Could you help me, Tabish ???? _{Page 2 of 2}

Bump for Tabish

I am still waiting :)

Hello Doctor,

Thank you very much for coming back. Hope everything is alright with you.

here are my answers to your questions:


1) Fear of bad news? what you mean by this? Where it strikes? in abdomen, stomach ow heart? Please explain with example.


Bad news for me is any bad news which is related to me directly or indirectly.

For example:
1st BAd News ). Serious injury or serious disease or death of any loved ones or closed ones. (I witnessed a horrible death of a closed one because of AIDS, 3 years back. After that incident and many other tensions going on at that time my mental condition gotten worse.) May be because of that, I panic a lot when I feel that I am gonna lose someone forever. Last time I heard about my uncle's accident and I got so anxious but I calmed down when I heard he was better than before. But still, I do not ask about him because I don't want to hear anything negative about his health or his overall condition. I cannot afford to lose my loved ones. I was never afraid of death few years back. But now I have become so vulnerable. I always get scared when a phone call comes from back home. I start imagining that something might have happened to my dad or my mom etc.

Another bad news for me is hearing about seriously depressed or mentally sick persons and their weird behaviors. I change channel on TV when there is an ad about depression or any mental disease and their effects on people.

Whenever I talk to someone over phone, I always get scared that he/she may tell me any bad news.

2nd BAd News.
Here, everyone suggest me to divorce my husband as he is a very careless, childish and self-centered person, but for me Divorce is a BAd news and being alone is another bad news. So I better tolerate all of his behavior than giving him divorce. Besides, if I divorce him I can do nothing on my own because of lack of confidence. Right now, being with him, at lease we are having two meals a day if not other things. I never ask my husband, what is his plan to raise our daughter or what is his plan for future, or whatever he is earning is not enough to raise a child. I don't say anything just because of fear of hearing any negative words/sentences from him which is a bad news for me. What if he says 'I can do nothing more than what I am doing right now' or 'I can do nothing more here lets go back home (Nepal).'
I cannot fight with him and go elsewhere and start everything on my own. So its better stay quiet and see what happens. But I do not want divorce, i want my self confidence back. Divorce is not a solution to my problem.

3rd Bad News. If I am told, I will have to return to my country from here (the USA) for some reasons, that will be a bad news because I cannot tolerate if I feel I am being controlled. Back home we(daughter in laws) have to obey certain rules and restrictions even if they are worthless or meaningless. People(relatives/in-laws) try to put us under some kind of pressure. I cannot tolerate when others tell me 'what to do and what not to do.' I feel very suffocated as I neither can tolerate those things nor can say 'No, I don't want to do that'. I have more depressing situations back home than here. My child has no good future back home. My own parents always fight with each other and always complain about each other and I cannot live like a controlled daughter in law in my husband's home. So I have no place to go and live back there too. I am hanging in no-where.

4. Failure, is my another bad news. I do not want to be failed on anything I do. If anyone realizes me I am a failure, i get hurt a lot.

My anxiety triggers my mind, my head, my stomach and my heart as well. I feel my mind stopped working, my head is full of warm clouds, my heart is racing etc. I fear that I will collapse if I do not take any remedy right away if I get panicked or anxious.


2)At what time your symptoms aggravates? any special time or trigger when you feel worst?

There is no specific time. My mind gets overwhelmed/occupied with all the negative thoughts as soon as I wake up in the morning and keep on going throughout the day. I always think about my disease, my low self confidence my low self esteem and my inability to overcome these things. I feel little better towards evening and night. I feel stuck because of these things.


3) post me detail about your bowel moments. Any pain or discharge from anywhere? and how is your nature.. chilly or hot? like to take hot bath or cold? food hot or cold?

I have little stool and I go to bathroom 2-3 times a day.I do not have problem of constipation. I urge to go to the bathroom when I am anxious and go many times. I have vaginal discharge sometimes but in little amount. I was having huge back pain before but its much less now after the last remedy.

I feel hot most of the time. There is a burning feeling on my soles whenever I am inside warm or hot rooms. But again I cannot tolerate very hot or very cold weather. I like to take hot bath all the time. I like to take hot food. But its not that I don't like Icecreams or any cold drinks. But my meals should be hot.

Some more information. I need help on these things:

Anger, Irritation: too much

Self confidence on starting or doing new things.( This is my major problem)

Laziness

Depressed
Dependent feeling.

Less energy

Less interest on anything.

Stuck feeling.

Dull Headache

Excess worries

Worry about future

Too much worry/panic when child gets sick.

Pathetic feeling

Forgetfulness and loss of memory

Cannot calculate on simple things. (I was very good in mathematics before but now I am a loser)

Not as smart as before feeling

Confused

Cannot take decision

Cannot take challenges

Always complaining. Never satisfied.

has Controlled feeling (because of lack of confidence)

Fear of making mistake while talking. So do not talk much.

Hesitation in going on parties and meet people.

Nervousness while speaking to people

Cannot hear any news about evil or cruelty.

less hunger

less thirst

Cannot tolerate insults or offenses.

Thanking you.

Waiting for your help, Tabish.
[message edited by Tabish please help on Fri, 29 Jun 2012 19:34:49 BST]

Waiting for your response. Please help.

Current issue:
Today morning I came to know that I may need to go back home country because my husband hasn't got any jobs yet and our visas are expiring soon. Going back home is totally against my will. I am having so much tensions and worries at the same time. I am having headache and head tightness and pressure since this morning. Please help

Hello Doctor,

I could not find Natrum Mur 1000 when I wanted to order via net. Is Natrum Mur 1M the same thing ?


Should I use water this time as well like last time as I am too sensitive to remedies ?
[message edited by Tabish please help on Sat, 30 Jun 2012 23:11:31 BST]

Thank you Simone, for the information.

I ordered Nat Mur 1M, but today is Saturday(evening) and they won't process my order until Monday. I doubt my current condition will allow me to wait for another 7-8 days or till my 1M arrives. I would appreciate if Tabish could tell me, if I can take Nat Mur 30c in case of emergency, as I have that remedy ready with me.

Thanking you.

Bump, waiting for dosing method as I am too sensitive to remedies.

Thanks Simone for your help so far

Thanks Simone, I will do the same.

Hello Simone,

Thanks for your care and concern towards us (patients). You are a wonderful person.

Yes, I took Natrum Mur 1M, 5 days ago. Tabish wanted me to report him back after 1 week so I think I should wait for 2 more days before I take any decision. If Tabish does not show up by then, I will switch to another homeopath as per your suggestion.

Hope he comes back.

I really wanted to stick to one homeopath...but what I have experienced here so far is, Homeopaths come and suggest one or two remedies and then disappear. I could not understand all these. This way nobody will trust any homeopaths or their work.
But still I don't give up. There must be few who genuinely want to help the needy ones.

I appreciate all your help Simone.