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Do you mean seeking attention in a positive way or negative attention (with bad behavior)? I suppose they both amount to the same thing. I think his attention-seeking is more pronounced when with friends, I think he may come across a little too intense for some. He is very huggy, likes to touch. I feel bad because I know he wants to be close to me physically but I feel like I don't want to be touched, so often I'll have him move over. I do still try to give hugs. He loves hugs and snuggles.
At home he's more quiet, still wants me to play with him often--I think his little brother isn't as "fun" perhaps-- or just won't play what he wants. He seems to like to be in charge and tell the other kids what to play. Definitely a leader, I can see leadership qualities in him, as well as very creative and always trying to come up with ideas and new solutions to problems. On the down side he uses that to try to get out of unpleasantness such as cleaning room or going to bed. It ends up being manipulation. Lately he has been trying to bribe friends (and us, family) with money to get people to do what he wants (example, after that one friend said bad things about him, he told her on the phone that he would pay her a quarter if she would be nice to him from now on. Apparently she wanted more than he could offer because the amount kept going up until he said, "I don't have $100).
When he gets aggressive or bossy to his brother or someone else, I tell him that's not appropriate and give him an example of a better way to say what he wants (asking nicely vs bossing). Sometimes I ask why he is mad, usually he will say it's his little brother but sometimes I'll ask, " Is it because I have been so grumpy?" And usually he says yes. I apologize and tell him I love him but am just tired, etc. I know it's not good enough but it's the best I can do at the moment.
As for his dad, he seems to admire him and want to be like him when he grows up, but generally his moods match more to mine. He also has the forgetfulness I have. I would say physically he is just like his dad, hot-blooded, usually healthy, and likely has flat feet from him, and he is very outgoing like his dad, but emotionally he is sensitive like me, and has the artistic tendencies like me.
He generally is happier when Dad is home because Dad likes to spend a lot of time outside,and is generally more fun and not as down as me. Dad is more others-oriented, and I'm more inwardly-oriented.

Yes we have tried it in 30c, used it until it stopped working, then tried going to 200c but that didn't work. When it stopped working coincided with when I started having a lot of irritability, anger and rage after baby was born. My remedy (sepia) had stopped working for me, and I yelled at the kids a lot. I'm sure I have said things that were hurtful, especially considering how sensitive he is. I feel like I am some better, but still not great. I also feel like he did really well when he was an only child, but dislikes having to have his needs be less important now that the baby is here. I try to be the mom he needs, but he needs way more from me than I am able to give. He needs constant reassurance of love and almost has a need to be the baby. To be coddled and nurtured constantly. It seems like some of that comes from a major "break" in my life. When he was 2, I had a miscarriage, and it devastated me. I went into a deep depression, had a LOT of anger, and was pretty well stuck and lost, emotionally and spiritually, for about 2 years. I sometimes wonder if Ethan is still stuck there emotionally, unable to process that time and unable to move forward and grow. Prior to that, I still struggled occasionally with depression, but this was way, way worse. Apparently it was so bad my husband even contemplated leaving me. (Thankfully he didn't). So I wonder if that is part of his stuck-ness.

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Oh I'm sorry to hear that! I hope you feel better soon.

Just in case this helps while you're looking this over, I believe the root of the bedwetting may actually be his worries and sadness about his baby brother having to have surgery soon. The bedwetting started about the same time as we found out he would have to have surgery, and also about that time was when his friend said the mean things to him. He hasn't talked any more about the friend, but he has had maybe 5 times in the past 4 weeks that he's been crying when thinking about baby brother's surgery. He's really sad thinking about how much pain he will be in. Ive been trying to reassure him they will give him medicine so he won't feel it, but he's still having a hard time. His middle brother (now 3) had to have surgery as well as a baby, for an undescended testicle, at 9 months old. I wonder if Ethan is also remembering that in some way. He would have been 4 years old at the time, old enough to have some sort of memory, even if it's only a somatic one.
He is very tenderhearted and hates to see anyone in pain. He tries to help his brothers feel better when they are sad or hurt, and feels sad about things like a dead bumblebee or a hurt bug, bird or field mouse. He almost can't bear to watch sad parts in movies, it makes him too sad and he wants to change it.
Hope this helps.

Oh yes, forgot to mention I am noticing a positive, he is showing a lot of interest in doing things himself, for example wanting to help fold the laundry, put his clothes away in the dresser, cook, and clear the table. I'm surprised because that's fairly new.

Hi there, so just night before last, my oldest son told me he sees monsters at night (sometimes during the day, too, he said). He said he sees them anyplace dark and when he closes his eyes. He described them in detail and said he could hear them growling, too. Our stairwell is a bit dark, so I asked if this was why he was wetting the bed, because he was afraid to go to the bathroom, and he said yes. He said he just can't take it anymore of seeing these monsters. I put a lamp on in his room and also turned on soothing music, and he said that both of those things helped. Even with me standing with him facing a dark bathroom, he said he could still see monsters. He said they growl and make mad faces at him. He said they're part wolf, part bear, and part rabbit. He says he's been seeing them for a long time.
My husband asked if it started up around when we found out about the baby having surgery, and he said yeah. So possibly out of excess fear and worry. He was worried about his little brother dying.
He seemed to go right to sleep with the light and music on, which was great because he had been taking a couple of hours to fall asleep before.
He is still very picky about food.
He has been having diarrhea/very loose stool.
He is still very, very untidy and drops his clothes right where he takes them off, leaves his drawing papers all over the floor and has to be told all day long to pick this up, that up, put things away. He seems to resent the interruption. He gets very obsessive about whatever his mind is focused on at the moment. His current interests are money, fancy clothes, army/war, and the solar system.

No, but my husband and I used to have our bed by the closet upstairs. It has no door. And at night, when I would glace at the direction of the dark doorway, I would have a fleeting feeling of someone watching me, or a presence or something, and it would feel creepy. Ethan's bedroom is on the other side of the wall from that same closet.

I won't be able to afford to buy a night vision camera. But I gave a dose of the remedy.
We do have plans to move out of this place within a month or two. Maybe at the new house it will be better.

I haven't seen any change from the Aconite yet.

I talked to him more today, trying to figure him out more.

He seems to be very afraid of one of us dying. He also says he is afraid of himself dying when he goes to sleep. He is also afraid me or his dad might die in our sleep.

He doesn't want to go outside, he says. He hears that the baby cries when he shuts the door, because baby loves being outside and wants to go too. He thinks maybe I will yell at or be mean to his brothers while he is outside alone. I guess he wants to stay in and protect them. The baby crying as the door closes makes him worry, even though I tell him the baby is fine. He only wants to play outside when I go out, too.

He worried that, when the baby had to have his surgery last month, that the baby could die.

He is still seeing monsters, even when I'm standing right there with him. We put on a lamp in his room and put music on, and even with the light on, he still says he can see them. So he must sleep with his face right next to the lamp, with the light shining right in his eyes. He is waking up around 3am with a bad dream, or has wet the bed, can't go back to sleep, etc. He wants to crawl into bed with us or have me in his bed.

He loves sweets--sugar, chocolate, etc. Hates sour, bitter, and can't tolerate spicy or heavily seasoned food.

He seems to use drawing/art, and his obsessive interests, as an escape from reality. He will focus all of himself on the one thing, in order to block out his worried, I think. He worried about many things, I believe, but doesn't want to talk about them.

He loves to be social and spend lots of time with friends. I'm anti-social so he doesn't get to spend near enough time out with friends. Spends most of the time home. He wants to be out, being distracted by fun things. He loves money and wishes we had lots more (we are poor).

Also, he lies quite often, is very passive-aggressive, and devious at times.

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Now he is having nightmares every night, and afraid he will have them, and doesn't want to sleep in his bed anymore. He only wants to sleep in our bed. The light on and music on aren't helping anymore, he says.

He also cannot bear to be separated from me and cries (or gets a little choked up) if I leave the house. When I take naps, he "accidentally" wakes me up almost every time. He has to sneak in Mt room to see if I'm awake yet, and the floor creaking wakes me.

In fact, I think all three of my kids are too attached to me, scared to be without me.

Do you mind if I question this remedy? As I understand cut, Arsenium had the tendency to be a neat-nick, and my oldest son is as messy as I've ever seen. He drops things right where he finishes with them and just leaves everything lying right where it is. He seems diametrically opposed to orderliness.

Ok thank you. I will try it. Is the 200c OK to try?

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