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sadgirl last decade
well, i am actually based in dubai and its about 11:30 here.
thanks for your wishes..
if we, the homeopaths here, could make a difference in people for good, that is our greatest satisfaction.
i am in touch with some of my patients till they are completely cured..
incase you need me to follow up on your / hubby's case, you can stay in touch through emails. you can find it in my profile.
best wishes.
thanks for your wishes..
if we, the homeopaths here, could make a difference in people for good, that is our greatest satisfaction.
i am in touch with some of my patients till they are completely cured..
incase you need me to follow up on your / hubby's case, you can stay in touch through emails. you can find it in my profile.
best wishes.
♡ rishimba last decade
dearest rishimba...this is so cool! i just remembered that at 14 i started getting very bad headaches. pounding at the temples.
my grand uncle who was a cambridge masters retired at 60 and converted his drawing room into a consulting room. he gave homeopathic medicine free of cost to poor people for the next 25 years!
he was visiting us once and inquired about my headaches. then he asked me several questions, which i am now familiar with but thought very strange at that time.
after i answered he said i am a nat mur patient and gave me a doze. i dont remember for how many days or what potency. it was a long time ago. now i recollect i had some skin rash problem at that time too. it was slow acting. but over one year my headaches and my rash disappeared, never to return! then at 19 i started getting some problem and he repeated nat mur in a different potency. when i was 20 he passed away. and i have not had nat mur in 13 years.
after almost 20 years you too diagnose my constitutional medicine as nat mur. cool!
should i still take nat mur 200?
many thanks for your help.
my grand uncle who was a cambridge masters retired at 60 and converted his drawing room into a consulting room. he gave homeopathic medicine free of cost to poor people for the next 25 years!
he was visiting us once and inquired about my headaches. then he asked me several questions, which i am now familiar with but thought very strange at that time.
after i answered he said i am a nat mur patient and gave me a doze. i dont remember for how many days or what potency. it was a long time ago. now i recollect i had some skin rash problem at that time too. it was slow acting. but over one year my headaches and my rash disappeared, never to return! then at 19 i started getting some problem and he repeated nat mur in a different potency. when i was 20 he passed away. and i have not had nat mur in 13 years.
after almost 20 years you too diagnose my constitutional medicine as nat mur. cool!
should i still take nat mur 200?
many thanks for your help.
sadgirl last decade
that actually confirms my diagnosis..
its great to know that u had a homeopath in your family as well..
you will definitely get relief mentally and physically if you take a dose of nat mur 200c.
we will see if you need a higher potency later, but its better to start with 200c now.
nat mur is also suited to you in this mental state and thus is the most appropriate remedy for you.
please keep in touch and i would look forward to your feedback after taking the remedy.
its great to know that u had a homeopath in your family as well..
you will definitely get relief mentally and physically if you take a dose of nat mur 200c.
we will see if you need a higher potency later, but its better to start with 200c now.
nat mur is also suited to you in this mental state and thus is the most appropriate remedy for you.
please keep in touch and i would look forward to your feedback after taking the remedy.
♡ rishimba last decade
sadgirl,
why can't u give medicines for increasing sexual desires to your husband ????
i think we have lot in homeopathy... try other theraphy too.....
u have lot of options to chose...
why can't u try ???
why can't u give medicines for increasing sexual desires to your husband ????
i think we have lot in homeopathy... try other theraphy too.....
u have lot of options to chose...
why can't u try ???
ganeshdwaraka1 last decade
dearest rishimba...will surely keep you updated....many thanks.
and ganeshdwaraka1....i know what you are feeling. frustration. why does a man not want to lead a full life. why does he not want to be happy with his wife. why does he not want to have children. why. why. why.
i have begged. i have pleaded. i have cried. i have threatened. but no response.
during this time of focusing on HIM and trying to convince HIM last 5 years, I myself have been in agony and torture. i have been so unhappy and miserable with the thought that he has no care for me. he did not even try. all my love all my loyalty meant nothing to him.
5 years of living with these negative feelings and thoughts has made my body very ill. my entire spine is degenerating very fast. already all my lumber dics are very thin, broken and slipped.
i want to now focus on ME. i want to regain my mental health. i want to connect with my old self. i want to heal. i really want to heal.
so last month with this in mind i started searching the net for alternate medicine, homeopathy, accupuncture, yoga, accupressure, reiki, aromatherapy, naturopath to try and help myself.
due to time constraints let me make this as short as possible. thousands of years ago in ancient india and china wise men were saying. that when a negative thought takes over your mind it creats an imbalance. that imbalance is the cause of illness in the body.
they also thought that illness was wise mother nature telling you to change your thinking, make different choices.
another site on the net discussed the importance of forgiveness.
i know i cannot rot in my own anger and frustration anymore. i am only destroying myself. i am ruining my health. i dont want to be in a wheelchair in my thirties. i need to change my thinking. from trying to change him to trying to change me back. i need to regain my mental balance. then i need to heal my body. then i need to forgive him. and finally i need to move on.
none of it is going to be easy.
but with my God on my side, with my friends, with knowledge from the wise, and with kindness and help of people like rishimba i will succeed. i will succeed.
and ganeshdwaraka1....i know what you are feeling. frustration. why does a man not want to lead a full life. why does he not want to be happy with his wife. why does he not want to have children. why. why. why.
i have begged. i have pleaded. i have cried. i have threatened. but no response.
during this time of focusing on HIM and trying to convince HIM last 5 years, I myself have been in agony and torture. i have been so unhappy and miserable with the thought that he has no care for me. he did not even try. all my love all my loyalty meant nothing to him.
5 years of living with these negative feelings and thoughts has made my body very ill. my entire spine is degenerating very fast. already all my lumber dics are very thin, broken and slipped.
i want to now focus on ME. i want to regain my mental health. i want to connect with my old self. i want to heal. i really want to heal.
so last month with this in mind i started searching the net for alternate medicine, homeopathy, accupuncture, yoga, accupressure, reiki, aromatherapy, naturopath to try and help myself.
due to time constraints let me make this as short as possible. thousands of years ago in ancient india and china wise men were saying. that when a negative thought takes over your mind it creats an imbalance. that imbalance is the cause of illness in the body.
they also thought that illness was wise mother nature telling you to change your thinking, make different choices.
another site on the net discussed the importance of forgiveness.
i know i cannot rot in my own anger and frustration anymore. i am only destroying myself. i am ruining my health. i dont want to be in a wheelchair in my thirties. i need to change my thinking. from trying to change him to trying to change me back. i need to regain my mental balance. then i need to heal my body. then i need to forgive him. and finally i need to move on.
none of it is going to be easy.
but with my God on my side, with my friends, with knowledge from the wise, and with kindness and help of people like rishimba i will succeed. i will succeed.
sadgirl last decade
Why u ignore this matter in early 10 years?
How is it possible that u are living with him for a long time and now u come to know that he is not suitable for u?
U said he is good and decent
man is not it?
Did u ever think what makes him offend or averse to u?
Dr.Tahira
How is it possible that u are living with him for a long time and now u come to know that he is not suitable for u?
U said he is good and decent
man is not it?
Did u ever think what makes him offend or averse to u?
Dr.Tahira
♡ Dr Tahira last decade
dr tahira,
YOU SOUND JUST LIKE MY BROTHERS!
he can easily remarry. it would be totally acceptable. lots of men have 2 wives. they dont even need to give an explanation. it is extremely easy for him to remarry.
i wish he did. it would make matters softer for me to leave him.
because of social and family pressure it is impossible for me to leave him. if he is offended and averse to me he should stop insisting he is happy with me and remarry. it will put all of us out of our misery.
why should i lie? he is a VERY good and decent man. he has no bad habits. he prays. he is extremely generous and very polite.
but he has an aversion to any kind of physical contact. whether it is touch, hug, kiss, holding hands, sex etc. more importantly he does not want to talk about it let alone do anything about it.
dr tahira. my family is full of people who think like you. i want to move ahead now. i am exhausted of answering questions like yours.
i hope you understand.
YOU SOUND JUST LIKE MY BROTHERS!
he can easily remarry. it would be totally acceptable. lots of men have 2 wives. they dont even need to give an explanation. it is extremely easy for him to remarry.
i wish he did. it would make matters softer for me to leave him.
because of social and family pressure it is impossible for me to leave him. if he is offended and averse to me he should stop insisting he is happy with me and remarry. it will put all of us out of our misery.
why should i lie? he is a VERY good and decent man. he has no bad habits. he prays. he is extremely generous and very polite.
but he has an aversion to any kind of physical contact. whether it is touch, hug, kiss, holding hands, sex etc. more importantly he does not want to talk about it let alone do anything about it.
dr tahira. my family is full of people who think like you. i want to move ahead now. i am exhausted of answering questions like yours.
i hope you understand.
sadgirl last decade
What i said that is logical.
Are u sure u will be happy after leaving him?
Is there any assurity that 'second man' will be perfect in all aspects of life?
Is sexual relation every thing and nothing else matters?
if a person has that much qualities as ur husband has,just think of make things amend instead of making them worse.
A lady in her thirtees should be more mature and wise.Try to listen the voice of ur mind rather than heart.
Do u believe in 'Dua'?The only thing which can change fate.
Remember no body has 100% perfect life.I think u can change things with strive and optimistic thought.INSHAALLAH
Dr.Tahira
Are u sure u will be happy after leaving him?
Is there any assurity that 'second man' will be perfect in all aspects of life?
Is sexual relation every thing and nothing else matters?
if a person has that much qualities as ur husband has,just think of make things amend instead of making them worse.
A lady in her thirtees should be more mature and wise.Try to listen the voice of ur mind rather than heart.
Do u believe in 'Dua'?The only thing which can change fate.
Remember no body has 100% perfect life.I think u can change things with strive and optimistic thought.INSHAALLAH
Dr.Tahira
♡ Dr Tahira last decade
i knew these exactly these things were to follow. because these are exactly the things my brothers say. thats why i said i know how you think.
no i dont think i will be happy after leaving him. but i will be relieved and not miserable.
there is no guarantee of second man leave alone perfect second man.
sexual relation is not everything. but the need to give love. recieve love. be touched and feel close to your partner is extremely important. to feel that your spouse cares for you is extremely important. to know than your spouse is ready to share his thoughts, his feelings, his life, with you is extremely important not just his house and money.
but people like you and my brother feel that sharing house and money and talking politely is everything.
you think i have not tried making amends? what have i been doing for the last 5 years in this marriage??
if your defination of maturity means go for the material comforts and social acceptance and ignore mental health and live in emotional and physical isolation. then i prefer to be immature.
ofcourse i believe in dua. i do believe it can change fate. and i do practice it.
i know there is no perfect life. i am not looking for perfection. i am not looking for any man. i am trying to find myself again. i am looking for my peace and my mental health.
but i dont expect you to understand that.
no i dont think i will be happy after leaving him. but i will be relieved and not miserable.
there is no guarantee of second man leave alone perfect second man.
sexual relation is not everything. but the need to give love. recieve love. be touched and feel close to your partner is extremely important. to feel that your spouse cares for you is extremely important. to know than your spouse is ready to share his thoughts, his feelings, his life, with you is extremely important not just his house and money.
but people like you and my brother feel that sharing house and money and talking politely is everything.
you think i have not tried making amends? what have i been doing for the last 5 years in this marriage??
if your defination of maturity means go for the material comforts and social acceptance and ignore mental health and live in emotional and physical isolation. then i prefer to be immature.
ofcourse i believe in dua. i do believe it can change fate. and i do practice it.
i know there is no perfect life. i am not looking for perfection. i am not looking for any man. i am trying to find myself again. i am looking for my peace and my mental health.
but i dont expect you to understand that.
sadgirl last decade
There are different ways to come out of this situation and find urself back.
As a female i can better understand ur feelings but i dont want u to feel selfpity.
Divert ur attention from this topic and go for something which make u able to help others.
Life doesnt end here,discover u first.
Dr.Tahira
As a female i can better understand ur feelings but i dont want u to feel selfpity.
Divert ur attention from this topic and go for something which make u able to help others.
Life doesnt end here,discover u first.
Dr.Tahira
♡ Dr Tahira last decade
i agree with you that i need to unplug from this topic and stop focusing on my husband.
i also admit my shortcoming that despite trying very hard to do this i have been unable to do so. i admit that i was, and still am, a little obsessed with my husband and my marriage. i accept my share of the blame.
like your good suggestion, i also finance and overlook a medical centre in a slum area and support an orhanage and a home for mentally handicapped children. this does give me fullfillment.
but i totally disagree with you that you understand my situation better because you are a woman.
i think either you are blissfully married (which i doubt) or you you are NOT married (which i think is most probable) therefore you think, here is a woman who is married to a good provider and a decent man, what is she complaining about!!
life is not only about living in a nice house and being financially comfortable.
i think a 'healer' like yourself should stop thinking of logic all the time and try and get in touch with the humane aspect of things.
more than happy to be handed over to rishimaba....
i also admit my shortcoming that despite trying very hard to do this i have been unable to do so. i admit that i was, and still am, a little obsessed with my husband and my marriage. i accept my share of the blame.
like your good suggestion, i also finance and overlook a medical centre in a slum area and support an orhanage and a home for mentally handicapped children. this does give me fullfillment.
but i totally disagree with you that you understand my situation better because you are a woman.
i think either you are blissfully married (which i doubt) or you you are NOT married (which i think is most probable) therefore you think, here is a woman who is married to a good provider and a decent man, what is she complaining about!!
life is not only about living in a nice house and being financially comfortable.
i think a 'healer' like yourself should stop thinking of logic all the time and try and get in touch with the humane aspect of things.
more than happy to be handed over to rishimaba....
sadgirl last decade
dear dr. tahira, your opinion is very well taken.
you got a point there and any logical person would first give this advise. there is nothing wrong with it.
dont you think, sadgirl may not have tried her best to win the heart of her hubby all these years..
two words which are very important here are
- self introspection
- communication
dr. tahira, please recall we had a discussion about the triangle of life..
infact every personal problem has some link to the triangle of life..
we cant go up to the apex unless we realize the things which are at the base of the triange.
as you know, food shelter clothing and sex are at the base and above that is the emotional fulfillment like, love and being loved, getting appreciated, honoured, respected etc..
next, are the questions we ask ourselves, like
who am i,
where do i come from,
why are we here,
where shall we go next,
the answers to all these lie in self realization and faith on god.
this is a general analogy which holds good in almost all cases.
however, none of us probably has the right answers as we are not in the same situation as that of sadgirl and we all have different backgrounds, paradigms and perspectives in life.
let her find the answers herself.
you got a point there and any logical person would first give this advise. there is nothing wrong with it.
dont you think, sadgirl may not have tried her best to win the heart of her hubby all these years..
two words which are very important here are
- self introspection
- communication
dr. tahira, please recall we had a discussion about the triangle of life..
infact every personal problem has some link to the triangle of life..
we cant go up to the apex unless we realize the things which are at the base of the triange.
as you know, food shelter clothing and sex are at the base and above that is the emotional fulfillment like, love and being loved, getting appreciated, honoured, respected etc..
next, are the questions we ask ourselves, like
who am i,
where do i come from,
why are we here,
where shall we go next,
the answers to all these lie in self realization and faith on god.
this is a general analogy which holds good in almost all cases.
however, none of us probably has the right answers as we are not in the same situation as that of sadgirl and we all have different backgrounds, paradigms and perspectives in life.
let her find the answers herself.
♡ rishimba last decade
dear sadgirl,
please give your replies to the questions of respect drs of the forum, which will help them to select remidial action.
Dr. risihma is a very good,sympathic and reliable practicioner. His advise to take you Nat Mur is very correct. Please follow him. I do agree with him.
dr. rishimba,
Let us join hand together to solve this case with mutual consideration keeping in view the comments of other collegues. What we can do we must do for this sadgirl.I think at this stage this lady requires attention rather than her husband. do you agree?
dr. mahfooz
please give your replies to the questions of respect drs of the forum, which will help them to select remidial action.
Dr. risihma is a very good,sympathic and reliable practicioner. His advise to take you Nat Mur is very correct. Please follow him. I do agree with him.
dr. rishimba,
Let us join hand together to solve this case with mutual consideration keeping in view the comments of other collegues. What we can do we must do for this sadgirl.I think at this stage this lady requires attention rather than her husband. do you agree?
dr. mahfooz
♡ Mahfoozurrehman last decade
yes dr. mahfooz.. we are all together with her and would endeavor to provide sincere empathy, compassion and guidance.
we are nobody to judge anybody, either her of her hubby..
finally, she has to take the path she wants to traverse in life.
we are nobody to judge anybody, either her of her hubby..
finally, she has to take the path she wants to traverse in life.
♡ rishimba last decade
i am truly indebited to dr rishimba and dr mahfooz for their empathy, compassion, their time and their remedies.
i have already taken nat mur yesterday and will keep you updated with the changes.
with your good wishes and God's blessings i know i will heal.....
i have already taken nat mur yesterday and will keep you updated with the changes.
with your good wishes and God's blessings i know i will heal.....
sadgirl last decade
In parallel, it would be better if you can present more symptoms of your husband. Rishimba/ Dr Mahfooz can reco medicines for him too.
srisri last decade
its been 3-4 days since i took nat mur.
i am feeling more 'clear headed'
i am going out more. less lazy and lethargic.
i am definately sleeping better. waking up better rested.
dr rishimba and dr mahfooz please comment.
i will post an update as soon as i notice further changes.
thank you. i truely appreciate the help extended.
i am feeling more 'clear headed'
i am going out more. less lazy and lethargic.
i am definately sleeping better. waking up better rested.
dr rishimba and dr mahfooz please comment.
i will post an update as soon as i notice further changes.
thank you. i truely appreciate the help extended.
sadgirl last decade
if you feel better rested when you get up, its a sure sign of the start of cure.
please dont disturb the flow of cure by taking any other remedies, allopathic medicines or any strong coffee or essence, mint, too much salt.
only when the old symptoms return, you may either repeat the dose of 200c once or twice or go to 1M dose.
please dont disturb the flow of cure by taking any other remedies, allopathic medicines or any strong coffee or essence, mint, too much salt.
only when the old symptoms return, you may either repeat the dose of 200c once or twice or go to 1M dose.
♡ rishimba last decade
dear sadgirl, I just want you to know, I came across your post will surfing the internet, and tears came to my eyes because I too, have been married for 13 years and have the same exact problem with my husband. I have tried and tried throughout the years to help him with this, but the answer is the same. He is happy the way he is. I too am at the same fork in the road now with my life. the time has come where i must take care of myself as my health too has been compromised. I wish you well, in whatever your decision to bring happiness and peace in your life.
sadgirl2 last decade
Hi sadgirl2....its hearbreaking to know there are others like me....would love to exchange notes in private....how can we do that??
sadgirl last decade
hi!,
I am a professional Homeopath.No doubt your case is being handled by competent homeopaths.Here, i am writing from the perpective of your husband to try to select the best homeopathic remedy for him with a hope to help to mitigate the misseries being faced as a family.
It is really a classic case, so far as the disposition of your hubby is concerned.Your's is a situational case purely impinged on due to apathy of your husband not only towards you but towards himself also.Through narration of the whole scenario you have spoken volumes about his temperament,attitudes and being indifferent to his surroundings and marital responsibilities.All this at his part must be attributable to something,may be in his childhood days.Can you throw some light as to how he spent his childhood,how was the temperament of his mom and dad,were the parents quarreling between themselves.Were there any problems with him at his school or college level?If you can tell any negative happening or happenings in his life because no effect is without any cause and Homeopathic medicines are selected while addressing the reasons or causative factors.
Withregards,
Ram saini(Professional Homeopath)
I am a professional Homeopath.No doubt your case is being handled by competent homeopaths.Here, i am writing from the perpective of your husband to try to select the best homeopathic remedy for him with a hope to help to mitigate the misseries being faced as a family.
It is really a classic case, so far as the disposition of your hubby is concerned.Your's is a situational case purely impinged on due to apathy of your husband not only towards you but towards himself also.Through narration of the whole scenario you have spoken volumes about his temperament,attitudes and being indifferent to his surroundings and marital responsibilities.All this at his part must be attributable to something,may be in his childhood days.Can you throw some light as to how he spent his childhood,how was the temperament of his mom and dad,were the parents quarreling between themselves.Were there any problems with him at his school or college level?If you can tell any negative happening or happenings in his life because no effect is without any cause and Homeopathic medicines are selected while addressing the reasons or causative factors.
Withregards,
Ram saini(Professional Homeopath)
sarup last decade
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