Dr Sameer, Please advise! _{Page 6 of 13}

Dear Sameer,
Can you please please take a look at this posting of mine? I really need your help.

since 4 days ago my son acts totally new and different. I have to mention that 4 days ago his dad left for a business trip for one week. so it could be that. anyway, he rejects my kisses, my hugs, and specially at night he wants to sleep in our bed but he doesn't like me to hug him as before. at nights he woke screaming and crying. last night specially he woke up screaming and crying and wanted to come to our bed which I had to do it because I couldn't convince him not to. in the mornings he wakes up bad tempered first question would be where is daddy? he doesn't listen to me anymore. sometimes he is quiet and in general has no excitement. he makes mess and he looks at me saying lets make a mess and when I ask him please clean up he wouldn't. he is not even sensitive to my sadness or anger anymore. can you please tell me what should I do? and in general recently he is more attracted to his daddy than me. not that I am jealous but it is heartbreaking. I have spent my whole life, I stopped all my personal activites and everthing just for him to be with him and now .....
I appreciate your time and your helps.
beth

Please take a look at my previous posting as well.

here is the recent history for his remedies:
Apr 24 calc-c 6c
May 06 calc-c 15c
May 20 Lyc 6c
June 01 Lyc 30c
July 10 Lyc 200c
July 18 puls 6c
Aug 08 phos 15

Dear Sameer,
It has been 3 days and he is perfectly back to normal. thank you so much for your helps.

there is one issue that's bothering him: every morning around 5 am he wakes up with crying and sometimes screaming and then afterwards he would wake up every 20 minutes until around 7 that he would go back to sleep. during that period of time it seems that he has bad dreams.

can you please advise me on that matter as well.

Thanks a lot.

Dear Sameer,
I hope you are doing great and everything is going fine with you.
I am here again to resolve a few issues regarding my son (now 25 months old). As always I appreciate your time and your attention.

First:
About a month ago he bumped his forehead to the edge of a cement block. It got really swollen and bruised. I gave him arnica back then but couldn’t put calendula on top because there were a few scratches as well. Anyhow, now when I touch the spot there is a little bump there. Do you recommend anything internally/externally for this matter? Do you think that he had a broken bone on his forehead?

Second:
Recently he is showing the following symptoms which I believe he needs a dose of puls or phos. I am having a hard time to decide which one. So could you please help me out here.
1. he doesn’t sleep well at night. He tosses and turns. Sometimes he has fast breathing and after it he would wake up. During night he calls mommy and when I go to his room he asks for a hug. Sometimes he moans in his sleep. there are nights that he wakes up and would like to come to our bed. Even in that situation he wants me to hug him.
2. he needs a lot of attention recently. More than before. When I talk to smbd else for a few minutes he would scream and looking at me and says don’t talk to …..
3. he cries easily. Sometimes even expressing his request with a ready to crying voice (pouting, eyes fill with tears,…).
4. during night sleep he becomes very dependent to his pacifier. He doesn’t use it during the day.
5. he doesn’t want to share, becomes very possessive.
6. when it gets dark, he asks me to shut the curtains (this is totally new for him).
7. even though he doesn’t sleep well he wakes up in a good mood.
8. he is not interested in playing with other kids anymore (new for him).
9. he drinks fizzy drinks!!!!!!
10. and last but not least he becomes hyperactive to the point that sometimes he can not sit still in his high chair and he would swing his legs and if he can kick the table (kind of funny)

Thank you so much:)
is it 1 pellet in 250ml water and then 1 teaspoon from there? or should I give him dry dose?

Hi Sameer,
It has been 5 days since I gave him puls 30. he is better in some ways but one thing for sure he is angry with me again. last time he was angry with me you recommended nux vom for him and it worked magically. he doesn't have the same symptoms but as I said one thing for sure is that he is angry with me. could you please kindly tell me what should I do?
thank you so much
beth

1. he doesn’t want me to hug him. For example today morning he woke up at 6 and came to our bed and didn’t want me to hug him and turned his face toward his father. Another incident was last night he wanted his father to put him in bed and he asked him to hug. Rarely happened before.
2. he used to be very expressive and excited even with strangers. Now, he is good with those he knows but with strangers he hides behind me and doesn’t talk to them!!!
3. He sees his father, or his grandparents and he would be very happy and welcoming, with me not at all.
4. he is not interested in playing with me anymore.
5. he cries very often when he is with me. Even for smallest thing. Also when he wakes up if I go to his room he eventually finds a reason to cry, if dad goes he won’t cry and would be happy and jolly.
6. despite all the above sleep has become better after taking puls.
7. last dose of nux vom 30 was Sep 03, 2009 only 1 dose.

Please note that there is a reason for all the above mentioned. I screwed up several times, so apparently he has lost his trust to me. During the past 3 weeks I had several incidents with him. I also humiliated him a few times (not that I am proud of what I have done, just explain it to find the best remedy). I also punished him by taking away his stuff. Anyhow I think I need help more than anybody else. Can you please take a look at the following for myself and let me know what I should do.

1. I am not interested in anybody, shamefully not even my son. Please don’t get it wrong I love him with all my cells but I just need a break. I need time for myself. Maybe just watching a movie or an hour of yoga. I am so involved with him that sometimes I really want not to see my son. Eventhough I cannot hire somebody and ask them to come and stay with him for an hour. I am very picky and think that nobody else can do this job as I do!!!!
2. sometimes I feel sad. You know if I start talking about myself i will cry.
3. I also gets angry easily although since 3 days ago I am trying to control myself through my conscious.
4. physically I am not a strong person and after lunch I feel very drowsy and sleepy.
There are lots of things I can tell about myself but maybe those will do. If not just let me know.

Thank you so much for your attention and your help.
Beth

Hi Sameer,
It has been 4 days since I gave my son puls 200c. His relationship with me is getting better but it looks like that he is scared of me. Today when I wanted to serve his dinner he asked me to eat it without me with w very kind of cautious low voice, and when I asked why he replied back again very cautious and gentle that he doesn’t like meat. what I am trying to say is that he is becoming kind of gentle, not usual for him. We had other incidents that he acted really cautious. On the other hand I am trying hard to earn his trust back again. On the first night that he had puls 200 he slept horrible. He was kicking and crying in sleep. with puls 30 his sleep was very good. He wouldn’t wake up (I took advantage of that period of time and stopped his night feedings) but now he wakes up 2-3 times. He talks in his sleep (happens after puls 200, completely new for him). Tonight I put him in his bed at 9, we ended up him sleeping on the floor at 10. I whole hour I was sitting there because he asked me to do so.

As for myself, I have been thinking. I also talked to my husband to see what he says about me and here is the result:
1. he said: sometimes I am like terminator(the movie), like a robot, no emotions whatso ever. Could be true because sometimes I feel like that.
2. he said: you acts as if you are the queen. You teaches everybody and you can’t be just easy and funny. That is true. I explain the science behind things, I mean as much as I know (not that I am a scientist).
3. I think I am jealous. You know last week my mother-in-law was here and my son was so attracted to him. At some point I wanted to kick her out of our house.
4. when I get tired I become completely out of control. I might yell, get angry easily, sometimes cry, …
5. sometimes I can be very rude, depends on the other person that I am dealing with. I can be very humble as well.
6. one thing that is really unfortunate is that when my son is good I am good when he is not in a good mood I am not the one who can take the lead and change his mood. This is true in general. I follow other’s moods.
7. I am always thinking about the next task that I am supposed to do. Let say I am having lunch I will be thinking of put my son for nap and then what I have to do while he is sleep.
8. recently I don’t want to be touch or touch anybody(this includes my son but of course I don’t do that to him)
9. not interested in sex at all
10. recently tender to touch and painful breasts before menses
11. most of the time my hands and feet are cold, sometimes freezing cold (except for summer)
12. please note that in general I don’t have time for myself as result I am TIRED. Really TIRED. Even tired of playing with my son.
13. I am so disappointed with my marriage. It has been 10 years but I have realized that we are not a good match.
14. my mother is schizophrenic if that helps at all. She hears voices and talks to them. She claims that he communicated with specific creatures, blah blah blah
please let me know if you more info. I am open to any kind of question.
Thanks,
Beth

Please see my previous posting as well.

I forgot to mention that my son bites his upper lip with his lower teeth frequently and this is totally new.
Thanks again for your time and your attention.

Thank you very much.

Hi Sameer,
is there any remedy that covers both kali-c and calc-c?
please take a look at my commnets as I inserted in front of those matching symptoms. those symptoms that I removed don't apply to me.
FYI I have a bartholin cyst on the right side and I have a giant fibroadenoma in my right breast.
also the swelling of the lower eyelids is like 5mm below lower eyeline. I mean the lower eyelids are flat for maybe 5-6 mm the the puffiness starts up to the top of my cheeks.

The Kali Carbonicum patient can broadly be described as compulsive - rigidly adhering to a code of ethics and rules. It is very difficult for the patient to express feelings and he exercises strong control over his emotions. Duty is one of the most important concepts for the kali carbonicum constitutional type. He will not park in a yellow zone. He will always return to a shop to give back change if he was given too much.
The patient is often very stoical. He neither complains about (nor notices) the stress he is under until the situation is very severe indeed. Things outside his control are very upsetting. We may find fear of the dark (unseen), of ghosts (the immaterial), the future, but mainly fear of diseases especially that disease is about to appear (impending).

Mind.
CONSERVATIVE, LOYAL, MORAL, PROPER PEOPLE.
RIGID, UNABLE TO BREAK EVEN A TRIVIAL RULE. (for me it depends)
(again it depend what kind of change, I like traveling very much which is kind of change right?)
Fear Being alone. Dark. Ghosts.
Anxiety and worry. Anxiety often felt in epigastrium.
Starting easily, from noises, etc.
Irritable. Urge to quarrel. (if it means ready to explode, yes true)
Aversion to being touched.

General.

INTOLERANT OF DRAFTS, AGGRAVATED BY DRAFTS.
(weak, depressed). (very true)
Appearance: Sits rigidly during interview.

Head.
SWELLING OF THE EYELIDS, (lower eyelids are almost always puffy)

. The typical Calcarea patient is solid, responsible and hard-working. He has a strong focus on security and practical matters. When taking on any project, he is methodical and determined. This leads to a tendency to over-work (I can’t because I don’t have the energy and stamina)

. Another strong aspect of Calcarea is anxiety and fear. Generally these fears center around security issues such as money and health. When these basic aspects are not secure, the Calcarea patient develops a strong despair and feeling that he will never recover. Other fears of the Calcarea patient center around his ability to function and continue his responsibilities.

In many cases, however, the patient will overwhelm his system with his many projects and responsibilities. (right now I am very overwhelm with the things that need to be done but they are all postponed. Part of my sadness comes from this fact that I can not find time to do those little projects)
His mind is tired and will not hold the many projects and details in order.(true, I have to write them to remember)
A very high percentage of Calcarea patients have fear of heights,

There is also a depressed stage of Calcarea in which the patient loses interest in his work and business and is utterly unable to function. (if you count motherhood as a work yes, again because I need to take care of so many postponed projects. By projects I mean smth like making photo albums for my son. Not really business ones)

Mind.
OVER-WORKED, OVER-BURDENED, OVERWHELMED PATIENTS.

WORKS TO EXHAUSTION THEN MUST GIVE UP HIS JOB ALL TOGETHER.
Fears: Diseases. Poverty. Accidents.


General.



SENSATION OF INNER TREMBLING.(when I am cold yes)
ALLERGY FROM ASPIRIN.
GENERAL AGGRAVATION FROM ASCENDING STAIRS OR A HILL.
General aggravation from coition (causing irritability, weakness,).

Acne, often quite severe.(specially after eating chocolate)

Urinary and Sexual Organs.
Menses 'too early, too profuse, '
Premenstrual syndrome with , sore breasts.

Chest.
BREASTS PAINFUL ESPECIALLY BEFORE MENSES.

: cold, clammy feet and handshake.
COLD FEET IN BED AT NIGHT, MUST WEAR SOCKS TO BED. Later the feet warm-up and become too hot requiring removal of the socks then finally uncovering of the feet. (only one foot will be uncovered)

of course I did. but the result was not as strong as the other 2 remedies.
The patient seems to 'sparkle' with intelligence, creativity, and enthusiasm. (only with interesting-to-me subjects)
He can be gullible and suggestible.
In later stages the patient is so sensitive to others and to outside stimulation that the well-known desire for company is lost. The patient prefers to be alone and is intolerant of strangers or of hearing of other's problems. (very true for me)
As more and more of the inner vitality is lost, so also is lost the 'bubbly' and sparkling nature. Eventually the patient becomes slow and indifferent and apathetic, much like Phosphoric acid or Sepia.

Mind.
OPEN, BRIGHT, EXCITABLE, SUGGESTIBLE, ANXIOUS PATIENTS.


Mentally distractible and 'spacey'.
Slow, apathetic, dull-minded state (late stage).
Unable to exert the mind.
Answers slowly.

General.
Appearance: thin
Generally chilly or even freezing
General aggravation from changes in the weather.







Great sensitivity to odors. Chemical sensitivity.
Tumor formation. Fibrous growths.



Craves: CHOCOLATE. ICE CREAM OR COLD FOODS. SALTY. SPICY. RICE. MILK. ALCOHOLIC DRINKS, ESPECIALLY WINE. Fish. Fat. Hamburger. Eggs. Chicken. Cheese. Carbonated drinks. Sweets.

Urinary and Sexual Organs.
Involuntary urination with cough.
and tumors, especially left-sided. (yes I have a cyst on the left ovary)

Sleep.
Unrefreshed sleep in later stages.

Sameer,
Should I be concered regarding puls 200 for my son? I mean, can he prove it? he is kind of different.
thanks a lot

Hi Sameer,
Thank you for your response regarding my son.

It would be great if you can take a look at the following as I am kind of suspicious:

Since last night I have a strange feeling in my throat. it is like I have to clear my voice and when I do it helps for a few minutes and the again same thing. it has been almost 24 hours and I don't have any fever yet. my urine is very hot. kind of feeling shortness of breath but I breath fine. in warm stuffy environment I cough more other wise I cough maybe once every 15 minutes. the coughs are dry and they start from the very bottom like from stomach. I don't have any other symptom for now. Could it be N1H1 (God forbid)? can you please advise me as soon as it is possible for you to spare a few minutes? Thank you so much in advance.

regarding myself:
1. the main problem and the most important one is my out-of-control anger when I get tired. as I mentioned before I would be out of patience, sometimes shout, walk with loud heavy steps and so on.

2. there is comething weired which doesn't happen very often but happens from time to time (like today). when I nap (it happens only during my nap time after lunch never at night) at the point that I drift off to sleep I feel like my body is very light kind of getting seperated if you know what I mean. then after I guess a few seconds I will be back to normal but can't sleep afterwards. it not something unpleaseant but it happens if it helps at all.

3. painful breasts before menses and it starts as soon as like 10 days before menses.

4. bartholin cyst which is really bothering me.

5. one more thing is that sometimes I am good some times not. kind of alternating.

6. tired and low level of energy. I have to take supplements all the time.

7. when I stay in a certain position like sitting on the floor then I want ot get up my knee joints or ankles would be painful for a few seconds maybe a minute. this is really new for me. I never had this kind of problem in my life.

Beth

Dear Sameer,
please ignore the flu-like symptoms in my previous psoting. I feel much better this morning.
let me know if I have to explain more on any specific item in my previous posting.
Thanks a lot

Hi Sameer,
What is your thought on Sepia for myself?
Thanks,
Beth