8 year boy bedwetting and frustrated

Dear Sameer,
I have a child that seem to be unbalanced somehow. I have tried to fill in the questionnaire and hope that you have any suggestion on what remedy to try.

QUESTIONNAIRE FOR CHILDREN

Child's First Name: John
Age: 8 years
Height: 123 cm
Weight: 24kg
Birth weight: 3990 g (european size)
Hair color: light hair, a little brownish
Race/nationality: Swedish boy

1. What is the chief complaint? Include information about the side of the body that's affected; the color, odor and consistency of any discharges that may be present; whether the complaint came on gradually or suddenly; and all changes from the normal state, including mental/emotional changes, body temperature changes (colder or hotter than usual), appetite and food and drink desires that may have changed; and try to be specific in describing the sensations involved in the complaint, for instance, 'pain as if a splinter in the throat', etc.

-Repeating infections, colds and bedwetting. Very sensitive for cold weather, windy. Difficult to hold the right body temperature, colder than normal. When the weather is cold and windy he often catches a cold with rinny nose, hot and red face, it happens very quick. This includes mental/emotional changes, he gets very angry and irritated. When this happens I have given him Aconitum 30c and several times this has helped very quickly. But sometimes It doesn’t help and he gets a longtermed infection that is hard to get rid off. It often ends up with several weeks with respiratory problems such as a sound when breathing and a lot of phlegm, slime. He doesn´t want to eat when this happens. Bedwetting also happens regularly. Within one or two hours after sleep.

There are mentally problems like he seems unhappy and dissatisfied, he is irritated often. But during the good periods when in balance he is very affectionate and gentle personality. He has problems sitting still especially at dinner table, very quick, rapid in movement.
Allergy to milkprotein.
His stool/stomach is often diarrhea and a lot of gas..
He is often very shy with new people. It is often difficult to get an answer from him. It´s almost like he is not hearing what we say to him, as if he is in another “world”. Sometimes it´s hard to get his attention. When he is playing or watching TV he doesn´t answer when talking to him.

2. When did this problem start? What happened in the child's life around that time? What do you think caused it?

He is a anxious child and has always been. One “big issue” in our family is that his big brother has ADHD and there has been a lot of conflicts within the family with his brother. John is very worried and anxious about this, like we all are. When stressful situations happens in the family or outside he responds with overactivity, irritability, angry behaviour.
There is another “big issue”. 2004 we were in Thailand when the tsunami came and this was very traumatic for the hole family. John was very upset after that for several months. He was more frequently bedwetting and very emotionally affected like I described above.

3. What aggravates the chief complaint (certain foods, weather, movement, light, noise, touch, pressure, music, heat, cold, open windows, closed windows, being at the sea shore, sympathy or anything else you can think of)? Milk, cold weather, windy, infection, conflicts, stressful situations,

4. What makes the chief complaint better? (See examples above.) Sympathy, touch, massage, a lot of physical affection, sleep tight to us, love, calmness, peace,

5. What time of day is the worst for your child (try to specify a time)? 4-5pm

6. What symptoms accompany the chief complaint? Examples might be headache with runny nose or runny eyes, stomach pains with irritability, and so on. See above

7. What was the mother's and father's state of health at time of conception? How did the mother feel during pregnancy physically and mentally? Did she suffer any shocks or traumas while pregnant?
Mother: During pregnancy I felt pretty good but the time after birth was frustrated because of the elder brother. He was very jealous and a lot of conflicts, stress, irritation.
8. Did the mother have any unusual or memorable dreams while pregnant? Don´t remember

9. Did the mother take any drugs while pregnant? No

10. Were there any complications at birth? No

11. At what age did the child: crawl, walk, talk, teethe, toilet train, wean? Crawl at 8 months, walk at 12 months, talk at 1,5-2 years, toilet train 2 ,5 years

12. How did the child react to the following situations: vaccinations, birth of younger sibling, starting day care, starting school, spending night with a friend, going away to camp, traveling with the family? I´m sorry that I have not noticed how the vaccines affected him. But he has been vaccinated. I don´t know the names in English of the vaccines. Starting day care were no problem. Starting school two years ago was very difficult. He was very upset and anxious for 3-4 months before he calmed down. The situation in school was not good, with many conflicts among the children and this was hard for him to handle. Now he likes school better and the situation is better.
13. How many rounds of antibiotics has the child had and for what conditions? I think two times. When 7 months for ear inflammation and when 4,5 years for impetigo.
14. Any skin conditions treated with cortisone-type cream? No
15. Did the child have an especially severe childhood illness--measles, mumps, croup, etc.? A lot of cold symptoms very frequently. With asthma related symptoms. He was treated with cortisone-inhalation for long periods around 1-3 years old. And also Bricanyl.
16. When ill or upset does the child want to cling or be left alone, or something else altogether? He wants to cling, and often hits me. Irritated and angry. He is hard to contact, doesn´t answer questions.

17. How would you describe the child's behavior when playing with other children? The behaviour is most of the time very good but when his unbalanced due to cold or something else his very frustrated, angry and irritated.

18. What feedback do you get from the child's teachers? He is good at school, can concentrate and is learning well. Sometimes he talks too much and don´t listen to the teacher but no big problem.

19. How does your child treat animals? He is sometimes not nice to our dog. Almost like he likes to make the dog frightened.

20. What foods and drinks does your child crave? What foods is he or she averse to? Are there any foods he or she reacts badly to and in what way? Do the drinks have to be cold (or with ice) or can they be any temperature? Reacts to milk.

21. What fears does your child have? After the tsunami he was terrified of dogs. Fobia. But after treatened with some energy therapy this seems to be healed.

22. Is the child chilly or warm? Is there excessive perspiration anywhere?
He is very, very chilly.
23. How affectionate is the child when not sick? Very affectionate, loving, warm.

24. How sympathetic is the child (concerned with the suffering of others)? Very much

25. How is the child affected by music and dancing? Loves it

26. What emotion tends to predominate with the child? Loving emotion

27. Is the child fastidious? Please explain. Never when not sick. But when he is sick he can be very fastidious. He blames his brother for everything. He cries and says he wants things. He clings a lot.

28. Is the child sensitive to criticism and reprimand? Give examples. Yes, very much. Sometimes he gets very angry and says swearwords and hits me. But sometimes he gets very sad and cries with big tears if criticised.

29. Describe the child's eating habits, for example: picks at his food, or eats voraciously, or is full after 2 bites, or can't sit still to eat, or must be fed or he won't calm down, and so on. He can´sit still, must run away and do things, needs a long time to eat, picks at his food, gets very messy around him and on his clothes as if he was 1 year old.

30. Are there any digestive complaints--waking with stomach pains, or a lot of gas and bloating or burping, or constipation, etc.? Sometimes diarrhea and sometimes hard stool, lot of gas

31. Are there any problems associated with sleep? What position does he sleep in? Does he throw the covers off? Does he sweat during sleep? On which part of the body? Trouble falling asleep? Nightmares, etc.? Bedwetting, trouble to calm down sometimes. Gets very chilly we need to put very warm clothes on him. Throws the covers off and then icecold. Often sleeps on abdomen with his hands and feets under him, kind of creeps together. Restless when to fall in sleep, moves around in bed, hard to relax.

32. Any skin symptoms or anything note-worthy about the skin, the complexion, etc.? When he is ill he gets dry, itching skin on the body.

33. Is there anything striking, or characterizing about your child, for example: attatchments, unusual desires and abilities, preferences in clothing, etc.?

34. How cooperative is the child?

35. What's standing in his way of getting what he wants or needs?

36. How often does the child get sick? Does he tend toward certain illnesses?

37. What illnesses run in the family, including the grandparents? Mother: CFS(cronichal fatigue syndrom), joints pain Father: allergy, asthma Grandmother: fibromyalgia

38. What does the child really love to do? Play soccer.

39. It's important for us to know what may have been the cause for the complaints you have mentioned. To this end, please make a list, in order of occurence, of the major events in the child's life, including such things as physical and emotional traumas, major illnesses, losses, deaths in the family, surgeries, etc. and the child's age at the time. If he or she had a notable reaction to these events, please describe.

Best regards Tintin