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9 year old with breastfed trauma
Dear group, i had posted recenlty regardingy son and lung problems. gladly it has improved.This morning I spoke to him, he is a very attached person and has a helicopter mother (mother who can not let go and controlls all and is very strict, due to her cathlic upbringing)..
this morning he said, he sleeps almost every night in his moms bed (a coach, so not much space, like a baby mother situaion). extremely pervert i think. talking to the mother wont bring anything....
When talking to him, i remember a HUGE trauma, he experience when he was 2. He was breastfed and his mother decided to study (eduation brings progress/wealth she thinks)), due to fear of many things. Exential issues. He prefer to work instead of being a mother. (no judgement, just to describe)
She was studying and often late awake until night to write assignments. Waking up late, meanwhile I had prepared all. he got at the breast and then bcs she had to go, being PULLED OFF the breast.
What i write now, i am very angy aboutmyself i have not stood up and left her with my son.
My son then cried literally ALL DAY. from when she left until 2-3h afternoon. I could not calm him down. I dont know why i have not done anything. i am a weak person too, controlled by women.
This has lasted for 1 year almost. now thinking of it breaks my heart.
but its good i remember.. before i was shut down by my ex wife. "i am stupid, this is nothing bad" (so she did not had to feel bad)..
The result is for me.. his lung problems. He is otherwise a health child.
But fearful to discover the world (only with mommy). , not able to speak up (bcs mother would shut him down as she has shut down me, she is a dragon)..
he is very intelligent.
Eating a lot of sweets (lack of sweetness in his life?).
Stroing endurance in running. he can go and on. very healthy otherwise.
He had 5 vaccince (MMR and something else, the basic 5 you get first)
He had chick pocks.
This fear of disovering the world stands in his path. We need help. and heal this trauma..
Please can yoou help???
funnytree on 2016-10-09
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he had always chronic bronchities, the last 2 years perhaps 12 times in one year. I did sport with him and build his confidence. it helped.
he had also on left wing lung a weak pheomenia last year.
he had also on left wing lung a weak pheomenia last year.
funnytree 7 years ago
Dear funnytree,
Besides having someone keep prescribing for your son, you will benefit yourself from treatment.
Two things I want to point out( I used to be a counselor)
Boys around puberty need to go from mother's world into fathers world. A woman cannot teach a guy how to feel like a man. For instance, women
Like to talk things out, they often do not care about solving the problem.
Venting and having someone listen
Lets them come to the answer.
Men and boys like space given to solve issues. They open up doing activity with the dad or male therapist. Taking a walk, going fishing, or doing some activities , provides a space where they will confide and bond.
In ancient days, it was a ritual where
Boys went from mothers world into fathers world. Humans are hard wired for this and many things despite what
Technology and working hours are doing to family life.
On you: right treatment will let your strong self come out. Your wife will recognize it and there will be a shift.just think about how you intuitively Know! That you cannot manipulate certain people. Why is that? Because humans recognize energy fields in seconds.
So if you change your relationship power structure will change and you can implement what is healthy for your son.
Besides having someone keep prescribing for your son, you will benefit yourself from treatment.
Two things I want to point out( I used to be a counselor)
Boys around puberty need to go from mother's world into fathers world. A woman cannot teach a guy how to feel like a man. For instance, women
Like to talk things out, they often do not care about solving the problem.
Venting and having someone listen
Lets them come to the answer.
Men and boys like space given to solve issues. They open up doing activity with the dad or male therapist. Taking a walk, going fishing, or doing some activities , provides a space where they will confide and bond.
In ancient days, it was a ritual where
Boys went from mothers world into fathers world. Humans are hard wired for this and many things despite what
Technology and working hours are doing to family life.
On you: right treatment will let your strong self come out. Your wife will recognize it and there will be a shift.just think about how you intuitively Know! That you cannot manipulate certain people. Why is that? Because humans recognize energy fields in seconds.
So if you change your relationship power structure will change and you can implement what is healthy for your son.
♡ simone717 7 years ago
thanks.. yes I know.. waldorf eeducation speaks about this. but how to explain the mother.
I know i need to work on myself to be an example and help him, i am waiting right now i posted already. but had to wait that the remedy stops working..
But the trauma i can not heal. I need to heaal this, bcs of this he is not able to leave her in a healthy way. he is angry. or tooo attached.
I know what you say, treat first the dad and then the son, but i think the trauma needs to be healed . all the rest i do??
I know i need to work on myself to be an example and help him, i am waiting right now i posted already. but had to wait that the remedy stops working..
But the trauma i can not heal. I need to heaal this, bcs of this he is not able to leave her in a healthy way. he is angry. or tooo attached.
I know what you say, treat first the dad and then the son, but i think the trauma needs to be healed . all the rest i do??
funnytree 7 years ago
Yes the trauma is part of the case.
Survival depends on not being rejected by the mother. It is basic,
And the emotions and fear are absorbed direct into the amygdala-
Emotional body as the front brain
Cognitive ability to make sense of this is not operating for some time.
This is why it is good to tackle this now. Bc the emotional releases have zero to do with present time life.
They have to be tolerated and they will go. Adults can feel like they are going crazy with this stuff coming up and out as it seems out of nowhere.
If your ex is so intelligent perhaps she could be reasoned with as child has not progressed thru normal stages of development .. obviously!
I would try to plan a strategy out as in all or you and her go to counseling as far as parenting being on same page.
Bc of course you both want child healthy and in same level as others.
What happens a lot with these forceful mothers is child is 25 years old, unable to leave the house, or on
Meds .
You have to confront and if you need therapy just for you to get direction and strength, take that step now.
Survival depends on not being rejected by the mother. It is basic,
And the emotions and fear are absorbed direct into the amygdala-
Emotional body as the front brain
Cognitive ability to make sense of this is not operating for some time.
This is why it is good to tackle this now. Bc the emotional releases have zero to do with present time life.
They have to be tolerated and they will go. Adults can feel like they are going crazy with this stuff coming up and out as it seems out of nowhere.
If your ex is so intelligent perhaps she could be reasoned with as child has not progressed thru normal stages of development .. obviously!
I would try to plan a strategy out as in all or you and her go to counseling as far as parenting being on same page.
Bc of course you both want child healthy and in same level as others.
What happens a lot with these forceful mothers is child is 25 years old, unable to leave the house, or on
Meds .
You have to confront and if you need therapy just for you to get direction and strength, take that step now.
♡ simone717 7 years ago
Sounds like the mother could benefit from homepathy too. Want of control, fear of poverty, that is all symptoms. Maybe you could open a separate thread to help her.
cosmicweaver 7 years ago
Yes, it would be great if mother was open to homeopathy. But she has to want to do this, and give symptoms and reports in her own words.
And understand aggravations.
Many people attempt to treat adult family on here, who think homeopathy is (eye roll) sugar pills etc and then get angry at aggravation and refuse to try again.
And understand aggravations.
Many people attempt to treat adult family on here, who think homeopathy is (eye roll) sugar pills etc and then get angry at aggravation and refuse to try again.
♡ simone717 7 years ago
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