birth stress - something mothers should know

Many people have asked for remedies or solutions to help the suffering of their young children, this is why I post this topic of birth stress. However I will not explain all sicknesses that you will be able to resolve, this would make a rather long post. Please read, if it makes sense to you and you want to know more about a specific illness within your child you can contact me.



BIRTH STRESS, or rather foetal stress, is a wide concept needing to be explained more thoroughly. Each human being is unique. His nature, habits, beliefs – that is, his experience gathered from past lives – makes him different from any other man.

There comes a time when the paths of two people cross – a man and a woman – who in addition to their past lives’ experience have gathered knowledge from their present physical existence. They conceive the physical body of a child who is a Spirit desperately needing to come into this world. It has had a much bigger say in forming its own body than we can imagine. This can be clearly seen in situations where the man and the woman do not want a baby but, despite all their careful planning, the baby still manages to be born. The same applies in cases where a man and a woman have longed for a baby for years but nothing happens because there is no spirit in need of that particular body.

As we can see, the greatest factor influencing the act of conception is the child itself. The child comes to this life equipped with experiences from its previous existences but none from the life it has just arrived in. That is why
It has to come – to learn.

The child’s relation with its mother and father are determined by the nature of the relationship with its parents in his previous life. In case the relations between child and mother in a past life were not good and the child has chosen me for a parent, it means that I too need to learn this lesson of communication.

So, three entirely different characters have come together. One of them, for example, may have lived in Russia a hundred years ago, another, two hundred years back in France, the third, three hundred years ago in America, but still the same spiritual truths apply to all of them – they are all God’s children.

The foetal period and the rest of man’s life can be compared to a folding screen, where the foetal period is symbolized by the folded state of the screen and the rest of life, by the screen as it is spread out. All that happens during the time the baby spends in the womb – the folded up state – will manifest itself during its lifetime, more and more clearly, because of the accumulation of similar stresses.

Stresses breed a lot misunderstanding. The baby has to start setting right its parents’ mistakes from the moment of birth. The reason for the child coming into this life are intertwined with these same problems, only the priorities often get mixed up. The child’s nature and its purpose for coming into this world often have a great deal to do with the parents, but this too is the same as any other obstacle – to be overcome in order to rise higher and clear the path to move on.

The Spirit of the child, when it comes to Earth, is always pure and the feeling of love for its parents is great and sincere. With unending gentleness it seeks out the two people best equipped to give it what it has come to life to experience – difficulties. Here the problems begin, because the parents hand over their own problems, the ones they themselves are supposed to deal with, to the baby. If only we knew how to understand each other, there would be no problems.

Before going any further I would like to repeat, so that you can truly understand:

There is no good and no bad, everything just IS in its goodness and badness.

The same rule applies to the parents. The subject of parents is a particular tender one, as nobody wants his wounds ripped open. If someone has problems with his parents, nobody else has the right to interfere. But you want (your son) to be healthy, don’t you? By denying your problems you are accepting sickness.

Sometimes the problem may be so extreme in its nature that the person prefers to remain ill. There are parents who refuse to accept the concept of foetal stress as, despite lengthy explanations, they feel they are being blamed.

There is no fault, only the main cause, born out of misunderstanding.

By acknowledging the problem, it is possible to remove the stress (Sickness). The bundle of stress begins to disentangle and the sickness disappears. Relations with parents become free of tension and after so many years the person finds his real mother and father. People often tell me, “I feel so free and light at heart. Suddenly, we communicate so easily. I myself was the one who didn’t understand my parents.” A lot of them are the ones who knew they were unwanted and because of that, their parents didn’t love them. The constant feeling of not being wanted had made them ill. By forgiving, the person’s own stresses are set free and he is surprised to see that other people too have changed in the process.

The baby comes to life along a symbolic road of fate. It is a ROAD, taking it to the DOORSTEP and from there to a ROOM – LIFE. The left side of all that was described is influenced by the father and the right side, by the mother.

The ROAD symbolizes the Spirit; the way it arrives in this life from its previous existences, some come with a quick step and a purposeful mind, some waltz along merrily, some come with a wary heart. Some make it their solemn intention to adapt to every circumstance, some, have curiosity and a desire to understand everything, and there are those who are in a hurry to begin this life because the last one was too painful in its lessons.

The child body is created by sexual intercourse. The Spirit of the baby arrives:

- before intercourse – those are the children who want to improve their fate in advance – approximately 8-9%;
- during intercourse – those who had realized at the last moment that something could be improved – approximately 20%;
- hours after intercourse, at the time when ovum is fertilized by sperm – those who accept their fate – approximately 70%;
- later in the pregnancy – the late comers who keep their distance from life and don’t particularly care what happens to the body – approximately 1-2%.

The DOORSTEP symbolizes the aims and objectives in life. The way those objectives are reached is also distinct. Some step over the threshold without paying much attention to it, recklessly, as if annoyed at its being in the way. Some wait, expecting to be called in. some realize that they are standing at the threshold and savor the joy of the moment. Some cross the doorway without even noticing that it is there. The methods of getting over a high doorstep are equally numerous: some haul themselves heavily to the other side on their belly, relieved to have finally crossed over; some are angry that they had to exert themselves. Observe yourself crossing any ordinary threshold or doorstep – how do you do it and what do you feel? By answering this question you’ll see how easy or hard your goals come to you. It is especially educational to observe a small baby crawl over a doorstep.

The ROOM symbolizes a baby’s life at the moment of its beginning. Everyone is capable of changing his own life but nature of the very first moments depends solely on the parents. Every spirit sees right away if the room it is stepping into is bright lit as if filled with sunshine – positive – or as dark as night – negative; or if the lightening in the room is diffused; or if it’s filled with clouds of fog. Nothing is without meaning. The energetic of the room depend on the parents, their love and mutual relations. The parents may be fine people, loving, respecting each one another, educated or un-educated, but if there is no true love between them to provide a firm basis for a passionate sexual relationship, the room will be dim. When relations between mother and father are anything but ideal and where there is no real understanding between them, if they can still remember the love they once had, that in occasional moments of desire still brings them together in passionate lovemaking, then the room will be well lit – at least at the moment the spirit arrives. It makes the Spirit happy and this person will know how to love.

The moment of conception marks the beginning of the journey of the physical man. At that time three components come together to form the human being in its entirety: the formative primeval energy of subtle matter, the energy necessary for life and the eternal and invisible self. Up to that moment, the person inside – the self – has not been considered a true being of the Earth.

There are the very few who come earlier to make a proper start to the formation of their physical body. The Spirit has considerable willpower and its strength lies in love, as does everything else remaining of value in this world. If the spirit has suffered from a lack of nurturing and love from its parents in its previous existence, it now takes good care to arrive early. It gives the parents, who might otherwise not have too much passion for each other, such a powerful impulse of love that it makes them crash together in the act of love like two balls of fire. The pillar of love created in that explosion will remain in the child’s heart forever. Life may be very hard but it goes through it without bitterness and everything it does is a success.

There are some concepts which denigrate sexuality as something immoral. There is only one absolute truth in the world and that is God. If God has given us sexual organs and caused us to breed in that way to carry on life, then physical love between a man and a woman is as sacred as everything else in God’s creation.

Love, the greatest value of all, is the primary condition necessary to conceive a child and the greatest heritage anyone can wish for. A child, bred with love, knows how to love himself, and a person who knows how to love himself, will know how to love others.

As my job is healing people – that is the sick – I can assure you that I have met very few sick people who have been bred with love. But how can the spirit know if the parents are in love or not?

A spirit that arrives hours after intercourse, at the time when the actual fertilization takes place, will probably finds his parents fast asleep. The Spirit doesn’t know that people work in the daytime and sleep at night. It comes to the conclusion that nobody is expecting it, nobody is asking it to come in. all it can see, is total indifference and so the first stresses are born – I am not expected, I am not needed, I am not loved.

The spirit of a child stands between its mother and father. All that the father thinks of the mother and in life in general, as well as all that the mother thinks of the father and life in general passes through the child as through a thin sheet of paper, leaving holes – stresses – in the child’s soul.

Hearing this, a lot of parents are hurt: Well it’s its own fault – who told it to take those things to its heart. We never meant it any harm!” In their own way they are right but had the room been well-lit, the spirit would have seen more clearly and entered with a light heart.

Dear parents, if you only knew how much hurt your children have to go through during the first minutes of their lives! You never guess a thing; you don’t even know that you have just started a new life. Unfortunately, a lot of children are not planned. Waiting ten years to get pregnant is not planning a baby. Planning means that you plan to conceive a baby today and that is what you proceed to do. Mothers are often annoyed when told that the child’s stress is caused by a lack of family planning.

When a man and a woman have longed for a baby for many years and gone to bed every night feeling guilty, doubtful and hopeless, then the spirit, too, feels a lot of tension. But the tension it feels is something entirely different by nature.

The spirit has made its conclusions based on the experience of the past existence. Its ideas can and may be changed but to do this, you have to address the Spirit, ask it to forgive you and explain the problem.

If the child’s spirit takes the mother’s attitude towards the father and to the whole world as her attitude towards it personally, it can only come to the conclusion that Mother, and consequently all women, think like that. If the spirit is a girl, she will see herself through her mother’s problems.

If the child’s spirit takes the father’s attitude towards the mother and women in general personally, he will develop the idea that all men and thus Father must feel that way – particularly towards his child.

When the woman has the notion that she is a poor unhappy creature and all men are pigs then the child is bound to feel the same way in the future. If the child’s past lives have proved something different, the two ideas clash in his mind. The outcome depends on which experience is stronger. But in case the child’s past life experience was anything like that which the mother feels, then the mother’s attitude will be further magnified in the child.




The child’s self-image will develop according to its sex. If it is a girl, she will grow into a whiner, avoiding men at any cost and, should she somehow manage to marry, will surely turn her husband into an uncaring and impatient bully with her endless moaning. If the child is a boy, he will feel sorry for the women and let them treat him any way they want to. deep down he will feel unworthy for not being able to fulfill their every wish and may die of a heart attack, stroke or cancer of the lungs at a very early age. This, by the way, also applies to men who have very understanding wives. Everybody sighs with regret, “He was such a good man. Why did he have to die so soon…” The mother of the dead man will, of course, blame the daughter-in-law for not taking proper care of her son.

So the first stresses are born during the first minutes of the foetus’ life. The Spirit feels a terrible longing to be like its mother and father, even if they hurt it terrible. The Spirit knows that it has picked its parents with love and the choice it made is sacred.

The mother should address the spirit as it stands on the threshold of life and say, “Dear baby, please forgive us for not knowing how to love you, so that the feeling might light up your life. We just don’t know how; we have no real understanding of sexuality and we don’t feel particularly close to each other. We were fast asleep at the time you were standing on the doorstep, waiting to be asked in. please don’t be hurt, we just didn’t know that you were there. Try not to take it personally but learn something from it. You know, people usually work during the daytime and sleep at night and that is normal. The Spirit doesn’t need any sleep – that’s why you may have thought that nobody was expecting you, and that nobody loves you. Please, learn from what happened. We have waited for you. We love you very much.” Parents should know that the threshold of life is the place where the child’s attitude to the world has its beginning.

The women of long ago may not have had particularly high IQ, but they had one immense advantage over modern women – when they conceived, they became one with their pregnancy; they were motherhood incarnate; they were the perpetual motherhood. Everything they met on their way was instantly understood by the baby, and it was born without stress and could start to learn its own lessons right away.

The 20th century woman carries a child under the slogan: Me and My Pregnancy. The material side of life clouds the feelings and the woman doesn’t know how to communicate with the unborn baby. That is why the baby is born with stress and instead of being able to begin its own life, has to start dealing with its parents’ problems first.

The woman planning a baby would actually be able to communicate with the child’s spirit long before it was born, if she addressed the Spirit as a friend and opened up her heart to it, asking it to forgive her for all the possible mistakes she might make out of ignorance, and if she taught the child to deal with mistakes with reason. That would, indeed, be communication worthy of the high intellectual level of the modern woman.

If the woman, from the very moment of conception, took the trouble to comment on everything she was doing, to the baby, then the baby would have no stresses at all. The mother could teach the child in the following manner: “Sweetheart, look what a wonderful day it is! I feel so great. Put that feeling in your heart, it will make you strong. I love you.” Maybe a dog yaps at her and she is startled. She tells the baby: “Sorry, honey, I gave you a start but you know, I have always been frightened of dogs. There’s nothing I can do about it. But you can accept it with reason, then you’ll be strong and wise and not scared of dogs. Don’t ever take the bad things into your heart – their place is in your reason. Always know that I love you and everything will be just fine.” And then she will forgive herself for being startled and the dog for its mischief.

In real life, such situations are usually different. The woman carries the scare in her heart throughout the whole pregnancy, wondering if the baby is all right. Each time she remembers the incident, she is adding to the stress and it is quite possible that the problem will erupt in the form of sickness. All unpleasantness that takes place at home or work has to be explained to the child to the best of the mother’s understanding.

It is not uncommon for the interference of grandparents in the family’s life to be quite forceful. They think they have every right to decide whether a grandchild should be born or not without ever realizing what stress they bring on their child and grandchild by taking such liberties.

If you feel unable to explain a situation to the Spirit of your child, you can just say, “I’m sorry but I simply can’t understand what it’s all about, but I’m sure that you’ll grow up to be wiser than me and will be able to use this experience. Learn from it. I love you.” And the child’s stresses will be released.

Children born without foetal stress starts to hold their heads up right away raise their heads and are able to fix their glance on an object. Approximately 15 women, who had unsuccessfully fought against infertility for 5 to 15 years, gave birth to healthy children during the past year. A couple of these women who has 1 to 3 children in childbirth due to various reasons. When the first baby born without stress was brought to me 6 days after being born and raised its head from its blankets, looked around, found me with its eyes and gave me a wide smile, I was shocked, in the best possible sense of the word. Now, after having more experience, I know that if a new born baby is not like that, then the mother has not been up to the mark.

Every mother should know that she is the only one providing the channel for the baby to be born. The baby would know exactly what to do, if only the mother would not keep interfering in its arrival with her stress. Neither the woman’s anatomy nor the size of the baby is an obstacle for its life.

Dear mother(s), if you can do nothing else, then at least tell your baby at the time it is being born, “Dear baby, I love you, I’m waiting for you! Come! All is well!” And the baby, the Great Lover, will come. Is there anything else for it to do but come, when the mother calls out to it?

The midwife has a very special role to play. The midwife symbolizes LIFE, she is the very first person that the baby will see. The midwife determines the child’s later relations with other people. If she is serious and worried, then all the new people the child meets in life will be the same – worried and serious. If she feels dissatisfied the new people in the child’s life will be discontent too. And if she is kind and loving the child will meet a lot of loving and kind people on his way.

- Dear midwife, if something tells you that the delivery is not going well and that you should do something to help, then the greatest favor you can give is to talk to the baby whose mother has not known how to communicate with it. Tell the child, “Please sweetie, come out! Come for my sake, if nothing else. I love you and want to bring you healthy into this beautiful world. All will go well!” Tell the woman to do the same and even if she doesn’t believe in the power of the word, at least you are setting your mistake right in the eyes of God-.

You should know that a lot of children have been won back to life only by the midwife’s kindness of heart, directed towards the baby. Maybe you have a difficult patient, who causes a stress of antipathy in you with her behavior. Nonetheless, her child deserves to be loved just the same, and some day when you are in trouble, the child will come back into your life to help you out. (There is no coincident in life) There are no lucky chances and no strange coincidences in life; action is always followed by result. When a person strikes lucky once in a while, he has given himself this piece of luck a long time ago by some forgotten good deed. And should you stand face to face with danger; the Spirit of such child will direct help your way to save you from death. A good deed is rewarded in this manner; this is the universal rule. I hope you understand now how wonderful the work of the midwife is?

The mechanism of stress formation is the same for everybody. The mother has an obligation to teach the baby. There are some spirits who are already able to think in their foetal stage but there are not many.

The stress, in principle, is still the belief of each individual person; the other party may not even be aware of it because he didn’t mean or plan it this way. He just feels that there is tension in the air.

The act of forgiving has to come from the person who feels bad.
Now lets us return to the Doorstep once again because this is the place we get our stresses of beginning things and new beginnings.

Often the child has chosen a threshold too high for him and climbing over it is difficult and frightening. A stress is born, causing the person to be afraid of new beginnings. The mother should tell the child, “Sweetheart, the doorstep you have chosen is too high. Forgive your aims for being too high for you. The doorstep will not suddenly grow any smaller but you’ll grow bigger. Please learn from it, take it with reason; I know that you are wise. I’m just teaching you what I know. I love you.”

Everyone should contemplate what their mother has told them and think about her remembrances. Find out what your parents’ life was like during the time your mother was pregnant and forgive your parents for not explaining their problems to you. And if somebody still says, “But my mother and father didn’t know all that. I just learned it myself”, then try to understand that nobody is blaming your parents. In the kingdom of God there is no fault. The act that mankind today is not willing to receive the divine wisdom is a bitter lesson for everybody, including you and your parents. But still, the people who, throughout their life, have kept their hearts open to kindness (and nobody is denied this right) have a light heart and a peaceful mind. They are considered lucky by others.

All mistakes can be put right and by doing so, you do yourself and a lot of other peoples a big favor. Also, you are improving your future as much as humanly possible. Some roads of life are wide – meaning that there is a lot to be improved. The road of a negative person is usually wider than that of the more spiritual individual, as the rise in the spiritual wisdom brings about and added responsibility to experience less physical suffering, to move on more quickly and achieve more.

All the happiness and sorrow coming into the pregnant woman’s life must be explained to the baby. Each negativity presses down on the body as does any other load. If the expectant mother feels that her feet are killing her, if they are heavy and swollen, if her belly hangs low and the pubic bone hurts, if her bladder is constantly bursting and the baby is restless, it is quite clear that something has to be done to help her and the baby.

First of all stretch yourself, then forgive your difficulties, ask your body and the baby to forgive you and lastly, stretch yourself once more. Do not be afraid to stretch. The common, but mistaken, belief is that when the woman stretches her back, the child may abort.

The pregnancy ends in spontaneous abortion if

- the baby feels that it is not loved. It is loaded with the problems of its parents to the critical limit and that causes the spirit to depart. How long can it suffer? If the mother now dedicates herself to carrying her pregnancy to term with love and care then the baby will stay, but if she worries, is frightened of losing the baby and is looking for someone to blame, then this stress is added to all her earlier stresses. In that case no cure can help her. Fear blocks the adrenal glands and the child decides to leave rather than have a life like that. Artificially keeping the pregnancy from termination for moths, without removing the stresses, will result in pathological delivery and a sick baby.
- The spinal column has sunk. The IV lumbar vertebra supplies the womb with energy. The womb is the baby’s cradle and the organ of maternity. The stresses of the mother and her daughter – a future mother – make the womb heavy, positive energy is destroyed and the womb has no strength to hold on to the pregnancy. If the IV lumbar vertebra is sunk then during pregnancy it cannot hold the baby in and during delivery it hinders the baby’s birth.

The same applies to premature birth. Premature babies are fighters who, instead of suffering or being destroyed, decide to escape. They hurry away from the place where they had a hard time, in the hope that the situation will be easier in the future. To retain them is to destroy them because they know best when the best chance fro them to save their skin is. Each positive interference: the mother’s hope, a good thought, release of stress and supportive attitude of the doctors and nurses, will help to carry the pregnancy to term. Medication is not proper solution to the problem.

You may inject the woman with distilled water and keep suggesting to her, very sincerely and with great strength of mind, that everything will go well – and that’s exactly what will happen. Even when prescribing the latest and most potent medication, half the effect will still rest on the power of the mind. Scientists have researched the so-called placebo effect for a long time, but only from the patient’s side. In actual fact, the will-power of a midwife or a doctor is as strong as the patient’s, or even stronger in critical situations, because it is more aware and directed.

The spirit of a child is self-sacrificing. Its love for its parents and for life is such that the child may tightly connect itself to the parents so that it cannot forget them even if it tried. It may take the burden of the parent’s troubles upon itself. A lot of mothers feel as if all their worries have lifted from them during their pregnancy. They feel that nothing in the world can touch them. Mothers explain the cause of their inner calm by reference to the fact that throughout the pregnancy they had nothing on their mind but the well-being of their baby. Unfortunately, they are often deceiving themselves. If you used to be overly sensitive before, then the child just takes your troubles on to itself and, later on, it doesn’t know how to let them go.

In addition to the procedure for forgiving, each expectant mother should teach her baby in the following manner: “Dear child, everyone has his own fate. Your father has his, and I have mine. We all have to manage the lessons of our life’s by ourselves. It is a mistake to take other peoples’ troubles on yourself. They will not feel better – but you will feel worse. You must learn from other peoples’ mistakes, teach them and give them support, but taking their mistakes upon yourself is a crime. By doing this you are taking the other person’s lesson, i.e. his chance to learn something, from him, and he will remain ignorant. Please accept this with your reason. Learn from it. I love you!”

Dear mothers
The child understands everything, you only have to explain and ask him to find a reasonable solution to the problem. The spirit is very wise, but its wisdom is never unlimited nor final in any sense.

Being born feels like entering a comfortable cave or canal to the baby. The canal begins with a wide festive looking entrance and ends with a narrow gate for exit. The birth canal lies to left side of life – the side of the father or power – as delivery takes great effort and clarity of mind. Children of unwed mothers or children whose father lives away from home feel a lack of the father’s support. If the mother forgives the father his absence, explains everything to the child and asks it to forgive her, the child will not develop a stress. The child is able to mobilize itself, for its own and for its mother’s sake.

Natural childbirth, where the father participates, is perfection and everybody gains more from it than the can even begin to imagine. My practice has proved it over and over again. For instance, a 30-year old first-time mother, weighing 50 kilo’s, who had been treated for infertility for ten years, delivered a healthy baby, weighing 4500 gram in less then 6 hours. The child was able to raise its head and fix its glance on objects immediately after birth.
And so the unbelievable turns into the natural and what is natural will soon be taken for granted. Childbirth is a natural process.

We have already touched upon the role of the midwife. Let me just add one more example to what was said before.

AN EXAMPLE FROM LIFE
A woman was in labor. The baby was so full of stress that it felt it was going to die. A young and inexperienced midwife was delivering the baby but sensing the gravity of the situation felt completely at a loss. However, she happened to be in love; her soul was filled to the brim with love. She instinctively clasped her hands together as if in prayer and from the bottom of her heart begged the baby to be born safely. She just couldn’t imagine what would happen to her if the baby should die. It was the cry of a loving heart and the baby heard it. It felt that it was the one who was loved; the midwife was the first person who loved it and so it rushed out to meet her. Labor was unexpectedly intensified and the baby was born safely and in good health.

The midwife was so happy, that she felt ready to cry, and a big tear of relief rolled down her nose and fell on the baby’s tummy, spreading like a hot sun all over it. It was the proof of happy love.

The woman, whose birth stress we were releasing, cried out happily when she heard this, “Now I know why I always put my hands on my stomach when I feel bad. I immediately start feeling all nice and warm”.
“And I bet you like people who walk by you in the street with a drop on the tip of their nose?”
“Oh yes, I find them so endearing!” was her answer.

Everyone has his own way to love.

I want to explain some more on this topic of birth stress, I would like to explain certain pathology, increasingly common in recent years, and to show you children illnesses and how to cure them. However the ABC forum doesn’t like lengthy explanations, so in case you want to know more about children disease coming from Birth stress, please contact me.

Dr. Beek