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is there another remedy that would help me that is more accessible? something that may also cover shyness, nervousness, panic,obsessive worry, insomnia (currently early waking), and depression over circumstances. Or, is this the only one? note: although at this time I am not wanting responsibility, aversion to sex etc., I would say those are more secondary issues and the first ones listed above are my primary issues that I need to fix in order to be able to function again. Hope this clarifies somewhat in hopes there may be another rememdy to help me.
[message edited by justagirl on Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:17:17 BST]
justagirl 8 years ago
It seems to me- and correct me if I am wrong here-

That if you look at it from the point of ' Never Well Since'

Which is one of the aspects of taking a case, that you were
Never well since your brother bc mentally ill, and that he was
allowed to torment you, abuse you, and you had no feeling of
safety bc your parents allowed this, and then also forbid you to
speak about this.

So this would be ailments from abuse-really it makes no difference
if you were being abused by a drunk parent or relative and told
not to speak about it-you were not safe and everything snowballed
from there.
simone717 8 years ago
I suppose. But, I also remember being painfully shy, hiding behind my dads leg. Although I did grow out of this and became very outspoken. My brothers illness and threat towards me was a huge turning point, I would say the most major, including the shame that came along with it. I would say a switch was turned on in me after that, where I viewed the world differently

My 5yr relationship with my high school sweetheart also had a major impact, we were planning on spending the rest of our lives together and it was and I was a very emotional person.

My mother always favoured my brother and my father tried to make up for it, making me daddys little girl. He was a great father to me. But, oddly, recently, I am remembering a time where I guess I was in my rebellion phase and my father used to beat my a##!

I also remember when I was the painfully shy kid, feeling like people were laughing at me because I didn't get the adult jokes, they would laugh, I didn't get it and thought they were laughing at me. I know I am going so far back, thinking constitutionally. Not sure how important it all is. As I did become a very outgoing person, but once the anxiety came (yes, after my brother got sick and I lost the love of my life) I didn't feel safe since. Then, I became an outgoing/sociable person with social anxiety. And, I coped fairly well (ie. went out, had friends, held a job etc) until approx. 6-7 years ago when places that felt 'safe' (eg. work) no longer felt safe, physically I just had anxiety symptoms everyday for most of the time- no real reason. Although, my workplace was a stressful one in general and it is the place that put me through hell and caused my insomnia.

Sorry, I am jumping all over the place. I just have a lot of history and I know I could leave something out that I think is not important when in fact it may be. :)
[message edited by justagirl on Thu, 24 Jul 2014 19:48:24 BST]
justagirl 8 years ago
Yes- never well since ailments from
abuse and grief.
simone717 8 years ago
feeling trapped and lack of control are big components
justagirl 8 years ago
I think you are right, Simone!
justagirl 8 years ago
or, since I was such a shy insecure kid.. am I constitutionally just like this??
justagirl 8 years ago
I wonder why the turn for the worse for me around 2007 or 2008 when my brothers illness was around 1986 or so....( I kept thinking it was hormones making me worse, because of my age)
justagirl 8 years ago
I would really like to be a functioning member of society again. Medications don't help me so my Dr and I agree that if they don't help me, they are not what I need. although I do have to take some for the sleep and anxiety, it's not enough for me. I always believed in homeopathy, but maybe my case is too difficult
[message edited by justagirl on Thu, 24 Jul 2014 20:02:15 BST]
justagirl 8 years ago
Ailments from abuse, and grief, and Mortification is a big theme here.

Read this:
Mortification can be expressed as a feeling of shame, to be ashamed, or a wounding of the person's honor. Another meaning is the loss of prestige or self-confidence. Interestingly, mortification in the olden days was used to describe gangrene, where there was necrosis.

“Vexation” implies the state of being annoyed, frustrated or worried. The root comes from the Latin vexare meaning tormenting, the idea of agitation or shaking strongly. This can come as a result of injustice, repression, and bullying, or
consequences of abuse or of being severely molested. Vexation is directly related to mortification and is the step before.

Vexation can be: anger triggered by an annoying disturbance; strong emotion – a feeling directed at a real or imagined grievance; a feeling of annoyance due to hindrance or criticism; a feeling of intense annoyance caused by being tormented:
“His vexation was so great that he wanted to destroy the brat.”

With the issue of mortification we need to consider the major problem of narcissistic balance. This word “narcissistic” is commonly used only in the negative form. The idea of “narcissism” is, however, much more sophisticated. Positive
narcissism allows one to appear in public, talk, play the piano, or become a leader.

This idea of balance is better suited to describe this problem than the idea of self-confidence alone. The goal of every good therapy should be to promote the positive narcissism of our patients.

Aphorism 9 of the Organon states this as well: “In the healthy condition of man, the spiritual vital force (autocracy), the dynamis that animates the material body (organism), rules with unbounded sway, and retains all the parts of the organism in admirable, harmonious, vital operation, as regards both sensations and functions, so that our indwelling, reason-gifted mind can freely employ this living, healthy instrument for the higher purposes of our existence.”

On the one hand, we have to look at the objective mortification that the patient has experienced; on the other hand, we need to assess the individual reaction of the patient due to their personality, which reacts according to its makeup, and
this in turn depends on the patient's inner resources and compensation strategies.

From the homeopathic point of view, the following questions are significant in connection with mortification and anger:
• What kind of vexation causes the patient to react most sensitively?
• How does a patient react to mortification or annoyance?
• Which symptoms arise from this reaction?

Self-esteem is intimately connected with the issue of vexation and mortification. It is a fundamental aspect of every person and as such in Mangialavori's hierarchy is considered to be a Motif or grand thematic area (see Praxis). Self-esteem has enormous importance from the psychological, anthropological and ideological perspectives, with universal significance.

The excess or lack of self-esteem can be a fundamental aspect of many homeopathic prescriptions. A sense of self-esteem that is too high indicates remedies such as Aurum, Platinum, and some Gramineae (Poaceae). At the other end of the spectrum there are remedies such as Lycopodium, Silicea, Gelsemium, Nitricum salts and some Rutaceae. Some remedies have been well enough proved in terms of the problem of self-respect, whereas others have not been at all.

Since self-esteem is such a major issue in many patients and remedies, it is extremely important to establish precisely its degree, special features and modalities for differential diagnosis. (This is obviously true of many other major issues too.) Self-esteem influences mood, character, relationships, and sexuality, and is related to many kinds of somatization.

Some typical examples of displacement and somatization when there are problems of narcissistic balance, with vexation and mortification, are:
• Anticipatory anxiety
• Fear about accomplishing “what has to be done”
• Blockage from fear of failure or errors
• Diarrhea
• Impotence
• Panic
• Trembling
• Perspiration
• Sleep disturbances
• Premature ejaculation-

When a person is abused,tormented and shamed- they can respond in many ways. Just bc you were shy
early on, does not mean that you were going to be shy all your life-and you were not shy later.

You have been 'compensating ' in your own way due to the earlier trauma which was never addressed.
simone717 8 years ago
Most of the time now I physically feel anxiety for no apparent reason along with worry (when I was younger I did not worry). If I run into someone while out, unexpected, my heart will race from surprise and I will panic. I will also panic if I feel trapped eg. if I was to go on a job interview and be in someone's office, talking about myself, this scares me to death! I used to be able to do this with some anxiety and thought with age I would grow out of , but instead now I feel I have no control and so many situations I cannot be in anymore, so I avoid everything!
justagirl 8 years ago
Yes bc when you have panic, then the next step is to get fear of panic
itself- it is a secondary layer on top of the original anxiety.

I suggest you google Claire Weekes- Hope and Help for you Nerves-

this Dr. now passed on, did an excellent explanation of how all of this
works. You can order a used book or get a pdf etc, but you need
to educate yourself on how all of this works. It is a very mechanical process.
simone717 8 years ago

I think my brain doesn't function well, I am having a hard time absorbing the meanings of everything you took the time to write, so I am re-reading. But, do see your point- that I have been compensating in my own way.

I think I have a lot of supressed anger (staphysagria) at my bother, parents, work and ex-boss for putting me through hell. Yes, all forms of abuse from all of the above. And my boyfriend for wasting my life and childbearing years!
[message edited by justagirl on Sat, 26 Jul 2014 18:14:16 BST]
justagirl 8 years ago
I have that book and understand a lot of the anxiety cycle but nothing has helped cure me yet. It seems to be quite physical, even if I don't have anxious thoughts it can be there.
justagirl 8 years ago
The remedies when right, will remove the abuse pattern and you will
respond to people differently and not attract the same types of victim

This is why remedies are wonderful for these things, bc they remove
the stuck emotional energy and talk therapy helps you understand
logically but rarely gets rid of the wounded template so to speak. When people
have been abused the reactions to further abuse are not healthy- they
have to stop and they think things, like - Is this ok? Should i say something?
or Maybe it is my fault, and basically any further abuse sets up a person
into temporary brain fog.

But it would of course benefit you to have a therapist that is a specialist
in panic disorder.
[message edited by simone717 on Thu, 24 Jul 2014 20:32:21 BST]
simone717 8 years ago
I just got a call from a health food store only 45 minutes from me that was able to get the Germanium Metallicum 30ch. I will go pick it up. I pray that it works!
justagirl 8 years ago
Hopefully it will, but if not Evocationer
will find you another remedy.
simone717 8 years ago
Thank you so much for your help! :)
justagirl 8 years ago
I took my first dose of Germanium Met. 30ch, 3 pellets dissolved in water alcohol mixture as instructed. Now I will wait and see.

If no aggravation and I take my next dose tomorrow, do I also have to hit the bottle against my hand before mixing in water again?

justagirl 8 years ago
Yes- refer back to the directions on dose.
simone717 8 years ago
Okay, thank you, Simone!
justagirl 8 years ago
1st dose Germanium met 30ch yesterday afternoon. No aggravations. Hard to notice changes. anything I felt was very subtle.

Went to store to see how I felt, still needed sunglasses and medications, but felt less panicky. Felt better mood. Came home tried on new tshirt, boyfriend got frisky (never happens), I asked why? He said I looked good!(I didn't see it, maybe new top? Hopefully the remedy). Woke 6am again this morning, heart was subtly racing but quickly calmed down and fell back asleep. Other mornings (after Aurum M, woke with pounding heart, not pounding now, more subtle). :)

Going for second dose now.
[message edited by justagirl on Sun, 27 Jul 2014 15:27:26 BST]
justagirl 8 years ago
My instincts say to stop at 2 doses. For the moment anyway.
Evocationer 8 years ago
Okay, I will stop now. Thanks.
justagirl 8 years ago
diary update: yesterday I felt fine until the evening when I was struck with severe exhaustion and a headache, unable to even have a shower from exhaustion. this morning I woke at 5:30 and my heart was pounding a little more than the day before, kept waking on and off noticing my heart pounding a bit. Just resting today, feel tired but not as exhausted as last night. who knows if it's even the remedy, maybe being close to partner again after so long caused stress and exhaustion...however, the exhaustion was quite severe, don't think I've ever felt like that before, I can usually function on adrenaline even with severe sleep deprivation...

Since yesterday was my 2nd and last dose, I guess we just wait and see.
justagirl 8 years ago
Aggravation will usually begin within the first 3 days. It generally peaks at about 3-5 days (depending on when it starts), and after 7 days should noticeably diminish (if not before).

Aggravation is usually a sign the remedy is working, and your vital force responds to the aggravation by pushing against it (curing).

You are right, we wait and see. No reaction is the worst reaction.
Evocationer 8 years ago

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