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Lack of self confidence
Iam 36 aged man , married and having two boys.PG graduate ,Working as a software professional.
63 kg weight, 5.6 feet height,black complexion.
lost my father when i was around 5 years old and brought up in a middle class family.
having 2 brothers and 2 sisters , all are married and settled, Im the youngest one.
Iam mostly soft charecter, and avoided playing like cricket, tennies,football, chess.carrom from childhooddays in school or anywhere because of hesitation
and having inner feeling that I will not play well or I dont know to play well or everyone will think that i dont know to play well.
hesitate to talk to new people, will try to avoid to speak to them , if suppose they started to speak then i dont know how to continue the speech, simply will think
what to talk next.After the coversation i will imagine how i spoke and will feel that i have not spoken well, oh i could have spoken well.
have very limited friends that is also who are my childhood friends.
cannot able to mingle with new people, so i have not having friends during my ug/pg or now in the working environment.
confidence level is very low and poor communication.
non veg family, but i prefer mostly veg.
heat body
wanted to climpup higher steps in my carrier , but due to lack of confidence iam lacking behind.
I searched a lot in net for homeopathy medicene and found an article of improving self confidence
Iam taking baryta carb 200c - 4 pills -twice weekly
Gelsemium 30 c - 4 pills - twice weekly
Am i right in selecting the medice and dose..
Suggestion and device are really appreciated
Iorvithell on 2016-09-11
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
Never use two medicines together.
You can try one by one, if you want to self prescribe. But to do that, you must know the homeopathic philosophy first.
Choose the medicine you feel matches your symptoms best, and use one dose per week, for 3 weeks.
Review after a month. Again there are lot of parameters to consider to conclude whether the medicine is working or not.
Why don't you see a good homeopath in person?
You can try one by one, if you want to self prescribe. But to do that, you must know the homeopathic philosophy first.
Choose the medicine you feel matches your symptoms best, and use one dose per week, for 3 weeks.
Review after a month. Again there are lot of parameters to consider to conclude whether the medicine is working or not.
Why don't you see a good homeopath in person?
♡ gavinimurthy 7 years ago
Iorvithell,
I appriciate the way you have described yourself. Very few people can do that even after requesting especially, when mind and personality description is concerned.
You shhould have knocked the doors of this forum before you started with medicines. There are qualified & experienced doctors to help here. Self prescription is not really good, may harm.
From your description, I do not think choice of your remedies and dosage is not right.
If you are already feeling any positive changes it's fine but In case you wish to take on professional prescription you may post some more details regarding your past & present physical health, fear, occupational details, etc. describe important incidences that might have influenced your life, especially in childhood.
I appriciate the way you have described yourself. Very few people can do that even after requesting especially, when mind and personality description is concerned.
You shhould have knocked the doors of this forum before you started with medicines. There are qualified & experienced doctors to help here. Self prescription is not really good, may harm.
From your description, I do not think choice of your remedies and dosage is not right.
If you are already feeling any positive changes it's fine but In case you wish to take on professional prescription you may post some more details regarding your past & present physical health, fear, occupational details, etc. describe important incidences that might have influenced your life, especially in childhood.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
Thanks for the reply gavinimurthy.
Dr Kulkarni - Thank you for your response.please find more details below
I have started taking dose from last saturday 10 sep 2016.
I took Gelmesium 30c ( 4 small balls as one dose) in the saturday morning and then in sunday morning, feeling some what better in anxiety, but cant say anything about confidence level right now
i havenot taken the baryta carb 200c till now and plan to take on coming thursday and friday one dose.
Regarding past health :
I was slim about 52 kg till 27 age. had once jaundice, done laser treatment for short sight problem in the both eyes( power was 1.75 in left and 2.25 in right eye).
as per my memories I was suffering from lack of confidence and shyness from childhood days.
Always hesitate to talk to people, try to give answer in one or two words.but have participated in oratory competion and won first prizes,and i know that i have the ability to deleiver good speech, but will always hestitate to take responsibility,ownership,and also due to shyness , i will avoid the situation in which i can show my talent
Present health:
average weight with 63 kg, no sugar , normal bp.
always thinking of future, likes everything to be clean and perfect, having pain in my forehead most days when im in office, dry skin, heat body, for getting motion daily will dring 2,3 times of tea in the early morning then only will have feeling of going to bathroom, stomach will become heavy and bulge if I missed for even one day , always try to eat little amount of food only. having feeling of too hungry in late evenings around 7.will always get appraisal comment as have to improve communication skills from my manager.
having inferiority complex about my appearnce, have some times bisexual thoughts.
Today i did little more research and found that lycopodiul will siuts more than gelsemium for me.
guide me how to proceed further
Dr Kulkarni - Thank you for your response.please find more details below
I have started taking dose from last saturday 10 sep 2016.
I took Gelmesium 30c ( 4 small balls as one dose) in the saturday morning and then in sunday morning, feeling some what better in anxiety, but cant say anything about confidence level right now
i havenot taken the baryta carb 200c till now and plan to take on coming thursday and friday one dose.
Regarding past health :
I was slim about 52 kg till 27 age. had once jaundice, done laser treatment for short sight problem in the both eyes( power was 1.75 in left and 2.25 in right eye).
as per my memories I was suffering from lack of confidence and shyness from childhood days.
Always hesitate to talk to people, try to give answer in one or two words.but have participated in oratory competion and won first prizes,and i know that i have the ability to deleiver good speech, but will always hestitate to take responsibility,ownership,and also due to shyness , i will avoid the situation in which i can show my talent
Present health:
average weight with 63 kg, no sugar , normal bp.
always thinking of future, likes everything to be clean and perfect, having pain in my forehead most days when im in office, dry skin, heat body, for getting motion daily will dring 2,3 times of tea in the early morning then only will have feeling of going to bathroom, stomach will become heavy and bulge if I missed for even one day , always try to eat little amount of food only. having feeling of too hungry in late evenings around 7.will always get appraisal comment as have to improve communication skills from my manager.
having inferiority complex about my appearnce, have some times bisexual thoughts.
Today i did little more research and found that lycopodiul will siuts more than gelsemium for me.
guide me how to proceed further
Iorvithell 7 years ago
Great!
You got it right this time. My prescription for you was ready before I responded to your post. I just wanted it to confirm which your latest details do.
I can make out you have some talent but it's like fire under the ash.
Well, here is your prescription.
1. Lycopodium clavatum 1M, (buy 1 drachm) 5 pills 6hourly x 3 doses for just one day. Remember, the 3rd dose should be 1 hour before bed time.
2. Natrum muriaticum 30x, (buy about 30-50 grams), 3 tabs once daily at 7 pm.
You got it right this time. My prescription for you was ready before I responded to your post. I just wanted it to confirm which your latest details do.
I can make out you have some talent but it's like fire under the ash.
Well, here is your prescription.
1. Lycopodium clavatum 1M, (buy 1 drachm) 5 pills 6hourly x 3 doses for just one day. Remember, the 3rd dose should be 1 hour before bed time.
2. Natrum muriaticum 30x, (buy about 30-50 grams), 3 tabs once daily at 7 pm.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
Heartful great thanks for quick response Dr Kulkarni !
Have few questions,
Do i need to wait for a week or so, to start your prescription, since i have taken gelsemium dose 2 days back ?
or can i start ASAP like tomorrow
Have few questions,
Do i need to wait for a week or so, to start your prescription, since i have taken gelsemium dose 2 days back ?
or can i start ASAP like tomorrow
Iorvithell 7 years ago
It is always better to wait but it would be difficult to judge the waiting period for various reasons.
Therefore, you may start right on the new doses would be able to take on. I have already considered your situation.
Therefore, you may start right on the new doses would be able to take on. I have already considered your situation.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
Today I have started the prescription as below:
Lycopodium 1m 5 pills = 1 dose;
morning 8 0 clock 1 dose, afternoon 2 o clock 1 dose, night(goint to take) at 8 o clock i dose;
Regarding Nat Mur, I could not able to get 30x here, but 6x and 12 x are available.
Please advice me
Lycopodium 1m 5 pills = 1 dose;
morning 8 0 clock 1 dose, afternoon 2 o clock 1 dose, night(goint to take) at 8 o clock i dose;
Regarding Nat Mur, I could not able to get 30x here, but 6x and 12 x are available.
Please advice me
Iorvithell 7 years ago
Fine but "Remember, the 3rd dose should be 1 hour before bed time." I hope you have read it. You may adjust 3rd dose timing accordingly (your bed time & go to bed early).
You can start on Nat-mur 12x. dosage will remain same.
You can start on Nat-mur 12x. dosage will remain same.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
Observation
First Day : Moderate Headache throughtout the day
Second Day : Feeling Drowzy . mild headache in the afternoon. have very little vomiting sensation then and there.
little anxiety and poor self confidence.
Third day : poor self confidence and very mild headache.
Avoided to face a new challenging task in the office, for that tried so much to avoid to see the Team lead face, End of the day feel very bad about myself
beleiving in patience and hopes for the best yet to come...
First Day : Moderate Headache throughtout the day
Second Day : Feeling Drowzy . mild headache in the afternoon. have very little vomiting sensation then and there.
little anxiety and poor self confidence.
Third day : poor self confidence and very mild headache.
Avoided to face a new challenging task in the office, for that tried so much to avoid to see the Team lead face, End of the day feel very bad about myself
beleiving in patience and hopes for the best yet to come...
Iorvithell 7 years ago
We are trying to improve your basic nature which are mostly inherited genetically. It is not easy task and nor can you expect it to change overnight. It may take quite long time to improve.
Patience....
Keep reporting periodically.
Patience....
Keep reporting periodically.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
fourth day: fear of life and future.poor self confidence.mild headache in the evening.medium drowziness,dull feelings.
In the late evening, after having hair cut, confidence level was slighly improved
Fifth day: Confident level was medium. v mild head ache
Sixth day : Confidence was medium , but unwilling to take new task
Note: But when i was taking Gelsemium I found myself more confident and energetic
In the late evening, after having hair cut, confidence level was slighly improved
Fifth day: Confident level was medium. v mild head ache
Sixth day : Confidence was medium , but unwilling to take new task
Note: But when i was taking Gelsemium I found myself more confident and energetic
Iorvithell 7 years ago
but i could say that my mind is saying there is some very small improvement...guess i could need to wait for another 1 or 2 weeks to say correctly
Iorvithell 7 years ago
When improvement begins it does this way only. It needs ablity to observe keenly and interpret correctly in intial stage.
Although everybody would be glad to see an overnight transformation after the dose unfortunately, that is too much of expectation.
Abnormally sudden improvement could sometimes be a warning sign of failure which most people (including few doctor) do not know.
Still we need to give ample time.
By the way, whenever you mention obout a symptom mention if you had similar symptom in the past. E.g. the headache you experienced.
Although everybody would be glad to see an overnight transformation after the dose unfortunately, that is too much of expectation.
Abnormally sudden improvement could sometimes be a warning sign of failure which most people (including few doctor) do not know.
Still we need to give ample time.
By the way, whenever you mention obout a symptom mention if you had similar symptom in the past. E.g. the headache you experienced.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
Stomach becoming very bulge , feeling like full of wind and want to release it, but not done
[message edited by Iorvithell on Thu, 22 Sep 2016 14:45:52 UTC]
[message edited by Iorvithell on Thu, 22 Sep 2016 14:45:52 UTC]
Iorvithell 7 years ago
It should be a temporary problem. Don't take any medicine.
Take following home remedy after each food:
1/2teaspoon gingerpaste + 2teaspoon lemon juice + pinch of black salt + 2pinch Ajwain powder.
Mix all in 2cups(about 200ml) of water and drink.
That should ease your discomfort till the problem is resolved within few days.
Take following home remedy after each food:
1/2teaspoon gingerpaste + 2teaspoon lemon juice + pinch of black salt + 2pinch Ajwain powder.
Mix all in 2cups(about 200ml) of water and drink.
That should ease your discomfort till the problem is resolved within few days.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
seventh day : tiredness, unwilling to go for office,mild headache, gas problem
after eating food even small quantity (lunch rice) stomach become bulge
eight day : medium confidence, medium energy, mild head ache (climate is good ..may be the reason?) and eye pain severe
ninth day : low confidence, stomach become bulge from last 3,4 days....weight gained by 3.5 kg....usually will have very limited food only and continued the same...no extra food had...avoiding the public
tenth day: confidence is not good. today i have very imporant office function and so i thought of having gelsemium 30c single dose , I had it and i was good enough to attend the function..
sorry for having gelsemium without your consent.
will take home remedy for stomach problem and let you know the result after 2 days
after eating food even small quantity (lunch rice) stomach become bulge
eight day : medium confidence, medium energy, mild head ache (climate is good ..may be the reason?) and eye pain severe
ninth day : low confidence, stomach become bulge from last 3,4 days....weight gained by 3.5 kg....usually will have very limited food only and continued the same...no extra food had...avoiding the public
tenth day: confidence is not good. today i have very imporant office function and so i thought of having gelsemium 30c single dose , I had it and i was good enough to attend the function..
sorry for having gelsemium without your consent.
will take home remedy for stomach problem and let you know the result after 2 days
Iorvithell 7 years ago
11th day: confident ws medium -
12th day: confident was low
13th day confident was low- shy and afraid of even to known group
14th day confident was low; low energy
how long need to take NAT MUR..?
12th day: confident was low
13th day confident was low- shy and afraid of even to known group
14th day confident was low; low energy
how long need to take NAT MUR..?
Iorvithell 7 years ago
Iorvithell,
You had taken Gelsemium in between. So, I had decide to withdraw from your case becasue I won't be able to analyse the progress of mixed effects of your treatment and mine.
If Gelsemium is helping you better you may please continue with it.
Wish you all the best.
You had taken Gelsemium in between. So, I had decide to withdraw from your case becasue I won't be able to analyse the progress of mixed effects of your treatment and mine.
If Gelsemium is helping you better you may please continue with it.
Wish you all the best.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
DrKulkarni,
Grateful thanks for your support and I really appreciate your effort in spending valuable time for analyzing my case.
Actually the decision was taken only before 5 minutes , it was very emergency and so could not have enough time for your consent, for taking Gelsemium.
But what ever be the reasons its my absolute mistake,my sincere apologies.
Kindly reconsider my case
Grateful thanks for your support and I really appreciate your effort in spending valuable time for analyzing my case.
Actually the decision was taken only before 5 minutes , it was very emergency and so could not have enough time for your consent, for taking Gelsemium.
But what ever be the reasons its my absolute mistake,my sincere apologies.
Kindly reconsider my case
Iorvithell 7 years ago
You better tryGelsemium for a while and if it fails to give you any substantial relief you may come back.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
Doctor,
Thanks again for understanding my situation and reconsidering the case.
Planning to have GEL30C single dose once in three days starting from today.
Also planning to have NAT MUR30X, a single dose in the remaining days.
Could you please let me know if you have any comments on the above doses ?
Thanks again for understanding my situation and reconsidering the case.
Planning to have GEL30C single dose once in three days starting from today.
Also planning to have NAT MUR30X, a single dose in the remaining days.
Could you please let me know if you have any comments on the above doses ?
Iorvithell 7 years ago
Just take gelsemium daily once till you sense some signs of improvement then stop it and wait.
Don't take anything else.
Don't take anything else.
DrKulkarni 7 years ago
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