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Menopause Trouble

I am a woman 55 years old, currently suffering from menopause. I am experiencing night sweats, hot flashes although I am still getting my period. The part I can't deal with is urinary incontinence. I am forced to wear a pad daily. I am trying to do kegels, but so far the problem continues. Can anyone help?
  cingav on 2014-10-03
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
I can try to find a suitable remedy for you if you can answer the below applicable questions. Before doing that, I’d suggest to check my profile by clicking my username to know something about me first.

• Homeopathy works only if you give truthful answers, no matter how awkward or intimate. If you don’t want to do that, it’s better you stop here and don’t proceed.
• Please reply to all that is being asked and give details.
• Short answers such as Yes/No/Normal are not helpful.
• I want answers which explain the What, When, Where, Why, Better by & Worse by.
• Example: I have a sore throat (it explains the “what”), since 3 days (it explains “when”), on the left side of my throat (explains “where”), due to eating sour food (explains “why”), the pain is better when I drink warm tea (explains “Better by”), the pain is worse when I swallow food (explains “worse by”)
• Please leave the questions in place and give your answers under each of them.
• I can’t prescribe if these directions are not fully adhered to.

1. Your age & sex

2. Describe your appearance

• Weight

• Height

• Body type (Very thin, Thin, Medium, Chubby, Fat, Obese)

• Any significant feature (e.g. sunken cheeks, stooped shoulders, thin chest etc.)

3. Your profession

4. Describe your personality in at least 20 words (e.g. stubborn, lazy, suicidal, don’t want to work, always in a hurry etc.)

5. How is your relationship with your parents, spouse, siblings, children etc.

6. If relationship is not ok, what’s wrong and how is it affecting you

7. Do you smoke/drink/drugs, if yes, details of why & since when

8. What is your main health problem & its symptoms

9. When did this main problem begin

10. What is the cause of this problem in your view

11. What non-medicinal actions make the main problem better (e.g. massage, warmth, cold, lying down, sitting etc.)

12. What non-medicinal actions make it worse (e.g. massage, warmth, cold, lying down, sitting etc.)

13. How do you feel mentally & emotionally during this problem (e.g. weepy, irritable, restless, sad, hopeless, fear of death etc.)

14. What other health problems do you have

15. List down all health problems and when did they start (approximate month & year)

16. What non-medicinal actions make these other health problems better (explain each problem)

17. What non-medicinal actions make these other health problems worse (explain each problem)

18. What animals or insects are you afraid of

19. What situations are you afraid of (e.g. loneliness, water, heights, closed spaces, ocean, darkness, flying etc)

20. What occupies your mind mostly

21. How do you respond to consolation & sympathy

22. Do you want to stay alone or with people

23. How is your sleep, if not good, why

24. Do you have any recurring (repeating) dreams, if yes, what do you see

25. Is your complaint affected by weather, if so, which weather affects & how

26. Do you normally feel hot or cold

27. What foods you crave & love (not what you eat due to health or other reasons, rather what you desire)

28. Is there any food that you hate

29. What taste you crave & love (e.g. sweet, salty, sour, bitter)

30. Is there any taste which you hate

31. Do you like warm or cold food

32. Do you want to eat indigestible foods (chalk, lead pencil, mud….)

33. How is your thirst (less, moderate, excessive)

34. Do you have excessively dry lips or mouth or both

35. Do you have any coating on tongue first thing in the morning, if yes

• Is coating thick

• Color of coating

• Where exactly (back, middle, sides etc)

36. Any taste in your mouth first thing in the morning (e.g. bitter, sour, metallic)

37. How is your skin (dry, oily, rough, acne, pustules, boils, psoriasis etc), upload here or email me a picture of the skin problem

38. Details about your perspiration (sweat), answer all these points:

• Where mostly (head, chest, back etc)

• How much (a lot, normal, very less)

• Any strong smell (garlic, onion etc)

• Does it stain, if yes what color (yellow, green, no color)

39. Any problems with eyes/vision, if yes, since when

40. Any problems with ears, nose, throat (e.g. nose always blocked, runny, color of discharge)

41. How is your stool, answer all these points: how often, consistency, any blood, any particular smell etc.

42. How is your urine, answer all these points: color, smell, any blood etc.

43. How is your sex desire (e.g. no desire, low, moderate, high, very high)

44. Are you satisfied with your sex life, if no, why not

45. Males genitals (any problems with erection, any pain, any itching, warts etc.)

46. Female genitals (any pain, itching, warts etc)

47. Females menses details (reply to all these points)

• Regularity (early, late, irregular, duration of cycle)

• Flow (low, moderate, high)

• Clots (none, some, a lot, huge clots, bright color, dark color)

• Any discharge (color, consistency, smell)

48. What illnesses are running in your family

• Mother’s side

• Father’s side

• Siblings (brother/sister)

49. Are you taking any medicines (allopathic, homeopathic, supplements, acupuncture etc.)

50. Have you had any surgeries or implants, if yes, give details

51. Have you had any long term treatment (physical or psychological), if yes, give details (what, when, where, why, the list of medicines used)

52. What homeopathic remedies have you taken in the past (potency, dosage, approx. time frame)
fitness 7 years ago
1. Age & sex

Female 55 years old

2. Appearance

Weight: 165 lbs
Height: 5'4'
Body type: Unfortunately chunky

3. Profession

Real Estate Agent

4. Personality:

I am very patient, caring and friendly person. I tend to worry about things. I am very strong-minded.

5. Relationship with family, etc.

I am very close to my parents, especially my mother. My husband and I have a good relationship. I am very close to our two children. I have a very troubled relationship with one of my younger sisters.

6. If relationship is not ok, whats wrong and how is it affecting you?

My relationship with my sister is very saddening to myself, my family and especially my parents. She does not have a good relationship with anyone in our family and she tries to blame it on me because she resents how close I am with our mother. She has been mean and hateful to my children and my parents and caused our whole family much upset over the past five years. She twists every story and noone can speak with her or get her to stop. We are all sure she has a mental problem. She has caused my family and myself much grief.

7. Do you smoke/drink/drugs?

I do not smoke drink or do drugs. I used to like to have a glass of wine but I have very bad acid reflux and no longer have it.

8. What is your main health problem and its symptoms?

I am sure I am starting to go through menopause. Recently I have very bad hot flashes and night sweats. They are annoying but I certainly could live with that. I have always had some slight urinary incontinence since the birth of our two children. On occasion I have wet my pants when coughing. Recently however the problem has become much much worse. I feel like I cannot empty my bladder. I will urinate and have to go again soon after. I have constant dribbling of urine to the point that I must wear a pad. It is very upsetting.

9. When did this main problem begin?

I have always had a slight issue with this, but recently it is much worse. I have constant dribbling of urine. I cannot empty my bladder.

10. Cause of the problem in your view?

Of course childbirth doesn't help this, but I think it has gotten so bad because I am starting to go through menopause.

11. What non-medicinal actions make the problem better?

Nothing makes it better.

12.What non medicinal actions make it worse?

It could be slightly worse at night.

13. How do you feel mentally & emotionally during this problem?

I am of course very upset about this. I am getting older and I do fear death and my body failing. This is not making me feel good or healthy in any way.

14. Other health problems?

I have very bad acid reflux.

15. List all health problems and when they started..

Acid reflux started about 6 years ago. (2008, not sure of month) My life was very stressful, we had our house under construction, problems intensified with my sister. Life was very stressful

Urinary incontinence. (8/2014) Just really started in the last two months. Hot flashes seem worse around the time of menstruation, which is still happening monthly. I am sure I am starting menopause.

16. non medicinal actions which make problem better?

Avoiding foods that aggravate make the acid reflux slightly better.

Wearing a pad makes the urinary incontinence less embarassing. Nothing makes the problem better.

17. Non-medicinal actions which make problems worse?

Coffee, hot spicy foods, alcohol make the acid reflux worse.

Nothing makes the incontinence better or worse.

18? What animals or insects are you afraid of?
I love animals. I am very afraid of

19. Situatons you are afraid of?

I am afraid of heights and close spaces. I also worry about dying.

20. What occupies your mind mostly?

This problem and worrying about my kids. I tend to dwell on issues. We have kids in the neighborhood harassing us for example and I dwell on it. I cannot stand that parents do not teach children right or wrong anymore. They simply make excuses. It is why our society is in such trouble.

21. How do you respond to consolation and sympathy?

I like when people care about me.

22. Do you want to stay alone or with people?

I guess alone.. I am used to being alone. I do not have many friends. Friends always disappoint me somehow. People in general do.

23. How is your sleep?

I am up alot at night to go to the bathroom.

24. Recurring dreams?

I do dream, but can't remember.

25. Complaint affected by weather?

Not affected by weather.

26? Hot or cold?

Lately I am hot

27. Foods I crave.

Hot spicy food. Potatoes and potato chips.

28. Food I hate?


29. Taste you crave?


30. a taste you hate?

I do not favor bitter.

31. warm or cold food?

warm is better

32. Indigestible food?


33. How is your thirst?



dry lips or mouth or both?

very dry mouth in the morning.

35. coating on tongue?

Yes white coating on tongue. In the middle.

36. Taste in your mouth in the morning?

I guess metallic. from the acid reflux.

37. Skin?

My skin is normal

38. Details about perspiration?

Mostly on head and chest during hot flashes.

it is excessive during the hot flash. My head drips. Normally aside from the hot flashes my perspiration is normal. it does not have a strong smell. It does not stain.

39. Problems with vision?

In the last year or so my distance vision has gotten worse. I know I need glasses.

40. Ears, nose throat problems?

My throat often feels clogged at night.

41. Stool?

My stool is regular, once a day in the morning. There is no blood or smell that is unusual.. Color is medium brown.

42. Urine?

Urine is pale yellow to clear. Darker in the morning first thing. No blood or smell.

43. Sex desire?

Right now it is low.

44. Satisfied?

Yes I am satisfied with my sex life.

45. N/a

46. Female genitals.


47. Female menses:

Regular. Duration is longer. Ten days. In the beginning flow is very heavy. Blood is bright red with some dark clots. No other discharge.

48: Family illnesses?

Mothers side: Spinal stenosis, Acid reflux

Fathers side: High blood pressure

Siblings: Mental illness /Sociopath

49. Are you taking any medicines?

I occasionally take prevacid for the acid reflux but it does not really help.

50. Surgeries or implants? No.

51. Long term treatments? No.

52. Homeopathic remedies? No.

I appreciate your help on this. I hope I have answered all the questions with enough detail.
cingav 7 years ago
Your remedy is: Calcarea Carbonica 200c.

Please take two doses 12 hrs apart. Just two doses. Not daily.
Report back in 7 days with changes observed.

If remedy is Pills/Pellets:
One dose is one pill.
Dissolve the pill in your mouth.

If remedy is liquid:
Put one drop of the remedy in half glass of water, stir and take one tea spoon from it.
That’s one dose.

First dose: At night before sleeping.
Second dose: 12 hrs after the first dose.
Don’t take any more dose or any other remedy unless I tell you.

If there is significant worsening of symptoms (called homeopathic aggravation) after the first dose, then don’t take the second dose.
Don’t take any other homeopathic remedy during this treatment.
Give a break of at least 10 minutes before eating/drinking anything before or after taking the remedy.
During the treatment, don’t eat anything which you have never had all your life.

Sometimes the symptoms for which treatment is being done can worsen after taking the homeopathic remedy. This is homeopathic aggravation and a good sign. It usually dies down within 24-48 hrs. During this time you can use any non-medicinal means to keep yourself comfortable. If the aggravation seems excessive, you can use any & all means necessary (including taking allopathic medicines) to keep yourself comfortable. Keep your homeopath fully updated if this happens.

A good example of how to report your progress is by giving %age improvement for all your health problems e.g.
Headache: 30% better
Low energy level: 50% better
Anxiety: 40% better
Sadness: No change
Depression: Worse
And so on list all your complaints.

If you don’t hear back from me within 24 hrs, it is likely that the forum’s email didn’t work. You can send me an email by clicking my username.

If someone is giving several remedies, without waiting to see the effect of one remedy, then it is totally against the core principles of homeopathy. Such an approach is unlikely to give permanent cure, rather it may distort actual symptoms making subsequent cure even more difficult.

You can get the remedies from this site or various other online sources, use Google search for it.

Use common sense in following these guidelines and ask me if unsure. Homeopathy is not magic and it can only work when all other supportive strategies are also used. To make sure you are cured as fast as possible and stay that way please change your lifestyle to include the following:

1. Start eating half cup of low fat, plain, non-flavored yogurt with live cultures daily in the morning or with lunch. If you have homemade yogurt that’s the best. Yogurt can cause increased mucus generation in some individuals, if you are like that, don’t eat yogurt. Rather start eating roasted black chick peas (also known as Bengal Gram) daily.
2. Stop all processed foods e.g. white bread, white rice, white burgers etc.
3. Eat whole foods only i.e. whole grain bread, brown rice, brown burgers etc.
4. The bread should be high in bran content & the flour should be coarse ground.
5. Start eating a small bowl of salad at least once a day e.g. it should contain cucumber, carrots, salad leaves, tomato and any vegetable you like. Put a dressing of olive oil & raw apple cider vinegar and put some salt & black pepper to your liking.
6. Eat at least 1-2 fruits per day e.g. apple, orange etc.
7. Drink enough water so that your urine is clear. Yellow colored urine is a good indication that you are dehydrated.
8. Eat only when hungry and when eating, don’t overstuff yourself.
9. Focus on food only when you eat i.e. don’t divert your attention by watching tv etc.
10. Exercise:
• Aerobic activity e.g. Start walking at least 30 minutes a day for 5 days a week with your spouse/friend and achieve your target heart rate.
• Strength training e.g. Start weight training at least 20 minutes 3 days a week.

No amount of treatment, be it homeopathic or allopathic, can cure if the persistent cause is not eliminated e.g. if you keep moving a broken bone repeatedly then it will never heal since you are not giving it the required break to heal and set the bone. The same logic applies to constant immense stress (don’t confuse it with daily life stress which is necessary to survive).
Extremely unhappy relationships are toxic in nature and only breed more contempt & ill health unless they are addressed and proper remedial measures are not taken.
fitness 7 years ago
Thank you.
cingav 7 years ago
Hi fitness! Today is the sixth day since I took the remedy. I am not seeing any change at all. Is this normal? Should I continue to wait or take another dose? I took two doses, twelve hours apart six days ago. Thanks.
cingav 7 years ago
How have you been mentally & emotionally.
fitness 7 years ago
Mentally and emotionally I would say that I have not had a very stressful week.
cingav 7 years ago
Was it because of work or the remedy.
fitness 7 years ago
I do not think the remedy has done anything for me.
cingav 7 years ago
Please have two doses of Pulsatilla 200c as explained above and report back.
fitness 7 years ago
Ok I will have to order that. My pharmacy doesn't carry it. The pharmacist recommended Causticum, which he has in stock. Should I try that while I wait? It seems to fit me. I won't be able to get the Pulsatilla for over a week.
cingav 7 years ago
I don't think Caust. fits your symptoms.
fitness 7 years ago
i thought it did because when I go to the bathroom I dont seem to empty my bladder because when I go again minutes later there is more urine. I think It is why it is always leaking. I have no muscle control I will do whatever you think. I do not know alot about homeopathy. I have ordered the other. Thanks
cingav 7 years ago
Hi Fitness

I took the Pulsatilla 200c twice, 12 hours apart last Wednesday. I have not noticed any change for better or worse.
cingav 7 years ago
How have you been mentally & emotionally before & after the dose.
fitness 7 years ago
I am the same. Nothing has changed
cingav 7 years ago
Please have two doses of Sulfur 200c, 12 hrs apart and report back.
fitness 7 years ago
Is this wise to jump around like this? I'm worried about using the stronger doses one after the other. Is this safe?
cingav 7 years ago
In my view its safe. The choice is yours in the end.
fitness 7 years ago
Are you just trying everything? I do not fit any of the Sulphur characteristics? How do you think this is a match for me?
cingav 7 years ago
I am not 'trying' everything, its following a logic.

Since I am short on time I'd not be able to explain the what & why, you may be better off consulting someone who can explain all the choices too.
fitness 7 years ago
You seem to have time to argue with me but not answer a simple question?

Not very nice. It seems like you are just guessing. If you don't have time to answer simple questions then possibly you are taking TOO MANY
[message edited by cingav on Tue, 21 Oct 2014 16:06:44 BST]
cingav 7 years ago

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