected by this. He became rather contrary and displayed typical terrible twos behaviour which was not typical for him.
Following the pregnancy complications and cesarian delivery of my second child, I was fairly immobile for a further 3 months and it was difficult for me to actively join in with his games. He did get frustrated and showed jealousy towards his baby brother.
The next significant event was an unjust telling off at school when he was made an example of in front of the whole school for something he was adamant he hadn't done. He didn't really recover from this incident until he had a different class teacher. His sleep was affected and bed-wetting started again. He began to be picked on by his peers more and more as his self esteem dropped. He didn't like going to school. The following 2 years were very unhappy for him at school and he seemed to get bullied by staff and peers. His sleep was really affected and he was often ill, sometimes fabricated so he didn't have to go to school.
Most recently we have taken him out of school to home tutor as we were so worried for his self esteem. He is much happier and his gut is marginally better but there are still issues with his digestion and sleep and his inability to settle and soothe.
MENTAL STATE OF THE CHILD (IMPORTANT)
1. When the physical complaint is active, what is his/her emotional state like? What does he/she do? What does she/he want you to do?
When his legs ache he is irritable and grumpy. He becomes defensive and wants someone to blame, which is usually aimed at his younger brother. He wants undivided attention and comforting.
When his tummy is upset he gets emotional but doesn't seem to make the connection. He is very quiet and often doesn't say how this feels unless asked. He wants to be left alone if he feels sick and takes to his bed. He wants verbal reassurance but not physical contact.
2. Does he/she describe any unusual sensation or pain in the body, especially when they are complaining of something?
Nothing particularly unusual just general aching and malaise.
3. What fears does he/she have? How does she/he react?
He is fearful of groups of children and being humiliated. He becomes nervous, clams up and becomes defensive. In the past he may have wet himself if required to perform at school. He bites his nails and wants to suck his thumb or find some physical comfort.
4. Was there any incident in the past that had a great impact? What happened at the time? Is there any ongoing reaction to this event? How does he/she talk about it?
Incidents listed above. He does not like to talk about school and refuses to consider ever returning.
5. Is there any story (book, fairytale, cartoon, movie etc) that seems to really resonate with her/him? What does he/she say about it?
His favourite book is Varjak Paw about an outlaw cat who is truth-seeking but is constantly misunderstood. He says he feels an affinity with the main character. He feels he is often the odd one out but he says he doesn't usually mind.
6. What kind of fantasies does she/he describe to you? How does this translate down into play, games, toys? Does he/she tend to draw particular things over and over? If so what are they? If you point to these images, what does she/he say about them?
He has grand fantasies about his future. He wants to be a racing driver and own a fast car. He likes to play racing games on the computer and collects toy racing cars and likes to build model vehicles. He wants to own an island. He often traces his favourite cars from magazines. He also draws landscapes often including mountains, water and boats. He describes all these scenes as ones he'd like to visit or do. He'd especially like to climb a mountain.
7. Does he/she describe any dreams or nightmares to you, and what are they? How does she/he react on waking from them?
He doesn't often describe his dreams but he does tell me when he has bad dreams which most usually occur when he has a fever. He describes visions of items or sensations getting too big or too small. He will shout out to make it stop. He is difficult to comfort and bring to consciousness when he is having a hallucination.
8. How is he/she when interacting with other children? What about sports or games? How about obeying rules or social conventions?
He doesn't like social conventions and will often oppose the general consensus. Eg when all the boys decided they didn't like the colour pink he vehemently defended it. He interacts well on a one-to-one basis but recoils in groups. He only likes sports that are for two people (tennis, badminton) or are non competitive eg swimming, cycling, skate boarding when he is then often very confident.
9. How is she/he when interacting with older people? Is there any difference between family or friends and strangers in terms of reactions and behavior?
He is not shy with strangers. He talks easily with adults (except teachers after school experiences) and older children but is wary of other children his age and younger. With his friends he is upbeat and happy and tends to show off and try to impress. He is less tolerant of his younger brother and younger cousins (all boys) as he does not like to complete for the attention of the adults. He gets on well with his older step brother and his older cousins.
10. What kind of activities does he/she enjoy doing? Which of these do she/he spend the most time at?
He enjoys making models, technology, science, maths related problems. He likes non-competitive sports, swimming and watersports and above all music. Playing his guitar and recording his own music.
11. What qualities seem to make your child different from other children?
Non-competitive and un-boisterous with peers. Sensitive to their environment and the behaviour and attitudes of others.
12. How does your child cope with school, school work, study, deadlines, speaking in front of others, following directions etc?
He really struggles to follow instructions and despite being a well mannered and good natured child was in constant trouble at school for lack of productivity and slowness.
13. What kind of questions does he/she tend to ask you or other adults?
What is happening next. What are we doing tomorrow. Where is Dad/Mum/brother etc. Who are we seeing. Who will be there. When can I next do....
14. What makes her/him laugh? What makes him/her cry?
Laugh: Films/books/cartoons about justice. For example a villain getting their just desserts. Animals behaving funny. Being tickled.
Cry: Injustice mostly or frustration. He rarely cries at injuries. Struggles to own up to blame or say sorry and will cry if he is reprimanded.
15. What makes him/her angry or irritable?
Not getting his own way. Jealousy. Being misunderstood.
16. What does your child do when alone?
Read books. Daydream. Play his guitar. Cuddle his cat. Play lego. Play computer games.
17. Is there a particular person or type of person that he/she reacts to, and what kind of reaction?
He strongly dislikes bullying, bravado, show-offs, bitchy, superficial and competitive types.
GENERAL STATE OF YOUR CHILD
1. What position does he/she sleep in?
On left side, knees drawn up and thumb sucking or on back with legs bent and feet flat on bed.
2. Is there any position he/she seems unable to sleep in?
Not sure.
3. Any unusual behavior during sleep?
Sometimes grinds teeth. Has a previous habit of bedwetting but this has now stopped.
4. Any problems with sleep?
Very light sleeper. Tosses and turns. Wakes early with the first sounds of the morning.
5. What foods are craved (cravings are strong desires) What foods are hated?
6. What drinks are craved? What drinks are hated?
Craves: Bread. Stodgy carbs. Nuts, seeds and dried fruit. Soups. Curry. Comforting foods.
Dislikes: sickly sweet foods, slimy foods, struggles to drink much, reluctant to eat vegetables and fruit.
7. How does he/she react when hungry, or hunger is prolonged?
He becomes grumpy.
8. How does the weather affect?
He is usually ok in most weathers. He particularly likes summer and warmer weather. He is less motivated in wet weather.
9. How does the temperature affect?
He doesn't seem overly affected by temperature.
10. Are there any other environmental influences negative or positive (season, noise, music, moon, light, dark, day, night, time, smells etc.)
He dislikes loud noises, strong wind. However he likes loud music of his choosing.
11. Problems with stool or bowel habit?
Problems with urine or bladder habit?
He has had problems with bladder control when anxious but this is currently under control.
He often has loose stools and smelly wind and he cannot hold on if he needs a stool. He has to evacuate urgently.
Hopefully that gives enough information to begin with. Thank you for your attention to this case.
1. Appearance
2. Sensation or pain
3. Situations/events/triggers for making it worse
4. Situations/events/triggers for making it better
5. Event that seemed to start the complaint
6. Other sensory features smell, sound, taste, tactile etc
Make sure each complaint is done separately. Do not group them together. This is for physical complaints/diseases.
Thank you for your reply. This feels very complicated so bear with me and I will try to make sense of it!
My son is 10 years old. He has blonde hair and blue eyes and although fair he tans easily. He is probably just under average height for his age but has a muscular upper body. He has an abundance of energy and is extremely active. He thrives with one-to-one attention and shies away from groups and being the centre of attention.
Earliest complaints: club feet was picked up at 12 week scan and further scans done but no further issues picked up. He was a very colicky baby and didn't settle at night easily and co-slept for first 9 months. He was exclusively breast fed until 6 months and then introduced some solids but he didn't take to it well and always preferred to breast feed. Refused bottles and always wanted to breast feed until finally weaned at 15 months. We realised his symptoms worsened with dairy and he would vomit soon after consuming any, especially with cow's milk and yogurt. We switched to soya as an alternative. The vomitting stopped and he was more settled on the whole.
It is difficult to describe his mental state and feelings at this early stage but he was a happy, smiley baby and readily sought eye contact and was happiest being talked and sung to and with lots of attention. Never liked being left but was happy to be handed to other adults he knew.
The next significant event would be my next pregnancy. He was 3 yrs and 10 months when sibling born. The pregnancy was difficult, I was energy-less and sick quite a lot. For the last month of the pregnancy I was hospitalised and he had to be cared for by my husband and mother although he did visit regularly. His behaviour and mood was definitely affected by this. He became rather contrary and displayed typical terrible twos behaviour which was not typical for him.
Following the pregnancy complications and cesarian delivery of my second child, I was fairly immobile for a further 3 months and it was difficult for me to actively join in with his games. He did get frustrated and showed jealousy towards his baby brother.
The next significant event was an unjust telling off at school when he was made an example of in front of the whole school for something he was adamant he hadn't done. He didn't really recover from this incident until he had a different class teacher. His sleep was affected and bed-wetting started again. He began to be picked on by his peers more and more as his self esteem dropped. He didn't like going to school. The following 2 years were very unhappy for him at school and he seemed to get bullied by staff and peers. His sleep was really affected and he was often ill, sometimes fabricated so he didn't have to go to school.
Most recently we have taken him out of school to home tutor as we were so worried for his self esteem. He is much happier and his gut is marginally better but there are still issues with his digestion and sleep and his inability to settle and soothe.
MENTAL STATE OF THE CHILD (IMPORTANT)
1. When the physical complaint is active, what is his/her emotional state like? What does he/she do? What does she/he want you to do?
When his legs ache he is irritable and grumpy. He becomes defensive and wants someone to blame, which is usually aimed at his younger brother. He wants undivided attention and comforting.
When his tummy is upset he gets emotional but doesn't seem to make the connection. He is very quiet and often doesn't say how this feels unless asked. He wants to be left alone if he feels sick and takes to his bed. He wants verbal reassurance but not physical contact.
2. Does he/she describe any unusual sensation or pain in the body, especially when they are complaining of something?
Nothing particularly unusual just general aching and malaise.
3. What fears does he/she have? How does she/he react?
He is fearful of groups of children and being humiliated. He becomes nervous, clams up and becomes defensive. In the past he may have wet himself if required to perform at school. He bites his nails and wants to suck his thumb or find some physical comfort.
4. Was there any incident in the past that had a great impact? What happened at the time? Is there any ongoing reaction to this event? How does he/she talk about it?
Incidents listed above. He does not like to talk about school and refuses to consider ever returning.
5. Is there any story (book, fairytale, cartoon, movie etc) that seems to really resonate with her/him? What does he/she say about it?
His favourite book is Varjak Paw about an outlaw cat who is truth-seeking but is constantly misunderstood. He says he feels an affinity with the main character. He feels he is often the odd one out but he says he doesn't usually mind.
6. What kind of fantasies does she/he describe to you? How does this translate down into play, games, toys? Does he/she tend to draw particular things over and over? If so what are they? If you point to these images, what does she/he say about them?
He has grand fantasies about his future. He wants to be a racing driver and own a fast car. He likes to play racing games on the computer and collects toy racing cars and likes to build model vehicles. He wants to own an island. He often traces his favourite cars from magazines. He also draws landscapes often including mountains, water and boats. He describes all these scenes as ones he'd like to visit or do. He'd especially like to climb a mountain.
7. Does he/she describe any dreams or nightmares to you, and what are they? How does she/he react on waking from them?
He doesn't often describe his dreams but he does tell me when he has bad dreams which most usually occur when he has a fever. He describes visions of items or sensations getting too big or too small. He will shout out to make it stop. He is difficult to comfort and bring to consciousness when he is having a hallucination.
8. How is he/she when interacting with other children? What about sports or games? How about obeying rules or social conventions?
He doesn't like social conventions and will often oppose the general consensus. Eg when all the boys decided they didn't like the colour pink he vehemently defended it. He interacts well on a one-to-one basis but recoils in groups. He only likes sports that are for two people (tennis, badminton) or are non competitive eg swimming, cycling, skate boarding when he is then often very confident.
9. How is she/he when interacting with older people? Is there any difference between family or friends and strangers in terms of reactions and behavior?
He is not shy with strangers. He talks easily with adults (except teachers after school experiences) and older children but is wary of other children his age and younger. With his friends he is upbeat and happy and tends to show off and try to impress. He is less tolerant of his younger brother and younger cousins (all boys) as he does not like to complete for the attention of the adults. He gets on well with his older step brother and his older cousins.
10. What kind of activities does he/she enjoy doing? Which of these do she/he spend the most time at?
He enjoys making models, technology, science, maths related problems. He likes non-competitive sports, swimming and watersports and above all music. Playing his guitar and recording his own music.
11. What qualities seem to make your child different from other children?
Non-competitive and un-boisterous with peers. Sensitive to their environment and the behaviour and attitudes of others.
12. How does your child cope with school, school work, study, deadlines, speaking in front of others, following directions etc?
He really struggles to follow instructions and despite being a well mannered and good natured child was in constant trouble at school for lack of productivity and slowness.
13. What kind of questions does he/she tend to ask you or other adults?
What is happening next. What are we doing tomorrow. Where is Dad/Mum/brother etc. Who are we seeing. Who will be there. When can I next do....
14. What makes her/him laugh? What makes him/her cry?
Laugh: Films/books/cartoons about justice. For example a villain getting their just desserts. Animals behaving funny. Being tickled.
Cry: Injustice mostly or frustration. He rarely cries at injuries. Struggles to own up to blame or say sorry and will cry if he is reprimanded.
15. What makes him/her angry or irritable?
Not getting his own way. Jealousy. Being misunderstood.
16. What does your child do when alone?
Read books. Daydream. Play his guitar. Cuddle his cat. Play lego. Play computer games.
17. Is there a particular person or type of person that he/she reacts to, and what kind of reaction?
He strongly dislikes bullying, bravado, show-offs, bitchy, superficial and competitive types.
GENERAL STATE OF YOUR CHILD
1. What position does he/she sleep in?
On left side, knees drawn up and thumb sucking or on back with legs bent and feet flat on bed.
2. Is there any position he/she seems unable to sleep in?
Not sure.
3. Any unusual behavior during sleep?
Sometimes grinds teeth. Has a previous habit of bedwetting but this has now stopped.
4. Any problems with sleep?
Very light sleeper. Tosses and turns. Wakes early with the first sounds of the morning.
5. What foods are craved (cravings are strong desires) What foods are hated?
6. What drinks are craved? What drinks are hated?
Craves: Bread. Stodgy carbs. Nuts, seeds and dried fruit. Soups. Curry. Comforting foods.
Dislikes: sickly sweet foods, slimy foods, struggles to drink much, reluctant to eat vegetables and fruit.
7. How does he/she react when hungry, or hunger is prolonged?
He becomes grumpy.
8. How does the weather affect?
He is usually ok in most weathers. He particularly likes summer and warmer weather. He is less motivated in wet weather.
9. How does the temperature affect?
He doesn't seem overly affected by temperature.
10. Are there any other environmental influences negative or positive (season, noise, music, moon, light, dark, day, night, time, smells etc.)
He dislikes loud noises, strong wind. However he likes loud music of his choosing.
11. Problems with stool or bowel habit?
Problems with urine or bladder habit?
He has had problems with bladder control when anxious but this is currently under control.
He often has loose stools and smelly wind and he cannot hold on if he needs a stool. He has to evacuate urgently.
Hopefully that gives enough information to begin with. Thank you for your attention to this case.
zoezest 9 years ago
Alright I will get to work on this today. Clinic has been extremely busy for me this week and I have fallen a bit behind on these forum cases.
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Thank you so much. I appreciate you giving your time to my sons case.
I think there may be some questions I haven't answered in full as I was distracted and rushing a bit. Do please ask if you need further details.
Kind regards.
I think there may be some questions I haven't answered in full as I was distracted and rushing a bit. Do please ask if you need further details.
Kind regards.
zoezest 9 years ago
This is an interesting case, quite a well-developed picture in someone so young. There are a variety of directions I could go in, and I think in person I would explore this in different ways. However, with the limitations of working through forum posts, I will need to analyse it through symptoms to rubrics.
This is the core of the case I translated into rubrics (symptoms out of our repertory):
Jealousy from disappointed love
Forsaken feeling, not beloved by parents
Fear of being humiliated
Aversion to school
Mouth, child places fingers in
Aversion to slimy food
Ailments from reproaches
Ailments from being abused
Ailments from domination
Taciturn
Company, aversion to
Touch, aversion to
Anticipation, stage-fright
Injustice, cannot support (especially in children)
Sweets, aversion to
Aversion to vegetables
Desires bread
Aversion to fruit
As a total picture, this brings me to Nat-mur.
The picture of Nat-mur is as follows:
Hypersensitive, defensive, resentment
Great vulnerability, easily hurt
Desires solitude when hurt (or unwell)
Dwells on past disagreeable occurrences, can't or won't put old grievances out of their head, clings to traumatic experiences
Defensive and cautious
Consolation aggravates, especially physical, but they crave consolation from the right people
I would obtain Nat-mur 200c to begin with. Are you able to obtain this as a liquid dose rather than pillules?
This is the core of the case I translated into rubrics (symptoms out of our repertory):
Jealousy from disappointed love
Forsaken feeling, not beloved by parents
Fear of being humiliated
Aversion to school
Mouth, child places fingers in
Aversion to slimy food
Ailments from reproaches
Ailments from being abused
Ailments from domination
Taciturn
Company, aversion to
Touch, aversion to
Anticipation, stage-fright
Injustice, cannot support (especially in children)
Sweets, aversion to
Aversion to vegetables
Desires bread
Aversion to fruit
As a total picture, this brings me to Nat-mur.
The picture of Nat-mur is as follows:
Hypersensitive, defensive, resentment
Great vulnerability, easily hurt
Desires solitude when hurt (or unwell)
Dwells on past disagreeable occurrences, can't or won't put old grievances out of their head, clings to traumatic experiences
Defensive and cautious
Consolation aggravates, especially physical, but they crave consolation from the right people
I would obtain Nat-mur 200c to begin with. Are you able to obtain this as a liquid dose rather than pillules?
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Thank you for your fast response.
Yes I am able to purchase nat mur in oral liquid form, I will order it today.
Something I didn't think to mention was his relationship to his step brother (6 years senior), which has undoubtedly also contributed to his experience. He visits weekends and holidays and I have often noticed my son's behaviour becoming increasingly attention seeking and signs of jealousy. He is on a desperate quest for his father's undivided attention which I realise happens little due to commitments of work and siblings. I feel that my son is often jealous of his older brother's separate bond with their dad. He also undoubtedly feels jealousy towards his younger brother also and did not deal with his arrival too well, particularly in light of the difficulties at that time (hospitalisations, etc).
It is also relevant to mention that the paternal grandparents show great favouritism for the older stepson and always give great preference to him over the younger brothers which has caused great pain to my son and myself, though we quietly put up with it. My husband is aware of this dynamic but due his own guilt and family pressures seems unable to voice this or compensate in anyway.
I apologise for initially missing out this seemingly essential information! I assume however that it doesn't particularly affect your diagnosis as it still remains relevant to many of the traits you have listed.
I will wait for your advice before ordering the remedy.
Kind regards.
Yes I am able to purchase nat mur in oral liquid form, I will order it today.
Something I didn't think to mention was his relationship to his step brother (6 years senior), which has undoubtedly also contributed to his experience. He visits weekends and holidays and I have often noticed my son's behaviour becoming increasingly attention seeking and signs of jealousy. He is on a desperate quest for his father's undivided attention which I realise happens little due to commitments of work and siblings. I feel that my son is often jealous of his older brother's separate bond with their dad. He also undoubtedly feels jealousy towards his younger brother also and did not deal with his arrival too well, particularly in light of the difficulties at that time (hospitalisations, etc).
It is also relevant to mention that the paternal grandparents show great favouritism for the older stepson and always give great preference to him over the younger brothers which has caused great pain to my son and myself, though we quietly put up with it. My husband is aware of this dynamic but due his own guilt and family pressures seems unable to voice this or compensate in anyway.
I apologise for initially missing out this seemingly essential information! I assume however that it doesn't particularly affect your diagnosis as it still remains relevant to many of the traits you have listed.
I will wait for your advice before ordering the remedy.
Kind regards.
zoezest 9 years ago
It doesn't necessarily alter my choice, based on the whole of the case. The feeling of Nat-mur is to be rejected, and to feel care and attention is taken away from them, which makes them resentful. So I would still start with this remedy.
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Ok thanks Evocationer. That makes sense and I think I can understand how this has happened, probably several events compounding each other. Now that I am able to see the effect these events have had on his feelings I am hopeful that we can work holistically to improve things for him. Your input has already been invaluable in helping me to see the full picture.
He is already making progress due to changes we have made at home but I am hopeful that homeopathy can help to support him emotional and work on past events.
I am truly grateful for your assistance.
Best wishes.
He is already making progress due to changes we have made at home but I am hopeful that homeopathy can help to support him emotional and work on past events.
I am truly grateful for your assistance.
Best wishes.
zoezest 9 years ago
When you give him the dose, hit the bottle 5 times, and place a single drop on to his tongue. If he resists this, place the drop in a teaspoon of water instead. It doesn't really have to land on his tongue though, so anywhere in his mouth is fine.
Do this once only and let me know the results after 7 days (or whenever something interesting or unusual happens).
[message edited by Evocationer on Wed, 25 Jun 2014 01:45:42 BST]
Do this once only and let me know the results after 7 days (or whenever something interesting or unusual happens).
[message edited by Evocationer on Wed, 25 Jun 2014 01:45:42 BST]
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Thanks Evocationer, just to clarify - the single drop is the complete dose?
I have not yet received the remedy and we are going on holiday for a week from friday so it may a little while before I am able to get back to you with an update.
Kind regards.
I have not yet received the remedy and we are going on holiday for a week from friday so it may a little while before I am able to get back to you with an update.
Kind regards.
zoezest 9 years ago
zoezest 9 years ago
Yes a single drop is the full dose for the time being.
There are no restrictions on when he can take it.
The only thing you need to avoid is using medication to suppress any symptoms that come up after the remedy is given (homoeopathic aggravation).
There are no restrictions on when he can take it.
The only thing you need to avoid is using medication to suppress any symptoms that come up after the remedy is given (homoeopathic aggravation).
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Ok, that's fine. Remedy is due to arrive tomorrow morning so he will have the dose before we leave for holiday and I will observe him closely and give you an update in a week.
Thank you.
Thank you.
zoezest 9 years ago
Hi Evocationer, an update regarding my son's case.
He had the single dose approx 10 days ago now and we have been on holiday for a week so I have been trying to observe him although routine and environment have been abnormal.
I would say on the whole that he has been a bit more settled emotionally. He has slept well despite being in a tent and sharing a room, which would ordinarily be likely to disturb his sleep.
It is difficult to tell if these observations are due to the holiday vibe or the remedy but it has been positive so far.
Please advise if you wish me to give any further doses.
Kind regards.
He had the single dose approx 10 days ago now and we have been on holiday for a week so I have been trying to observe him although routine and environment have been abnormal.
I would say on the whole that he has been a bit more settled emotionally. He has slept well despite being in a tent and sharing a room, which would ordinarily be likely to disturb his sleep.
It is difficult to tell if these observations are due to the holiday vibe or the remedy but it has been positive so far.
Please advise if you wish me to give any further doses.
Kind regards.
zoezest 9 years ago
Some further observations today:
1. He seems less defensive when questioned about his behaviour (generally towards his younger brother).
2. I would say that he is a little more tolerant in general and less touchy. Less concerned with everything being divided exactly and absolutely fair (eg, sharing out snacks and taking turns on the computer).
3. He has complained of a tummy ache today briefly. Although he often gets them when he has consumed something glutenous, he rarely talks about it. So today it was unusual that he reported it. He didn't require any action just stated it and that it had soon passed. Not sure of the relevance of this.
I await your further instruction.
1. He seems less defensive when questioned about his behaviour (generally towards his younger brother).
2. I would say that he is a little more tolerant in general and less touchy. Less concerned with everything being divided exactly and absolutely fair (eg, sharing out snacks and taking turns on the computer).
3. He has complained of a tummy ache today briefly. Although he often gets them when he has consumed something glutenous, he rarely talks about it. So today it was unusual that he reported it. He didn't require any action just stated it and that it had soon passed. Not sure of the relevance of this.
I await your further instruction.
zoezest 9 years ago
Ok that is a good initial response.
Is anything completely unchanged?
Is anything worse than it was?
Is anything completely unchanged?
Is anything worse than it was?
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
He has possibly increased the amount he is sucking his thumb and biting his nails since returning from holiday but this could be due to tiredness.
His leg aches (due to infant talipes) are unchanged, he has mentioned them several times in the past week and has needed to rest. We have walked a lot but I feel he previously may not have mentioned his discomfort so readily and would have quietly soldiered on.
He has had a headache yesterday and today (only apparent when moving/jumping/shaking his head). He hasn't asked for medication for it and I haven't suggested it as I didn't want to mask any reactions to the remedy.
His is generally seeming more relaxed and calm than he has been in months and is definitely less defensive and more mature with regards to his interaction with his younger brother.
Is there anything I should pay particular attention to? Should I ask him directly if he has noticed any changes?
His leg aches (due to infant talipes) are unchanged, he has mentioned them several times in the past week and has needed to rest. We have walked a lot but I feel he previously may not have mentioned his discomfort so readily and would have quietly soldiered on.
He has had a headache yesterday and today (only apparent when moving/jumping/shaking his head). He hasn't asked for medication for it and I haven't suggested it as I didn't want to mask any reactions to the remedy.
His is generally seeming more relaxed and calm than he has been in months and is definitely less defensive and more mature with regards to his interaction with his younger brother.
Is there anything I should pay particular attention to? Should I ask him directly if he has noticed any changes?
zoezest 9 years ago
Further observation today - my 10 year old son ('R') candidly gave a hug to his younger brother ('J') at bedtime. This is very unusual and I feel is quite poignant.
Previously he would commonly over-react to any physical touch, nudge, tap, from his brother and claim he had been hurt by him in some way, however this hug was entirely instigated by him.
It was also very interesting to me that whilst on holiday last week, following a small dispute between siblings which resulted in R stomping off and sulking, J insisted that we all need to be more sensitive to R's feelings and that he believes that R gets hurt more easily and is sensitive to things that wouldn't bother/hurt others. J generally shows great compassion and affection towards R but his attentions are often rebuked. I think this display of compassion and protection has helped R to realise his own affection for his brother. I am certain that his reaction on this occasion was more positive than it might have been previously.
Previously he would commonly over-react to any physical touch, nudge, tap, from his brother and claim he had been hurt by him in some way, however this hug was entirely instigated by him.
It was also very interesting to me that whilst on holiday last week, following a small dispute between siblings which resulted in R stomping off and sulking, J insisted that we all need to be more sensitive to R's feelings and that he believes that R gets hurt more easily and is sensitive to things that wouldn't bother/hurt others. J generally shows great compassion and affection towards R but his attentions are often rebuked. I think this display of compassion and protection has helped R to realise his own affection for his brother. I am certain that his reaction on this occasion was more positive than it might have been previously.
zoezest 9 years ago
That change in him is extremely significant, and I am sure entirely instigated by the action of the remedy. It is a great start - really great!
I am hesitant to apply the medicine again yet though - I think he may still be in the process of changing. Do you feel comfortable waiting a bit longer?
I am hesitant to apply the medicine again yet though - I think he may still be in the process of changing. Do you feel comfortable waiting a bit longer?
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Hi, yes I am comfortable waiting a bit longer. I too feel that we are getting a good response from the remedy so far.
When would you like me to next report back to you?
Kind regards.
When would you like me to next report back to you?
Kind regards.
zoezest 9 years ago
Well another week would probably be appropriate, but obviously is anything interesting happens just post it here.
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Hello. It is approx 2 weeks since my last update regarding my son. These are my current observations.
Following a few weeks of better general mood and esteem he seems to have taken a backward step to the argumentative, defensive and jealous traits from before.
Over this last week especially I have seen many more arguments and scuffles with him and younger brother and an absolute refusal to take any responsibility for his behaviour or outbursts.
As before younger brother tends to protect and defend him but he rarely shows any thanks or appreciation for this.
He has been at his worst the past 2 days following a weekend visit from older half-brother and his behaviour is noticeably more attention seeking towards his Dad following the weekend.
Would you suggest a further dose of Nat Mur?
Many thanks for your time.
Following a few weeks of better general mood and esteem he seems to have taken a backward step to the argumentative, defensive and jealous traits from before.
Over this last week especially I have seen many more arguments and scuffles with him and younger brother and an absolute refusal to take any responsibility for his behaviour or outbursts.
As before younger brother tends to protect and defend him but he rarely shows any thanks or appreciation for this.
He has been at his worst the past 2 days following a weekend visit from older half-brother and his behaviour is noticeably more attention seeking towards his Dad following the weekend.
Would you suggest a further dose of Nat Mur?
Many thanks for your time.
zoezest 9 years ago
Interesting - there definitely is a theme of sibling rivalry isn't there. That may need to be explored more to make sure we have exactly the right remedy for him.
However, for the moment repeating the Nat-mur seems quite appropriate. Do one more dose exactly as before.
However, for the moment repeating the Nat-mur seems quite appropriate. Do one more dose exactly as before.
♡ Evocationer 9 years ago
Yes, I feel sibling rivalry is a big feature for my son! We obviously try to avoid any reason for rivalry but my son seems to take great offence when he is even slightly overlooked.
I can see several reasons for his feelings , especially where his half-brother and paternal grandparents are concerned. It would be helpful to find a way of dealing with this for him as it is a long-term issue unfortunately. He was badly teased at school for a number of years and I have no doubt this still affects his esteem also.
I will give him a repeat dose of nat mur tomorrow as before.
Many thanks for your time.
I can see several reasons for his feelings , especially where his half-brother and paternal grandparents are concerned. It would be helpful to find a way of dealing with this for him as it is a long-term issue unfortunately. He was badly teased at school for a number of years and I have no doubt this still affects his esteem also.
I will give him a repeat dose of nat mur tomorrow as before.
Many thanks for your time.
zoezest 9 years ago
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