depression with anxiety/stressI'm a 23 year old female, when I was 14 I was put on zoloft, lexapro, geodon, and effexor at different times to try and help me and none of them worked. I became even more depressed and antisocial. I stopped taking medications because I had overdosed on every one of those listed above. During that time of my life I was going through a LOT. My mom was on heavy drugs, my sisters and I were being passed from home to home and I went to 6 schools in 2 years. I was always the one that had to look after mysisters and also look after my mom when iI was with her.
Around age 19 iI was put on klonopin as needed for anxiety and that helped but I had lost insurance and couldn't get a prescription so I got off that.
I have managed since then but I feel like my symptoms are getting worse again. I do have stress in my life. My husband is gone at work all the time and I tend to our 17 month old 24 7. Recently we had to bring his younger brother to be admitted to an inpatient facility due to not being able to cope with events that have happened in the past. My mom has been going through a mid life crisis(so she says) and I'm worried about her relapsing. I feel like I am on call to everyone all the time. If I'm not trying to please and take care of my daughter, my husband wants something from me. And when I'm not busy with any of them I feel like I'm worried about other family members. I have list my sex drive. I have sex about once a month. Which that causes problems between my husband and me because he obviously wants to have sex regularly and I just don't want to. I don't like him touching me, nothing. I just want to sleep! I've been feeling like sex is a chore, not a pleasure for the both of us. I still find my husband attractive and I do get turned on by him, but as soon as he even touches me I lose it and recluse into myself. I know these things may not seem like much to someone else but for whatever reason I am not handling all this very well. I'm wanting to sleep all day, I don't have energy to workout, I don't have the motivation to clean, I have been having panic attacks again, I havea short temper.
If anyone needs more info or more detail on what I've already wrote let me know.
Thanks in advance.
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duck13 on 2014-09-19
♡ Mahfoozurrehman 8 years ago
Are tablets pills or granules?
And pills and pellets are the same correct?
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duck13 8 years ago
It is an understatement that you are overstressed
by what is going on presently and you have a
depletion of energy-and are still trying to keep
up and that just won't work well, like having
no gas in the car.
Your husband needs to understand that you have
to build your energy back up again. A lot of Moms
don't feel like having sex after being exhausted and
having to hold, handle the baby 24/7-They want to
sleep and they want to have their body to themselves.
You can explain this better to your husband by asking
him to 'imagine' himself doing what you are doing.
Or have him take care of the child for a 24 hour period
while you take the day off.
You need to eat well, take a good vitamin supplement,
and figure out a way to get some downtime where even
if you had a helpful teenager, watch the baby for
a few hours two or three times a week so you can
nap without worrying.
♡ simone717 8 years ago
Thanks for your reply.
I have had my husband watch our daughter before and he always tells me he's exhausted afterwards, but even still after me watching her for days with no break he doesn't understand. I've been trying to get my daughter into daycare so she can socialize with other toddlers her age and give us both a break from each other. Its hard though with living in a small town that's overpopulated. There's only 2 child care facilities in town and a ton of families have come this way for work in the oil field. I love my baby, don't get me wrong, I just can't handle this 24/7 and every other stressor put on me. I've had 1 day completely alone which only lasted 4 hours. And I've had a few nights with my husband where my mom was in town and had our toddler for the night. The breaks help a little but I still feel really down the next day.
duck13 8 years ago
A. You have been raised into a caretaker role-When that happens
you expect more out of yourself ( supermom) than is normal
or really possible. When one does not have enough energy
to maintain all of this, anxiety attacks happen, panic attacks
happen. This won't be good for you or anyone around you, so
you have to make the proper adjustments.
B. The problem with the daycare at this age is they pick up
everything from the other kids, and this could end up being
way worse than it is now, bc they get sick and then the parents
pick up the colds, flu etc also. It is easier right now to
join a playgroup- meet up with Mom's at the park etc.
C. When my kids were little, I hired the teenage girls in
my neighborhood ( the important thing was that they loved
to play with kids and they were very responsible) That gave
me short breaks, and then I looked for a permanent grandmother
type person - to do a few afternoons a week or be there
so I could have an evening out. You want to find people who
the first priority is that they love to be around kids and play
with kids-and then check all references really well. See how
your child is when you come home- are they happy?
D. If your husband does not 'get it' then take him to counseling or
you go to counseling to learn how to set up the boundaries
correct to take care of yourself. You have to fully recognize
that you need to have a Stable Plan to manage your needs-
which are Normal by the way and get the rest you need-
and stand firm about that. People need a good 8 hours sleep
a night, after a time of poor sleep, not enough sleep, your
system will go haywire, it is just the way it is.
You know if your husband was working 18 hour shifts for weeks,
he would be changing ( not in a good way) and You being
the caretaker would probably not put up with that- you would
say something has got to change asap, bc your health is
at risk. That is how you have to think about yourself.
♡ simone717 8 years ago
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