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Hello, Justin's mom. I sincerely hope your son is better!! i read the hole thread, l 10 pages very very carefully.



i am not homeopath myself, i cannot prescribe, but I am a breathing practitioner and i teach people some a method to cope with asthma and allergies..

unfortunately, i cannot prescribe anything, but I wanted to ask, does your son take offence easily? if he does, how long does it last? does he have any other interests, but sports and xbox? what kind of movies does he like? does he read books on his own, not for school? if so, what are these books about? also, what is the most important thing in his life? if you ask him, 'why are you here? what is the purpose of yr life?' what would be his answer?

please, let me know.
and as a newbie in homeopathy, i would really appreciate if you told me which did you choose eventually.

thank you and namaste
 
margur last decade
I am always delighted to hear from people who just want to help in any way possible and appreciate you reaching out.

After the initial Medhorrhinum prescriptions and the questions regarding next remedy and the need to have someone local. I did try a local homeopathy. As I stated in this thread I was less than thrilled with this
'touted' homeopath. He did prescribe some combination salts which Justin used initially but we did not continue after the first month. He also prescribed an alUmina combination remedy which did help him have stools but again we abated after the first month. The one thing he did prescribed that seemed to make a big difference was he had 3 rounds of Histamin 200C to relieve his allergy season symptoms...this did help significantly.

I decided to have more patience (as it was being indicate that I was maybe rushing the process). My son's current condition is as follows...

The last 2 month he has significantly reduced his asthma like systems -- no noticeable at all but he has not been tested.

His eczema condition kept coming out little by little -- scalp, I used coconut oil and his penis area (I think eczema or something else) and he used coconut oil
and it seems much better now.

His mental conditions have been what has actually gone in the opposite direction. In school, the last semester he dropped over 16 points and had the worse final exam results ever. His ability to concentrate and his memory seemed to suffer significantly. He has no longer any organizational skills at all and he just procrastinated as much as he could.

His acne -- I still say it eventually turned into more of eczema and its still there but little by little it looks better.

He has become more social again...love it but he has some Hysocyamus in him...using inappropriate words and liking to use foul language --- called his sister some bad names a few weeks ago which is totally unlike him.

The other negative is his muscular system. He hash not been able to play sports the past few weeks. He is now getting physical therapy for a fascia issue in his calf. His hamstrings have lesions which the therapist is also try to mend and elongate. If he can't play sports, I think that would be a big blow to him.

His stool still continues to be difficult. They are more smelly now and his hemorrhoids now bother him.

I'm not sure if I can answer all your questions because its really hard to know your child -- no matter how much you think you do.

I will say that he is a very sensitive child. He likes to be one of the best in what he does and when he can't I think he becomes goofy and pretends its not important. He has to read 10 books during school and 4 during the summer -- and that is all the reading he does.

His purpose, I can't wait to hear his answer. I think that is an exceptional question and I have never asked him before. I'll let you know when I speak with him.

Thanks for taking time to read this post.
 
l471530 last decade
Hi again!
Thank you for the reply. Can I please ask your name? :)

Now, again, I cannot speak for the remedy for I cannot prescribe and not an MD, but as a breathing practitioner and a strong adept of alternative medicine, I have done some research on the both topics: homeopathy and asthma.

From my own experience, what I can tell and what was stated here not once, when dealing with such complex cases as Justin's, it is very important to find the 'root' of all those symptoms, for clearly and unfortunately, getting rid of the peripherals leads to degradation on the emotional/mental levels. That is what we see right now: last doctor (local) spooked the asthma/allergies and the gravity center moved from physical to more deeper levels: memory, concentration, apathy.

From what you told me about his last couple of months, it looks like he is in some sort of depression/apathy: not having much interest in outside world, not enough desire to play sports which he loves a lot, no clear hobbies, etc. That is a sign that the disease is still there, but moved deeper.

While I was reading the whole thread, very thoroughly, I had what you called 'gut' instinct that what Lylla prescribed (Med) was the right path. May be Med was not the exact matching remedy, but what she was telling you, to me made a lot of sense: one needs to have mercy and great deal of patience when dealing with such sophisticated case.

I am also wondering, why nobody mentioned the fact that while you try to treat him with homeopathy, he still continues to take Albuterol? I think, it has a great impact on the organism and is a great great suppressor. Again, by all means I am not saying to you that you need to take him off his prescribed drugs, but alas, we are on a homeopathic forum here and you are looking for a homeopathic remedy for asthma while having him on 2 puffs of hormones daily before sports just because the allopathic doctor told you so. Aren't you trying to fix with the help of homeopathy what orthodox medicine has caused him? If so, it seems counter logical to me that he is still on an inhaler.

As a breathing practitioner, I see sometimes people using Albuterol for YEARS after they got better!!! They just so used to it: 'my doc told me to use 2 puffs before each physical activity and never took me off of it'. 'Well, when was the last time you saw your pulmonologist?' 'Well, a year ago'... Sigh..

So, enough with the rhetoric rant :) What I wanted from you is the following info which I will follow up with some general suggestions that I give to my asthma patients.

Since you keep saying that is it hard to get to know your son, let's focus on you, if you don't mind :) I apologize if that will be too specific and private, if you want we can continue the conversation in email, just let me know. But I promise you that the info you will provide will help many of us, trying to help your son, greatly! So:

1) What is your name?
2) What state do you live in?
3) What is your and husband's occupation?
4) How are relationships between you and your hubby?
5) In your opinion, what is your 'not so good' characteristic? What is it in you, you think you might want to change?
6) How do you handle offences?
7) How are your relationships with parents?
8) What is the most important thing in your life?
9) How do you deal with mistakes in life: yours, your children, your hubby, etc?
10) On a scale from 0-10, 0 being not able at all and 10 being - without any hesitation - How easy can you forgive?
11) Is there something that you think you will not be able forgive ever ?

Again, I completely understand that those are way too personal questions. You are welcome to answer them to my email, if you want: info at exspirocenter dot com, but I would prefer for you to find some courage and answer it here. After all we are talking about Justin's stool and penis all the time, why don't we spend some time talking about our own soul and mind a little? :)

So, if you will be able to provide me the info, an honest info, according to the input I will come up with a series of physical exercises for Justin and yourself and some general holistic advises. Once again, I am NOT AN MD and NOT HOMEOPATH. I am breathing practitioner helping people to cope with asthma. I do give consultation and advises in a holistic manner, starting with changing themselves before they take courage to heal physical body of their kids, but it's too early to talk about that yet.

Again, I wish you a great great luck and patience PATIENCE PATIENCE and be sure, you will hear from me again in the next 24 hours about some general advises on how to cope and manage the state your son is in right now.
 
margur last decade
Thank you for any help you may be able to provide.

Just so you know, I have not had my son on any of his asthma medicine for the last few months. I figured if I was going to give homeopathy a chance to help him then I would stop his allergy shots and his asthma medicine. His asthma medicine weaning took a little time but I think we've made such improvements in his asthma symptoms that he is doing well. I think right now his biggest issues beside the mentals (as you noted can degrade) are his musckeleton system (calf and hamstrings which we actually strip 2 times per day and he sees a physical therapist currently) and his eczema related itchiness - I use coconut oil).

In terms of you questions regarding myself and my family here's my response.

1) What is your name? Dee
2) What state do you live in? NY
3) What is your and husband's occupation? Attorney
4) How are relationships between you and your hubby? Okay, not great and not bad...one of our biggest struggles is in the raising of our children -- I have to be more of the disciplinary while in my house my father was -- I don't like having to always be the bad guy.
5) In your opinion, what is your 'not so good' characteristic? My mood swings, lack of humor and feeling tired all the time.
What is it in you, you think you might want to change? I would love to have energy to do all the things I think about doing but don't have the energy to do. I use to work and enjoyed it but my CFS and IBS was getting worse and worse and I needed all my energy for my daughter who had been diagnosed ADHD
6) How do you handle offences? I take everything very personally -- easily offended.
7) How are your relationships with parents? Not great. They were good parent and did the best they could but they were not warm and fuzzy and cuddly type of parents -- my mother ws very moody and my father always raised his voice (an Archie Bunker type)
8) What is the most important thing in your life? My children are very important in my life and what is important and what I would like to be important has not been -- that is helping those most in need -- I envy those who can really make a difference in others' lives. I always wanted to adopt a child...my husband was not open to it. I wish I had the energy, relax attitude and fortitude to do something to make a real difference.
9) How do you deal with mistakes in life: yours, your children, your hubby, etc? I am trying to do my apologizing...I don't think I've done that much in the past...but I'm trying to say...I was wrong, I'm sorry.
10) On a scale from 0-10, 0 being not able at all and 10 being - without any hesitation - How easy can you forgive? 3

11) Is there something that you think you will not be able forgive ever ? I don't think so...I feel that I don't expect anyone to be perfect and I know that I am not perfect either but to I think its hard to forgive if you aren't able to both admit to each other's reality and then move on from there.

I hope this has helped you. Up until this past year with my own homeopathic journey, I have become a very anxiety ridden person -- I can't sleep at night just worrying about my children. Hoping that they will not have to live like me with my health related issues which inhibited my activity level - rather or not self imposed. I want them to be happy, energetic and enjoy life.

Thank you.
 
l471530 last decade
Great!!
Dear Dee, (i love your name, Deeear Dee :), thank you so very much for answering those very sensitive questions.

Thank you as well for the report about Justin. From the book that I am reading right now, by this great Greek guy named Vithoulkas, 'The science of Homeopathy', it seems to me that as of now all three planes (physical, emotional and mental) are affected, but on a bright side: each level is affected on a peripheral side:
skin/muscle/bone ailments are outer side of the physical plane;
dissatisfaction/irritability - again outer side of emotional plane;
forgetfulness/lack of concentration/dullness are still on the outer side of the mental plane.

These are my observations as starting homeopath. Again, it will not be soon that I will be able to prescribe, I am just sharing my thoughts with you for your own deeper understanding of what is going on. It seems to me that even though Justin has lots ailments, they are all come and go back and forth. According to the book, they will be coming out layer by layer, when addressed appropriately and not suppressed by other morfibic stimuli. This might be reason why he didn't react too well to Med. It takes time to peel each level of predisposition...

On another hand, looking at the answers you provided, I would like to ask/recommend the following:

1) How do you spend your spare time together (you and Justin)? Do you have a habit of going to the parks? Museums? For longs walks near the reservoir or lake?
2) How often do you have family diner that you cooked yourself that everybody can enjoy according to their diets and desires? Do you have at least two meals per week where everybody sits together and enjoys home food? What do you talk about during these dinners? Do you chat with your husband about works/issues/troubles? Do you ask Justin about his health and symptoms? School issues? Bad news from TV?
3) It is summer now, what does Justin do? Is he in camp? Stays at home? How does he spend his day?
4) How many times a day you ask your son about his health? How many times you ask yourself what to do about his health and how much do you worry his health? Do you find yourself ruminating the same thoughts over and over again, being frightened about his overall being and felling frustrated and tired of his state of health?
5) How do you spend your own spare time? Do you have a hobby? Sewing, crocheting, beading, painting, singing? Any sports in particular that you like to do to improve your mood? How do you usually help yourself with mood swings and how do you come out of stress and depression? Is there something you liked to do before you got children?
6) Are your parents around? Do you have the whole family gatherings for holidays and birthdays?
7) When you have a argument with your hubby regarding raising your children, who's word is the last one? How do you end a fight? Do you scream? Do you slam the door? Or do you have a quite disagreement and then you hold a grudge for another 3 days and don't talk to each other? How do you resolve situations when both insist on his/her own matter and can't come to a peaceful conclusion? How does Justin reacts to the fights between his parents?



These were some general questions. You do not need to answer them here for me, but please, try to go over it, not in a hurry, take your time and ponder each question and your answer, see if you then see a more clear picture about your life and your family. See if there are some things you might want to change. See if there is something you migt start doing right away.. For example (but not limited to):

1) Once a week get a habit of having a walk with your son. Make it not too long to get tired, 20-30 minutes for starters. Find a nice park or alley or lake or river, whatever. If you will need to drive there, that is fine, but the key point is to walk somewhere with lot's of trees and great view. Walking is very meditative state, it calms your mind. It also very bonding, when you and your son are together, nobody distracts you, he might start talking. I would NOT recommend asking a lot of questions, i strongly suggest you to refrain from ANY questions regarding his health during those walks. Talks should be in only and only in a positive way. See if you can walk in a silence, this is great way to get to know your son too, but I bet, if you continue doing it, third or forth time he will start talking: about his dreams, values, people he is interested in, topics that worry him, his idols, etc. Listen carefully, do not interrupt, do not judge, do not make any assumptions. Whatever he says meet with pleasure and kindness, support him in whatever he talks about, even if it's trashy movie last night or video-games. Ask what games does he play, what helps him to progress, how does he find these games.. In short, pay full, undivided attention to Justin and Justin only. You mind should be completely focused on him, if he is talking. If not, then just peacefully walk and enjoy the company of your child, fresh air and nature. One more note: if this is something you didn't use to do, he might not be willing to go, he might not understand what the point of it. Try to tell him in a calm voice that you've read that walking is a great warm up for the sports and helps reducing stress on calfs and hamstrings (which is an absolute true, i wonder if this is a lactic acid that makes him suffer). Your goal is to make these walks your secret unwinding and bonding activity, only for you and Justin!! there are should be no negative talks, no negative thoughts, no worries, just you and him walking as you guys were on the moon, all your troubles and worries left there on earth, here only Justin and Dee, slowly going through the park, enjoying each other and sunset/birds/lake/whathave you.

2) Depending on how it is in your family, you might want to start these 'family meals' together, say on Sundays, before the week starts. the whole family should sit and leave at the same time. this is important. The food should be prepared at home with great deal of love. See if you can come up with something easy, but what everybody will love to get: salads, veggies, pasta, whatever you guys love a lot. Processed food and fast food and meat should not be served that day. It should be completely home made from scratch by you (SIC!), healthy and nutritious. Again, two kinds of salads, lentils, mushrooms, beans, cuscus, quinoa, noodles.. there are tons of choices! Try to make these dinners not very heavy, try to serve 2/3 of what you usually serve. And please, try to make them vegetarian on a vegan side. One day a week without meat and dairy will be completely fine. Now, you don't want to scare them, try to come up with something silly like: 'oh, guys, i forgot to run to the store today, no meat/fish/cheese... I will cook something quickly then'. Try to be smart. Don't rush it because if this is something you have never done before, both your hubby and son might get suspicious :))) try to do it gradually. may be, one sunday go to the movies all together and then when you get home, serve the dinner (of course, you will need to prepare everything before to not to loose the momentum). If this is a regular routine and you gus always eat together - then Great!!! In this case try to watch the conversations and please refrain from any negative talks during the dinner. Talks about work, health and family troubles are not really great. You can talk about something that you seen on the street today, you have read (i assume, you read non-health related literature? :), you can ask general questions about music, art, plan a museum visit with Justin, an interesting dress you seen on a women in the morning. Again, please, refrain from talks that might make you, your hubby or Justin sad, angry or anxious. If you can't anything to talk about, that's the sign for you. Try to spend next day thinking about why is this happening that you can't find anything to talk to your family except for health-related problems.

3) If Justin is in camp, I would recommend doing this: one morning take a day off at work and without prior notice, instead of driving him to the camp, drive him to the children's museum or to the water-park or 6 flags or to the movie. Doesn't matter what, just break the routine. Make it a total surprise. Don't ask him: 'let's skip camp and go somewhere', plan it yourselve. Think where did he want to go for such a long time and you could because of your CFS and his troubles.. Just do something crazy. Drive to Manhattan!!! Buy him that plush with the character from video games. Make him a festival, a happy birthday out of nowhere, go wild and don't worry about the rules and regimen. Just you both have a blast for one day!!

4) Important One!!
Please, try to reduce the health talk to Justin by 3/4. Do not approach him with questions like: 'how you feeling? does it hurt? how is you leg? how are your allergies? how do you breathe? did you poop?' etc. Bite your tongue and DO NOT approach him with the questions. You can ask how is he in the morning and before bed. I bet he is so used to this questions that if you completely cut it all of a sudden, he will come to you with much more detailed reports. If not, that means he can manage fine without your help. If he can manage without your help: GREAT!! This is what we want, for 13 yo Justin to be able to enjoy his life without constant complaints!! See for yourselve: there are REAL issues that are going on and there are a lot of questions from you that induce some troubles. I won't go into details why is this happening, but trust me! The less you talk and think about it, the better!!!! I know it is very hard, I know he is your dearest child and want him to be happy and healthy, but just remember: by asking questions you are not helping. By worrying too much and complaining and discussing the troubles with your husband and sisters and friends you make it worse. Just do what needs to be done: do research, drive him to the physiotherapist, give him remedy, but DO NOT BUG HIM with millions of questions and DO NOT DWELL ON THE PROBLEM. He is alive and he will be fine. GIve yourself a rest and allow yourself to calm down a little and think about things you want to do, but can't because your thoughts are always around your kids health and you don't have energy. You energy and your CFS are the direct result of you being worried all the time. Get rid of thoughts, sighs, feeling of unfairness, questions: 'Why is this happening? When will it stop? What did I do? Why life is so unfair? How to come out of it?' etc. Please, try to except your life the way it is right now and tell yourself: 'I am alive. My son alive. My daughter alive. My husband is here with me. I have work, I have kids and family. Everything is OK and will be better'. Don't listen to your mind that will be telling you everything is bad and everybody's sick. Just do what needs to be don and shut down your mind by humming your favorite song or chant your pray or mantra :) If you can't completely let it go and accept your life the way it is, at least PLEASE do Justin A FAVOR and let HIM come to you, don't bug him. All right? :)

5) Okay, we touched a little about yourself in 4), but here I am talking about something you can do in YOUR spare time. Please, try to find SOMETHING that you could do at least 15 minutes a day: ANYTHING that will be completely YOURS, not for Justin, not for Husband, sister/brother, your own thing. There should be something you like to do: jumping rope, bike, knitting, whatever. It should be systematically , each day, 15-30 minutes. Before bed, first thing in the morning, doesn't matter, do something FOR YOURSELF ONLY. (shopping and cooking and eating and TV doesn't count, something creative or sportive :)))

6) THE MOST IMPORTANT PART!!
There are some teaching, tibetan, indian, etc, that I am using in my practice. All of them at some point map the organ/disease to the moral aspect/world view/sin.. I am not going to bore you with all of it, I can only tell that lungs and respiratory issues are always related to nursing a grievance, bearing a grudge, deep mortification.. Usually, if the child has something respiratory issues, it comes from his parents that are not being able to let go of something, if his parents were offended and still remember it, if they are not in a good relationships with their folks... So, what I would suggest you Dee, is to go deep deeeeeep inside and look for all the troubles your parents did to you, all the injuries, the worst memories, the scariest situations and most unfairness in your life that you had from and... LET IT GO. Just FORGIVE THEM for it for good once. Not pretend that you let it go, but just really sincerely, with the heart of loving daughter of 2 or 3 year old, just forgive them. They did what they could do. And even if they could do much more, still, they did what they did. They gave you life. Be grateful for whatever they give you. Love them unconditionally. Don't be upset they didn't hug you enough. Don't think about bad stuff, close your eyes and try to remember something good about both your parents. Accept them and forgive them. Imagine, they are gone. Imagine you are about to bury them (that is fine, it's not scary and not for real) and let all the grudges go, feel the love and be thankful. I know it is hard. I do not expect you to be done with this part soon, but I can assure you that as soon as you start working those issues, Justin will start feeling MUCH BETTER. I swear. So, call your mom, call her for dinner in a fancy restaurant, talk to her, take her hand, tell her all your troubles from past, tell her you wanted this and you wanted that and you didn't get this and that, BUT, tell her YOU LOVE HER. Tell her you FORGIVE HER. You will feel the relieve. Take your father to the place he likes to be. Tell him you loved him always. You were afraid of his mad voice, but you still loved him very much! Don't be afraid, go ahead and be the first one to accept your parents the way they are. It will actually help you with your IBS too :)
Same thing applies to the husband, Dee, but you will deal with him later. Meanwhile, work with parents. This is crucial. When you are sure you completely let go of ANYTHING regarding your parents, move on to all the other insults you might have and didn't forgive: your school friends, your teachers, first boyfriends, strangers, God, whatever. If there is something that you still think was unfair to you: ACCEPT it as a necessary bitter pill. Don't try to tell yourself: I was right, they were wrong, they need to apologize first, NO. YOU LET GO OF ANY SINGLE THING THAT HURT YOU AND MAKE YOUR EYES WET OF SELF-PITY. Just accept, don't swallow it, like: 'ah, whatever, i know i was right, but oh well, if only my son got better'.. this is no an honest approach. Think about it as a lesson for you, a test that you may or may not passed and now it is a chance for you to pass it again: with you head raised and your heart soft and your mind opened. You are free from all the resentment, you haven't left anything or anybody behind, you accepted any unfairness and pain your husband gave you, let go of it, all of it: lies, affairs, mistreating, whathave you, just let of it go, free yourself from all this crap. Start from the scratch, you are free and light as a feather, there is nothing that holds you, you are free, your heart has only love and light, nothing else!

7) Try to make a habit to NEVER EVER FIGHT in front of Justin. Try to not fight or have arguments at all. Reduce self-significance. If you come to an argument, be the first one to say: all right, honey, may be you right and leave the room. Even if you are all boiling, even if you 100% sure that you are right, in a sake of your children's health, DO NOT ARGUE WITH ANYBODY IN FRONT OF KIDS. Be always polite and quite. Bite your tongue, hold your breath on exhale when your husband's giving you hard time, but never ever raise your voice when kids can hear. Write him letters, leave the house and talk outside, but do not let your kids to hear that. It makes them apathetic, lethargic, depressed.

I know. A lot of info. I am really sorry of some of it does not apply to you, of course I am generalizing, I never met you in person, usually I get to know my clients much better before we start talking about these things, but I just want to start working out on these things as soon as possible in order to help your son. Please, try to see where I am going with all of it and try to adjust all of it to your life. Points 5-6-7 are very important. These are the cores of your work!! And that what will move the mountain and will start to dissolve ancient scabs :)

Lastly, some breathing physio-therapy. If you want him to get better, please take it seriously. Your mental/moral work is critical, but these exercises are going to help both of you dramatically in now time, provided you do it as prescribed:

Three times a day, 10 mins in the AM, 10 in the middle, 10 mins before bed:
Take your own and Justin pulse (do you know how? any iPhone has the app for it, please let me know if you are not aware). Right it down. After the pulse, make regular inhale, then exhale and then pinch your nose and hold your breathe and at same time count the seconds. I want you to hold you pinched not too long, not as long as you can, but up until the first urge to breathe. Just as soon as you fell like: 'oh, i want to make a breathe' immediately let go of your nose. Right down the amount of seconds. Again, when you let go of your nose, you should make a regular inhale (WITH YOUR MOUTH CLOSED), so don't hold you nose for too long!!! this is very important!! again:

INHALE, EXHALE, PINCH UNTIL THE FIRST URGE TO BREATHE, LET GO OF NOSE AND INHALE THROUGH YOUR NOSE. (Write down the amount of seconds, this is called Control Pause)

After that sit straight on the edge of the chair, horse pose, spine straight, belly relaxed, shoulders completely relaxed, your hole body is relaxed, but the spine is straight. close your eyes, close your mouth (AT ALL TIME YOUR MOUTH SHOULD BE CLOSED) and start scanning your body: from the top of your head to forehead, ears, neck, spine, back, shoulders, legs, arms - everything should be completely relaxed (but the spine is straight!!!) When everything is relaxed, you start slowing your breathing, making sure that chest is not involved, it's not rising, it's moving, the breathing comes from the belly, it expands on inhale and deflates on exhale. This is called Relaxed Breathing (RB). Do this RB for 2 minutes. After 2 mins, take your Control Pause (CP) again: inhale, exhale, pinch your nose, count second until the first urge to breathe, right down the seconds. Go for the second round of RB for 2 minutes. After two minutes take the control CP again: inhale, exhale, pinch your nose, count second until the first urge to breathe, right down the seconds. Then have a Rest (R) for 1 minute, just do nothing and breathe the way you want, but with the mouth closed at all times. Take you Pulse (P).

Please, keep the log and provide every evening here. If you stick to the plan, you will see results in about a week. I guarantee you that. But you need to do it at least three times a day. Please, post the log here!! It should look like this:

Date | Pulse | Control Pause (secs) | RB (Relaxed Breathing, always 2 mins) | CP | RB | CP | Rest (always 1 min) | P |

So, it should look like:
7/17 | 100 | 8 | 2 | 7 | 2 | 9 | 1 | 96

Please, let me know if there is something you don't understand, I will happy to explain. I know, there is a lot information I provided to you. I usually have 5 sessions 2 hours each with my clients, I am sort of feeling everything in one post, so please, try to work on that. Come back to this and do as much as you can. Don't get frustrated if you stuck somewhere, allow yourself to be imperfect and don't judge yourself, just each day do whatever you can. For the breathing exercises, please, try to do it. You first, then Justin. And also, start paying attention to his mouth: how does he breathe? Is his mouth opened while watching movies? Doing homework? Try to have him close his mouth more and more frequently. I know it's hard because of his sinus issues. Before doing exercises I gave you, have him do neti pot. Also, a great way to clean you nose is to: pinch it on EXHALE, meaning, you inhale, exhale, hold your breath, pinch your nose and nod your head vigorously up and down. Do this until you want to breathe and breathe through nose again. Repeat 2-4 times, this should clear the stuffed nose immediately. And please please please have him close his mouth. 80% of his issues are mouth breathing, I pretty sure.

Let me know and please, post the logs here!
 
margur last decade
I want you to know that I have not ignored you. The day after your response we left for a family vacation and we are just returning.

I will take take to read your suggestions and method thoroughly and then try to implement them, if possible.

My first impression is that you believe that are situation is more a result of self induced stresses and mind related behaviors which are created the illness.

I will do my best to try this.
Thank you.
 
l471530 last decade
Hello Dee,

I am very happy to hear from you! Honestly, I knew you didn't take my message too too personally :) I know, I put a lot of personal stuff and I knew many of what I've said sounded like I am sort of implying that the problem has got created by 'you', which of course is not what I meant at all!!

But indeed, as many ancient teachings tell us, we ourselves, are the authors of our physical illnesses, even though most of the time we feel like we are just victims of circumstances, trying to find that peace and well forgotten calmness, when we were young, energetic, healthy and everything seemed easy.

I do believe and constantly find the proof of that theory, that as soon as we stop looking outside and turn to our own selves, things start to magically improve. As soon as we let go of many things that we used to think as of very important and critical, as soon as we ease the total control and start changing our selves instead of our children, families, colleagues, world, universe, we see that everything changes at the time, even things we thought would never get better!!

This is the reason why I asked you so many personal questions and kinda pointed out the most important scopes of life where we make mistakes most often: NOT BECAUSE WE ARE BAD OR SELFISH, but just because we get trapped in our troubles and problems, we get too much on our shoulders and we under the burden of problems we start neglect our selves, our soul, our spirit..

So, what I've asked you to do is technically to take a pause from all the worries, to ease the control of things that you might not have power to change, to give yourself a little rest and to start working on your own things: to get to know yourself and your troubles, to let go of all grudges, to unwind, to be kind to your own self, to nurture your own self, to bring some love and attention to you and you only, Dee. And as soon as your attention switches from the outside issues to the inside, as soon as you start working them out and put thing into order, you will see a great changes in everything else :) I promise!!

And of course, the breathing thing. It is very important, even if you or Justin do not have symptoms. It is just so nice and excellent habit of breathing, nice, calm, steady, through your nose.. Your mind will get calm and serene with each breath.. You will be breathing out all your troubles, all your fears, all your worries, and you will breathing in all the kindness of the world, compassion, goodness, fairness.. You will breathe out negative thoughts and you will breathe in positive ideas, you will breathe out scary thoughts and you will bring in love and courage, strength and patience. This is what makes you strong, happy, energetic person, Dee, steady, reduced breathing through your nose, just in and out, nothing else, you are not worried, you are not in a hurry, you are not going anywhere, you just exist by breathing air in and breathing air out, simple and easy, in and out.... :) And smile :) Let go of that importance, relax those eyebrows and lips and shoulders.. Recall how you were little girl, remember that happy moments when everything was just fine and you didn't have to worry and be on the alert, how were swimming in that river, or laying on the beach or sliding down that hill on a slay.. Get back to that moment and ... breathe.. You can get these times back, you can still be that serene and happy Dee, when everything was just right, just the way it should be: you didn't control anything, everything was fine by itself.. Let the world to settle, let it help you, just breathe and know: everything is just fine and the way it should be. And if something is not the way you want it to be: just wait, just let things to get in order, just as they got out of order. You didn't make things the way they are now, so don't try to fix them, they will fall into places by themselves, just wait, just breathe there and wait. Everything changes every very second and even if you don't see, good things do happen and they do happen on your street too :) Just let settle. Don't blame yourself, don't blame government, weather, God, don't try to find who's fault it is. It is all right to have problems. Everybody have them and everybody resolve them. You just breathe and wait. And love. Love yourself, kind, compassionate, nice and beautiful Dee. Love your body, your head, your face, your hands, your legs, your belly, your whole body. Nurture it, love it, take good care of it, pamper it! Love your kids, your hubby, your house, your things, your car you yard, your books, your job!! Just feel that love and joy towards everything around you! Isn't it beautiful, what you have? Isn't it so nice and awesome to be a mother? A wife? A woman? Put on your most beautiful dress, make facial, go to spa and treat yourself with an excellent 2 hours massage!!! Then meet your husband in the city and have a ridiculously expensive dinner, with candles and french-speaking servants. And breathe, slowly, through your nose. You are the most beautiful woman, Dee and everything is just fine with you and with your family.

:) I hope you believed at least for a second :P If you do, you are on a right path :) Breathe by yourself and with Justin and teach your daughter too!!!!! If she steaks to it at least for a month, I bet you: she will think of that ADHD as of a nightmare that will never come back: just have her do the breathing exercises three-four times a week for a month. It would be your best present to her! I swear :)

Stay there, Dee and slowly slowly slowly , BREATHE :)
 
margur last decade
Well,
I can tell you that although I have not totally learned all the techniques and strategies you have presented here, I have taken baby steps.

Unfortunately after returning from vacation, Justin was cleared by the doctor to play sports again so we were away at a soccer tournament. Lactic Acid is definitely involved as well as the doctor said that his calf fascia is making great progress (just a little bundling left) but that his hamstring fascia is full of scar tissues/adhesions. He feels that Justin hamstrings are very strong and infact the balance between his hamstrings and his quadriceps are way off and therefore when he should be naturally engaging his quads he is using his hamstrings which is why they are over used and abused. We are not only using a technique called 'stripping' (an active release technique used in sports medicine) to basically reprogram the fascia to become straight and pliable instead of a ball. He told us to think of the fascia as saran wrap and that as long as its flat, open and can spread and be manipulated it is incredible the service it provides to us but once it gets bundled into a ball, it becomes almost useless unless you can patiently we work it to straighten it out again. That's what we are doing with my son. We 'strip his hamstrings once a day and get goes to a therapist 3/week...probably it will change to 2/week this week. Stripping does hurt but he's been a trooper.


Prior to the tournament we went to the Cayman Islands with Grandma, Grandpa and Sister-in-law and her significant other. We had a very nice time. I was able to work out every morning in their gym and I took daily walks on the beach. My children both no longer like to take walks on the beach (its been two years for my son and a little longer for my daughter). I didn't mandate that they do so but encouraged them but it did not happen. They did enjoy sports on the water, snorkeling, the pool and some delicious meals.

Although I have not learned your breathing technique yet, I have been trying a technique I learned in a meditation class and have been trying to implement it a few times a day. I breathe in through my mouth so that I feel like it is warming my heart and then I am breathing out through my mouth strong enough as though to blow out candles on a cake. I When I do this I try to see myself swimming in the ocean with animals or I try to see myself in a creek in front of my house that we use to enjoy as kids. I do find that this helps to relax me.

I did try your pinching the nose and yes it did help to clear out the cobwebs. I'm a little confused with breathing though. I typically breathe in and out all through my nose. During meditation we learned to breath out via mouth...is this just for mediation. One should not typically breathe out of their mouth, right? Yes, I would say that at night my children probably both breathe out of their mouth because they both get dry lips a lot.

Not sure if this is what you had in mind.
I did read on taking one's pulse, and my pulse is 70 which is consistent with my typical readings at the doctor's office.

I then on myself tried your physic-therapy method. I was able to in both instances hold my nose for approx 20 seconds.

I then did the RB (felt funny breathing so much from my stomach...but good.
I did the pinching of the nose and this time held my nose for 32 seconds.

The third time I held it for 30 seconds.

My pulse after this was 74.

7/31|70|20|2|32|2|301|74

So looking at my numbers versus your example, I may be trying to hold my breathe too long??? In any event, this was my first attempt and these were my results.

Both my kids have their mouth open during movies, much of the day...again, the crack lower lip is the give away(they both have very large, red, luscious lips).

I do not talk too much with my children about their health, as you suggested. I do always say. Good morning, did you sleep well? This is something I grew up with and my in-laws do it as well -- maybe its an Italian custom...but it is more to let the person know you have them in your heart. Is this not a good way to start the day?

In terms of special time for my son and I...its interesting, it use to always be walks with the dog...he may on his bike or he may be with a basketball or soccer ball but we did take walks during the school days. Now, the last two years...he doesn't like to walk with me anymore. He really hasn't liked to walk the dog either. I do see with the work on his hamstrings, he has been riding his bike again...thats been over a year since he's really done. What he likes to do best with me this best year is he likes me to give him a back massage and then he gives me one and he sits next to me on the couch. He also likes to show me tricks he does with a small ball in the house. His new thing is taking hot baths...since his calf/hamstring injury, he will spend 30 min. soaking in a hot bath, reading a book (I think he starts off reading and then after 15 min. he just closes his eyes or listens to music. This is quite new as he never really like baths before. I have been putting some epsom salts into the bath for him.

This week he's back to what he likes...camps with friends. He's doing a basketball camp and its the toughest one he does (intense)...since he's been not doing much for the past 3 weeks, he was exhausted last night. He did wake up after a few hours of sleeping and came to my room complaining that he was sweating and soaked his sheets )(and boy, did he soak his sheets). Sometimes the air conditioner is higher than it should be so then I attribute it to that but last night I specifically made sure before I went to bed it was down to 68 -- the lowest we put it on. -- so I was surprised...and typically I am sweating in bed before my kids because of menopause...so that was unusual last night.

I will continue to utilize your tips as best I can. I can tell you that I did go to my primary doctor (which I hate to do) before my vacation and I am now taking Miralax (instead of going every 10 days, I am now beginning to go on a daily basis). The other great thing is that I don't feel like my skin is burning all the time. I don't know much about Miralax but I don't believe its some drug and I hope its not suppressing something only making matters worse in the long term but at this point, I know that I have to get my bowels working properly.

Thanks again for taking the time to share all your great knowledge. You reference Vithoulkas and although I have not read his books nor have I had the pleasure of meeting him, I have read many of his papers online and seen most of his lectors online.

Have a good day!
 
l471530 last decade
Merry Christmas, Dee!
How is Justin now?
I am not here to give homeopathic advice. I am here to share some other successful approach in case Justin still needs care and you are willing to invest time in your own research on this approach, because I simply can not guide you here, I am just a beginner, as you are. However, I am convinced it will help significantly, if not cure his asthma. The reason is, I saw my friend using it with her son, who I knew for years, and he is 50% better only after 2 months. I asked her to give me one bottle to try and I used only some of it with my son. It helped already, so I could reduce his supplements without any bad consequences, when before he could not live without them and was begging for them if I tried to pull them out. Both her and my kids have autoimmune problems, and asthma is autoimmune condition too. Please, let me know if you are interested.
 
Lylla last decade
Merry Christmas to you too.
Justin is doing pretty well. I have worked with homeopathy for the past yr and half and his asthma is not an issue any longer. He has been off all medications for a year. He started taking some supplements like Vit D and B12 along with some others and he is doing quite well with his sports. The issue we are still facing is that his acne has not cleared up at all and he is not able to eat certain foods -- so there is some autoimmune related issues but can't quite figure it all out. He is still growing and some of the acne could be hormonal but bothers him the most. He hates having so much acne which are black filled pores on his nose, white ones on his cheeks and many red and dry ones on his forehead.

What has worked most for him was Nat Sulp for a few months on a periodic basis. then he was on Ipecac followed by Thuja. He did continue to have anemia problems which was eventually improved with Ferrum Phos and then Ferrum Met.

He has not had any homeopathy for over a month or two as I was hoping his body would rebalance but his acne is just getting worse.

The good news is that Asthma is no longer a problem and he no longer takes all that medication. :)
 
l471530 last decade

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