adhd/ocd, autism?

To Joe De Livera or whomever can help.

Joe, I just requested advice for my ill boyfriend, but I really need help for my two sons also.

One is 17, I currently have him on the arnica as well as myself, we both have cystic acne. We're using this as you suggested to others, 30c wet dose. He does have ADHD and I did have him on ritalin for many years. Although I never wanted to have him on medication, it was the only way he could perform in school. Around the age of 12, this no longer worked. I had tried some vitamin alternatives at different times, but they were so costly and it was unaffordable for me to continue. Towards the end of this past school year after spending the last few years trying different meds, (concerta, aderall, and stratera,) I went and spent about $300.00 to try the vitamins again. They did help, but he still had issues with concentration, focus and depression. This boy has an IQ of 122 and is quite brilliant in many areas, but he will be repeating 10th grade for the 3rd time this year. He always had A's and a few B's, up until around the age of 12. He now has mostly F's and I'm out of my mind over it. I also have ADHD, so I do understand, but I made it through high school without meds and then through college. It was a struggle for concentration at times, but I've always achieved high grades and could read and write at the age of 3. He is an avid reader, it came easy to him as it did me. Learning disabiliteis are definitely not his issue. He get's depressed and somewhat angry at times and it's unexpected. He also started smoking pot last year, but was having problems in school well before this. He's been on the arnica now, this is the third day, so i can't conclude as of yet, but all seems well. I want my son to succeed, as i feel he is a great boy and has allot to offer. He is more than willing to try anything to have a better life. Any suggestions for him?

As for my other son, he is 4. This little fella is very hard for me to handle. He also seems brilliant. His comprehension an sentence structure is astounding. He uses big words correctly and comes up with phrases that would floor you. He runs in circles and back and forth, he makes very loud shrill noises, he loves to aggravate everyone. He hates loud noises, unless they're his own. He invades personal space constantly. He talks back, spits, screams, has tantrums and will scream for what he wants, until I calm him and make him ask properly. He becomes hysterical often over nothing and doesn't seem to be able to handle the word no. He does bad things and then comes and tells on himself. I use the 1 2 3 time out method with him and yes it helps, but just not enough. I catch him being mean to our dogs, although he's often quite compassionate. He sticks his finger in my face, and i say, 'that's not nice, how would you like it if I did that to you?' His answer is something like, 'I'll hit you, I'll kick you, I'll shoot you, or I'll slap you, etc.' He says these things about other children too. He has been potty trained since before the age of three, but he will often wet his pants and run around holding himself telling me he has to pee, and I tell him to go to the bathroom, then he does. I'm not sure why he does this. He had a bowel movement in his potty chair at 2 and never went in his diaper/pants again, it was like he was instantly trained, so that was easy. It's just the pants wetting at this point. I love him so much, but sometimes he tries my patience and it makes me cry. He goes and goes all through the day and sometimes until midnight, everyday. Thankfully i work at home, because I tried daycare and they couldn't handle him, although they loved him and his wonderful imagination. I'm very concerned for him at this point, because his dad is bi-polar and he has many of these mental issues in his family on both sides. He also has eczema, and I have been giving him the arnica 30c for 2 days, although I know that you said arnica 6c and I will buy that and make up his own wet remedy asap. Do you have any suggestions for him? I'm praying that someone can help me. Thank you.