I hope a homeopath can recommend the right remedies for me

Hi Dr. Kempson,

Right now I am not experiencing any pain anywhere. Like I mentioned during premenopause and now menopause I was waking up 2-3 times during the night. First, around midnight, and again at 3 am. Sometimes I wake up too early like around 4 am. I go to bed around 10 am.
I hate sodas. I don't like hot weather. If I had problems during the day, or my feelings have been hurt, I am unable to fall asleep at night and have to take benadryl to help me fall asleep. I have great energy. I flush out my liver and gallbladder every month and have eliminated 1000's of gallstones. I stopped my period over 1 1/2 years ago.

Intake form? Do you mean the questions you listed in your email or is there a form on this website I need to find?

1. I am waking up 2 or 3 times a night(this has been going on for almost years, when I began pre menopause. I have been menopausal for 1/1/2 years). Around midnight around 2 or 3 and then around 4:30.

2. When I became premenopausal 3 years ago, my blood pressure has been getting high. It will go as high as 160 and is always over 140. I have no pain at all anywhere.

3. Worrying about my high blood pressure, or any anxiety.

4. I feel more relaxed after taking a hot bath, and drinking tea with valerian.

5. I am not aware of any triggers, but I do have problems falling asleep when I had a tough day.

6. My blood pressure is high all day.

7. See # 1. No specific event other than the onset of pre menopause and menopause triggered this.

1. Love sweets, and I can't think of any foods I hate, maybe insects, brains, but I'll eat escargo.

2. I don't crave any drinks and I hate sodas.

3. It sucks, see #1. at the top.

4. I don't like hot weather, over 90, and don't like doing much, less energy.

5. I don't like getting wet while it's raining.

6. great energy level

7. I lost 99% of my sex drive when I underwent a tubal ligation at age 38.

8. I don't have one.

I will talk about my osteoarthritis next time. This is alot for me right now.

For sleep, I have tried 30 c of Morgan Gaertner, but it only lasts about 3 days before I have to take it again. It takes a couple of days for it to work. I am now taking Carcinosinum 30 c, and the effects last 4-6 days and it also takes 2 days for it to work.

I feel sleep deprived and this may be contributing to the high blood pressure. I believe the waking during night and high blood pressure are symptoms of menopause. When will I sleep normally again? Thank you for your help.

Ok, thank you. I'll stop and wait for David.

Osteoarthritis

1./2. Presently, I have no pain in my left hip joint, but sometimes I feel in crack, like there may be less cushion or cartilage in the joint. My left thumb joints feel stiffer (no pain)

3. I can feel my hip crack when I outwardly extend my leg. I feel the stiffness in my thumb when I hyper extend it.

4. I avoid hyper extending the thumb and left hip.

5. There are no triggers.

6. Doesn't matter.

7. I was diagnosed 7 years ago. I had a very stressful job at the time. It was painful and I was walking with a limp. I was also engaged at the time.

I am an anxious person. I am divorced twice and widowed 6 years ago. all events were very traumatic. I had horrible custody battles and was separated from my children.

I was a very quiet and lonely child. Didn't know how to develop lasting friendships and I still don't know how. I am not close to my brothers and I don't know why. Both of my parents have passed away. It was hard losing my mother. I had the mumps and measles as a child. I attended Catholic schools, K-12. What I hated about high school was that I didn't know how to talk to boys because it was an all girls school.

Tomorrow I will talk about my high blood pressure.

Hi David,

I forgot to mention, that sometimes after I go dancing, the next day, I can hear my left hip joint crackle, as if there's not enough cushion. Also, I have taken the Arthritis formula by Hylands and that helped with symptoms.

1. My blood pressure began rising almost 3 years ago when I was pre menopausal and now menopausal and remains high.

2. Not painful, but I hear my heartbeat when I am lying down falling asleep.

3. Anxiety/worry. Can't fall asleep.

4. I don't know

5. I think it's hormonal.

6. All day and night.

7. See # 1.

I've had 2 miscarriages, both brought on by anxiety and stress.

After my 2nd child was born, I did not stop bleeding, and I needed a D&C. I few days before my 3rd marriage, I would not stop bleeding and it was very heavy during a period and I needed another D&C.

I fell and fractured my left wrist. My son has Schizo-Affective disorder and he has battered me several times.

First 2 marriages ended in divorce. First divorce I suffered an anxiety attack. At the time, I didn't know why he left. The 2nd marriage ended very badly, and my 3rd husband died suddenly of a stroke. We were newlyweds.

Both my parents have passed. I am estranged from my oldest daughter and have a good relationship with my second. Both moved away and see them once a year. I am not close to my brothers, but wish I were.

I pray, and use positive affirmations using an energy vial that opens the energy channels in the body and mind.
Talk to my friends.

I also discovered that I have fibroid tumors in my uterus when I sonogram was taking.

David, I am finished. Is there anything else?

Do you have any other questions for me?

What questions should I answer for the list of problems you provided?

1. Insomnia

1. I wake up 2 or 3 times a night (this has been going on for over 2 years). I will occasionally sleep through the night.

2. There are none.

3. If I had a stressful or bad day, I am unable to fall asleep.

4. Sleeping pill, which I would take almost every other night when this first started

5. I think it's hormonal.

6. see #1

7. about 3 years ago when pre menopause began

2. High blood pressure

1. It's between 140 and 160.

2. N/a

3. I don't know.

4. I don't know.

5. I think it's hormonal.

6. It's high day and night.

7. about 3 years ago when I was pre menopausal


3. Loss of libido.

1. Lost sex drive

2. N/A

3. N/A

4. N/A

5. N/A

6. N/A

7. After tubal ligation 18 years ago.


4. Stiffness of thumb

1. It feels tight or stiff when hyper extend it. It hurts when I grip very hard.

2. see #1. Otherwise it does not hurt.

3. Apply more force or use the thumb for strength.

4. Don't do 1 or 2.

5. see # 1

6. See # 1

7. Noticed it 3 years ago. No.


5. Anxiety

1. I feel anxious, worry, fearful.

2. Adrenaline rush or sensation in my chest area

3. I can suffer an anxiety attack, but I haven't had one since 1987.

4. Take a bath.

5. Stress, fear.

6. Situations, problems

7. When I was 4 years old, I remember twirling my hair. I still do. Sometimes I shake my leg. I feel restless sometimes.

Tomorrow, I will talk about the custody battles.

Hi David, Your questions are more clear to me. I will C & P them with each response to help me focus and keep track.

I asked you to describe the insomnia. What keeps you awake, what is happening to you, what stops you from falling asleep, what sensations occur in the body, what thoughts come to your head, what kind of stress makes it worse, why do you think its hormonal, when do you go to sleep, what times do you wake up, how long do you stay awake, when did it start and what was happening at the time? Insomnia always feels like something to the person with it, and it always feels different to each individual. You have to be able to describe it.

Sometimes I have trouble falling asleep when i am worried or feeling anxious about things/problems. I've lost control or am losing control of a situation. If I am still awake after 30 minutes, I will take sleep medication. The anxiety feels
Like adrenaline is rushing through my chest area. Same as when you feel frightened. Sometimes i can't fall asleep if I have experienced a loss, like the loss of a friendship, job, etc. Sometimes I will lie awake trying to find answers or solutions to problems and i am unable to stop thinking about it. I had this problems for a very long time, most of my adult life.
This is not hormonal. I began waking up two or three times at night almost 3 years with the onset of pre menopause. At that time, I also began having hot flashes and night sweats almost everyday. I started detoxifying my liver and gallbladder and the sweats began to subside. 1 1/2 I began flushing out the gallstones that were being formed in my bile ducts. I do this every 3-4 weeks. Still doing it.The sweats and hot flashes have now completely stopped, but i am still waking up 2 or 3 times during the night. I have friends who say the same thing happened to them. I had previously mentioned that I wake up around midnight, then 2 or 3 am or 4 am. sometimes i can go right back to sleep and sometimes not. I think it's because I am worrying about not sleeping. I don't know why I wake up during the night, but since I never had this problem till I started having night sweats and hot flashes, I blame it on the pre menopause and menopause.

I hope this covers the insomnia and that I answered all your questions about it. Tomorrow I will write about my blood pressure.

You have to do something similar for your blood pressure. What exactly does it feel like, what symptoms do you get, how do you know when it is high, when does it get high, are there any fluctuations at all, have you taken medication for it, how does the medication affect it?

Sometimes I feel pressure in chest area. I can hear my heart beating. I have taken my blood pressure for almost 3 years at CVS pharmacy at different times during the day and it's 140-160 over 80. It was always around 120 before pre menopause. I have never taken medication for this and never will.

Do the same with loss of libido. You must describe it exactly. Using a common phrase like that does not help me in any way to understand it. What exactly does this loss feel like to you, what has been the effect on your life, does it fluctuate at all, if there is any desire for sex when does it occur, are there times when your desire is even lower, what is your attitude to sex, what did it used to be like for you before you lost it? Sexual desire is not just one common experience for all human beings. It is an intensely personal thing, and any disruption to it is also very personal.

With the onset of puberty, there is a sex drive or 'urge' that we all feel. As I stated earlier, it seems to have almost completely vanished after my tubal ligation at age 39. I would experience the urge about 3 times a year and it usually appears when under extreme stress and anxiety.
When I remarried 6 years ago, it would come back during foreplay. I used to think about men and sex when I had it. Maybe that's OK when I am not dating anyone. I now know it will come back when I am. If I had known that this would or possibly be a consequence to the surgery, I never would have done it. My obgyn didn't tell me. I suppose doctor's expect you to know everything, but I sure didn't know this. I told her afterwards, but she said nothing. I was angry.

Describe more on the anxiety, what specific stresses aggravate it, describe an 'adrenaline rush', what kinds of fears come up, what do you worry about, what kind of situations cause it to occur, what kind of problems cause anxiety?

A loss of control in my life will heighten it. Loss of job, loss of relationships, etc. An adrenaline rush but the negative effects of it. It feels like a tightening in my chest area, heart racing. a glowing feeling expanding throughout my chest area. I worry about my finances. I was laid off from a contracted teaching position 6 years ago, and I have been looking for a job this long. I have tried breaking into sales and marketing 2 years ago. I obtained my insurance license in August. So far, nothing yet. I am also marketing an online curriculum to schools and parents this August and nothing yet. I was a newlywed when my husband passed away from a stroke. I want to remarry, but got into a bad relationship 5 years ago, lasted only a few months. I worry about meeting someone. If I am still thinking about it at bedtime, I will not fall asleep and that's when I will take some benadryl for sleep.

My left thumb joints feel stiffer (no pain)

I feel the stiffness and a soreness in my thumb when I hyper extend it down, to the left, or to the right. If you compare the joints of the right and left thumbs, they look larger on the right. It could be because I am right handed, or it maybe a bit swollen.

I avoid hyper extending the thumb

Horrible custody battles, being battered by son, both divorces, estranged from eldest daughter, and separation from children

After 8 years of marriage, my first husband left without warning. He just said he was unhappy. I spent years searching for answers, from therapists, friends, etc. I concluded that he was immature and not ready for the commitment of marriage. He sued 3 times for custody of our daughters by making allegations that I was having a negative impact on his relationship with the girls. He won when they were 12 and 10 years old. I had remarried and what gave my ex the ammo he needed was a fight that broke out between my husband the girls. He wanted them out (I didn't know that he was planning this permanently). The girls thought they were being kicked out and had to live with their father. During that weekend I left several messages for the girl's father that I had made a mistake, that I did not really want them to live with him, and explained the circumstances, but it was to late. He went into court Monday and took them away. I asked for monitored visits. I was devastated and their loss was so painful. I tried, a couple of times to get the restrictions lifted, but lost each time. I could not afford to see them anymore. In my heart, I knew that if they loved me, they would come back to me when their father could no longer control them, and they did when they were 16 and 18 years old. My oldest daughter who is now 31, still has not forgiven me, and we have no relationship. Over the years her refusal to forgive has festered and affected her soul. Now she can't be around me at all. I have offered suggestions on what she can do that has helped me, but she would rather just continue the separation as her method of coping.

I have a good relationship with my younger daughter, age 28 but it took a years to get that.

Jesse was only 3 months old when the girls left, so he did not grow up with them. Jesse's father is bipolar and it was a bad marriage. He promised me that if I left him that he would see to it that I would lose Jesse like I lost my daughters. I couldn't stand the marriage any more, and when I told him I was leaving, he called CPS and made false allegations about me and the baby. When they came, I told them that his father was paranoid/bipolar and was not taking his medication consistently. They took Jesse from both of us. The father kept sabotaging my attempts to obtain custody. He didn't want custody, he just wanted Jesse to stay in foster care forever. Jesse was only 2 1/2 was he was taken and it took 2 years of battling in court to get him back. It was a horrible ordeal. Jesse was damaged emotionally, and so was our relationship. I am, to this day, doing what I can to repair the harm that was done to him.

When Jesse was reunited with me at 4 1/2, he was incorrigible. Years of therapy didn't seem to work for long. He became depressed and anti social at age 10. At age 11 he also became verbally abusive and disrespectful. At age 14 he became psychotic and was diagnosed with schizo-affective disorder. He was hospitalized 14 times, and battered me several times-kicked, punched, pulled out my hair, thrown objects at me, tried to push me down the stairs, and bit my face. He was becoming more violent and dangerous, and was arrested for assault and battery with a deadly weapon. I was a wreck.

He is now seeing a psychiatrist who has been reducing his medication and had recommended a remedy but he may have plateaued. I am worried of a relapse. I wish there was a way of knowing that Jesse's remedy is the right one for him, and he and I don't have to afraid of him losing control again. I watch his behavior like a hawk, looking for improvements, and any signs of decompensation. I am exhausted. He is now 19 years old.


Unable to form lasting friendships

It sure seems that way. I remember since I was a little girl, always wanting a sister, or a best friend. I'm 56 and friends just come and go. It's not what I want.

Not close to brothers

They are my family, and I always wanted us to be close. We are one year apart and I am in the middle. We all live the area, but I see them maybe once or twice a year. Over the years, I've tried in various ways. They are both married, to the same woman. We seemed to get together more often when all of our kids were growing up together, but my divorce changed that. I don't know why, and I don't have the answers.

Hard losing mother

She was my best friend. I missed talking to her about everything. In the last few years before she died, she was not able to handle all the problems I was having. It was too hard on her. After my father died, she became very lonely and moved a couple of miles away. The last year she would call me almost everyday. That was hard on me. She had emphysema, but it didn't disable her. One day, she just stopped breathing and was hospitalized. In the hospital, they found she had advanced lung c/a/n/s/e/r (she was a chain smoker). A few days later she died. I miss her and wish she was still here. No one has loved me like she did. She taught me how to love.

Third husband dying suddenly

As I had mentioned, we were newlyweds. He died of a stroke 7 months after we were married. He was 60 and I was 50. I knew him 2 years. I was happy. Aside from my mother, he really loved me.

I am finished. Do you have any other questions?

I should write a book, but I don't not like talking about it because it opened a Pandora's box of sad feelings. We all have problems, suffer losses. I
just don't see how this has anything to do with choosing a remedy.

Like everyone else, I would go on with my life and my mind just sticks it somewhere so I can cope.

No one ever fully heals from trauma, physical or emotional. For a couple of years, Jesse and I saw a QRA Practitioner who would use the energy from a vial of stones to open the energy channels in the body and mind. After 30 seconds, you state out loud in front of a mirror a positive affirmation. You repeat this twice a day for 28-30 days. Then the QRA would do a kinesthetic muscle test to check if had taken. I use it every month. It has helped Jesse and me a lot. I suggested it to my eldest daughter, but she is not open to doing anything about our relationship. She is happy the way things are. I guess I am the one who wants a relationship with her, and she doesn't. I don't know what this means.

What kind of alcohol? The kind at drug stores? I think it's called isopropol? There are different kinds.

Why not just dissolve the ignatia under the tongue?