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9yr old w learning problems - Aspergers?
Hello, my 9 ½ year old son has severe learning difficulties despite being quite bright and switched on. He is an excellent reader but can barely write and his spelling is so bad that mostly its just a guess to know what he has written. He is aware of the fact that he is far behind in school but refuses to practise writing and spelling at home. Maths is a bit better. His memory is very poor, he cannot finish his work on time and is very easily distracted and fidgety, can't sit still. It is very difficult to get him ready for school, have to remind him constantly what to do next, even to eat his breakfast.Had been diagnosed with ADD but sometimes I wonder if it could be Aspergers. I refuse to drug him despite pressure from various sides, he hasnt been immunised either.
Doesnt have problems to talk to strangers, adults and children alike, in fact he is very sweet and chatty. Always tries to engage people in a conversation but fails to realise when someone is not interested. Making and keeping friends is a problem
for him, he is very friendly and social but hates rough play (or what he considers rough) and is often around girls or younger children. Boys his age mostly do not like to play with him as he can be quite intense and just talk about what he is interested in (Pokemon at the moment). Often behaves immature for his age but at other times one could think he was an adult. Can be a target for bullying. There had been three episodes of minor self-harm over the last four months. He scratched his face when he was angry due to being bullied and is currently seeing a psychologist to address this issue. At home he can be sometimes rude and obstinate but he doesnt know how to stand his ground at school. Loves animals, would never harm another creature. He is not really into sports but started playing badminton at a club a few months ago and enjoys it.
Health is very good, rarely a cold/cough which I treat with homeopathy, chickenpox at 2 years (mild). Only twice in his life antibiotics, first when he was 4 years for an infected eyelid (with pus and blood) and at 6 for a very deep tropical boil on his leg (live in Tropics). Never any other drugs, no paracetamol, nothing. Has two joint warts on right elbow. He is tall, slim with olive skin and very handsome. Likes milk, potatoes, tomatoes, frozen peas, frozen berries, bananas and carrots, ice cream, chocolate (doesnt get much though), pasta and fried rice. Decided to become a vegetarian a few years ago but loves sushi and accepts minced meat in pasta sauce. He doesnt really eat much but is constantly grazing on carrots, peas and berries. Used to eat a lot of apples but a few weeks ago he choked on a piece and is too afraid to eat them now though he admitted that it was his own fault as he was talking while eating. His bowel movements are regular, once a day and soft. He sleeps very well, in fact it is very difficult to wake him once he is sleeping. Often still wetting the bed unless I drag him out to go to the toilet before I go to bed. Started to chew fingernails about a year ago.
There is a marked history of cnr on his fathers side of the family, his father passed away of cnr almost 4 years ago and so did a lot of other close family members.
As mentioned prior I always treat my son with homeopathy when he has a cold but in this case I would appreciate some expert advice.
Wombat on 2013-10-26
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How was your pregnancy? Do you recall any unpleasant incident during pregnancy that affected your mind for some time?
Was there any trauma, mental or physical after birth?
Did he suffer any head injury in his childhood?
Can you provide any such information that could be relevant to decide the background or etiology of these symptoms?
If you were treating him earlier on homeopathy, did you ever try to find the constitution of your child?
Was there any trauma, mental or physical after birth?
Did he suffer any head injury in his childhood?
Can you provide any such information that could be relevant to decide the background or etiology of these symptoms?
If you were treating him earlier on homeopathy, did you ever try to find the constitution of your child?
♡ rishimba last decade
Thank you very much for your reply. The physical side of the pregnancy was fine even though I was already 41 years and had never been pregnant before.
I never intended to have children, so it took me quite a while to get used to the thought of becoming a mother. Of course there would have been an alternative which I always thought I would seek out but I guess once the pregnancy hormones run havoc in your body nothing is as it was before.
My son arrived 4 1/2 weeks early, it was a very easy birth, just about 3 hours from start to end and no painkillers required. He was perfect, just had to stay two weeks in hospital because he was the minimal weight of a full term baby.
Never had any head injury. Usually very healthy apart from the odd cold/cough.
In hindsight I have to say that his milestones were probably slightly delayed though the health professional thought it to be still in the normal range.
He was a very alert baby, always watching what was going on around him and he would rarely cry except when he wanted a feed.
In terms of a const. remedy I am not sure, sometimes I think of Lycopodium, Phosphorus, Staphysagria or even Sulphur, that's the reason I would like to get some advice. I think I am too close to him to make that decision. I would consult a professional but there is none in my town and as we live in a remote part of OZ the next one far, far away.
My const. remedy is Sepia, his late father was Lycopodium.
I never intended to have children, so it took me quite a while to get used to the thought of becoming a mother. Of course there would have been an alternative which I always thought I would seek out but I guess once the pregnancy hormones run havoc in your body nothing is as it was before.
My son arrived 4 1/2 weeks early, it was a very easy birth, just about 3 hours from start to end and no painkillers required. He was perfect, just had to stay two weeks in hospital because he was the minimal weight of a full term baby.
Never had any head injury. Usually very healthy apart from the odd cold/cough.
In hindsight I have to say that his milestones were probably slightly delayed though the health professional thought it to be still in the normal range.
He was a very alert baby, always watching what was going on around him and he would rarely cry except when he wanted a feed.
In terms of a const. remedy I am not sure, sometimes I think of Lycopodium, Phosphorus, Staphysagria or even Sulphur, that's the reason I would like to get some advice. I think I am too close to him to make that decision. I would consult a professional but there is none in my town and as we live in a remote part of OZ the next one far, far away.
My const. remedy is Sepia, his late father was Lycopodium.
Wombat last decade
How was his relationship with his dad?
Did your hubby's death affect him emotionally?
How was his self-confidence then and how is it now?
Can you corelate the onset of his symptoms with the demise of your hubby?
Did your hubby's death affect him emotionally?
How was his self-confidence then and how is it now?
Can you corelate the onset of his symptoms with the demise of your hubby?
♡ rishimba last decade
Hello again, the relationship with his dad was great, his father had already three adult children but really enjoyed having a little one again. We were honest right from the beginning after his dad had been diagnosed with terminal cnr so we could talk about it. My son was ok, he still loves to have his father's urn in his room, I think that helped him with the grieving process. A few months later we went to a child psychologist with him just to make sure that there wouldn't be any underlying issues I might have missed. She confirmed that my son was fine and that it was very good that he was talking about everything. My son also has a good relationship with his two sisters, unfortunately his older brother passed away (cnr as well) about two years before his dad. His older sister had been diagnosed with breast cnr. two years ago and underwent surgery and chemo/radiation, she is fine so far. At this point I also want to mention that a cousin of my son (was like an aunty to him) passed away just 7 months after his dad, she had been battling breast cnr. for about 7 years.
Of course that's a lot to take for a little child but he was already a bit restless and had a very short attention span in pre-school and even in playgroup when he was very young. We just thought it was immaturity and would improve with time, so I don't feel that it's due to his dad's passing.
With all this cnr. in the family (his grandmother, uncles, aunts and other cousins are also affected) I was also thinking of Carcinosin but I feel totally confused at the moment and I don't want to jump from one remedy to another one.
Of course that's a lot to take for a little child but he was already a bit restless and had a very short attention span in pre-school and even in playgroup when he was very young. We just thought it was immaturity and would improve with time, so I don't feel that it's due to his dad's passing.
With all this cnr. in the family (his grandmother, uncles, aunts and other cousins are also affected) I was also thinking of Carcinosin but I feel totally confused at the moment and I don't want to jump from one remedy to another one.
Wombat last decade
If you look at Carcinosinum, you will find the essence that matches your son. The fact that he plays with girls and younger boys shows he lacks self confidence. Influence of the father is quite important in carcinosinum and so in this case, his father's death could also be an underlying cause of his symptoms.
You can go for LYCOPODIUM later but I would suggest one dose of CARCINOSINUM 1M first to eliminate this layer.
You can go for LYCOPODIUM later but I would suggest one dose of CARCINOSINUM 1M first to eliminate this layer.
♡ rishimba last decade
Thanks, gotanother two questions. You don't think 1M is too strong and that I should start lower? I always get the liquid remedies, should I just give him a few drops in a clean mouth?
Wombat last decade
There is no physical pathology, the symptoms are all mental, so there is no danger of any aggravation. Nosodes are best given in 1M potency or higher for deeper action and removal of the layer entirely.
You can buy one dose of liquid remedy and give him on a holiday first thing in the morning. let him brush his teeth the previous night. Wake him up in the morning, give him the dose and then let him sleep for another 2 hours.
You can buy one dose of liquid remedy and give him on a holiday first thing in the morning. let him brush his teeth the previous night. Wake him up in the morning, give him the dose and then let him sleep for another 2 hours.
♡ rishimba last decade
I gave my son a dose of Carcinosinum 1M five days ago and so far I cannot see any difference except that he seems to be a bit more agreeable, doesn't seem to contradict so often. However, I don't know if that's from the Carcinosium as that had happend before too, without homeopathic remedy.
Suppose I have to wait a bit longer?
Suppose I have to wait a bit longer?
Wombat last decade
I don't expect that carcinosinum will actually relieve all his symptoms. It is given to remove a blockage, if at all is there, due to his genetic predisposition.
Wait for another week and then state all his symptoms. I would be especially interested to know what is your behaviour like with him since he was a child. Do you feel he felt lack of love and affection from you anytime in life? Did the death of his dad make him a closed and suppressed personality?
Wait for another week and then state all his symptoms. I would be especially interested to know what is your behaviour like with him since he was a child. Do you feel he felt lack of love and affection from you anytime in life? Did the death of his dad make him a closed and suppressed personality?
♡ rishimba last decade
My son never felt as if I didn't
love him, I am quite sure about that. As mentioned earlier, I didn't really want children but of course I love him and show him affection.
He doesn't have a closed and suppressed personality, not now and not in the past. When we go somewhere he always asks other kids if they would like to play with him or if we are in a shop or cafe and he has any questions he will go to the person in charge and ask. He is always very chatty.
Sometimes other kids do not want to play, especially if he asks children that are a bit older than him, then he can be very persistent and quite a bit of a pest I have to say. We talked many times about that but he just doesn't get the message. He says everyone was different and I didn't know if they wanted to play or not.
It's to no avail when I point out the nonverbal signs of not wanting to have anything to do with him. Or with younger children he sometimes doesn't realize that they do not understand everything.
That's the reasons I thought he could be Asperger.
There is still no change after the remedy by the way.
love him, I am quite sure about that. As mentioned earlier, I didn't really want children but of course I love him and show him affection.
He doesn't have a closed and suppressed personality, not now and not in the past. When we go somewhere he always asks other kids if they would like to play with him or if we are in a shop or cafe and he has any questions he will go to the person in charge and ask. He is always very chatty.
Sometimes other kids do not want to play, especially if he asks children that are a bit older than him, then he can be very persistent and quite a bit of a pest I have to say. We talked many times about that but he just doesn't get the message. He says everyone was different and I didn't know if they wanted to play or not.
It's to no avail when I point out the nonverbal signs of not wanting to have anything to do with him. Or with younger children he sometimes doesn't realize that they do not understand everything.
That's the reasons I thought he could be Asperger.
There is still no change after the remedy by the way.
Wombat last decade
Give him LYCOPODIUM 1M one dose and post feedback after a week.
♡ rishimba last decade
Great, thanks. Thought of Lycopodium too. Only have 30C so will order 1M and report back.
Wombat last decade
♡ rishimba last decade
Hello again, just wanted to touch base. I got the Lycopodium 1M yesterday and gave my son a dose. Will wait, watch and report back in a few days.
Wombat last decade
Ask him if he slept better and watch is general behaviour pattern. Watch if he is more happy, jovial and cooperative etc.
Post your notes after about 15 days.
Post your notes after about 15 days.
♡ rishimba last decade
♡ rishimba last decade
My apology for the delay in getting back rishimba, was very busy during the festive season.
Unfortunately I cannot report any difference/improvement in the behaviour of my son.
I am currently reading Paul Herscu's 'Homeopathic Treatment of Children' and the mentals of the extroverted Phosphorus sound exactly like my son. Also his appearance and the fact that he only wants ice cold drinks and loves to eat frozen peas, berries etc.
I am a bit unsure as what to do. Maybe repeat a dose of Lycopodium?
Unfortunately I cannot report any difference/improvement in the behaviour of my son.
I am currently reading Paul Herscu's 'Homeopathic Treatment of Children' and the mentals of the extroverted Phosphorus sound exactly like my son. Also his appearance and the fact that he only wants ice cold drinks and loves to eat frozen peas, berries etc.
I am a bit unsure as what to do. Maybe repeat a dose of Lycopodium?
Wombat last decade
Don't repeat Lycopodium if it hasn't worked. Frankly speaking its not easy to conclude constitutions of children just by asking a few questions. Its possible that he is a phosphorus child. Some characteristics which are generally found in phosphorus children are..
- crave salt more than they crave sweet.
-like to be touched, carressed or massaged.
-they are easy going with friends. they get bullied by others but can never bully others.
-they cover themselves except their face and head while sleeping.
-every time they have common cold, the cough tends to shift to the chest.
-they bleed easily, be it through their nose, gums or anus.
-they are sensitive to light and temperature fluctuations outside.
-they like cold drinks
Now, you can decide for sure if he is a phosphorus child. In case you find some similarities with phos, give him one dose of phos 1m and see his response.
[message edited by rishimba on Sun, 12 Jan 2014 03:51:26 GMT]
- crave salt more than they crave sweet.
-like to be touched, carressed or massaged.
-they are easy going with friends. they get bullied by others but can never bully others.
-they cover themselves except their face and head while sleeping.
-every time they have common cold, the cough tends to shift to the chest.
-they bleed easily, be it through their nose, gums or anus.
-they are sensitive to light and temperature fluctuations outside.
-they like cold drinks
Now, you can decide for sure if he is a phosphorus child. In case you find some similarities with phos, give him one dose of phos 1m and see his response.
[message edited by rishimba on Sun, 12 Jan 2014 03:51:26 GMT]
♡ rishimba last decade
Gave my son Phosphorus 1M last night. Today he didn't seem so argumentative but kind of restless, spinning his hand around his Lego helicopter he held in the other.
He did that sometimes before but today was a bit extreme.
Maybe a slight aggravation? Will report back in about a week.
He did that sometimes before but today was a bit extreme.
Maybe a slight aggravation? Will report back in about a week.
Antje last decade
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