dear bandarababu2000 ..help me please !!!.

Dear Murthy,

I am new to ABC forum and on my first visit I saw some threads of your and Redstorm communication. I copied the question you asked with a thought that it may be helpful to me also :

Kindly go through these and PLEASE HELP ME…..!!! I am in great pain …



1.What is the main reason you need treatment?

Ans. The main reason why I need treatment is first that almost daily I have dull headache which sometimes becomes unbearable and I have to take the pain killers like Combiflam or Nimulide….the pain is on the left side of head which starts usually at 1-2 p.m. and becomes severe by 4-5 p.m. and last till 8 pm at night…..the pain is like strong puls or throbbing…..I have to lie down and relax + take medicines…
Secondly my stomach is upset since last 10-12 years…every morning I have to go to toilet 2-3 times but still the pain remains in the stomach and feeling of insufficiency remains there…..Third, I am having a strange pain in my lower abdominal area..there is a swelling also on the right side in the groin and feels that hernia would appear, there is swelling in the right side testicle and feels something is bulging in it on it…the spermatic cord also seems swelled and loosened as if hanging down with pain…..if I press the right side with my hand over pelvic region I feel relaxed and pain becomes low….there are lot more reasons but I feel what I mentioned was of supreme importance for me….

2.Describe your complaints giving the following details:

a. What does it feel like?
Ans. It feels like a load in the lower abdomen, I also have too much gas struck in the abdomen area ( whole of abdomen )

b. When does it happen?
Ans. The pain remains through out the day and night , becomes worse on movements, and after sex it also gets increased.The gastric problem is worse at night after dinner and in bed…..in the morning too before going to toilet I feel it too much…the stool is passed with great straining and I have to sit even for 20 minutes….the urine is coming with thick white mucous…before the stool….

c. What sort of things make it worse?
Ans. If I eat potatoes , bananas hemorrhoids appear and start paining, otherwise I feel pain very off and on…milk also doesn’t suits me… I don’t actually know what makes it worse….

d. What sort of things make it better?
Ans. As far as flatulence is concerned it feels better after satisfactory stool pass out usually from 11am to 2pm but after taking lunch the abdomen again starts feeling heavy and dropping down…

e. What else was happening when it first appeared?
Ans. The pain in testes and groin is I am most worried about…it first happened when I was having heavy round of petting and sex with my girlfriend……she is my class mate since graduation first year and we are neighbors, and since last 7 years we are having sexual relations, healthy ones…..she is 100% trusted that she is having only me as her sex partner….one day after sex I felt pain tearing and unbearable pain in my testicle ( right side ) extending to abdomen…I could n’t even sit or stand….I had to lie down and fold my legs to the abdomen to feel better…it lasted for 30 minutes…….it appeared first time 4 years back….since than I am having this pain….I tried a lot of medicines but nothing relieved this…….I also consulted some specialist surgeons and they said its normal…..and gave me just paim killers….the pain however returned…

f. Describe the quality of the pain, being as creative as you can. How would someone else imagine the pain happening to them?
Ans. The pain is like , there is feeling that the right testicle has become numb and hanging down, with spermatic cords loosening and swelled with pain, upon touching or gently holding from side it feels that there is small lump in the testicle ( which doctor has said normal upon check up )…but I feel it ….the pain….the pain than feels passing upwards to the right side of the lower abdomen and passing through the pelvic region ( above hip and where abdomen ends ) and goes to the lower back ( right side )…..the pain also passes downwards to the right thigh…upto a very small node there which appears bluish….and hard to touch….

g. What does it look like?
Ans. I am confused that what it actually is…is it the back pain which is passing through the pelvis to the spermatic cord and than to testes or the otherway….Sometimes I feel that my intestine would slip into the scrotum….

h. Do any other symptoms occur immediately before, during or after?
Ans.Right leg feels numb sometimes during the pain, I feel discomfort in standing from sitting and also the lower back pains if I remain standing for more than 5-6 minutes…this pain increases when the stomach is bloated with flatulence / gas and normally I feel relevied when there is no gastric problem….

3. What illnesses have you had in the past?
Ans. In 1995 I fell seriously ill by attack of pleurisy in my right lung. It was fully recovered by the coarse which ran till one and half year ( Arcinex + Combutol )….I also had problem of eruptions ( watery bubbles ) on my hands fingers earlier…for which I took electro homeopathic treatment which didn’t worked , however after the pleurisy treatment they disappeared.

4. What illnessess run in the family?
Ans. My mother is high blood pressure and kidney cist patient and my father and uncles have problem of chest pain, sugar, hammerrhoids…

5. What do people die from in the family?
Ans. Natural death….

6. What medication are you on?
Ans. These days I am on homeopathic meds. After trying a lot of unani medicines and allopathic… I even went for my complete body check up in the Apollo hospital Delhi…but the doctor said the problem lies in your mind ( laughing )


7. What foods do you crave, whether you allow yourself to eat them or not? List from the strongest craving to the weakest.
Ans.I strongly Crave for sweets and have them often, I drink a lot of tea ( usually 5-6 cups a day or 2-3 sometimes ), I like chicken & meat…
Things what I crave for but do not eat are : Potato chips, Pizza, Burger….but again I prefer sweets than salty things..

8. What foods do you have an aversion to? (hatred or repulsion for)
Ans. I have hatred to pulses, certain vegetables…..If eat Bananas I feel constriction in my anal opening and pain also…the pilescomes outside…the same is the case with potato….I only eat selected dishes….( Like Chicken & Meat curries, Biryani, Khichdi, Saldads etc.)

9. What is your level of thirst, and what do you prefer to drink?
Ans. I prefer water to drink when I am thirsty…In winters it is OK…but In summers I drink a lot of water usually more than half a litre every time I drink almost 7-8 times a day…..I like shakes and cold coffee also in summers….and yes Lassi too.

10. What foods aggravate you? (including allergies)
Ans. Not such known….

11. Do you suffer from any digestive complaints? What is your bowel habit like?
Ans. It is also my main problem. The food seems to get digested from morning till evening and even in stools I notice some undigested foods…..I have irritable bowel and also had endoscopy for this problem from an MD. I have to go to toilet 3-4 times a day. In the morning, in the afternoon…sometimes an emergency call and at night around 11pm…I avoid traveling due to this problem of fear of urge to toilet in the journey…..its really bad…

12. What is your level of energy like? Rate it from 1-10 (10 being excellent). How does your energy fluctuate throughout the day (and night)?
Ans . I rate my energy level to 3 only…In the morning I feel not so active…dull headache always remains there…By 12-1 pm it is ok..after lunch usually after 2-3 pm I starts feeling really down and by 4-5 pm I am completely knocked down till 6 pm….It is after 7-8 pm after coming from gym…I feel energetic and active till late night….and feel better…

13. What is your level of sexual energy like?
Ans. Sexual energy is a concern for me…earlier 3 years back I used to make my girlfriend reach orgasms and satisfy her to extreme level…but now I ejaculate too soon. 8-9 stroke are even difficult these days…the fluid ejaculated is very little and watery…and I feel guilty and lowly because of this….she however do not complaints about this and makes me feel OK… but I know how I feel…earlier I was like Tarzan for her and now….nothing…yaar…sometimes I even ejaculate while entering into vagina….it not at all satisfactory…The penis is having veins appeared on it and bending to the downward left after eraction…

14. How is your sleep? What position do you prefer to sleep in? Is there any position you cannot sleep in? Any unusual behaviour during sleep?
Ans. I have disturbed and interrupted sleep. In the morning I feel unfresh , though there is not any more desire to sleep and I don’t feel the urge to sleep the whole day…I prefer right side while sleeping….whenever I turn to left side while sleeping I feel the heart beats and heart functioning sounds, my left limbs also sleep and I have to move them with my other hand…to wake them up..specially the hand from top to the fingers…gurgling and rumbling sounds from are the common thing when I sleep on left side….gas is also a problem when I lie down…I feel stressed and tensed while sleeping and wait for long to sleep while lying in bed…

5. Have you had any reoccurring dreams or images/ pictures/ themes that repeat themselves in your dreams? Please describe.
Ans. I have dreams as if I am traveling in air plane and I am at the airport, I also see monkeys in my dreams, I see old places and jungles sometimes…….I also see a good old man in dream…I also see places of worship in dreams.

16. Describe your menses (periods). Describe any PMS. Have you been through menopause? Any gynecological problems?

17. How does the weather affect you? Are you sensitive to the temperature in any way?
Ans. In winter I usually have the problem of sinus …..my left side of the nose becomes really constricted and thick glue like discharge comes out with the urgr to clear and also finger continuously….the pain remains in frontal sinuses…..sometimes with thin watery fluid also comes out……Summers are the real problem….high temperature does not suits me at all …..I feel that would die of heart failure or heat stroke in summers…I sweat a lot …more than normal….and it is bad smelling too……I feel suffocated in May-June…and feels better in air-conditioned rooms…..

18. Is there anything else in the environment you are sensitive to, perhaps more so than the people around you?
Ans. I am sensitive to the crowd, people around me, what they are looking in me , what they are thinking about me, what they are conspiring against me…..how do they feel about me, about there sarcastic looks on me….etc.I don’t like Lizards, Cockroaches, Dust, Flies Rats etc in my place…and becomes really uneasy till get rid….if at night a lizard comes out I even wake up from my sleep…..I want everything in order and on place where it should be… I want food to be cooked well and served well otherwise I get angry.,,,,I get anger very soon on the things of little importance…..

19. What is the worst thing that has ever happened to you? Describe in detail.
Ans. The worse thing happened to me till now is the phase of depression after I failed to convince my parents to marry the girl of my choice ( she is not the one with whom I have sex…..)…I have emotional kind of attachment with her…after the refusal I started thinking as if I am not well mentally…and that I have a weak heart and die of heart failure or mental breakdown…..it happened last to last May in 2003 and lasted for about two months…the other worse thing is testicular pain which occurred after sex with me partner….(as I described above )

20. What part of your life do you have the most difficulty coping with? Why is that?
Ans. This is the part most difficult to cope with….our business is down, my parents health is down and my love is not successful and also I am having so many health problems…I am very sensitive to the feelings of others and what they feel about me…whenver there is someone sick I becomes sad and depressed….too much worried about the future, what will happen….I always crave for material and emotional security..in life and that what is not fulfilled at this time….

21. What was your childhood like? Describe your parents and your relationship with them. Describe your relationship with your siblings and other extended family members. Did anything in your childhood have a profound effect on you?
Ans. My upbringing was excellent, I come from well settled business family and I never had any problem monetarily…I have everything that a person can think of at my age…Till my school days I was very happy….after 12th std. I started feeling and thinking too much…philosophically ,,,, I started talking less and less and less. These days I don’t like too much…I don’t have good relations with my brothers and other members of family except my sisters and my mother…. I don’t like the mistakes people do and would say the way I want to them….since my childhood I am an introvert and very shy guy…..I was good in sports in school after Pleurisy I could not play much and since than started feeling of derogation of health…though I have put on too much weight now…I am 6 feet tall and weights 96 kgs…my build is heavy…..but I really miss my slender and fit body of school……since childhood till now I have this complex that my brothers have always tried to suppress me…..in every matter…I was good in studies..and I feel that people are jealous about that too…..my looks are also the point of jealousy…..however I am too much concerned about my looks and feels worried about that often.

22. Describe the romantic relationship you are currently in. What causes the most problems between you?
Ans. I am currently attached to two girls right now…( A.)one with whom I am in Love and the (B.)one with whom I have sexual relationship.
I am very romantic person and respect my A. girlfriend…I don’t fight with her or have any problem with her…the other one B.girl is my neighbor …..we are together since last 8 years and she know about my everything even LOVE etc…she is ok with that and we have agreed before establishing our sexual relation that we will just have it for one and will the partner of our choice in future….its just give n take kind of relation….we usually have kisses, petting and being together more than 7-8 times a day and usually have sex every 3 days…tried every aspect of sex fully…but now ejaculation problem is there and I feel lowly due to premature ejaculation and no satisfaction of hers. I am possessed about her and can not tolerate her talking to anyone, I want to see her everyday and be with her often…

23. What is your occupation? What differentiates you from the other people in your place of employment? What difficulties do you have at work?
Ans. I am businessman. I am very committed to what task I have in hand…I usually complete it with perfection …and that makes me different. I am a perfectionist and seek perfection in every thing…I don’t like stupid people at all…while working I feel tensed a lot…sometimes don’t like to go to office at all…I run away from work…and try to do something else….averse to business …

24. What is your self-confidence like? When is your confidence at its worst?
Ans. My confidence is good when it comes to doing anything on computers or technologically.but I am not good in calculations….I shy away from dealing with people, I don’t like people, I want anyone else should do the meeting or talking over phone…I am not confident while talking to people…my speech is not clearly audible and words fumble…I don’t feel confident about my looks though people say I am smart enough.

25. What fears do you have? Do you have any phobias? What things in life do you have trouble facing?
Ans. I have too many fears : like--- losing my closed ones in family, of financial crisis ( I mean I need financial security in future too ), when in bed I feel that someone is standing there in the room watching me ( I get scared ), I feel that there is someone present in the room whom I can not see, Sometimes I fear that the Air Conditioner fitted in the window can fall on the passer by on the road…, I fear that the electric wires running through the house can get fire…..I have problem facing the elder people whom I respect or I am scared of no reason…my words fumble and I am unable to speak in front of them….they have misconception about me due to this that I am too boring and good for nothing…….Actually there are two kind of people’s opinion about me….one sect believe that I am too jovial and lively….some other people think that I am too meak….

26. What parts of yourself or your life would you change if it were at all possible?
Ans. I would change my whole abdomen ( stomach, intestine…), Right side testicle, my chest….I add some enthusiasm and lighter feelings to my mind and attitude….
That’s all……ya, I mentioned my CHEST, because since my childhood it has got developed somewhat like female breasts….not so big…but it’s a very strong part of my inferiority complex……I am too worried about this too….

27. What do you do to relax?
Ans. To relax I do physical exercises ( I go to gym and do some workouts ) I listen to music and sometimes just chillax at home doing nothing….

28. What is something that you have told nobody else, or at least very few people? Why is that?
Ans. The thing that I haven’t told to anybody in life is the development in my chest….its really annoying !!!

29. Which country you belong to?
Ans. I am an INDIAN

30. Did you have any sexual experienc earlier?Any disappointments? (Pl.be true to yourself and frank.)
Ans. I told you everything above…….

31. How many times you go to toilet in a day?What are the approximate timings?
Ans. 3-4 times a day for stool and to urinate I go 5-6 times……In the morning 2 times..( 15-20 minutes ), evening around 5 pm 10 minutes, night 11pm 10 minutes…..

32. Are tonsils still bothering you?If,yes,which side the pain starts first,generally?
Ans. No.

33. What makes you so thirsty sometimes?
Ans. Summers….really it sucks !!!

34. Do you mean you sleep on your tummy?
Ans. NO….

35. Why did your girl friend leave you?When?(How many months back.)
Ans. She is going to leave , getting married to some other guy selected by her parents !!!!

36. Can you give some examples,when your cofidence get shattered?
Ans. Due to my looks….heavy & bulgy looking….my chest !!!! else everything is OK….( I mean not so bothering )

I hope that the information I have given is sufficient , I have also made it simpler in excel format….if you can give me your e.mail ID I can e.mail you for easy reference…….Please respond to me ……