Dr. Sameer....please help me find my constitutional remedy

Hi,

I am suffering from a number of physical and mental ailments and my present life is quite miserable....this life is not worth living.

I am a 30 year old woman with a 5 months old. I am breastfeeding him so its very important for me that homeopathy medicine recommended to me is completely safe.

I have filled up a questionnaire I got on this forum. I am waiting to go back to my enthusiastic, confident, energetic and independent old self...help me

1. Describe your main suffering?

There is a lot to share:

1. The extreme state of indifference …My life is going through a crisis and I feel as if someone else is going through it…not me.
2. I think too much….my mind is always restless
3. I am overly sentimental(about myself) – If things do not go my way, I fight argue, shout, weep then settle down-- after a few minutes I deal with the issue practically.
4. I am ignorant about people around me (specially my family), I feel detached…I know their problems and help but don’t feel for them.
5. I cry too much for trivial matters…I do not like to be questioned and fire back automatically when asked to explain…I feel as if people are doubting my intellect( All my decisions are well thought and logical. I never do anything without a reason.)

6. I can not stand undue interference…advise. My thought process is very clear..
1. My clothes, food, hobbies etc are personal and no one should object to them as long as it doesn’t interfere with their life( I make sure…they do not)
2. Issues related to married life…only my husband and I have to resolve ( do not like in-laws intervention)
3. I solve my problems on my own…don’t like to ask even my parents for help. Whenever I do I demand (not seek), because I feel, what I am asking is reasonable.

4. I never advise unless asked for and my suggestions are valued very well.
5. I am fairly independent.


2. What other physical sufferings do you have in your body?

1. Back ache
2. Body ache…
3. Pain in legs…
4. extreme tiredness
5. under eye dark circles
6. moles and warts on face and body
7. Acne(cystic)
8. very oily face
9. large open pores
10. acne scars
11. dull and uneven skin (no shine at all)
12. sagging skin


3. What mental sufferings / feelings do you have associated with your physical sufferings?

When I am mentally stressed…my physical sufferings go up.

4. What exactly do you feel when you are at your worst?

Life is not worth living


5. When did it all start? Can you connect it to any past event or disease?
I was a happy child. Then my parents left me with my grand mother…I felt deserted….then studies, I was beaten because I didn’t come up to my father’s expectation. Soon all this became part of life…the older I grew the more the pressure to perform…the more restrictions. We weren’t allowed friends at home…we weren’t given any pocket money. I didn’t mind any of these other than the extreme pressure. I started crying and soon I would cry when alone or when someone made a slightest remark. I would start crying in classroom too…anywhere and everywhere when things didn’t go my way or I could not deliver on anyone’s expectations.

I could never understand the need for too much pressure. I was always an above average performer but my father was not willing to accept anything other than 100/100..something I could never achieve. It wasn’t if I was deprived of all pleasure but happiness was temporary. My father controlled everything in and around the house…he was very short tempered. He had good intentions that his kids should receive the best of education and should be topper in whatever they do but he wasn’t very realistic. Music was banned in the house, no hobbies allowed. I loved music, poetry, and reading but had to give up all this. We had to focus only on getting good marks in all subjects.

I am the eldest child in the family and my brother and sister both were exposed to the same environment. There wasn’t any differentiation on basis of gender or anything else. My sister and brother developed more patience whereas I became touchier.

I was in standard tenth when I took control of my life and told my father that I didn’t want him to teach me. Since then we have hardly been on talking terms. It’s an unspoken agreement that we do not get in to each other’s way. I still felt the unstated pressure to deliver on his expectations; both my brother and sister were toppers in studies. I would sit with books and day dream.

My life improved after I went to hostel after 12th standard. I started defining my life. My teachers appreciated me, encouraged me. My warden treated me like her own daughter. All this gave me confidence which was somewhere hidden inside me. I did what I wanted to…read almost all the books in my library….all subjects. Everything new interested me.

Since then I have taken my own decisions and lived on my own terms (no co-operation from either family mine or in-laws)

My Mother -in-law has made my life miserable and threatened to do so in future . For the past 1 years I have been living with my parents but now I have to go back and face the same life.

I have an additional responsibility of my young boy..he is my life and I would never let anything come in his way. I will fight the whole world if need be. I am looking for ammunition to help me win this battle of life...its crucial and I have to win.

6. Which time of the day you are worst?
Early morning when I wake up

7. What are the things which aggravate your suffering and which are those which ameliorate the same?

Periods, stress, staying out for long, change of weather aggravates the suffering. I feel better when I have something positive to look forward to such a friend’s visit, some celebration etc.


8. Do your think your sufferings have relation to any external stimuli (like, change of place) or any internal biological changes in the body, like, menses (in females)?

Yes, both aggravate my sufferings.

9. When do you feel better, during hot weather or cold weather, humid or dry weather?

Neither hot nor cold….I prefer indoors, watching it rain. Physically I can stand hot weather better than cold. I love going out when the weather is mild and cool wind is blowing…early morning and late evenings


10. Describe your general mental set up? Are you Moody, Arrogant, Mild, Agreeable Changeable, Nervous, Suspicious, Easily offended, Quiet, Arguing, Irritating, Lazy etc.

I am Moody (most of time), Changeable (often), Easily offended, Arguing and Lazy(till I get started)

- How do you feel before or during a thunderstorm?

I like it mostly-sometimes vary

- Do you like being consoled during your tough times?
No, I like to be left alone. I do not take sympathy too well.

- Are you sensitive to external stimuli like smell, noise, light etc?

Yes, to noise and light

- Do you have any typical habit or gesture like nail biting, causeless
weeping, talking to one self etc?

Causeless weeping, talking to one self (rarely)

- How do you feel about your friends, family, your children and especially your husband / wife?

I love and trust my friends. I am not attached to my family (exception kids). I love my boy, he is my life. I think my husband is very conservative, have nothing to do with right or wrong, is biased and completely oblivious to facts.

11. What are your fears and do you dream of any situation repeatedly?

I fear losing my freedom and independence. I am also worried about my finances

I get dreams about getting up late on an exam day, missing exam etc. I have been getting such dreams for past 10 years…I still get these dreams although I finished my education 9 years back.(don’t know why?)



12. What do you crave for in food items and what are your aversions?

I love salty, spicy food.


13. How is your thirst: Less, Normal or Excessive? Less

14. How if your hunger: Less, Normal or Excessive? Normal (Excessive post delivery)

15. Is there any kind of food which your body can’t stand? No (I haven’t tried non veg.)

16. Is your sweat normal or less or more? Where does it sweat more: Head, Trunk or Limbs?

Less, comparatively more on head.

17. How is your bowel movement and stool type?
Constipated (take khadiradisht everyday to keep it normal)

18. How well do you sleep? Do you have a particular posture of sleeping?
Not very well, I keep changing sides, more on right than on left


19. Do you think you are able to satisfy your sexual desires in general?
I hardly have any such needs, its no where in my priority.

20. How do you think you are different from others, if at all?
I am very just and fair, so much so that I would fight injustice happening to anyone around me.

21. What medications have been taken earlier by you to treat the diseases and do you have any particular symptom surfacing after the medication? I have tried most of over the counter medications, no side effects experienced so far.

I was diagnosed with few tiny benign lumps in my breast


22. What major diseases are running in your family?
None


23. Describe, how do you look like? Describe your overall appearance

I am tall 5’8”, weigh 73 kgs( gained 10 kgs during pregnancy), fair, good figure, long shapely legs, very bad skin, moles and warts on face. My looks are okay but I am quite smart. All my skin problems are centered on my face and neck.

24. (ONLY FOR FEMALES)

If you are not having normal menstrual cycles, please answer the following questions:

- Are the periods early, regular or late in general? How long do they last? Regular , 25 days
- Do you suffer from any kind of physical or mental discomfort before, during or after the periods?

I used to have menstrual pain, no longer post delivery. I still feel very weak during menses.

- Is the flow scanty, normal or excessive?
Normal

- Is the blood thick bright red or pale watery?
Bright Red

- Do you notice any clots in the flow?
Quite a few before delivery, hardly any now a days.

There is a lot to write, my life has never been the way I have wanted it and I don't have a mindset to accept whatever comes my way. I am willing to work to achieve my goals but still the goals have to be mine.


Dr. Sameer, I know you must be very busy but please do take out some time and help me.

Let me know if you need any more information.

Thanking you in advance.
Aadrita