Husband depressed

Hi Dr. Bagyavasan,
I will be ordering some remedies soon for my family and felt we should see what can help my husband. I have been thinking of writing for some time but was just trying to get me and my son on the right path before we put another family member in all this. But things are really getting bad. I think in light of our tough financial situation (which affects my husband greatly), him getting sick this week, having to reschedule jobs he was suppose to do this week, etc. he is just at a very low point in his life. I was trying to discuss with him last night so strategies we can do to help pull our family together (less TV, more routines, etc.) and right away he gets very defensive. This how he has been since we have been married. I got very frustrated trying to talk to him and pretty much gave up for a while when we were dealing with my son's health issues but I can no longer accept the lack of communication. So I will tell you what I know about him. He had epileptic (not sure if I spelled that right) seizures when he was around 7 or 8, I think, and was taking some type of drugs for that. His father left his Mother right after he was born and when we first met and was talking about family he said my father took one look at me and left, trying to joke but I knew the pain went deep. He tried to talk to his Mom a couple of years ago about the possibility of him having half brothers and sisters out there and she right away said don't let your stepfather hear you talking about this,he feels he is your father and will get upset. My husband had tears in his eyes. I don't think his father was every talked about, he wasn't able to talk about that part of his life and know as an adult feels like his Mom doesn't want to talk about it. So I just worry about the disconnect with his own son. He is a good father, hugs and kisses our son and tries to play with him but he just doesn't know how to play, let himself go and have fun. He is a loner, doesn't like to work with people, had his own business so gets himself alone most of the time. Has no friends he hangs out with, talks to, etc. His family is all he has and he doesn't really share anything deeper than work with us. He craves bread, has to have a bagel every morning, used to eat cereal and milk every night before bed...said he couldn't sleep without it but later realized he could. He stopped eating that for a year or two but has started back. Has no control over sweets, eats 5 - 8 cookies if they are there with no thought that they are for the family and someone else might want one. He has excessive dry skin, has for most of his life, on legs it looks like snake skin...seems to run in his family. He says it gets better in summer but this summer tended to stay about the same. He gets very oily hair and face. He tends to sweat very quickly and feet and shoes tend to stink a bit but I never really noticed bad body odor. We have had a few talks here and there and he says he doesn't love himself so how can he love someone else. Has been married twice and I am third wife. He talks about what they did in the marriage never any responsibility of how he contributed to downfall of marriage. Please ask any questions and I will get back to you right away.
Thanks!