first ear infection for 18 m.o.

hi. my 18 month old has her first ear infection. here is a brief(ish) description of the course so far:

the week or so before: runny nose w/profuse non-irritating snot

last wed. night: woke every hour or so & screamed; wanted to nurse non stop- very unusual, she is usually a good sleeper and not a screamer.

thurs: developed fever around 102. lethargic, mostly wanted to be held & sleep, eating only a little plain mixed grain cereal (she is usually a vy good eater also). dad thinks it's an earache & gives her a homeo earache combo tablet, i thoguht not bcs she wasn't pulling her ears or anything- thus proving dad's intuition is better than mom's in this family.

fri: much like thurs. i think we gave her a couple of doses of belladonna for the fever with little result- and belladonna is supposed to be fast acting. gave ibuprofen sometime in the afternoon- 100 mg (she's 24 lbs and i dissolved a 200 mg table in 2 tsp juice and gave her 1 tsp- no icky sticky infant drops) and probably again at night to help her sleep.

sat: started out much like thurs & fri, then around 10:30 am we noticed a greenish opaque mucus coming out of her right ear. took her ot the weekend clinic, where the oldster doc rpescribed amoxicillin. we bought it, did some research & decided not to give it to her... by sat evening we started giving her pulsatilla 30c every 2 hrs,and it was clearly effective. usually within 15 minutes she settled down & would sleep better. perked up & played from about 4pm-7pm, before bed, had some ibuprofen just prior to this.

sun: seems a little better, not a lot, still sleepy, but perked up & played again at 4ish, no ibuprofen this time. seems less feverish. pulsatilla 30c every 2 hrs

mon: much better, woke up wanting to play. went for follow up to more progressive regular doc who was ok with us not giving antibiotics (but probably would have preferred it if we had) and gave us neomycin/hydrocortisone ear drops 4x day, which we are giving her. her ear had so much gunk in it the doc couldn't see the eardrum to see if it was perforated or not. mon afternoon, we got a chiro adjustment, and she recommended we clear the gunk out as it oozes. she played all day, didn't seem feverish much (was 99 deg at the doc), didn't even nap. still giving pulsatilla, but less frequently.

tues: seems pretty normal, except the ear seems to be oozing even more than it was before. still greensih, opaque, doesn't smell bad, about the consistency of rubber cement. it oozes in spurts- none at all for 4 hours, then a spurt, then none for another 4 hours. we swabbed it out of the outer ear as best we could. she did have a fever this evening, although i'm wondering if my thermometer is broken bcs so did i, though dad didn't. hmmph. i feel fine. and i usually have a low temp. still giving pulsatilla, maybe 4 times per day.

so, all this for the question: how long can i expect the oozing to last? any reference i've found has been with antibiotics, but what is the expected course of recovery without? also, is it possible that the local infection could be getting worse, although all of her other symptoms seem so much better? we have a follow up with the regular doc on thurs, and i think she'll really recommend antibiotics if hte gunk is still there, even though her whole being seems so much better. she is a generally very resilient child, doesn't cry much or need attention when she bumps herself, etc. thanks, sorry it's so long...